When was your saddest period of your life? How old was you?
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Be happy that your sadness is about a woman, not a lost limb or life.
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Pretty much from birth to 20. My mum was told she couldn't have kids without an operation, so I was unplanned. She believes I was allergic to her breast milk because I rejected her from birth, and I was a boy to spite her ( she wanted a girl ). So, my childhood pretty much sucked, I was pretty much reminded how useless I was at every opportunity. I got kicked out of home at 18, for a party my sister had, with my mums permission. A friends family took me in and that was the first step to realising that my family was disfunctional. Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
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Ryan Binns wrote:
About two years ago when my engagement broke up 4 weeks before the wedding. I was 23.
I remember you posting about it .. I thought "now there's a guy off to slit his wrists" ... And Im glad you got through it 'g'
Garth J Lancaster wrote:
I thought "now there's a guy off to slit his wrists" ...
Not quite :). I was upset, but not enough to throw reason out the window.
Garth J Lancaster wrote:
And Im glad you got through it
Thanks :)
Ryan
"Punctuality is only a virtue for those who aren't smart enough to think of good excuses for being late" John Nichol "Point Of Impact"
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Pretty much from birth to 20. My mum was told she couldn't have kids without an operation, so I was unplanned. She believes I was allergic to her breast milk because I rejected her from birth, and I was a boy to spite her ( she wanted a girl ). So, my childhood pretty much sucked, I was pretty much reminded how useless I was at every opportunity. I got kicked out of home at 18, for a party my sister had, with my mums permission. A friends family took me in and that was the first step to realising that my family was disfunctional. Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
Hello CG, Am I too late to notice it ? :- "CG a staff in CP". Is it not one of your happier moments? :-D
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Dude, I just read what started all of this. Here's something that's sometimes hard to believe. There's not one person for you. There's about 52% of the worlds population that's biologically wired to want to partner with someone like you. You'll find plenty of other women, and you'll learn from this experience. Just take note from the guy who said his worst moment was going to a prostitute, and you'll be fine. I know it doesn't feel that way now, but it will. You can help yourself now, by not focusing on it, by not being introspective, by not trying to convince yourself that something has happened which you can't recover from. It's not a great thing to have happen, but it's just another step in your life, life will go on. I left kind of like this when my first wife left me. It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, until you've gone down the tunnel a bit. Having remarried, I'm glad she left, although I have no doubt we could have worked it out if she'd spent more time with me and less time in bed with my friends.... Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
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Hello CG, Am I too late to notice it ? :- "CG a staff in CP". Is it not one of your happier moments? :-D
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I don't think the Bob icon is only for staff, although it's true in my case. I only got my icon today, but I've been full time since this week, and part time for 5 months or so. I didn't list it, but it was and is definately a big moment for me. I still remember when I was using this site to teach myself MFC, and I've been coming here for a long time, so to work for the site is pretty cool. Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
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I don't think the Bob icon is only for staff, although it's true in my case. I only got my icon today, but I've been full time since this week, and part time for 5 months or so. I didn't list it, but it was and is definately a big moment for me. I still remember when I was using this site to teach myself MFC, and I've been coming here for a long time, so to work for the site is pretty cool. Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
Christian Graus wrote:
I don't think the Bob icon is only for staff,
But Mr Bob with a briefcase on his hand surely is. :-D
Christian Graus wrote:
I still remember when I was using this site to teach myself MFC, and I've been coming here for a long time, so to work for the site is pretty cool.
Ahh! really interesting to listen. congrats CG!! :cool:
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I had a period in my life that lasted about a month when I couldn't eat or sleep and generally just let life pass beside me. It happened during my service in the military. I did 3 year mandatory service which I really enjoyed and ended up in one of the best places and jobs there are (IMO). But near the end it was quite unbearable. I was a commander of a course at the time. I decided to kick out one of my trainees, but it turned out her father knew people at high places (one of them was my base commander, a colonel). So not only did they not let me kick her out, they blamed me for misconduct since they had to make a reason for not kicking her. Accidently I found out about her connections and that crushed me. I've been a commander for more than 2 years, had hundreds of trainees under me, and this was the first time anyone ever doubted me or blamed me for misconduct. I wanted to quit this job, I said I no longer want to command this course and would like to reassign somewhere else (this was 2 months before I got discharged!). My superior officer told me I can't quit and if I decide to do so I might go to jail and have my military profession disqualified. I had no option but to stay and finish this course with her in it. Even worse, she started telling lies about me to the other trainees in the course. You can't imagine the feeling of being blamed for something you didn't do, forced to be in a place you don't like anymore and unable to walk away. I really learned to value freedom at that point. Anyway, to make a long story short, eventually I got acquitted and I managed to get her kicked out. Three weeks later I completed my mandatory service. They offered me a promotion if I stayed, but it didn't mean anything to me anymore. Value your freedom people. It's priceless. Isaac Sasson
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When i lost my GrandMother who cared/love me for 22 year
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When my best friend's 9 year old child died. Marc Pensieve Some people believe what the bible says. Literally. At least [with Wikipedia] you have the chance to correct the wiki -- Jörgen Sigvardsson
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Link2006 wrote:
How old was you? How long did it last?
I was 0 years old. It lasts almost 21 years... :~ :) Never forget: "Stay kul and happy" (I.A.)
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Link2006 wrote:
When was your saddest period of your life? How old was you? How long did it last?
My second marriage.... about 7 years. No, cross that... the first two were good. Like Christian said, you need to move on. I care very deeply for someone who cannot be with me, or does not want to, it doesn't really matter which. Acceptance of reality just "is" fighting reality only causes depression. I accepted life would be miserable, let my 2nd marriage take me to my death bed. But I still turned away and started over. Hopefully I will one day find someone else, my friend in New Orleans is not a possibility, that just "is" and I move on. Life is still what you make it. I may find someone else, I may not, but I am not going to sit around deliberately miserable over it. I had to be a hermit to recover from my 2nd marriage, but I am starting to date again.... feel very, very sorry for the ladies. ;) Give yourself time, give yourself other activities to keep the mind and body active, and eventually find someone else. _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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I don't think the Bob icon is only for staff, although it's true in my case. I only got my icon today, but I've been full time since this week, and part time for 5 months or so. I didn't list it, but it was and is definately a big moment for me. I still remember when I was using this site to teach myself MFC, and I've been coming here for a long time, so to work for the site is pretty cool. Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
Christian Graus wrote:
I've been full time since this week, and part time for 5 months or so.
That's :cool: man. Congrats, enjoy the new job, hope it goes well for you CG.
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The saddest points in my life have always been when I sat around filled with regret and wallowed in how inadequate I was. I stopped doing that I good while ago. Now I roll with the ups and down, and life is pretty damn good that way. BW
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Link2006 wrote:
When was your saddest period of your life? How old was you? How long did it last?
You are really flattened by all of this aren't you? Okay, I'll bite because I understand how you feel. December 20th 2001. My 2nd child was born to die. Modern medicine and miracles gave her life and my wife and I spent the next 3 years keeping her alive. We're way past that now and life is getting better a lot better. Now the *really* important part. My daughters birth seemed like a horrible nightmare in so many ways. Watching her slowly starve to death over a year seemed like being robbed of joy. Now after the fact and much later I realize that I learned so much about myself during that time. I changed so many things about myself during that time. I'm a much better person than I was because of those things and I'd never trade that experience for anything. I have a relationship with my children that most parents will *never* understand and it's incredible. The net result of that entire experience was just awesome and it changed my life forever. So now the lesson. Things that seem bad/horrible now rarely are years later. You have to keep that in mind. I think anybody here my age (31) or older could confirm that without even pausing. Time heals many things which is true but I prefer to think that hind-sight is the most accurate sight. I'm off to bed now. Take it easy Link2006 life get's better a lot better. Just ride it out. If you are a bump skier (moguls) treat life like ski's and the bumps as the experiences. When skiing bumps timing is everything. You've gotta have a great rythm and you have to be strong. You also have to have mastered the ability to relax while your body explodes with each bump. Just don't let the ski's (life) get you in the back seat (to far back on the ski's) or you will lose control and get hurt. Make it past each bump and then prepare for the next one, find your rythm and pretty soon you don't notice the bumps you are just way in tune with your ski's. It's an awesome feeling. Hasta! - Rex:rose:
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Welcome to CP in your language. Post the unicode version in My CP Blog [Very true words. Having witnessed my brother and his wife deal with a similar situation, raising a son to die though he lived to be 17, I am constantly amazed and humbled by the love and sacrifices of parents with children in similar circumstances. It's been two years since Geoffrey passed away but my brother still has a huge hole in his life and every day is a challenge for him. Fortunately it is the happy moments and memories that over time are the ones that keep him going. Chris Meech I am Canadian. [heard in a local bar] When I want privacy, I'll close the bathroom door. [Stan Shannon] NOTED: The government now loses money on each penny it produces thanks to the soaring price of zinc -- the main component of the copper-coated coins. The cost of the metals in a penny rose to 0.8 cents last week, and the government spends at least another 0.6 cents to mint each one-cent coin. [The New York Times]
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Link2006 wrote:
When was your saddest period of your life?
7 years ago my mother died of cancer. 5 days later my father died of a heart attack. Losing both parents in less than 1 week sucks. I was 35 y/o at the time and mourned (kinda lived in a fog) for about a year. On the bright side, as long as I don't outlive my wife or children (or any yet unborn grandchildren) there is a reasonable chance that the saddest days of my life are behind me. "If the world should blow itself up, the last audible voice would be that of an expert saying it can't be done." - Peter Ustinov
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Link2006 wrote:
When was your saddest period of your life? How old was you? How long did it last?
My second marriage.... about 7 years. No, cross that... the first two were good. Like Christian said, you need to move on. I care very deeply for someone who cannot be with me, or does not want to, it doesn't really matter which. Acceptance of reality just "is" fighting reality only causes depression. I accepted life would be miserable, let my 2nd marriage take me to my death bed. But I still turned away and started over. Hopefully I will one day find someone else, my friend in New Orleans is not a possibility, that just "is" and I move on. Life is still what you make it. I may find someone else, I may not, but I am not going to sit around deliberately miserable over it. I had to be a hermit to recover from my 2nd marriage, but I am starting to date again.... feel very, very sorry for the ladies. ;) Give yourself time, give yourself other activities to keep the mind and body active, and eventually find someone else. _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
Jeffry J. Brickley wrote:
Like Christian said, you need to move on. I care very deeply for someone who cannot be with me, or does not want to, it doesn't really matter which. Acceptance of reality just "is" fighting reality only causes depression. I accepted life would be miserable, let my 2nd marriage take me to my death bed. But I still turned away and started over. Hopefully I will one day find someone else, my friend in New Orleans is not a possibility, that just "is" and I move on. Life is still what you make it. I may find someone else, I may not, but I am not going to sit around deliberately miserable over it.
Thank you for sharing!
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Dude, I just read what started all of this. Here's something that's sometimes hard to believe. There's not one person for you. There's about 52% of the worlds population that's biologically wired to want to partner with someone like you. You'll find plenty of other women, and you'll learn from this experience. Just take note from the guy who said his worst moment was going to a prostitute, and you'll be fine. I know it doesn't feel that way now, but it will. You can help yourself now, by not focusing on it, by not being introspective, by not trying to convince yourself that something has happened which you can't recover from. It's not a great thing to have happen, but it's just another step in your life, life will go on. I left kind of like this when my first wife left me. It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, until you've gone down the tunnel a bit. Having remarried, I'm glad she left, although I have no doubt we could have worked it out if she'd spent more time with me and less time in bed with my friends.... Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++
Christian Graus wrote:
Just take note from the guy who said his worst moment was going to a prostitute, and you'll be fine.
I thought he was joking.
Christian Graus wrote:
I left kind of like this when my first wife left me. It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, until you've gone down the tunnel a bit. Having remarried, I'm glad she left, although I have no doubt we could have worked it out if she'd spent more time with me and less time in bed with my friends....
I love it when people have similar experience with mine, and willing to share. Thanks.
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The day I realised that my survival meant I was going to lose my family. :(( I was 35 at the time, and about to embark on my transition. That's history now, and with hindsight it's pretty obvious I made the only choice I could. That's life, it seems. Anna :rose: Currently working mostly on: Visual Lint :cool: Anna's Place | Tears and Laughter "Be yourself - not what others think you should be" - Marcia Graesch "Anna's just a sexy-looking lesbian tart" - A friend, trying to wind me up. It didn't work. -- modified at 19:19 Friday 28th April, 2006
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Christian Graus wrote:
Just take note from the guy who said his worst moment was going to a prostitute, and you'll be fine.
I thought he was joking.
Christian Graus wrote:
I left kind of like this when my first wife left me. It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, until you've gone down the tunnel a bit. Having remarried, I'm glad she left, although I have no doubt we could have worked it out if she'd spent more time with me and less time in bed with my friends....
I love it when people have similar experience with mine, and willing to share. Thanks.
Link2006 wrote:
I thought he was joking.
It didn't read that way to me.
Link2006 wrote:
I love it when people have similar experience with mine, and willing to share. Thanks.
No worries. Lots of people will offer advice, I wanted to explain why my advice was from experience :-) I'm sure others will offer advice from experience as well, not everyone has their wife cheat on them, but I'm sure most have been dumped on by a woman. Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++