Wedding Suggestions
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
Congratulations! My husband and I had a wedding that I am proud of to this day. It was beatiful, but did not cost a fortune. We had decided early on to only invite the people closest to us- meaning parents, siblings, a few close aunts and uncles, and closest friends. We had under 50 people. This meant no Aunt Tilly from Missouri, no relative that we hadn't seen in years, etc. By doing this, it made the occasion intimate and special. We had the ceremony in our local church, and the reception at a Sheraton Tara. I had made all of the table centerpieces myself, and bought a ton of tiny white lights, all of which the Tara staff put up for me. We had flowers professionally done, but kept it to a minimum (they weren't the centerpieces, ie. less expensive). We did not skimp on the meal- we had three choices (filet mingon, chicken of vegetarian) which guests chose from on their invitations. Oh I should mention, that while our pictures were being taken, hors-d-oevres were servedin a reception room, while a strolling violinist played. That violinist was later joined by a celloist in the reception room, where both played as background dining music. Since we had a small group of people, we decided not to have dancing, just the live classical duo. We had a cake, but skipped the "shove in your mouth" part- just all very elegant. We received soooo many compliments on how classy the wedding and reception was. Comments ranged on everything from how honored the guests felt because it was such an intimate setting, to my husband's relative muttering to his wife "whoa she must be loaded to have done it up like this". A friend (from England) said our wedding was akin to a traditional English wedding- very nicely done. And I spent 1/3 of what I knew some of my friends had spent on theirs. People can go nuts with what they spend. Just do as much as you can yourself (or your fiancee and her friends can) and you save oodles of money. Also limiting guests will help greatly. BTW, even though a cruise (or destination wedding) sounds lovely, please keep in mind that you'd be asking your guests to come up with cruise ticket money and vacation money for your wedding... Why not just go on a cruise after your wedding, and in that way, not impose upon others as much? Just a thought.
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
Congratulations!!! :rose: I'm afraid I've no suggestions I can offer...my marriage was a mess, quite frankly, and if I were to do it again I'd change just about all of it. ;) Anna :rose: Currently working mostly on: Visual Lint :cool: Anna's Place | Tears and Laughter "Be yourself - not what others think you should be" - Marcia Graesch "Anna's just a sexy-looking lesbian tart" - A friend, trying to wind me up. It didn't work.
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I am pretty certain that she likes the idea since she was the one that brought up the idea of eloping. She gave me several reasons of why too. 1. She hasn’t seen most of her extended family ever and the one she has she has only met once. Even in her immediate family only half of her family would come. (Two of her half siblings are in jail; she doesn’t know where her dad ran off too) All in all, she estimated she might have 20 people showing up for her as opposed to my 80 people if I limited it 2. Her mom has a record of ruining weddings. At the last one she was extremely rude to the bride and the groom and she put a whole downer on the wedding herself. 3. Her parents are extremely poor and cannot help pay for the wedding at all, which by custom the bride side pays for a lot of it. Eloping puts the burden only on her and I which is what would have happened anyway. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
In that case just go on the cruise. I wouldn't even worry about your family showing up if it would run the risk of her family showing up it sounds like. Whatever will make the two of you happy will be fine in the end. We only had about 50 people total show up to our wedding and it was fine. If you do decide on the traditional wedding don't worry about the lower number on her side. At our wedding my wifes side only counted 10 people and most of them were mutual friends from college while my side was about 20-30. Of course that's because most of her family lives in another state and couldn't make it but still, just saying it would be ok. ------------------------------------- Do not do what has already been done. Absolute power corrupts absolutely.. but it ROCKS absolutely, too.
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
What's your approximate budget? Because you'll have to take that and double it! (kidding.....sort of) Also, my recommendation would be maybe not to get married on a cruise. We considered it, but wound up with a honeymoon cruise after a destination wedding. You have to realize that you will want to get away from the wedding party after the nuptials. On a cruise, you will be stuck with them for a week.
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
All I've got to say is, congratulations. :) Stay happy throughout it all and always remember the reasons that the two of you decided to get married. Chris Meech I am Canadian. [heard in a local bar] When I want privacy, I'll close the bathroom door. [Stan Shannon] NOTED: The government now loses money on each penny it produces thanks to the soaring price of zinc -- the main component of the copper-coated coins. The cost of the metals in a penny rose to 0.8 cents last week, and the government spends at least another 0.6 cents to mint each one-cent coin. [The New York Times]
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
Congratulations! We got married in our back yard and surprisingly a lot of people I know have done or are doing the same. My only advice is that the more complex you make things on that day the less you will enjoy or remember your wedding years later. Personally I would go with the simplest possible wedding and either preceeding or after it then get involved in something more complex and planning heavy. You really don't want to be worried about anything on your wedding day and that goes quadruply for the bride. If brides have more than themselves to worry about on a wedding day it won't be a happy occasion for them. Sure everyone will jump in to help with stuff but it won't matter. My advice simple and small and plan some other occasion for the big bash on another day. Besides which I can't think of any major holidays in October or November and if you want a lot of relatives to come it has to be near a long weekend.
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Ray Kinsella wrote:
Any woman who says she doesn't want a traditional wedding is liar ...
That wasn't the case for my wife. We thought about a big wedding, but she suggested why not save the money and go to the justice of the peace. That worked for me. Almost 2 years later, she's never mentioned that she wanted a big wedding or said anything about being unhappy about going to the JOTP instead of having a traditional wedding. :)
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Any woman who says she doesn't want a traditional wedding is liar ... Well thats a bit strong, let me rephrase, all I am saying is I would be deepily suspcious of it, make damn sure she isn't going to tell you a month before the wedding that she isn't happy how it worked out. Regards Ray "Je Suis Mort De Rire" Blogging @ Keratoconus Watch -- modified at 11:18 Wednesday 26th April, 2006
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
Congrats! :beer:
bwhittington wrote:
We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect.
bwhittington wrote:
We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time.
It's been my experience that the bride and groom are the ONLY ones who truly care about the actual wedding experience. Parents, siblings, friends might say they do but it's all BS. They care only that a wedding has occured or care about the experience only to the extent of judging it against other weddings and getting free food/drink/dance.
bwhittington wrote:
My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks.
Bingo! My wife and I had a VERY small traditional wedding with a reception back at my in-law's house. Cost was extremely minimal. Less than $1500 including food/drink and the dress! This was 20 years ago. Since then we've seen her brothers/sisters and various friends each spend 10's of 1000's of dollars on their weddings and all they got was one big party and a whole lot of debt. I'd say elope or do the cruise (if friends come... so be it, if not... enjoy the privacy ;) ) "If the world should blow itself up, the last audible voice would be that of an expert saying it can't be done." - Peter Ustinov
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
I cost no object? Who is paying for the members of the wedding party?
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
I assune the best man will be dressed as :bob: The tigress is here :-D
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
When my wife and I got married we were the only ones there (except for the legal person of course!) We went to the courthouse in town, and were in and out in 20 minutes. We hired a Limo for a few hours to take us there and back, and went to a restaurant with some friends afterwards. I moved from England to California and my family couldn't afford to come to the wedding, so we chose not to invite her family either. My ring cost about $100 and hers was $35 (Mine was more expensive because I insisted on white gold ;P ). I've spent more money attending other weddings than the total cost of my own! We celebrate 7 years on Friday. And if you ask me, it's every day after the wedding that counts. I don't look back on my wedding - I look back on the time we've spent together. Oh, and whoever said that women all want a "dream" wedding is mistaken. She ought to be marrying you for you, not for a flashy party.
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I am not a very active member on CP. I normally just read the lounge and any articles that catch my attention. I am one of the silent members as some have described it. But I am really excited about this piece of news in my life. I am proud to announce that as of April 11th, 2006 I asked my girlfriend of three years to marry me and she accepted. We have not decided on an exact wedding date as of yet but we are hoping to have it sometime during October or November of this year. One reason we haven’t decided on a date yet is because we are not sure what type of wedding we want. We both see the benefits of having a traditional wedding; namely, being able to invite friends and family with ease and knowing exactly what to expect. However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding and we are also thinking of getting married on a cruise. We have been checking prices for fares and overall we think we can save several thousand dollars if we book early. We also had the idea of inviting our friends and family to come along on the cruise also so that they can share our experience and get a little vacation in at the same time. My parents aren’t too thrilled about the idea and they haven’t said they would or wouldn’t get yet either. My fiancé and I do realize though that it is our wedding and it should be special for us no matter what anyone else thinks. Basically, besides the announcement, does anyone have any tips on saving money on weddings or any other cool ideas besides a traditional wedding? Also, if anyone has been married on a cruise, how much did it cost and how many people did you have attend? Thanks in advance for any suggestions. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
bwhittington wrote:
However, my fiancé and I are looking to save some money doing a wedding
Get a ticket to vegas, get married, get your states approval. Seriously, that's miles cheaper than a "real" wedding.
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I am pretty certain that she likes the idea since she was the one that brought up the idea of eloping. She gave me several reasons of why too. 1. She hasn’t seen most of her extended family ever and the one she has she has only met once. Even in her immediate family only half of her family would come. (Two of her half siblings are in jail; she doesn’t know where her dad ran off too) All in all, she estimated she might have 20 people showing up for her as opposed to my 80 people if I limited it 2. Her mom has a record of ruining weddings. At the last one she was extremely rude to the bride and the groom and she put a whole downer on the wedding herself. 3. Her parents are extremely poor and cannot help pay for the wedding at all, which by custom the bride side pays for a lot of it. Eloping puts the burden only on her and I which is what would have happened anyway. Brett A. Whittington Application Developer
bwhittington wrote:
All in all, she estimated she might have 20 people showing up for her as opposed to my 80 people if I limited it
My sister had three people on her side (including her) compared to some 600 on her husband's side....but then, she did marry a Greek, in Greece. :rolleyes: I would say do what the two of you want to do (leaning towards your fiancee's wishes ;) ), and sod anyone else.