The dreaded call....
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
I think I can speak for the rest of us and say our thoughts are with you and your family James. take care, Chris Maunder
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
I fully sympathise (spell?) with you Jim. My granddad (grandpa) died when I was ~11, therefore I never really knew him for the man he was which was my only regret. He was 92 when he died so I think he served his time, and he spent it well. Even though I am not a religious man, I still want him to be somewhere nice with all his family and friends. His wife who is still alive really took it badly, she is now ~92 as well and still misses him. However she, as is the rest of the family, glad he passed on when he did before all his dignity went. Cya when u return Jim.
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
My deepest condolences, James and best of wishes for your grandma. I lost my grandma from my mother's side at age of 13 and I can say it was a great pain , and pasted 13 years since, I keep my grandma on my heart where she would never leave it. The loved ones never really leave us , they are always alive on our hearts and minds. Take care. Cheers, Joao Vaz A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person - Natalie Portman (Padme/Amidala of Star Wars)
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
That's too sad James; too sad. We've all been there in our own ways at some point in our lives, and we all cope differently, but one thing that you must do now is spend time with your family - it takes time to finally get used to the fact a loved one isn't with you anymore. The sad thing is (if you will excuse that phrase) that I can see myself in exactly the same shoes as you - my own and only grandfather is very obviously winding down to let go. He's Nintey One. I don't know how old your grandfather was, but I'm sure that he was listening to you all yesterday, and with family that visit on Fathers Day he can't have had a bad life. My thoughts will be with you. ____________________ David Wulff
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
My condolences, James. James T. Johnson wrote: Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. It's odd, but not unusual for this to happen; my stepfather went in a similar way, as if for a time, he was dwelling in two places at once, and this place was gradually becoming the less important of the two. Perhaps he and now, your Grandpa, were visiting with some old acquaintances, or making some new ones to accompany them in the next adventure... Take care of Grandma, and of yourself... I Drowned Schroedinger's Stupid Cat!
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
My thoughts are with you and your family James.
"When a friend hurts us, we should write it down in the sand, where the winds of forgiveness get in charge of erasing it away, and when something great happens, we should engrave it in the stone of the memory of the heart, where no wind can erase it" Nish on life [methinks] "It's The Soapbox; topics are optional" Shog 9
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
I'm very sorry for your loss James, take care of yourself, and we'll see you when we see you. Best wishes, Andrew.
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
So sorry, and condolences from us. Words can't express this well enough. Take care. Peace. Regardz Colin J Davies
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
My condolences, James. Spend lot's of time with your Grandma, often times the surviving spouse goes quickly too. I lost both my parents within 5 days not too long ago. It all happens so fast.
Mike Mullikin - We hang the petty thieves and appoint the great ones to public office. Aesop (~550 BC)
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about 30 minutes ago it came; my grandpa passed away. After generous amounts of crying and reflection something hit me. It was like he had waited until we came to visit one last time. Yesterday, for those who didn't know or didn't remember, was Father's Day in the US (among some other places). So we all took the trip to the nursing home where he has been living since he last left the hospital. I didn't want to tell my grandma this; but he looked the worst yesterday since his health started declining at the end of last year. I thought the worst prior to yesterday was the day before he had his leg amputated to prevent more problems caused by the gan grene that had set in on his toes. That day and yesterday he kept staring at the ceiling; almost out of body. Then I thought it was because of all the pain killers he was on. Yesterday, it seemed like he was listening but not to us. My grandpa and I have never been big talkers; we both prefer to keep to ourselves. But I'll never forget the time I'd spend just sitting in the car 'visiting' with him, even if no more than twenty words were said between us. I'm sorry that I never said goodbye yesterday, I just didn't know how. Now I must go, and support my grandma for she's taken it the hardest. I hope everyone will forgive me if I don't show up as much as I normally do for the next few days. Now that that is off my chest; take care, James
Thank you, to everyone who has written an e-mail, IM, or a post to send condolences. It means a lot for me and my family that even people who have never met me in person would do that. I wish I had time to thank all of you personally, but I am far too tired to do so now. Thanks again, James
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I am sorry James. You are doing a great thing by supporting your grandma. God bless you! Rama
Thanks Rama; we're doing the best we can now and have taken comfort in knowing that his suffering has ended. James