What would you do in this situation?
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I wrote a check for 1400 for rent and deposit and I feel as if I felt as if I have been cheated by her because she took advantage of our situation. We didn't even think twice before we signed the lease. Then my mother died and my grandmother basically lost her mind because she stopped taking her medications. My mother and I were the ones who signed the lease, since she is dead I am the only one on the lease and she sees me as money instead of someone who needs to get out of this terrible house. She even had the audacity to verbally abuse my grandmother on the phone. :mad:
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
We didn't even think twice before we signed the lease.
Yeah, well there you go. She may be an asshole, but you signed an agreement to pay her rent. Unfortunately, she's perfectly within her right to do what she did. If 1400 is too much, then downsize. If you can't get a job, join the army and then learn some kind of trade. Take advantage of the GI bill. Whining and complaining won't get you anywhere, if you want to change your situation you're going to have to do it yourself. I did it, others have done it and you'll have to do it.
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Vote for Obama and wait to be taken care of by me.
Chaining ourselves to the moral high ground does not make us good guys. Aside from making us easy targets, it merely makes us idiotic prisoners of our own self loathing.
Oh, now you're a willing socialist? TRAITOR! :laugh:
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Oh, now you're a willing socialist? TRAITOR! :laugh:
73Zeppelin wrote:
Oh, now you're a willing socialist? TRAITOR!
Oh, believe me, I will be resisting in every possible effective manner available to me.
Chaining ourselves to the moral high ground does not make us good guys. Aside from making us easy targets, it merely makes us idiotic prisoners of our own self loathing.
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I would like to keep this thread fairly respectful. I'm not here to start a flame war. You are living in a dump with your family with no utilities whatsoever. You get electricity from your vehicle, water and food from the store, and you have a two burner portable propane stove. Your mother died of an overdose of morphine so you want to leave this house. You have been evicted and sued due to an argument with the landlady that ended with you cursing her out. You have several small animals to take care of.. Also you are mostly responsible for your little brother who is also autistic. What do you do?
I am sorry to hear about your mother. Sounds like you have reached bottom, you can either choose to wallow around there or you can get up and take responsibility for your life and work your tail off to pay your debt and provide for you and your brother. You will never do that as long as you are on the drugs. I'll be praying for you.
Gary Kirkham Forever Forgiven and Alive in the Spirit "Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life. Me blog, You read
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Vote for Obama and wait to be taken care of by me.
Chaining ourselves to the moral high ground does not make us good guys. Aside from making us easy targets, it merely makes us idiotic prisoners of our own self loathing.
5!
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
I would like to keep this thread fairly respectful. I'm not here to start a flame war. You are living in a dump with your family with no utilities whatsoever. You get electricity from your vehicle, water and food from the store, and you have a two burner portable propane stove. Your mother died of an overdose of morphine so you want to leave this house. You have been evicted and sued due to an argument with the landlady that ended with you cursing her out. You have several small animals to take care of.. Also you are mostly responsible for your little brother who is also autistic. What do you do?
It's fairly pointless to seek sympathy or even decent advice in the Soapbox. Maybe you should get a shrink - they're much more qualified to tell you that your life sucks than we are.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
I would like to keep this thread fairly respectful. I'm not here to start a flame war. You are living in a dump with your family with no utilities whatsoever. You get electricity from your vehicle, water and food from the store, and you have a two burner portable propane stove. Your mother died of an overdose of morphine so you want to leave this house. You have been evicted and sued due to an argument with the landlady that ended with you cursing her out. You have several small animals to take care of.. Also you are mostly responsible for your little brother who is also autistic. What do you do?
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I would like to keep this thread fairly respectful. I'm not here to start a flame war. You are living in a dump with your family with no utilities whatsoever. You get electricity from your vehicle, water and food from the store, and you have a two burner portable propane stove. Your mother died of an overdose of morphine so you want to leave this house. You have been evicted and sued due to an argument with the landlady that ended with you cursing her out. You have several small animals to take care of.. Also you are mostly responsible for your little brother who is also autistic. What do you do?
I don't know (nor want to know) what city or state you live in, but I have some suggestions you might consider. 1. Your little brother is the most at risk here, contact the local child welfare agency to get help for him immediately. This may result in them placing your brother in state custody, but at least he will have the food, shelter and medical care you cannot at present provide. If they judge that your household is still tenable, they should be able to provide financial help from one of several Aid for dependant children programs. 2. If you or your grandmother belong to a church, go see the pastor, and ask him to suggest where to go for help with your situation. 3. Take the animals to an animal shelter. You are in no position to care for them, since their support competes with your own. Give them to someone who can afford them. 4. If your mother had worked at all (and paid FICA taxes), contact the local Social Security office to see if you can get any help from Aid For Dependent Children. It will likely not be much, but it is income. 5. If you have been evicted from the present house, you will need new shelter (eventually, the local law enforcement will arrive to physically eject you from the house). Typically you have 90-120 days after receiving the printed legal notice of eviction (the landlady's verbal statement that you are evicted is worthless, she still has to go to court). Again, contact the local state or city welfare agencies (DFCS, etc). 6. Contact Aid for the elderly agencies on behalf of your grandmother. If she is not yet receiving Social Security, find out why. If she is, contact other agencies to see if she qualifies for additional support. The bottom line is that you will have to do some legwork to get help. Social services and welfare help is almost certainly available to someone in your situation, but it won't come to you. You have to seek it out, and may have to keep badgering people until you get what you need. Churches can and will help, don't avoid them because you dislike or distrust religion. Pride is a luxury you cant afford. Good luck, we'll all be pulling for you.
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Vote for Obama and wait to be taken care of by me.
Chaining ourselves to the moral high ground does not make us good guys. Aside from making us easy targets, it merely makes us idiotic prisoners of our own self loathing.
Damn, Stan, how cruel of you to make him wait! Write a check immediately!
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I would like to keep this thread fairly respectful. I'm not here to start a flame war. You are living in a dump with your family with no utilities whatsoever. You get electricity from your vehicle, water and food from the store, and you have a two burner portable propane stove. Your mother died of an overdose of morphine so you want to leave this house. You have been evicted and sued due to an argument with the landlady that ended with you cursing her out. You have several small animals to take care of.. Also you are mostly responsible for your little brother who is also autistic. What do you do?
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I would like to keep this thread fairly respectful. I'm not here to start a flame war. You are living in a dump with your family with no utilities whatsoever. You get electricity from your vehicle, water and food from the store, and you have a two burner portable propane stove. Your mother died of an overdose of morphine so you want to leave this house. You have been evicted and sued due to an argument with the landlady that ended with you cursing her out. You have several small animals to take care of.. Also you are mostly responsible for your little brother who is also autistic. What do you do?
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Write a book about how shitty life can be. Then get it made into a film?
Morality is indistinguishable from social proscription
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CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
We didn't even think twice before we signed the lease.
And that is your landlord's fault?
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
my grandmother basically lost her mind because she stopped taking her medications
Isn't that your fault?
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
she sees me as money instead of someone who needs to get out of this terrible house.
You're a tenant. That's a source of income. The incomes allows her to pay the mortgage and taxes on that "terrible house." If she wants to give to a charity, she'll pick and choose which one and how much, rather than allow you to freeload at her expense. Since your father owns a business and was providing you with free rent until you decided you didn't need him any more, why aren't you going to him with your tale of woe?
Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface
I'm not going to correct you in this case... Also he isn't the type of person to give me money. I am fine, and I will be fine as always. I just wanted to see how others would handle the situation and see what kind of input they have so I can perhaps get a few fresh ideas. You ran to your father whenever you needed money?
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I don't know (nor want to know) what city or state you live in, but I have some suggestions you might consider. 1. Your little brother is the most at risk here, contact the local child welfare agency to get help for him immediately. This may result in them placing your brother in state custody, but at least he will have the food, shelter and medical care you cannot at present provide. If they judge that your household is still tenable, they should be able to provide financial help from one of several Aid for dependant children programs. 2. If you or your grandmother belong to a church, go see the pastor, and ask him to suggest where to go for help with your situation. 3. Take the animals to an animal shelter. You are in no position to care for them, since their support competes with your own. Give them to someone who can afford them. 4. If your mother had worked at all (and paid FICA taxes), contact the local Social Security office to see if you can get any help from Aid For Dependent Children. It will likely not be much, but it is income. 5. If you have been evicted from the present house, you will need new shelter (eventually, the local law enforcement will arrive to physically eject you from the house). Typically you have 90-120 days after receiving the printed legal notice of eviction (the landlady's verbal statement that you are evicted is worthless, she still has to go to court). Again, contact the local state or city welfare agencies (DFCS, etc). 6. Contact Aid for the elderly agencies on behalf of your grandmother. If she is not yet receiving Social Security, find out why. If she is, contact other agencies to see if she qualifies for additional support. The bottom line is that you will have to do some legwork to get help. Social services and welfare help is almost certainly available to someone in your situation, but it won't come to you. You have to seek it out, and may have to keep badgering people until you get what you need. Churches can and will help, don't avoid them because you dislike or distrust religion. Pride is a luxury you cant afford. Good luck, we'll all be pulling for you.
My little brother is 18 and he collects SSI even though he is not that bad. We are perfectly alright, even the animals.
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I'm not going to correct you in this case... Also he isn't the type of person to give me money. I am fine, and I will be fine as always. I just wanted to see how others would handle the situation and see what kind of input they have so I can perhaps get a few fresh ideas. You ran to your father whenever you needed money?
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
I'm not going to correct you in this case...
You can't. I was right.
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
Also he isn't the type of person to give me money.
He gave you housing.
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
I am fine, and I will be fine as always.
If you were telling the truth, something I have grave doubts about, you are not fine. You are in deep shit that's about to get deeper.
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
You ran to your father whenever you needed money?
Didn't have to. I had Grandfather's trustfund until I was 25, by which time I was earning a good living.
Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface
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Write a book about how shitty life can be. Then get it made into a film?
Morality is indistinguishable from social proscription
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CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
I'm not going to correct you in this case...
You can't. I was right.
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
Also he isn't the type of person to give me money.
He gave you housing.
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
I am fine, and I will be fine as always.
If you were telling the truth, something I have grave doubts about, you are not fine. You are in deep shit that's about to get deeper.
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
You ran to your father whenever you needed money?
Didn't have to. I had Grandfather's trustfund until I was 25, by which time I was earning a good living.
Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface
Oakman wrote:
Didn't have to. I had Grandfather's trustfund until I was 25, by which time I was earning a good living.
I see, so you rode on the back of your grandfather's hard earned money until you were 25. Gotcha.
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Oakman wrote:
Didn't have to. I had Grandfather's trustfund until I was 25, by which time I was earning a good living.
I see, so you rode on the back of your grandfather's hard earned money until you were 25. Gotcha.
CaptainSeeSarp wrote:
I see, so you rode on the back of your grandfather's hard earned money until you were 25.
Sounds like you're a wee bit jealous. I don't know how hard it was to earn. He was EVP of New York Central and pretty much sat around in his large office in Grand Central Station all day. But yes, I had a cushion until I was 25. I was able not to touch it while I was in the service, so it was a pretty nice cushion when I got out. A year later I was running a company for someone else and two years after that I was running my own company. You think perhaps I don't know what it's like to be a druggie sucking at Uncle Sugar's tit and stealing food while working as a short order cook? Fucking A, I don't.
Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface
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73Zeppelin wrote:
Oh, now you're a willing socialist? TRAITOR!
Oh, believe me, I will be resisting in every possible effective manner available to me.
Chaining ourselves to the moral high ground does not make us good guys. Aside from making us easy targets, it merely makes us idiotic prisoners of our own self loathing.
helping the poor isn't essentially a bad thing. If you are a religious man take guidance from the following : "Now when Jesus heard these things, he said unto him, Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, follow me"
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helping the poor isn't essentially a bad thing. If you are a religious man take guidance from the following : "Now when Jesus heard these things, he said unto him, Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, follow me"
Sahir Shah wrote:
helping the poor isn't essentially a bad thing. :
No one said it was.
Sahir Shah wrote:
"Now when Jesus heard these things, he said unto him, Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, follow me"
Yes, but Jesus' concern was for the rich man's soul, not the poor man's worldly affairs. And Jesus never said - give all your money to the government so that the government can help the poor. Christians do not need lectures in charity by the way. We are far more generous than muslims are.
Chaining ourselves to the moral high ground does not make us good guys. Aside from making us easy targets, it merely makes us idiotic prisoners of our own self loathing.
