Looking for advice on buying an engagement ring
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I am not at all sure how divorce rates are in your area [EDIT]I did not know you moved to Canada[/EDIT], but currently slightly more than 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce. That alone makes one have to be very cautious... John -- modified at 17:51 Monday 23rd January, 2006
John M. Drescher wrote:
I am not at all sure how divorce rates are in your area
Divorce rates are going up in India. I went through one too, btw. First marriage was in 2001, divorce was in 2004. I am on my 2nd marriage right now - this one's forever though - till one of us dies! Regards, Nish
My blog : Nish’s thoughts on MFC, C++/CLI and .NET
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I am not at all sure how divorce rates are in your area [EDIT]I did not know you moved to Canada[/EDIT], but currently slightly more than 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce. That alone makes one have to be very cautious... John -- modified at 17:51 Monday 23rd January, 2006
John M. Drescher wrote:
I did not know you moved to Canada
Got married to Smitha (she's a CPian too) and moved to Toronto on Sep/1/05 :-) Didn't get as much snow as Chris promised, but it's kinda okay. Hopefully, we'll have a nasty snow storm or two soon! Regards, Nish
My blog : Nish’s thoughts on MFC, C++/CLI and .NET
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Well, he did NOT ask for advice on a prenuptial agreement ... yet ... :~ People that start writing code immediately are programmers (or hackers), people that ask questions first are Software Engineers - Graham Shanks
She definitly has more money than me... John
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John M. Drescher wrote:
I did not know you moved to Canada
Got married to Smitha (she's a CPian too) and moved to Toronto on Sep/1/05 :-) Didn't get as much snow as Chris promised, but it's kinda okay. Hopefully, we'll have a nasty snow storm or two soon! Regards, Nish
My blog : Nish’s thoughts on MFC, C++/CLI and .NET
Cool, congratulations on that... John
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I just bought a diamond from http://www.gemologicalservices.com/[^]. Got a very good deal on a GIA certified 1.01 carat E clarity, SI1 with good and very good everything else. I highly recommend them.
Thanks. John
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John M. Drescher wrote:
I did not know you moved to Canada
Got married to Smitha (she's a CPian too) and moved to Toronto on Sep/1/05 :-) Didn't get as much snow as Chris promised, but it's kinda okay. Hopefully, we'll have a nasty snow storm or two soon! Regards, Nish
My blog : Nish’s thoughts on MFC, C++/CLI and .NET
Nishant Sivakumar wrote:
Hopefully, we'll have a nasty snow storm or two soon!
There is still 3 to 4 months of winter weather before spring takes over... John -- modified at 18:37 Monday 23rd January, 2006
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Rama Krishna Vavilala wrote:
...warehouse club Costco.
That word alone would cause me to run the other way.
Rama Krishna Vavilala wrote:
The amazon.com diamon store is pretty good especially because it is a good example of an AJAX website.
I would seriously question anyone that based their diamond purchase on whether AJAX was involved or not. :rolleyes:
"The words of God are not like the oak leaf which dies and falls to the earth, but like the pine tree which stays green forever." - Native American Proverb
have you ever been to Costco? they have some seriously good quality stuff at really inexpensive prices. I'd buy a diamond there in a heartbeat if I needed one.
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You've known her three years, been living together for a while, and are sure she's the one etc. So why have an engagement, why don't you just go for marriage? Or is marriage not an option here? Regards, Nish
My blog : Nish’s thoughts on MFC, C++/CLI and .NET
We had a very large wedding with all the trappings and I must say it was quite the experience. You (hopefully) only do it once in a lifetime and it should be special and memorable. I would recommend he do it up right, you'll be glad you did.
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She definitly has more money than me... John
Regardless, it can save either or both of you a LOT of attorney fees - the only real winners in a divorce... People that start writing code immediately are programmers (or hackers), people that ask questions first are Software Engineers - Graham Shanks
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Regardless, it can save either or both of you a LOT of attorney fees - the only real winners in a divorce... People that start writing code immediately are programmers (or hackers), people that ask questions first are Software Engineers - Graham Shanks
Blake Miller wrote:
the only real winners in a divorce...
You are correct... John
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Chris Losinger wrote:
first, congrats!
Thanks, I have never felt better about anything in my life.
Chris Losinger wrote:
i met my wife on-line, too (campus intranet, actually). geeks are we.
Being a shy person who worked 80 hours a week, I came to the conclusion (after 14 years of trying) it was darn near impossible for me to find some one that I would want to spend the rest of my life with at my weekly visit to the singles bar...
Chris Losinger wrote:
but i let my wife pick out her own ring. well, not so much let - i asked her without having a ring first, and then we went shopping. much easier.
This is still a possibility but I am leaning away from it. I may have to call her best friend... Thanks for the help. John
Chris offered good advice regarding a dummy ring. That way you have something at hand but can let her pick out what she wants. An engagement ring is a lifetime commitment for a woman. If you pick the wrong one she will never forget, even if she never mentions it to you. She'll be much happier to find out how considerate you are by letting her pick than by demonstrating (possibly) bad taste. The secret to a successful marriage is to always let your woman pick out the shiny stuff like jewels, silver and china.
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Chris offered good advice regarding a dummy ring. That way you have something at hand but can let her pick out what she wants. An engagement ring is a lifetime commitment for a woman. If you pick the wrong one she will never forget, even if she never mentions it to you. She'll be much happier to find out how considerate you are by letting her pick than by demonstrating (possibly) bad taste. The secret to a successful marriage is to always let your woman pick out the shiny stuff like jewels, silver and china.
Ed Gadziemski wrote:
The secret to a successful marriage is to always let your woman pick out the shiny stuff like jewels, silver and china.
:laugh: Thanks, for the advice. John
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I haven't had to pick out an engagement ring before but as a thought does she have a sister or mother who you can ask and trust not to tell? I also wouldn't want to have to drag my soon-to-be-fiance around the jewelery store to pick out her engagement ring. Doesn't quite have that romantic touch, too practical, rational and pragmatic. regards, Paul Watson Ireland Colib and ilikecameras. K(arl) wrote: oh, and BTW, CHRISTIAN ISN'T A PARADOX, HE IS A TASMANIAN!
A close friend of mine, female, kept me up-to-date in the weeks before being proposed to about looking for rings, talking about marriage, etc.... She was always very excited. She was sure to drop all the right hints about what type of ring she wanted. Even though she knew the proposal was inevitable, she didn't know when or how he would ask. She was anxious and wondering for weeks and I think for her it was better to build up the anticipation than have it be a complete surprise one day. BW
If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the precipitate.
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I have been with my girlfriend for just over 3 years now and we have lived together since last March/April. Well, I guess I will say a few words about us before I ask for advice... We met on the internet (matchmaker.com) on the first day of 2003 and had our first date on January 11th 2003, which was a day after my birthday and two before hers. This year I turned 34 on the 10th and she has turned 37 on the 13th of January. As the days go by, it has become increasingly clear that she is the one and I am 100% sure that she feels the same way about me. I guess this has been enough babble, now to the question... I have already thought through how and where I will ask the big question. I am not even the slightest bit worried about her answer but I am extremely worried about the ring as I find myself knowing very little. I know a lot of people take their girlfriend to the jewelry store to pick out the ring but I think this totally takes out all of the surprise factor. But if I don't I have no clue what her size is. And then I am very worried that I am going to be ripped off as I know nothing about rings a slick salesman will spot this in a second. While composing this I did find a webpage http://www.soyouwanna.com/site/syws/ring/ring.html[^] that seems to have some good advice (I have not been through the whole thing) but I still want to ask if anyone would share some of their advice... Thanks in Advance, John
Try buying her some cheap ring beforehand to try and work out her size - measure it before you give it to her - and tell her to try it on on different fingers "just to see if it looks better" ... take note of how it fitted on the ring finger, and you can approximately get close to her size ;) As for the quality of the diamond, make sure to buy it from a reputable store. good luck Claudia
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DavidCrow wrote:
That word alone would cause me to run the other way.
I could think of one worse word. Walmart :laugh: John
Wal-Mart does not require you to pay an annual membership fee.
"The words of God are not like the oak leaf which dies and falls to the earth, but like the pine tree which stays green forever." - Native American Proverb
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have you ever been to Costco? they have some seriously good quality stuff at really inexpensive prices. I'd buy a diamond there in a heartbeat if I needed one.
Allen Anderson wrote:
have you ever been to Costco?
Yes, albeit once.
Allen Anderson wrote:
they have some seriously good quality stuff at really inexpensive prices.
Those very same products are available elsewhere without the need to join some club.
"The words of God are not like the oak leaf which dies and falls to the earth, but like the pine tree which stays green forever." - Native American Proverb
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Allen Anderson wrote:
have you ever been to Costco?
Yes, albeit once.
Allen Anderson wrote:
they have some seriously good quality stuff at really inexpensive prices.
Those very same products are available elsewhere without the need to join some club.
"The words of God are not like the oak leaf which dies and falls to the earth, but like the pine tree which stays green forever." - Native American Proverb
Costco's profit margin is extremely thin. I used to work for Red Bull, and Costco buys the stuff at $30/case from distributors and sells it for only $31.56. Considering the wholesale list price is $32 (which is what most smaller stores like gas stations actually pay), you're getting a really good deal. I'm assuming most of their other markups are similar, but I'm not sure. They also seem to have a pretty good diamond program and the diamonds they sell are only high quality...minimum 1.5 carats (although I think they recently lowered that to 1.0), minimum H color and VS2 clarity. At least I think that's what it was. The prices were also consistent with "wholesale" diamond prices, so you can expect to expend a pretty good effort trying to beat their diamond prices, although I'm sure that's possible.