Words you never want to hear from your spouse: "Now don't be mad at me, but..."
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leckey wrote:
One can't do both?
Possibly, well probably. It just strikes me as being low on the priority list, so low that I honestly cannot fathom spending the $300 or $400 required, unless I had a house full of kids that needed entertaining. I'm really serious.
Mike The NYT - my leftist brochure. dennisd45: My view of the world is slightly more nuanced dennisd45 (the NAMBLA supporter) wrote: I know exactly what it means. So shut up you mother killing baby raper.
I guess you have to also look at what people like to do. My husband is very visual; he could look at the TV section of Best Buy for hours. He likes video games. When a new Spyro game comes out I might play a lot over the weekends, but that's about it. I usually prefer to read myself. As mentioned in another post, the PS3 has the Blue Ray player which we will both use as we watch a lot of movies. The PS3 also can play regular DVDs (it actually upgrades the quality some), MP3s, and has internet access.
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leckey wrote:
...he doesn't consider my feelings.
Your husband is a man isn't he? :doh:
I'm pretty sure I would not like to live in a world in which I would never be offended. I am absolutely certain I don't want to live in a world in which you would never be offended. Dave
yes, but he grew up with lots of women in his life (mom, grandma and several aunts) and no strong male figure so he's usually the 'considerate' one. Like the first Valentine's Day after we married he bought me a nice Black Hills Gold necklace and earrings. I forgot it WAS Valentine's Day. I should change my post that when it comes to the house and cleanliness he is not very considerate of my feelings. Strange that he didn't get a cleaning bug with the women in his life growing up. Maybe it's a backlash.
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I've wanted a Wii for months, but have enough respect for my wife not to buy one behind her back at the expense of a new dishwasher.
Well, I have the money to buy the dishwasher, I just like to budget. I think I'm just going to go get one this week.
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leckey wrote:
He would live in filth if not for me.
Well... i guess that's why you get stuck without a dishwasher... ;)
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I should go on strike but I would probably give in LOOOONG before the filth bothered him. I did stop washing his clothes for awhile. He has a habit of not cleaning out his pockets. I've washed his wallet numerous times. Then I washed the cell phone. I told him it wasn't fair to get mad at me if he wasn't going to do his own laundry and he knows I don't check the pockets. Maybe I'll wash his underwear in the current dishwasher.
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Yesterday the hubby and I were shopping at Wally World and we split up. He found me in the middle of the store carrying a bag as he already bought something which I thought was incredibly odd. The first words out of his mouth are, "Now don't be mad at me, but..." He has never prefaced a sentence that way. The sentence ended with, "but I bought a Nintendo Wii." He just got a PS3 a couple months ago. Then he goes on to tell me how he can sell it for a profit. I put off getting a new dishwasher because first he got the PS3. Then I put it off again because he needed to get a new surround sound system. Now until he sells this dumb thing I have to wait some more. Has your spouse/sig other started a conversation like this? What did they do? Were you actually mad?
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He should have held off on the PS3, the Wii rocks. When my wife started that conversation, it was 'don't be mad, but when I told you that I had a $2000 credit card in my sisters name, I was lying. I had a $7000 credit card, and she paid it off, you owe her $7,000'. She told me this just after we bought a new house, because she wanted it, despite my being worried if we could afford it. And then she started making noises about working 4 days a week ( I also told her before we moved, that this house was the final straw in her having to work, before that, she worked because she wanted to ).
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You don't know my husband. He would live in filth if not for me. He'd run out of dishes and then buy paper plates rather than CLEAN. He has his own room and I finally made the rule that he couldn't have more empty 12 packs of beer bottles than there are days of the week. It's not gone over so well.
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leckey wrote:
He would live in filth if not for me.
You just said 'he's a guy'. So, I know him. I see him in the mirror all the time.
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
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Why would an adult want a game machine?
Mike The NYT - my leftist brochure. dennisd45: My view of the world is slightly more nuanced dennisd45 (the NAMBLA supporter) wrote: I know exactly what it means. So shut up you mother killing baby raper.
Mike, you can't be serious. I'd LOVE a Wii, I haven't bought one because there's no time in my life to use it.
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
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He should have held off on the PS3, the Wii rocks. When my wife started that conversation, it was 'don't be mad, but when I told you that I had a $2000 credit card in my sisters name, I was lying. I had a $7000 credit card, and she paid it off, you owe her $7,000'. She told me this just after we bought a new house, because she wanted it, despite my being worried if we could afford it. And then she started making noises about working 4 days a week ( I also told her before we moved, that this house was the final straw in her having to work, before that, she worked because she wanted to ).
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
Christian Graus wrote:
she paid it off, you owe her $7,000'.
:omg:
Christian Graus wrote:
making noises about working 4 days a week
So many comebacks, so little time! :badger:
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I guess you have to also look at what people like to do. My husband is very visual; he could look at the TV section of Best Buy for hours. He likes video games. When a new Spyro game comes out I might play a lot over the weekends, but that's about it. I usually prefer to read myself. As mentioned in another post, the PS3 has the Blue Ray player which we will both use as we watch a lot of movies. The PS3 also can play regular DVDs (it actually upgrades the quality some), MP3s, and has internet access.
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leckey wrote:
he PS3 also can play regular DVDs (it actually upgrades the quality some)
It might convert them up to a higher resolution, but it is impossible to up convert from a lower resolution to a higher and actually improve the image quality. In fact, unless you're up converting by an integer multiple it's impossible to do without suffering at least some degradation to the image quality. IIRC standard DVDs are 480I, so it could convert them to 960I and not use the edges of a 1080I/P TV without loss, but any other conversion will result in some degree of information loss.
-- Rules of thumb should not be taken for the whole hand.
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Christian Graus wrote:
she paid it off, you owe her $7,000'.
:omg:
Christian Graus wrote:
making noises about working 4 days a week
So many comebacks, so little time! :badger:
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Yeah, that went over real well. She kept a secret card for about 6 *years*. This is after we established that I could afford to pay all the bills, so I gave her an account I had saved $2000 in, and she was to put her pay in there. Whenever I asked how much was in there, she'd say - we'll have $8000 by Feb. Next time it would be 'We'll have $600 by Feb', and so on. In Feb, there was $1000 in there ( just under ). This was while she had the secret card. So you can imagine how I felt when I came back from my last US trip and was told she got a c/card while I was away, but didn't activate it. I'm now accustomed to a financial disaster from her every 2 years or so. I'm kind of due as we speak, actually.
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
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brianwelsch wrote:
The better question is: why would an adult NOT want a game machine?
Because there are books to be read.
Mike The NYT - my leftist brochure. dennisd45: My view of the world is slightly more nuanced dennisd45 (the NAMBLA supporter) wrote: I know exactly what it means. So shut up you mother killing baby raper.
I being a little facetious. I don't have one, but I have been considering getting the Wii. I agree the price never seemed worth it to me either, and I didn't want to give myself another excuse not to go "do something". Playing the Wii, though, seems more like playing darts or billiards. There's a social component and you're not strictly sitting on your ass. I can see buying the systems, it's spending endless hours in front of the TV that I question.
BW
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Ignorance and prejudice and fear walk hand in hand.
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I should go on strike but I would probably give in LOOOONG before the filth bothered him. I did stop washing his clothes for awhile. He has a habit of not cleaning out his pockets. I've washed his wallet numerous times. Then I washed the cell phone. I told him it wasn't fair to get mad at me if he wasn't going to do his own laundry and he knows I don't check the pockets. Maybe I'll wash his underwear in the current dishwasher.
_________________________________________________________________ Dick Cheney looks like a high school calculus teacher with persistent heartburn.
I think you're missing the manner in which you can go on strike, and have him in pain within days. Depending on how much he's already accustomed to such pain, it takes me 2 weeks to notice.
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
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Yeah, that went over real well. She kept a secret card for about 6 *years*. This is after we established that I could afford to pay all the bills, so I gave her an account I had saved $2000 in, and she was to put her pay in there. Whenever I asked how much was in there, she'd say - we'll have $8000 by Feb. Next time it would be 'We'll have $600 by Feb', and so on. In Feb, there was $1000 in there ( just under ). This was while she had the secret card. So you can imagine how I felt when I came back from my last US trip and was told she got a c/card while I was away, but didn't activate it. I'm now accustomed to a financial disaster from her every 2 years or so. I'm kind of due as we speak, actually.
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
ish. I'm glad I'm not married to someone like that. I have a couple of credit cards in my name and my husband is an authorized user. He's gotten some small stuff like movies, subscriptions, etc. I'm not sure how I'd react if in your situation. Maybe take over the account and put her on an allowance?
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ish. I'm glad I'm not married to someone like that. I have a couple of credit cards in my name and my husband is an authorized user. He's gotten some small stuff like movies, subscriptions, etc. I'm not sure how I'd react if in your situation. Maybe take over the account and put her on an allowance?
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leckey wrote:
I'm glad I'm not married to someone like that.
I can honestly say I've considered that more than once.
leckey wrote:
I'm not sure how I'd react if in your situation.
To be honest, nowadays I kind of expect it. I seriously thought about it when my work started taking off, I mean, the sooner I leave, the less 'half' is, right ?
leckey wrote:
Maybe take over the account and put her on an allowance?
We have a joint account, because I tried to combine our money, so I had some idea what was going on. Then I realised she has access to my account, and her money still goes elsewhere, mostly. So, I do have my own account, where my money goes. I basically keep our house afloat, pay the bills, and don't expect anything from her. I responded to the $2000 thing by trying to make her pay as many bills as possible. I make a lot more than her, so she gets upset that I give her so many bills, but it's the only way I can see her money benefit the family. We've had power and phone cut off when I've tried to make her pay, and she just hasn't. In Australia, if I left my wife, I'd be resigning myself to pretty much never seeing my kids, but having to pay her lots of money.
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
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leckey wrote:
I'm glad I'm not married to someone like that.
I can honestly say I've considered that more than once.
leckey wrote:
I'm not sure how I'd react if in your situation.
To be honest, nowadays I kind of expect it. I seriously thought about it when my work started taking off, I mean, the sooner I leave, the less 'half' is, right ?
leckey wrote:
Maybe take over the account and put her on an allowance?
We have a joint account, because I tried to combine our money, so I had some idea what was going on. Then I realised she has access to my account, and her money still goes elsewhere, mostly. So, I do have my own account, where my money goes. I basically keep our house afloat, pay the bills, and don't expect anything from her. I responded to the $2000 thing by trying to make her pay as many bills as possible. I make a lot more than her, so she gets upset that I give her so many bills, but it's the only way I can see her money benefit the family. We've had power and phone cut off when I've tried to make her pay, and she just hasn't. In Australia, if I left my wife, I'd be resigning myself to pretty much never seeing my kids, but having to pay her lots of money.
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
Christian Graus wrote:
In Australia, if I left my wife, I'd be resigning myself to pretty much never seeing my kids, but having to pay her lots of money.
That's really crappy. I feel bad for your situation. Are there any financial courses/learn how to manage your money seminars you could go to with her? What is she spending her money on anyhow? Is it possibly a shopping addiction where she needs treatment? I've heard that most couples fight about sex and money. When I was in college we had some lean times, but we never really fought about it. The only time I can remember is when we got overdrawn and I tried to hide it and fix it before my husband found out, but he did and was more upset about the secrecy. I really, really feel for you.
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Yesterday the hubby and I were shopping at Wally World and we split up. He found me in the middle of the store carrying a bag as he already bought something which I thought was incredibly odd. The first words out of his mouth are, "Now don't be mad at me, but..." He has never prefaced a sentence that way. The sentence ended with, "but I bought a Nintendo Wii." He just got a PS3 a couple months ago. Then he goes on to tell me how he can sell it for a profit. I put off getting a new dishwasher because first he got the PS3. Then I put it off again because he needed to get a new surround sound system. Now until he sells this dumb thing I have to wait some more. Has your spouse/sig other started a conversation like this? What did they do? Were you actually mad?
_________________________________________________________________ Dick Cheney looks like a high school calculus teacher with persistent heartburn.
When is the funeral? :rolleyes:
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Christian Graus wrote:
In Australia, if I left my wife, I'd be resigning myself to pretty much never seeing my kids, but having to pay her lots of money.
That's really crappy. I feel bad for your situation. Are there any financial courses/learn how to manage your money seminars you could go to with her? What is she spending her money on anyhow? Is it possibly a shopping addiction where she needs treatment? I've heard that most couples fight about sex and money. When I was in college we had some lean times, but we never really fought about it. The only time I can remember is when we got overdrawn and I tried to hide it and fix it before my husband found out, but he did and was more upset about the secrecy. I really, really feel for you.
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leckey wrote:
Are there any financial courses/learn how to manage your money seminars you could go to with her?
I don't know. I doubt it would help.
leckey wrote:
What is she spending her money on anyhow?
Sushi, I suspect. Food, almost certainly.
leckey wrote:
I've heard that most couples fight about sex and money.
Yep, that's pretty much it. We don't have any money troubles nowadays, so we just fight more about sex...
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Mike, you can't be serious. I'd LOVE a Wii, I haven't bought one because there's no time in my life to use it.
Christian Graus - C++ MVP 'Why don't we jump on a fad that hasn't already been widely discredited ?' - Dilbert
Christian Graus wrote:
I'd LOVE a Wii, I haven't bought one because there's no time in my life to use it.
That was really my point. We're all (even at my age 61) kids at heart but there are so so many more important things than playing games. That said, it makes all the sense in the world to have some form of relaxation but "gaming" with these boxes seems all too consuming.
Mike The NYT - my leftist brochure. dennisd45: My view of the world is slightly more nuanced dennisd45 (the NAMBLA supporter) wrote: I know exactly what it means. So shut up you mother killing baby raper.
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I should go on strike but I would probably give in LOOOONG before the filth bothered him. I did stop washing his clothes for awhile. He has a habit of not cleaning out his pockets. I've washed his wallet numerous times. Then I washed the cell phone. I told him it wasn't fair to get mad at me if he wasn't going to do his own laundry and he knows I don't check the pockets. Maybe I'll wash his underwear in the current dishwasher.
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leckey wrote:
Then I washed the cell phone.
Now that's just uncalled for. If you're gonna do the laundry, do it right. Personally, i'd wear the same jeans for months before i'd let them fall into the hands of someone so careless... ;P
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When is the funeral? :rolleyes:
As long as he sells it as he claims he will, there will be none. However, if he opens it up for himself, it's customary for about 3-4 days after death. Please feel free to send your potato salad and tater tot casserole (for some reason when people die they always send copious amounts of these items) to: Mrs. Ono-Y'Didnt 123 It's Your Own Funeral Lane I-Told-You-So-Ville, SD 57006
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