I don't know what to do...
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I can tell you from experience he (and she) is going to regret that decision. Tell him to wait 6 months. See if at the end of 6 months, it's still something he wants. If it is, there's a good chance it's genuine. If not, it never was. Oh, and in the meantime, she should come visit and they should spend some time together in social situations. Believe it or not, one of the best ones is to go to an amusement park together. I've found that amusements parks have an uncanny way of telling you who you're going to be very socially compatible with. Perhaps it has something to do with being forced to publicly interact with the same person for 12+ hours.
The early bird who catches the worm works for someone who comes in late and owns the worm farm. -- Travis McGee
I started to reply and decided not to, because it just doesn't sound plausible to me. 1 - the son is autistic 2 - he's 17, but a 14 year old girls mother is coming to get him, to move in with them 3 - he spends all day talking to this girl but his mother doesn't know ( yes, he's 17, but he's autistic ) The obvious course here is to inform the mother, in my opinion. The girl is 14, and the boy is autistic.
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I started to reply and decided not to, because it just doesn't sound plausible to me. 1 - the son is autistic 2 - he's 17, but a 14 year old girls mother is coming to get him, to move in with them 3 - he spends all day talking to this girl but his mother doesn't know ( yes, he's 17, but he's autistic ) The obvious course here is to inform the mother, in my opinion. The girl is 14, and the boy is autistic.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "I am working on a project that will convert a FORTRAN code to corresponding C++ code.I am not aware of FORTRAN syntax" ( spotted in the C++/CLI forum )
Christian Graus wrote:
I started to reply and decided not to, because it just doesn't sound plausible to me.
I almost didn't, for the same reason. Something about this post and posts like it set off my "crap-o-meter." But, I figured what the heck, on the off chance it's on the up and up, I'll post my point of view.
Christian Graus wrote:
The obvious course here is to inform the mother, in my opinion.
Also a good idea :)
The early bird who catches the worm works for someone who comes in late and owns the worm farm. -- Travis McGee
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I can tell you from experience he (and she) is going to regret that decision. Tell him to wait 6 months. See if at the end of 6 months, it's still something he wants. If it is, there's a good chance it's genuine. If not, it never was. Oh, and in the meantime, she should come visit and they should spend some time together in social situations. Believe it or not, one of the best ones is to go to an amusement park together. I've found that amusements parks have an uncanny way of telling you who you're going to be very socially compatible with. Perhaps it has something to do with being forced to publicly interact with the same person for 12+ hours.
The early bird who catches the worm works for someone who comes in late and owns the worm farm. -- Travis McGee
Patrick Sears wrote:
Tell him to wait 6 months. See if at the end of 6 months, it's still something he wants. If it is, there's a good chance it's genuine. If not, it never was.
True. I think a period of six months should be a good litmus test on whether this is a true love or just an infatuation.
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My 17 year old brother (who spends ALL of his time in his room on his computer) is thinking about moving to another state where is 14 year old internet girl friend and her mother lives. They say they are in love, they type to each other on the computer all day long. They have only talked on the phone 4 times. They have never meet either. Her mother is thinking about driving hundreds of miles to pick him up and take him into their home. His (our) mother is unaware of any of this. Keep in mind my brother is autistic and has little social skills. What can I do to help him, he has his mind made up and I think its an absolutely terrible idea. I know of a couple young people who have done this, but the relationship didn't start online and it turned into a huge nightmare of the parent of a daughter who's boyfriend is living with them. :omg::wtf::confused: I don't really know what to think of this.
Both of my sons are autistic (HFA/AS). With your brother being 17, he's probably been adjudicated disabled (for SSI benefits) and a parent or guardian can step in and prevent him from making the trip that is almost assuredly a very bad idea. If he has a case worker, you might also speak with that person to find out what can be done here to protect your brother.
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My 17 year old brother (who spends ALL of his time in his room on his computer) is thinking about moving to another state where is 14 year old internet girl friend and her mother lives. They say they are in love, they type to each other on the computer all day long. They have only talked on the phone 4 times. They have never meet either. Her mother is thinking about driving hundreds of miles to pick him up and take him into their home. His (our) mother is unaware of any of this. Keep in mind my brother is autistic and has little social skills. What can I do to help him, he has his mind made up and I think its an absolutely terrible idea. I know of a couple young people who have done this, but the relationship didn't start online and it turned into a huge nightmare of the parent of a daughter who's boyfriend is living with them. :omg::wtf::confused: I don't really know what to think of this.
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My 17 year old brother (who spends ALL of his time in his room on his computer) is thinking about moving to another state where is 14 year old internet girl friend and her mother lives. They say they are in love, they type to each other on the computer all day long. They have only talked on the phone 4 times. They have never meet either. Her mother is thinking about driving hundreds of miles to pick him up and take him into their home. His (our) mother is unaware of any of this. Keep in mind my brother is autistic and has little social skills. What can I do to help him, he has his mind made up and I think its an absolutely terrible idea. I know of a couple young people who have done this, but the relationship didn't start online and it turned into a huge nightmare of the parent of a daughter who's boyfriend is living with them. :omg::wtf::confused: I don't really know what to think of this.
CataclysmicQuantums wrote:
Her mother is thinking about driving hundreds of miles to pick him up and take him into their home.
To bring a boy to move in with her 14 year old! That is frightening. Tell your parents now before he gets in trouble for sexual misconduct with the girl.
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My 17 year old brother (who spends ALL of his time in his room on his computer) is thinking about moving to another state where is 14 year old internet girl friend and her mother lives. They say they are in love, they type to each other on the computer all day long. They have only talked on the phone 4 times. They have never meet either. Her mother is thinking about driving hundreds of miles to pick him up and take him into their home. His (our) mother is unaware of any of this. Keep in mind my brother is autistic and has little social skills. What can I do to help him, he has his mind made up and I think its an absolutely terrible idea. I know of a couple young people who have done this, but the relationship didn't start online and it turned into a huge nightmare of the parent of a daughter who's boyfriend is living with them. :omg::wtf::confused: I don't really know what to think of this.
Try this. :rolleyes:
"A good athlete is the result of a good and worthy opponent." - David Crow
"To have a respect for ourselves guides our morals; to have deference for others governs our manners." - Laurence Sterne
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My 17 year old brother (who spends ALL of his time in his room on his computer) is thinking about moving to another state where is 14 year old internet girl friend and her mother lives. They say they are in love, they type to each other on the computer all day long. They have only talked on the phone 4 times. They have never meet either. Her mother is thinking about driving hundreds of miles to pick him up and take him into their home. His (our) mother is unaware of any of this. Keep in mind my brother is autistic and has little social skills. What can I do to help him, he has his mind made up and I think its an absolutely terrible idea. I know of a couple young people who have done this, but the relationship didn't start online and it turned into a huge nightmare of the parent of a daughter who's boyfriend is living with them. :omg::wtf::confused: I don't really know what to think of this.
CataclysmicQuantums wrote:
Her mother is thinking about driving hundreds of miles to pick him up and take him into their home.
Will she be wearing diapers?
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Try this. :rolleyes:
"A good athlete is the result of a good and worthy opponent." - David Crow
"To have a respect for ourselves guides our morals; to have deference for others governs our manners." - Laurence Sterne
I'm not trolling at all. I know it seems unusual but its the strait facts.
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My 17 year old brother (who spends ALL of his time in his room on his computer) is thinking about moving to another state where is 14 year old internet girl friend and her mother lives. They say they are in love, they type to each other on the computer all day long. They have only talked on the phone 4 times. They have never meet either. Her mother is thinking about driving hundreds of miles to pick him up and take him into their home. His (our) mother is unaware of any of this. Keep in mind my brother is autistic and has little social skills. What can I do to help him, he has his mind made up and I think its an absolutely terrible idea. I know of a couple young people who have done this, but the relationship didn't start online and it turned into a huge nightmare of the parent of a daughter who's boyfriend is living with them. :omg::wtf::confused: I don't really know what to think of this.
The first thought I had was the news show Dateline NBC "To Catch A Predator"[^] with Chris Hansen.
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