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I haven't been depressed in a long while ... I feel like shit ... I just came from a party 1 hour before closing time, didn't drink ( 3 beers in 4 hours ) didn't take any drugs ... The reason ... I think I love this girl, she's a friend of mine, not a close friend, but we see each other regularly and I'd like it to be more often ... Anyway, tonight, we were together at the same party, she, with her friends ( mostly guys; some of them I know ), and I with some other friends ... she left with her friends without even telling me ( or at least nod ), maybe I'm too childish and should not care about that. It's her birthday soon, I owe her a lunch, I think I will risk my friendship with her at that time by telling her my feelings at the risk of ending some common relations. :(( God I hate this feeling.
Too many times people hold back and try to spoon feed a "relationship" only to miss their chance. Other times they push too hard and scare off their potential mate. It's impossible to truly know what someone else is thinking or feeling without communicating with them. Just be open and honest and above all... be yourself. P.S. Oh and Mr. Anonymous... don't do it "anonymously". ;P ;P ;P "Reality is what refuses to go away when I stop believing in it." Philip K. Dick
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peterchen wrote: if it doesn't work out, come back here and we can sulk together Do you have enough pizza and big screen & some DVDs? :rolleyes: David Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
David's thoughts / dnhsoftware.org / MyHTMLTidyOh yes, enough. I'm an experienced sulker you know :)
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
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I haven't been depressed in a long while ... I feel like shit ... I just came from a party 1 hour before closing time, didn't drink ( 3 beers in 4 hours ) didn't take any drugs ... The reason ... I think I love this girl, she's a friend of mine, not a close friend, but we see each other regularly and I'd like it to be more often ... Anyway, tonight, we were together at the same party, she, with her friends ( mostly guys; some of them I know ), and I with some other friends ... she left with her friends without even telling me ( or at least nod ), maybe I'm too childish and should not care about that. It's her birthday soon, I owe her a lunch, I think I will risk my friendship with her at that time by telling her my feelings at the risk of ending some common relations. :(( God I hate this feeling.
Anonymous wrote: Anyway, tonight, we were together at the same party sounds like you're worshipping from afar. why not simply ask her out on a date? no need to spill your guts, just ask her out and if she accepts, treat her like a queen. Mike "liberals were driven crazy by Bush." Me To: Dixie Sluts, M. Moore, the Boss, Bon Jovi, Clooney, Penn, Babs, Soros, Redford, Gore, Daschle - "bye bye" Me "I voted for W." Me "There you go again." RR "Flushed the Johns" Me K(arl) wrote: Date:8:50 23 Feb '05 I love you.
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Too many times people hold back and try to spoon feed a "relationship" only to miss their chance. Other times they push too hard and scare off their potential mate. It's impossible to truly know what someone else is thinking or feeling without communicating with them. Just be open and honest and above all... be yourself. P.S. Oh and Mr. Anonymous... don't do it "anonymously". ;P ;P ;P "Reality is what refuses to go away when I stop believing in it." Philip K. Dick
Mike Mullikin wrote: . It's impossible to truly know what someone else is thinking or feeling without communicating with them. When "someone else" is a woman then I belive it's impossible even with communicating... David Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
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Oh yes, enough. I'm an experienced sulker you know :)
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
boost your code || Fold With Us! || sighist | doxygenyou are my role model :doh: David Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
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man I'd love to have your girl problems... :sigh: I say go for it, tell her what you fell. But then again I am the last person on the world to give an advice. David Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
David's thoughts / dnhsoftware.org / MyHTMLTidyso tell us about yours, David :cool: I figure Mrs Rasta was't supposed to be
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
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so tell us about yours, David :cool: I figure Mrs Rasta was't supposed to be
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
boost your code || Fold With Us! || sighist | doxygenhmmm man I can tell you, it's real bad to make somebody angry that much that she don't wan't to speak (em I mean read email) with me... how can I apologise or at least figure out what the hell hapend when she don't talk with me??? peterchen wrote: I figure Mrs Rasta was't supposed to be till last week it looked differend... :(( hmmm I won't steal this thread. David Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
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hmmm man I can tell you, it's real bad to make somebody angry that much that she don't wan't to speak (em I mean read email) with me... how can I apologise or at least figure out what the hell hapend when she don't talk with me??? peterchen wrote: I figure Mrs Rasta was't supposed to be till last week it looked differend... :(( hmmm I won't steal this thread. David Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
David's thoughts / dnhsoftware.org / MyHTMLTidy[1] Is there anything you have done/she might have found out that hurt her, or might have changed her picture of you? [2] How far is she away? dnh wrote: hmmm I won't steal this thread OTOH if everybody plunges in we could create the longest thread ever... :cool:
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
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[1] Is there anything you have done/she might have found out that hurt her, or might have changed her picture of you? [2] How far is she away? dnh wrote: hmmm I won't steal this thread OTOH if everybody plunges in we could create the longest thread ever... :cool:
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
boost your code || Fold With Us! || sighist | doxygenyour experience is breathtaking :) [1] see my very own thread. [2] in Holland... dunno how far it is but I definitely can't afford trip there now :(( cuz of school I don't work => no money David Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
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Mike Mullikin wrote: . It's impossible to truly know what someone else is thinking or feeling without communicating with them. When "someone else" is a woman then I belive it's impossible even with communicating... David Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
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I haven't been depressed in a long while ... I feel like shit ... I just came from a party 1 hour before closing time, didn't drink ( 3 beers in 4 hours ) didn't take any drugs ... The reason ... I think I love this girl, she's a friend of mine, not a close friend, but we see each other regularly and I'd like it to be more often ... Anyway, tonight, we were together at the same party, she, with her friends ( mostly guys; some of them I know ), and I with some other friends ... she left with her friends without even telling me ( or at least nod ), maybe I'm too childish and should not care about that. It's her birthday soon, I owe her a lunch, I think I will risk my friendship with her at that time by telling her my feelings at the risk of ending some common relations. :(( God I hate this feeling.
Don't give up and start analysing yourself. Come clean with her over some drinks. Foods always bad in those situations as you will have butterflys in your belly. I was in a similar situation 10 years ago. Really likeded a girl at Uni, but she was seeing someone else. Then in the second year when she came back she had broken up with him. Anyway a few months passed, and I made a move, and just told her how I felt. 3 weeks ago I married her, after we have been together 7 years now. You'll never know unless you tell her, and you can't go though life being secretly in love with a freind. Its just wrong in so many ways. She should know, and you should get it out. You'll feel better for it. Either she will go with it, and your a winner, or it was not meant to be but you can get back to living your life without something eating you all the time.
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Well don't give her a whole speech blurting out your love or whatnot. That'll just push you away from 'relationship' and towards 'creepy stalker.' I'd bring it up obliquely and casually. Make eye contact and ask her, "You know, I've always wondered if it's true that people can actually get into a real relationship after they've been friends for a while." Women are much better at subtelty than men, and if she's listening, she'll know EXACTLY what you're hinting at. At this point, she'll LIKELY become uncomfortable, shift away from you, avert her eyes, and say something like "no, I don't think it can happen," at which point, you have your answer, don't you? If she's interested, she'll take the bait and say, "Yes, it's possible" and her body language will tell you everything you need to know. At that point, you just say, "Well then, why did we never get together?" At the very least, the rest of the conversation will be interesting. You can also use that followup if she's one of those women who are completely stunned or answers with something noncommital like, "With the right person, maybe," in which case you'll have to force the issue anyway. And don't put this off - your friendship was effectively over the instant you wanted to sleep with her. Really, you're not happy now - why would you be LESS happy (in the worst case scenario) without her in your life? I guarantee that you'll still be less miserable even if you never see her again. And DON'T play the 'well maybe if I keep hanging around she'll grow to like me...' game if she shuts you down because you will be looking forward to many, many, many, more nights like this. Count on it. Some women would even keep you hanging by a thread just to boost their own ego. Luck, - F
Nice. Maybe you should start a new column: Dating advice for the socially inexperienced. cheers, Chris Maunder
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Nice. Maybe you should start a new column: Dating advice for the socially inexperienced. cheers, Chris Maunder
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I haven't been depressed in a long while ... I feel like shit ... I just came from a party 1 hour before closing time, didn't drink ( 3 beers in 4 hours ) didn't take any drugs ... The reason ... I think I love this girl, she's a friend of mine, not a close friend, but we see each other regularly and I'd like it to be more often ... Anyway, tonight, we were together at the same party, she, with her friends ( mostly guys; some of them I know ), and I with some other friends ... she left with her friends without even telling me ( or at least nod ), maybe I'm too childish and should not care about that. It's her birthday soon, I owe her a lunch, I think I will risk my friendship with her at that time by telling her my feelings at the risk of ending some common relations. :(( God I hate this feeling.
Anonymous wrote: I think I love this girl, she's a friend of mine, not a close friend, but we see each other regularly and I'd like it to be more often ... Um.... if you don't know her terribly well, perhaps you just want to bang her. I mean, how do you love someone if you're not even terribly good friends ? Anonymous wrote: she left with her friends without even telling me ( or at least nod ), maybe I'm too childish and should not care about that. Sounds like you're crying like a woman. Even if you were going out, would she owe it to you to keep you updated to all her movements, or be careful to talk to you before she left a room you were in every time ? Anonymous wrote: It's her birthday soon, I owe her a lunch, I think I will risk my friendship with her at that time by telling her my feelings at the risk of ending some common relations. Yeah, if you really feel that way, then do something about it. Anonymous wrote: God I hate this feeling. Yeah, but if you end up together, you'll be glad to felt it. Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
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Nice. Maybe you should start a new column: Dating advice for the socially inexperienced. cheers, Chris Maunder
I'd prefer an "dating simulator applet" for training... _________________________________ Please inform me about my English mistakes, I still try to learn your language!
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I haven't been depressed in a long while ... I feel like shit ... I just came from a party 1 hour before closing time, didn't drink ( 3 beers in 4 hours ) didn't take any drugs ... The reason ... I think I love this girl, she's a friend of mine, not a close friend, but we see each other regularly and I'd like it to be more often ... Anyway, tonight, we were together at the same party, she, with her friends ( mostly guys; some of them I know ), and I with some other friends ... she left with her friends without even telling me ( or at least nod ), maybe I'm too childish and should not care about that. It's her birthday soon, I owe her a lunch, I think I will risk my friendship with her at that time by telling her my feelings at the risk of ending some common relations. :(( God I hate this feeling.
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Don't give up and start analysing yourself. Come clean with her over some drinks. Foods always bad in those situations as you will have butterflys in your belly. I was in a similar situation 10 years ago. Really likeded a girl at Uni, but she was seeing someone else. Then in the second year when she came back she had broken up with him. Anyway a few months passed, and I made a move, and just told her how I felt. 3 weeks ago I married her, after we have been together 7 years now. You'll never know unless you tell her, and you can't go though life being secretly in love with a freind. Its just wrong in so many ways. She should know, and you should get it out. You'll feel better for it. Either she will go with it, and your a winner, or it was not meant to be but you can get back to living your life without something eating you all the time.
how lucky you are. I had the similar situation years ago, but I just kept that feeling in my heart never told her, and then we went to different cities. and again, I saw her in a party last new year, she's pregnant, and she found me when I was looking at her, she walked to me and smiled, she asked "does I look different? the bully" . for a moment I couldn't say a word, I just smiled and at last I got something to say " yes, different. more beautiful now". she smiled, said "that's nice" , and then walked away. yeah, really nice.
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how lucky you are. I had the similar situation years ago, but I just kept that feeling in my heart never told her, and then we went to different cities. and again, I saw her in a party last new year, she's pregnant, and she found me when I was looking at her, she walked to me and smiled, she asked "does I look different? the bully" . for a moment I couldn't say a word, I just smiled and at last I got something to say " yes, different. more beautiful now". she smiled, said "that's nice" , and then walked away. yeah, really nice.
Yep, I know I am and I'm not going to forget it any time soon. Its an awful thing having that feeling inside having someone as a freind with who you want it to be more than that, but being to polite to want to push it. With me it was always at the wrong moment, I would always start to feel sick, which would put me off what I was eating or drinking and my mouth would go dry. Anyway I can only imagine how gutted you were to see here again, and that she was fairly obviously with someone else.
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David Wulff wrote: but we are still friends lucky guy you are.
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
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