The Rules of Marriage
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
leckey wrote:
If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior.
True. I have been with my wife for ten years now, married since last year, and she still impresses me, and I am very proud of all she does in her work or daily life. BTW, very interesting post, leckey.
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
leckey wrote:
7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem.
I've been married for 7 years, and I still love you leckey.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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leckey wrote:
7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem.
I've been married for 7 years, and I still love you leckey.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001Awwww........Thats so sweet. I've been Married for 13 years and my wife regularly buys me beer and even suggested that other day I get a new motorbike....she certainly knows how to keep me happy.
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
Great post, leckey. :)
leckey wrote:
7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after
If I might add to this point, after 25 years of marriage, I still look forward to giving my wife a kiss each and every morning as we wake up together. Without it, my day's a total wash. :rose:
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
leckey wrote:
But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate
last i read, the current divorce rate is around 2 out of 3 marriages fail. that is just ridiculous! last year my parents celebrated their 20th anniversary, and a few years back my grandparents celebrated their 50th. people these days are so stuck up. they all think that theyre special and the would should be handed to them on a plate. no one is willing to work for or on anything. "if it goes a little bad, cut your losses and run." people annoy me to no end...
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leckey wrote:
7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem.
I've been married for 7 years, and I still love you leckey.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
Awwww........Thats so sweet. I've been Married for 13 years and my wife regularly buys me beer and even suggested that other day I get a new motorbike....she certainly knows how to keep me happy.
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Frank, I hate to be the guy to tell you this ... but ... you're wife is buying you beer and trying to get you on a motorbike ... She's trying to kill you, Frank. ;P Just kidding, she really wants all new kitchen appliances
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
Interesting post:) I hope that my marriage that starts 1september will be also good.:-O
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Frank, I hate to be the guy to tell you this ... but ... you're wife is buying you beer and trying to get you on a motorbike ... She's trying to kill you, Frank. ;P Just kidding, she really wants all new kitchen appliances
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Interesting post:) I hope that my marriage that starts 1september will be also good.:-O
Pawel Gielmuda wrote:
I hope that my marriage that starts 1september will be also good.
Good luck in advance!
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
Thanks Leckey, I will follow all of your suggestions after my Marriage. Thanks for your Valuable Information. Worth 5.
SSK.
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I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
leckey wrote:
IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate.
Probably much lower, but probably also very significant. Abuse rates are climing at extra-ordinary rates, for both male and female. I would say I tried to keep the arm, it got infected and I still didn't cut it off. I got blood-poisoning, and I still tried to fix things rather than cut it off. It got Gangrene and I still faught the innevetable and waited until it threatened to kill me, even waited until it almost did. Divorce from a hospital bed is not recommended, I probably should have cut-n-run at the blood-poisoning level. Denial that the problem is as bad as it is can also cause severe problems. All in all, I love the list, and agree with it completely.
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Awww...group hug?;)
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No group hugs - I only love you.
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Awww...group hug?;)
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What is it with chicks and hugs? Why is it always a group *hug*? Why not a group kiss, or a group fondle, or even better, group sex? A hug is just so blase these days:) C'mon- think outside the box! :)
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What is it with chicks and hugs? Why is it always a group *hug*? Why not a group kiss, or a group fondle, or even better, group sex? A hug is just so blase these days:) C'mon- think outside the box! :)
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What is it with chicks and hugs? Why is it always a group *hug*? Why not a group kiss, or a group fondle, or even better, group sex? A hug is just so blase these days:) C'mon- think outside the box! :)
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Jim Crafton wrote:
think outside the box!
She is. :) Hugs generally don't occur in the box.
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
Frank, I hate to be the guy to tell you this ... but ... you're wife is buying you beer and trying to get you on a motorbike ... She's trying to kill you, Frank. ;P Just kidding, she really wants all new kitchen appliances
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Men! ;P
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Men! ;P
Is that the "licking-your-lips-in-anticipation" smilie?
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
I felt bad about Sebastian's gf breaking up with him for what seems to be no reason. My husband posts regularly on another board and they got into a discussion about love and marriage. He posted his 'rules' which I thought were really sweet and wanted to share. (yeah, every once in a while I can be sentimental...) Here are a few key rules about long-term relationships: 1. You find someone who, after figuring out all your imperfections, will tolerate you. 2. You find someone who you, after you figure out all their imperfections, decide you will tolerate. 3. As time progresses, you figure out that the imperfections are actually reasons you love them. 4. Patience. Lots of it. Even to the point of being beyond frustrated. If you don't have patience to give, you're dead in the water. 5. "Love at first sight" fades while genuine attraction grows over time if you've found an equal who you can respect. 6. People do dumb things from time to time. Your partner is no different. Deal with it. 7. If you don't genuinely feel the need to say "I love you" at least three times a day after being married for five years, that's a problem. 8. If you complain about your significant other more than you brag them up to your co-workers, you might want to re-think either your relationship or your own behavior. 9. If every bad thing is your partner's fault, then I'd suggest that you're part of the problem. 10. Each party in a relationship is going to be selfish from time to time. How the other party deals with that will determine the course of the relationship. Marriage is a constant state of tolerance. Folks who get married for the wrong reasons are never quite able to tolerate the imperfections of their partner. Now, there are some imperfections that end up being deal-breakers but the small stuff isn't worth sweating. Sometimes even the larger stuff isn't worth sweating if it's not a deal-breaker. Unfortunately, most folks have an overly-romantic idea of the "perfect" relationship and that's the concept they have in-brain when they decide to take their vows. IMHO, the key is to understand that once you've made that commitment, your partner is a blood relative. You can't jettison a blood relative any more than you could casually cut off your arm. Are there severe situations in which such an amputation would be necessary? Sure. But I'd suggest those are a much lower percentage than the current divorce rate. I'd suggest that great long-term relationships and great marriages actually do exist (I'm
These are the rules for girly-men (as Arnold Schwartzenegger would put it) and for metrosexuals.;P
