Maybe it's only fair and after all Shog is right...
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
I really don't get some people, when I read your story my mind didn't jump to "this is a scam". You have posted on this before and are practically a fixture here. My mind went straight to how can I fit this into my stressed budget? I'm hoping to have something when I get paid on Friday, If I could give you my entire paycheck I would. And there were a bunch of people that feel the same way. Don't let these people get you down, there are people that care. I am one of them and I will try to help you in any way I can.
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
Good Luck Code-frog.
Regards, Satips.:rose:
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
Rex, i have been reading all the way with indifference, The reason for all this scrutiny is YOU never told "What is your target $ amount you seek" and What for "RIGHT NOW"? 1. You never gave any hospital details 2. You ask for payment to your companies paypal account, WHY YOU DID NOT CREATE A DONATION ACCOUNT IN A BANK ? I do want you to address this question at least, i have quoted it from DIGG "Right now I’m only able to take PayPal as I don’t really know how to take other types of payment" You can't take checks or anything else? I actually work for a hospital. The billing office, actually. How bout you send the address of your daughters hospital.. her name.. and we can help pay the bill off." The most important question, there is no definite amount you have put in your help blog? How much money can put you in the right track rex ? Do you want a million dollar like that million dollar page ? amount $ xyz can fix the current problem, can fix the issue thats it THE END If you ask others for help , you need to be very transparent. THERE SHOULD BE NO SCOPE AT ALL ABOUT PEOPLE MIS JUDGING IT THERE SHOULD BE NO NEED FOR YOUR EXPLAINATION AT ALL. this is what i think
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Rex, i have been reading all the way with indifference, The reason for all this scrutiny is YOU never told "What is your target $ amount you seek" and What for "RIGHT NOW"? 1. You never gave any hospital details 2. You ask for payment to your companies paypal account, WHY YOU DID NOT CREATE A DONATION ACCOUNT IN A BANK ? I do want you to address this question at least, i have quoted it from DIGG "Right now I’m only able to take PayPal as I don’t really know how to take other types of payment" You can't take checks or anything else? I actually work for a hospital. The billing office, actually. How bout you send the address of your daughters hospital.. her name.. and we can help pay the bill off." The most important question, there is no definite amount you have put in your help blog? How much money can put you in the right track rex ? Do you want a million dollar like that million dollar page ? amount $ xyz can fix the current problem, can fix the issue thats it THE END If you ask others for help , you need to be very transparent. THERE SHOULD BE NO SCOPE AT ALL ABOUT PEOPLE MIS JUDGING IT THERE SHOULD BE NO NEED FOR YOUR EXPLAINATION AT ALL. this is what i think
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Right now I’m only able to take PayPal as I don’t really know how to take other types of payment" You can't take checks or anything else? I actually work for a hospital. The billing office, actually. How bout you send the address of your daughters hospital.. her name.. and we can help pay the bill off."
Gosh I don't know how to answer this. If you contact me privately using the email link I will tell you how much we owe but it's all convoluted in consolidation loans. The reason I said PayPal is I don't know how to set up other payment processing and that's not my business paypal account. That's a personal one to a personal checking account. For an actual amount no, we don't need $1 million. But how do I know? If we could get free of our debt then we could probably handle the additional medical costs on our own. It's our current debt that really is killing us. Notice I say debt, not living expenses. Working a normal 40 hours a week I make enough to pay for our living expenses. Working an extra 40 hours a week I make enough to make the minimum payment on our debt. If you want the exact number of our debt you'll have to ask me privately I simply cannot put it out here in the open. If you want to buy a million pixels at $1 each great that's easy and clean but if you want a set line then I'll email you privately. My PayPal comment was mainly that I don't know how else to take payment online. You need SSL certificates and bank gateways and other stuff and I just don't know how to do that.
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
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Rex, i have been reading all the way with indifference, The reason for all this scrutiny is YOU never told "What is your target $ amount you seek" and What for "RIGHT NOW"? 1. You never gave any hospital details 2. You ask for payment to your companies paypal account, WHY YOU DID NOT CREATE A DONATION ACCOUNT IN A BANK ? I do want you to address this question at least, i have quoted it from DIGG "Right now I’m only able to take PayPal as I don’t really know how to take other types of payment" You can't take checks or anything else? I actually work for a hospital. The billing office, actually. How bout you send the address of your daughters hospital.. her name.. and we can help pay the bill off." The most important question, there is no definite amount you have put in your help blog? How much money can put you in the right track rex ? Do you want a million dollar like that million dollar page ? amount $ xyz can fix the current problem, can fix the issue thats it THE END If you ask others for help , you need to be very transparent. THERE SHOULD BE NO SCOPE AT ALL ABOUT PEOPLE MIS JUDGING IT THERE SHOULD BE NO NEED FOR YOUR EXPLAINATION AT ALL. this is what i think
i think you are plain stupid , give him a break
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
Rex, don't give up. What you have managed to do so far is to reach those who may help you, unfortunately along with many skeptics. You have started a profile, manage it to get maximum benefit for Katie. Unfortunately you can get $1 million for laughs by selling pixels, but to raise money for a good cause requires giving people confidence that the money is being spent as they expect - and I think you will have to invest a little effort to satisfy this need and silence the skeptics. I'd suggest that you see a lawyer and look at setting up some form of trust that can pay for Katie's medical bills and ongoing care, and then ask for donations to the trust rather than to yourself. The benefit of a trust is that it can be set up with legal restrictions on how the money is spent, so people can have confidence that their donation is helping Katie and not your lifestyle (I know there is not much left of that, but others are skeptical). You have one hell of a story, I'm sure that many people would want to help, just set it up to silence the skeptics and then don't shut up -- publicise! All the best
Peter "Until the invention of the computer, the machine gun was the device that enabled humans to make the most mistakes in the smallest amount of time."
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
I write this after much thought and with much hesitation since tempers have been running high. Your original posting suggested your situation was dire; that failure to raise money would result in immediate homelessness or even death. The revelations that your current financial situation is relatively stable--even if upcoming debt payments could change that--has clearly caused some of the concern and skepticism. To be blunt, it appeared that you were exploiting your daughter for financial gain. I suggest being more transparent about your financial situation. Perhaps you should post bills or even your tax returns (with appropriate private data blacked out.) Make it clear what your debt is and when those payments are due. Admit mistakes when they happen, but avoid appearing like your feeling sorry for yourself. (Appearances are important; don't discount them. Fair or not, appearance is often more important than truth--a lesson many politicians have learned all too well.) Having said all that, perhaps humor is a better approach. I've tried to come up with something, but have failed so far. PS. I agree with some of the above posters; think about opening a trust or a bank account that provides some outside auditing. If you want to go to an extreme, start a charity to help others in the same situation as yourself. Make it clear it will cover just hospital bills to avoid the appearance of enrichment. (Or raise money and I'll use my movie making skills to make [yet-another] movie of the week about you.:))
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i think you are plain stupid , give him a break
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Quartz. wrote:
i think you are plain stupid
Take it easy; there's nothing to be gained by name-calling. We've all encountered our share of sketchy pitches, and it's not always easy to know what's legit. It's on code-frog to answer or reject questions, and if he can be polite about it then so can the rest of us.
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Yes, but can you blame them for doing so if that's the only legal way they can hire programmers they want at the rate they can afford?
-- Nish on sketchy hiring practices
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DeepWaters wrote:
Right now I’m only able to take PayPal as I don’t really know how to take other types of payment" You can't take checks or anything else? I actually work for a hospital. The billing office, actually. How bout you send the address of your daughters hospital.. her name.. and we can help pay the bill off."
Gosh I don't know how to answer this. If you contact me privately using the email link I will tell you how much we owe but it's all convoluted in consolidation loans. The reason I said PayPal is I don't know how to set up other payment processing and that's not my business paypal account. That's a personal one to a personal checking account. For an actual amount no, we don't need $1 million. But how do I know? If we could get free of our debt then we could probably handle the additional medical costs on our own. It's our current debt that really is killing us. Notice I say debt, not living expenses. Working a normal 40 hours a week I make enough to pay for our living expenses. Working an extra 40 hours a week I make enough to make the minimum payment on our debt. If you want the exact number of our debt you'll have to ask me privately I simply cannot put it out here in the open. If you want to buy a million pixels at $1 each great that's easy and clean but if you want a set line then I'll email you privately. My PayPal comment was mainly that I don't know how else to take payment online. You need SSL certificates and bank gateways and other stuff and I just don't know how to do that.
Dude, you don't have to worry at all, I am amazed, how some guys questions almost everything and everone, you are such a popular guy here. And the most important thing is, See what happened after you asked openly for help, you know you have so many friends , Who wants to help you. I think EVERYONE YOU KNOW in CODE PROJECT wants to help you, you need to come up with a definite plan , Although i don't know the impression about deepwaters but, there is one thing i agree, come up with a definite plan, EVERY BODY WILL SUPPORT IT , like you already said a million dollar page , ITS A WIN WIN IDEA, Come Up with an Idea, like one idea could be create a website like Rentacoder.com or put google advertisements in your readytogiveup.com, You will get a million hit in a month i am sure. You have a software company ! Start something and ask every one to contribute there. Just think about a good idea, i can assure you , you just have to start it, you will such boost up from each and everybody from code project. You have a million technical educated friends here ready to help you. You know why wiki became so popular because its is small contribution from everybody. You have to give a chance to everybody to help, And every body will help.A monetary help will not last forever, but if you come up with something and with the help of we all it will get launched. I want you to ignore all the scrutini and think what you got, think what you have the support of a million cpian. I want you help, but a $ 100 won't get you far, i want you to help you to establish back your company. or to get you a good job in a good company or to get you started in an online business. Anything. "Just Do it"
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Quartz. wrote:
i think you are plain stupid
Take it easy; there's nothing to be gained by name-calling. We've all encountered our share of sketchy pitches, and it's not always easy to know what's legit. It's on code-frog to answer or reject questions, and if he can be polite about it then so can the rest of us.
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Yes, but can you blame them for doing so if that's the only legal way they can hire programmers they want at the rate they can afford?
-- Nish on sketchy hiring practices
Thanks shog, I should have sent a private message to him. about that. I just mean it as a friend, i hope he takes it in a right way
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I write this after much thought and with much hesitation since tempers have been running high. Your original posting suggested your situation was dire; that failure to raise money would result in immediate homelessness or even death. The revelations that your current financial situation is relatively stable--even if upcoming debt payments could change that--has clearly caused some of the concern and skepticism. To be blunt, it appeared that you were exploiting your daughter for financial gain. I suggest being more transparent about your financial situation. Perhaps you should post bills or even your tax returns (with appropriate private data blacked out.) Make it clear what your debt is and when those payments are due. Admit mistakes when they happen, but avoid appearing like your feeling sorry for yourself. (Appearances are important; don't discount them. Fair or not, appearance is often more important than truth--a lesson many politicians have learned all too well.) Having said all that, perhaps humor is a better approach. I've tried to come up with something, but have failed so far. PS. I agree with some of the above posters; think about opening a trust or a bank account that provides some outside auditing. If you want to go to an extreme, start a charity to help others in the same situation as yourself. Make it clear it will cover just hospital bills to avoid the appearance of enrichment. (Or raise money and I'll use my movie making skills to make [yet-another] movie of the week about you.:))
Anyone who thinks he has a better idea of what's good for people than people do is a swine. - P.J. O'Rourke
That's the problem with the internet you cannot read faces. I need to rethink this whole situation. I guess it just seemed so simple when I figured if a guy can sell 1 pixel for $1 then this should be similar. Maybe I should have just tried selling pixels for a dollar. Now I have people suggesting trusts and lawyers and these are all great ideas and they are right but maybe I should just go back to school and sell pixels. (I mean that as a joke but maybe you kind of see the sardonic twist too.) If I'm serious about this and honestly I'm way to far into it to turn back now I need to think of something but I just don't know what, where or how and gosh... where to begin...
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Quartz. wrote:
i think you are plain stupid
Take it easy; there's nothing to be gained by name-calling. We've all encountered our share of sketchy pitches, and it's not always easy to know what's legit. It's on code-frog to answer or reject questions, and if he can be polite about it then so can the rest of us.
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Yes, but can you blame them for doing so if that's the only legal way they can hire programmers they want at the rate they can afford?
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It's on code-frog to answer or reject questions, and if he can be polite about it then so can the rest of us.
code-frog is wondering where reverse is... Oy! There are times in life where I wouldn't mind sitting with you over a meal and saying, "Shog, I've done it again. Now what the hell do I do?" and while I know you may not have all the answers something leads me to believe that at least the food would be good.:) I just feel like I should have stayed quiet but that it's way too late now.
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
I think it's a shame that people made you have to disclose all this. I admire your courage and strength and dedication, both to have gotten through all this and done so much for you family, and to have been willing to risk what you've risked to appeal for help for them. You have nothing to be ashamed of, and nothing you should have to regret. You did the right thing, regardless of whether people had the right response to it. I hate it when someone appeals for help as a last resort, and people grill them and give them a hard time, when they already are struggling. As for the house, I would have thought that it should be obvious to people that it would only make sense for you to try to get a good house to live in. With all the stress you and your wife face, and Katie's needs, the last thing you need is to live in a shabby or dingy house without enough room to spare. And as for the equipment, I guess I was in a better position than most to understand it; I'm currently typing on a high-end Dell XPS gaming laptop that I would never have been able to afford, that I have because it is being lent to me by a client/former client - and it has been a huge help to me in terms of productivity, reduced stress levels, and all that. So anyway... don't let this get you down! :rose: For all the nay-sayers, you've got friends out here who care! Much as it may be hard to do, try to ignore the people who are being overly negative - they will always be around, but they have no right to pull you down at a time like this when you need support.
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DeepWaters wrote:
Right now I’m only able to take PayPal as I don’t really know how to take other types of payment" You can't take checks or anything else? I actually work for a hospital. The billing office, actually. How bout you send the address of your daughters hospital.. her name.. and we can help pay the bill off."
Gosh I don't know how to answer this. If you contact me privately using the email link I will tell you how much we owe but it's all convoluted in consolidation loans. The reason I said PayPal is I don't know how to set up other payment processing and that's not my business paypal account. That's a personal one to a personal checking account. For an actual amount no, we don't need $1 million. But how do I know? If we could get free of our debt then we could probably handle the additional medical costs on our own. It's our current debt that really is killing us. Notice I say debt, not living expenses. Working a normal 40 hours a week I make enough to pay for our living expenses. Working an extra 40 hours a week I make enough to make the minimum payment on our debt. If you want the exact number of our debt you'll have to ask me privately I simply cannot put it out here in the open. If you want to buy a million pixels at $1 each great that's easy and clean but if you want a set line then I'll email you privately. My PayPal comment was mainly that I don't know how else to take payment online. You need SSL certificates and bank gateways and other stuff and I just don't know how to do that.
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i think you are plain stupid , give him a break
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I can be blunt at times, but i always try to be honest about what i speak ! Its because of these questions, a lot of people are misjudging him. and what i am trying to do is make the picture more clear so that people can alse see it. I do want to give him a break ! am i doing something wrong :confused:
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I think it's a shame that people made you have to disclose all this. I admire your courage and strength and dedication, both to have gotten through all this and done so much for you family, and to have been willing to risk what you've risked to appeal for help for them. You have nothing to be ashamed of, and nothing you should have to regret. You did the right thing, regardless of whether people had the right response to it. I hate it when someone appeals for help as a last resort, and people grill them and give them a hard time, when they already are struggling. As for the house, I would have thought that it should be obvious to people that it would only make sense for you to try to get a good house to live in. With all the stress you and your wife face, and Katie's needs, the last thing you need is to live in a shabby or dingy house without enough room to spare. And as for the equipment, I guess I was in a better position than most to understand it; I'm currently typing on a high-end Dell XPS gaming laptop that I would never have been able to afford, that I have because it is being lent to me by a client/former client - and it has been a huge help to me in terms of productivity, reduced stress levels, and all that. So anyway... don't let this get you down! :rose: For all the nay-sayers, you've got friends out here who care! Much as it may be hard to do, try to ignore the people who are being overly negative - they will always be around, but they have no right to pull you down at a time like this when you need support.
You are right and I appreciate that but maybe I do need to think of a plan. My current approach might work fine who knows but maybe a plan would be good. What plan and how? I'm not even sure. Maybe someone here will have an attorney kind of get me pointed in some kind of decent direction. The thing is that I don't want to do bankruptcy. It's money that we owe people trying to make a living just like us. I want to pay it back because that's the right thing to do. Bankruptcy isn't a solution it really just creates more problems for everyone.
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I write this after much thought and with much hesitation since tempers have been running high. Your original posting suggested your situation was dire; that failure to raise money would result in immediate homelessness or even death. The revelations that your current financial situation is relatively stable--even if upcoming debt payments could change that--has clearly caused some of the concern and skepticism. To be blunt, it appeared that you were exploiting your daughter for financial gain. I suggest being more transparent about your financial situation. Perhaps you should post bills or even your tax returns (with appropriate private data blacked out.) Make it clear what your debt is and when those payments are due. Admit mistakes when they happen, but avoid appearing like your feeling sorry for yourself. (Appearances are important; don't discount them. Fair or not, appearance is often more important than truth--a lesson many politicians have learned all too well.) Having said all that, perhaps humor is a better approach. I've tried to come up with something, but have failed so far. PS. I agree with some of the above posters; think about opening a trust or a bank account that provides some outside auditing. If you want to go to an extreme, start a charity to help others in the same situation as yourself. Make it clear it will cover just hospital bills to avoid the appearance of enrichment. (Or raise money and I'll use my movie making skills to make [yet-another] movie of the week about you.:))
Anyone who thinks he has a better idea of what's good for people than people do is a swine. - P.J. O'Rourke
Joe Woodbury wrote:
I suggest being more transparent about your financial situation
Joe Woodbury wrote:
think about opening a trust or a bank account that provides some outside auditing.
won't say anything else
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Shog9 wrote:
It's on code-frog to answer or reject questions, and if he can be polite about it then so can the rest of us.
code-frog is wondering where reverse is... Oy! There are times in life where I wouldn't mind sitting with you over a meal and saying, "Shog, I've done it again. Now what the hell do I do?" and while I know you may not have all the answers something leads me to believe that at least the food would be good.:) I just feel like I should have stayed quiet but that it's way too late now.
code-frog wrote:
I just feel like I should have stayed quiet but that it's way too late now.
Careful what you ask for, eh? ;) Yeah, you've got yourself a firehose now, and it's anyone's guess if it'll refresh you or knock you to the ground. But, i suspect you're used to landing on your feet by now... So you'll have to do a bit of research, get the straight dope on legal issues, disclosure requirements, etc... And i'm sure you'll share what you learn along the way. :)
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Yes, but can you blame them for doing so if that's the only legal way they can hire programmers they want at the rate they can afford?
-- Nish on sketchy hiring practices
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Thanks shog, I should have sent a private message to him. about that. I just mean it as a friend, i hope he takes it in a right way
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Quartz. wrote:
i hope he takes it in a right way
I will, i am just trying to give Rex a chance to be more transparent and come out of gray to white area.
