Military Marriage and Parenthood

realJSOP

Punitive awards are not my primary concern, though breaking a law in the military could result in a dishonorable discharge. My suggestion is meant to mitigate the problem at the outset. I'm not saying it's perfect, but it would be a good start.

"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

Oakman

Richard A. Abbott wrote:

You have no statutes or regulations that safeguards employment of reservists called up for duty?

Yep and they worked fine to protect a reservist or guardsman serving his required six months of active duty when he first enlisted, or his 30 days of retraining every summer. But ask yourself what would happen to your job, if three times in the last seven years, you'd gone away for thirteen months. Your position technically might be held open for you, but would you have the promotions you would have gotten? Raises? Or even worse - suppose you were an independent consultant responsible for finding your clients and keeping up a relationship with them?

Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface

realJSOP

Yes, but they're limited to the 2-week annual reserves camp-out. The employer can't fire you for having to serve in the guard, but if you're called up from the reserves, or serve more than a two-week tour of duty in the Guard, the employer is not obligated to hold your job for you.

"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

Dan Neely

yeah. I assume it was getting pregnant before leaving.

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Lost User

In UK This is applicable[^] but I understand your 2nd paragraph.

blackjack2150

Such a measure should not be acceptable in a democratic society, no matter what consequences might be. After all, you're not divided in castes like India's people... BTW, is there any law in US that forbids marriages between 2 people that want to get married? (excepting under aged, same sex, relatives, etc)

Dan Neely

That's not true for federal callups. State callups are subject to state law, but if Uncle Sugar wants you, your job's safe unless you've spent over 5 years deployed. http://www.braunconsulting.com/bcg/newsletters/summer2002/summer20023.html[^]

Today's lesson is brought to you by the word "niggardly". Remember kids, don't attribute to racism what can be explained by Scandinavian language roots. -- Robert Royall

Chris Austin

What an incredibly bad situation she has placed herself in.

John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:

Primarily, I think that if someone joins the military, they should do so with the outlook that their duty comes first, and their love-life comes second, and they should not place themselves in a position that they would be reluctant to fulfill (or flat-out refuse to fulfill) the obligation that THEY signed up for.

I come from a point of view of really disliking the idea of telling people how they should live. But, in this case I can't help but agree with you. To be honest this seems like common sense to me. Then again ...

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realJSOP

The military isn't the public, and to maintain a usable fighting force, rules have to be made. If you join the military, you agree to abide by those rules.

"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

MrPlankton

If she renamed her kid to Hitler the state would take care of the kid for free.

MrPlankton

Multicultural Diversity Training, the new Socialist Reeducation Camp-light.

realJSOP

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001

Oakman

John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:

The military isn't the public, and to maintain a usable fighting force, rules have to be made. If you join the military, you agree to abide by those rules.

Maybe that's why no-one has made a rule trying to regulate the right of experienced, trained, dedicated soldiers to marry each other or to even have children together. There's enough chickenshit in their lives already. And if no rule set down in concrete means occasionally some rear echelon MF has to figure out that it's better not to send a mother into combat just after the father has been KIA, is that really such a price to pay? Your original suggestion that she simply be assigned to stateside duty seemed to make a lot of sense. If there absolutely needs to be a rule, why can't that be it?

Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface

JimmyRopes

There you go being rational again! :doh: As I remember it you were entitled to non combat duty if you were a "sole survivor" after the death of a sibling as a result of being KIA. I don't see why becoming a sole survivor of your family because a spouse has been killed as a result of being KIA would be any different?

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