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Red Stateler wrote:
Like the lower cost of per capita expenses due to shared finances?
That's part of it. But also the division of labour, too. My wife takes care of a lot of things for me, that I would be clueless to even attempt to do. And it would cost a whole lot more for me to go and hire someone to do them for me. There are similar things that I do for her, too. If you go far enough back in time, this may have been more of a reason for marriage than the continuation of the human race thing.
Red Stateler wrote:
Marriage as a means to this end has already been rejected as a majority of households in this country are now headed by unmarried people.
This lot of unmarried people doesn't happen to contain divorced people? And their rejection of marriage has nothing to do with the benefits of sharing finances or the division of labour. :doh:
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Chris Meech wrote:
That's part of it. But also the division of labour, too. My wife takes care of a lot of things for me, that I would be clueless to even attempt to do. And it would cost a whole lot more for me to go and hire someone to do them for me. There are similar things that I do for her, too. If you go far enough back in time, this may have been more of a reason for marriage than the continuation of the human race thing.
Those are practical side effects of marriage...not the purpose behind it.
Chris Meech wrote:
This lot of unmarried people doesn't happen to contain divorced people? And their rejection of marriage has nothing to do with the benefits of sharing finances or the division of labour.
I was referring to the divorce rate, cohabitating/non-married couples and the perpetually single. The virtues of marriage have been eroded by the left in favor of the individual-state bond. The left in general has nothing but contempt for the concept of marriage.
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liona wrote:
Who is to say that it eliminates the possibility of children. I think that is a very narrow minded comment on your behalf. If you hadn't realised in my experience where I live more and more same sex couples have children, either by adoption or via vetro etc. So how can you account for these couples in your statement. Marriage is alot more than children it is also the welfare of the two spouses.
It's not possible two gay people two have children without the involvement of a thrid party. In-Vitro fertilization would constitute adultery in such an environment and is therefore a defacto rejection of fundamental marital vows.
Red Stateler wrote:
It's not possible two gay people two have children without the involvement of a thrid party. In-Vitro fertilization would constitute adultery in such an environment and is therefore a defacto rejection of fundamental marital vows.
Actually, I have a large problem with fertility treatments and in-vitro fertilization. I fail to find justification for such activities given the cultural breakdown of the traditional family unit on a large scale and excessive over-population. Furthermore, there are large amounts of children who have no stable or coherent family unit who should be preferentially adopted before any couple can justify receiving a fertility treatment. It's absurd to encourage population growth through artificial means when the population of the planet is out-pacing the natural resource replacement. Furthermore, I don't believe that for a non-traditional married couple having children via fertility treatments in an inherent right, or entitlement. Even though I do not accept religion, I believe such treatments are also a violation of the marriage contract and reject them on fundamental grounds as well.
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Red Stateler wrote:
Adoption seeks to help victims (i.e. the children) of non-married reproduction.
Good grief man, do you honestly believe this? :wtf:
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I'm so gangsta I eat cereal without the milkDavid Wulff wrote:
Good grief man, do you honestly believe this?
Of course. Promiscuity has been blessed as a virtue by the left, which results in millions of unintended pregnancies a year. These children (those that survive past abortion, anyway) were unwanted and born to indifferent parents who have made no effort to secure the well-being of their children. Do you actually believe that ignoring the well-being of children is some sort of virtue? That it is completely harmless?
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Red Stateler wrote:
It's not possible two gay people two have children without the involvement of a thrid party. In-Vitro fertilization would constitute adultery in such an environment and is therefore a defacto rejection of fundamental marital vows.
Actually, I have a large problem with fertility treatments and in-vitro fertilization. I fail to find justification for such activities given the cultural breakdown of the traditional family unit on a large scale and excessive over-population. Furthermore, there are large amounts of children who have no stable or coherent family unit who should be preferentially adopted before any couple can justify receiving a fertility treatment. It's absurd to encourage population growth through artificial means when the population of the planet is out-pacing the natural resource replacement. Furthermore, I don't believe that for a non-traditional married couple having children via fertility treatments in an inherent right, or entitlement. Even though I do not accept religion, I believe such treatments are also a violation of the marriage contract and reject them on fundamental grounds as well.
Prime your row 'cause you'll get no pay for standin' there pickin' at your nose all day.
I agree. I think fertility treatment is, in general, not a good thing at all. If my wife and I were incapable of having children, I'd want to adopt a child who was irresponsibly born into an unloving environment. I just find it objectionable to unnaturally have children when there are plenty kids who need decent homes. It's especially objectionable to be conceived by a third party when you're supposedly "married".
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David Wulff wrote:
Good grief man, do you honestly believe this?
Of course. Promiscuity has been blessed as a virtue by the left, which results in millions of unintended pregnancies a year. These children (those that survive past abortion, anyway) were unwanted and born to indifferent parents who have made no effort to secure the well-being of their children. Do you actually believe that ignoring the well-being of children is some sort of virtue? That it is completely harmless?
Red Stateler wrote:
Of course. Promiscuity has been blessed as a virtue by the left, which results in millions of unintended pregnancies a year. These children (those that survive past abortion, anyway) were unwanted and born to indifferent parents who have made no effort to secure the well-being of their children. Do you actually believe that ignoring the well-being of children is some sort of virtue? That it is completely harmless?
I have to agree strongly with you here. Such children are generally raised in the absence of a structured environment and learn cultural norms and behaviour from their peers rather than responsible and mature adults. I feel this leads in turn to a lack of respect for authority and socially deviant behaviour and is the main factor for the increase in youth crime rates and youth social problems.
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I agree. I think fertility treatment is, in general, not a good thing at all. If my wife and I were incapable of having children, I'd want to adopt a child who was irresponsibly born into an unloving environment. I just find it objectionable to unnaturally have children when there are plenty kids who need decent homes. It's especially objectionable to be conceived by a third party when you're supposedly "married".
Red Stateler wrote:
I agree. I think fertility treatment is, in general, not a good thing at all. If my wife and I were incapable of having children, I'd want to adopt a child who was irresponsibly born into an unloving environment. I just find it objectionable to unnaturally have children when there are plenty kids who need decent homes. It's especially objectionable to be conceived by a third party when you're supposedly "married".
Yes, I am in 1000% absolute agreement with you for once. It is truly a shame that marriage has become a commodity - able to be "discarded" and "replaced". In actuality, marriage is not easy and requires effort. This reinforces a bond between two individuals who are then able to responsibly raise a socially adapted child to become a productive and moral individual. Why some children should be allowed to be socially marginalized while couples are granted undeserved priveleges of fertilization is, for me, completely unacceptable. I take great offense to this.
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David Wulff wrote:
What about infertile couples?
If they get fertilized by a third person (which is required of same-sex couples), of course that constitutes adultery. Infertile couples can always adopt the children of irresponsible leftists hippies and infertility doesn't affect the core purpose of marriage since it's the exception and not the norm.
What about the kids left over when two parents die? Should they just be gassed immediately, or can we put them into work camps with the gays and adulterers?
Red Stateler wrote:
infertility doesn't affect the core purpose of marriage since it's the exception and not the norm.
Not for long. 10% of couples are unable to conceive naturally, and with sperm counts dropping quicker than a leftist's pants that number is increasing.
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What about the kids left over when two parents die? Should they just be gassed immediately, or can we put them into work camps with the gays and adulterers?
Red Stateler wrote:
infertility doesn't affect the core purpose of marriage since it's the exception and not the norm.
Not for long. 10% of couples are unable to conceive naturally, and with sperm counts dropping quicker than a leftist's pants that number is increasing.
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I'm so gangsta I eat cereal without the milkDavid Wulff wrote:
What about the kids left over when two parents die? Should they just be gassed immediately, or can we put them into work camps with the gays and adulterers?
That's what adoption is for, dork.
David Wulff wrote:
Not for long. 10% of couples are unable to conceive naturally, and with sperm counts dropping quicker than a leftist's pants that number is increasing.
So naturally we should encourage the natural selection of those unable to conceive. :rolleyes:
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David Wulff wrote:
What about the kids left over when two parents die? Should they just be gassed immediately, or can we put them into work camps with the gays and adulterers?
That's what adoption is for, dork.
David Wulff wrote:
Not for long. 10% of couples are unable to conceive naturally, and with sperm counts dropping quicker than a leftist's pants that number is increasing.
So naturally we should encourage the natural selection of those unable to conceive. :rolleyes:
Red Stateler wrote:
That's what adoption is for
But I thought you could only adopt the victims of non-married reproduction[^]? :confused:
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Red Stateler wrote:
That's what adoption is for
But I thought you could only adopt the victims of non-married reproduction[^]? :confused:
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I'm so gangsta I eat cereal without the milkI didn't say "only". The vast majority of orphans these days, however, are simply the product of irresponible and selfish behavior.
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Zac Howland wrote:
From the article: Gay rights activists said they were pleased with the progress but would continue to push for same sex unions to be recognised as marriage. "I'm glad for the progress but not very satisfied," said Stephen Goldstein of gay rights group Garden State Equality.
What does that have to do with religion? Does it say anywhere that they won't be satisfied until the state forces the Catholic Church to allow a gay couple to get married by the church?
Zac Howland wrote:
I'm not saying that the state shouldn't allow 2 people to be bond legally
Yet, you seem to have a problem with gay marriage.
Zac Howland wrote:
In other words, if you write a contract that states that you will share your assests with [insert other person's name here], any children will be raised jointly, insurace will be shared, etc ... as well as specify what should happen should the contract be broken by either party
If you have a contract, the state is involved. It's the state that will enforce it if there is a dispute(the courts,for example). How about insurance? A business my not recognize your "civil union", only the state can ensure that it will be recognized. Child custody disputes can be an issue. The state has to recongize the contract because it is the state that will determine custody.
oilFactotum wrote:
What does that have to do with religion? Does it say anywhere that they won't be satisfied until the state forces the Catholic Church to allow a gay couple to get married by the church?
Where did the Catholic Church come into all of this?
oilFactotum wrote:
Yet, you seem to have a problem with gay marriage.
No, I have a problem with the state regulating marriage period.
oilFactotum wrote:
If you have a contract, the state is involved. It's the state that will enforce it if there is a dispute(the courts,for example). How about insurance? A business my not recognize your "civil union", only the state can ensure that it will be recognized. Child custody disputes can be an issue. The state has to recongize the contract because it is the state that will determine custody.
That is fine. Having a contract that binds the assets of 2 people (which is essentially what a marriage license does in effect) is all well and good. Don't have a dedicated section of law that describes who can and cannot enter such a contract ... and don't give it special status over any other contract. You assume that I mean we should just do away with "marriage" and leave everything else the same. When laws change, business's and other laws are affected and have to adjust accordingly.
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I don't know how it would become meaningless in your eyes. If anything it would probably help lower the stats in regards to divorces and such. I think the problem with marriage is the Britney Spears of the world.
liona wrote:
I think the problem with marriage is the Britney Spears of the world.
No argument there ...
liona wrote:
I don't know how it would become meaningless in your eyes. If anything it would probably help lower the stats in regards to divorces and such.
There is a large minority of people helping to push the gay/lesbian desire for marriage rights. That group wants to be able to marry multiple people. Now, if you can be a polygamist, and marry both sexes ... it wouldn't take too much before everyone is married to everyone else ... which would cause some very interesting problems and essentially make it so no one is married to anyone.
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oilFactotum wrote:
What does that have to do with religion? Does it say anywhere that they won't be satisfied until the state forces the Catholic Church to allow a gay couple to get married by the church?
Where did the Catholic Church come into all of this?
oilFactotum wrote:
Yet, you seem to have a problem with gay marriage.
No, I have a problem with the state regulating marriage period.
oilFactotum wrote:
If you have a contract, the state is involved. It's the state that will enforce it if there is a dispute(the courts,for example). How about insurance? A business my not recognize your "civil union", only the state can ensure that it will be recognized. Child custody disputes can be an issue. The state has to recongize the contract because it is the state that will determine custody.
That is fine. Having a contract that binds the assets of 2 people (which is essentially what a marriage license does in effect) is all well and good. Don't have a dedicated section of law that describes who can and cannot enter such a contract ... and don't give it special status over any other contract. You assume that I mean we should just do away with "marriage" and leave everything else the same. When laws change, business's and other laws are affected and have to adjust accordingly.
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Zac Howland wrote:
That is fine. Having a contract that binds the assets of 2 people (which is essentially what a marriage license does in effect) is all well and good. Don't have a dedicated section of law that describes who can and cannot enter such a contract ... and don't give it special status over any other contract.
So then the blind should be entitled to driver's licenses and ex-cons should be permitted concealed weapons permits?
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liona wrote:
I think the problem with marriage is the Britney Spears of the world.
No argument there ...
liona wrote:
I don't know how it would become meaningless in your eyes. If anything it would probably help lower the stats in regards to divorces and such.
There is a large minority of people helping to push the gay/lesbian desire for marriage rights. That group wants to be able to marry multiple people. Now, if you can be a polygamist, and marry both sexes ... it wouldn't take too much before everyone is married to everyone else ... which would cause some very interesting problems and essentially make it so no one is married to anyone.
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Zac Howland wrote:
it wouldn't take too much before everyone is married to everyone else ... which would cause some very interesting problems and essentially make it so no one is married to anyone.
Welcome to the liberal ideal.
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oilFactotum wrote:
So, the IEEE is a religion because they have a formalized belief/value system in electricity?
Having a standardized system to keep things organized and having a belief system are 2 very different things.
oilFactotum wrote:
If I do not believe in god because there is no evidence that god exists
You have a belief that God does not exist. That is a belief, just like the one saying that He does exist.
oilFactotum wrote:
Does that mean that if I don't believe in unicorns because there is not evidence that they exist that I belong to a religion of unicorn disbelievers?
While you are being silly here, yes. You can start it up if you like ... just like the religion of the Fonz ... ;P
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Zac Howland wrote:
You have a belief that God does not exist. That is a belief, just like the one saying that He does exist.
I recommend that you read the first chapter of "Atheism - A Case Against God" by George H. Smith (by all means, read the entire book, it's well written). In short terms - atheism isn't belief. It's the absence of belief. The book puts it far more eloquently than I could ever hope to achieve.
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oilFactotum wrote:
What does that have to do with religion? Does it say anywhere that they won't be satisfied until the state forces the Catholic Church to allow a gay couple to get married by the church?
Where did the Catholic Church come into all of this?
oilFactotum wrote:
Yet, you seem to have a problem with gay marriage.
No, I have a problem with the state regulating marriage period.
oilFactotum wrote:
If you have a contract, the state is involved. It's the state that will enforce it if there is a dispute(the courts,for example). How about insurance? A business my not recognize your "civil union", only the state can ensure that it will be recognized. Child custody disputes can be an issue. The state has to recongize the contract because it is the state that will determine custody.
That is fine. Having a contract that binds the assets of 2 people (which is essentially what a marriage license does in effect) is all well and good. Don't have a dedicated section of law that describes who can and cannot enter such a contract ... and don't give it special status over any other contract. You assume that I mean we should just do away with "marriage" and leave everything else the same. When laws change, business's and other laws are affected and have to adjust accordingly.
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Zac Howland wrote:
Where did the Catholic Church come into all of this?
Replace Catholic church with any religion you wish. The point is that no one is demanding that any religion recognize any union, ever.
Zac Howland wrote:
That is fine. Having a contract that binds the assets of 2 people (which is essentially what a marriage license does in effect) is all well and good. Don't have a dedicated section of law that describes who can and cannot enter such a contract ... and don't give it special status over any other contract.
It appears you are saying that we should be not passing laws that ban gay marriage or define marriage as between one man and one woman. But it appears you are going further. You seem to be saying that state should not recognize marriage at all. It should only recognize the contracts created between individuals that will define their relationship. I doesn't sound like a very good solution to me. What it boils down to is "Let the lawyers define marriage." Besides the state will still get involved, estates, children, SS benefits, whatever. Individual custom contracts will always end up leaving out important questions that will have to be answered, and odds are the state will be involved.
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Red Stateler wrote:
So you're saying atheists shouldn't be allowed to marry?
Despite what some claim, atheism is a religion ;P Ironically, many of them derive their concept of marriage from the Judeo-Christian concept of it.
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Zac Howland wrote:
Despite what some claim, atheism is a religion
No, it isn't. Atheism is the absence of religion. You don't go to a special building once a week in special clothes to become an atheist. There's no membership fees, or secret handshake or special beliefs.
I contend that we are both atheists. I just believe in one fewer god than you do. When you understand why you dismiss all the other possible gods, you will understand why I dismiss yours. ~Stephen Roberts
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Zac Howland wrote:
In all honesty, the government shouldn't be regulating marriage to begin with.
I agree - marriage is the territory of the church. I don't think the government has the right to decide for the church what does and does not constitute marriage. Once you redefine marriage like that, what's to stop a government from defining more aspects of a religion?
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Governments should reject religions as mumbo jumbo, and make no special considerations for them.
The Apocalyptic Teacup wrote:
I don't think the government has the right to decide for the church what does and does not constitute marriage.
Why not? It's not like the christian church has exclusive rights to the concept of marriage. What legally constitutes marriage is up to the government to decide. The christian marriage ritual is the church's business. And they can put whatever silly restrictions they want on their ritual. Gay people can marry somewhere else. Gay or not - the marrying couple becomes legally married. I don't think gay people have a problem with that, only religious people with unjustified beliefs do.
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