Appreciated/Praised at work
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That's because you're too reliable, a constant performer? Can that be right? Once you set the benchmark, anything below that is unacceptable and un-worthy of praise. Does you're boss have any doggy biscuits? ;P
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Hey guys, I need some advice on the following, I've been working in this company for X amount of years right. At first i didnt do any wonders at work, so i understand the first few months of no praise at work. But after a while more people came and for example when the boss was talking online to others. Boss X praises them like saying "Great Job" or "good job" "You're great" or "keep it up". With me its always a formal conversation. Like "Ok good idea", "Ok", "Ok now you can go on that task." "When you finish this start that one". I do the same amount of work,and i consider my self a good developer, and productive when appreciated. Any suggestions on how to tackle this? because i do not have a clue
go to your boss and put on your best poker face, you know, the kind of face without any expression. You look directly in his eyes and wait for 1 to 2 seconds. Then, without any intonation you say: "Appreciate me" and walk away. :-D seriously though, walk up to him and tell him what you feel. Ask him why... there might not be a reason for him to act this way, or there might just be... good luck
V. No hurries, no worries
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go to your boss and put on your best poker face, you know, the kind of face without any expression. You look directly in his eyes and wait for 1 to 2 seconds. Then, without any intonation you say: "Appreciate me" and walk away. :-D seriously though, walk up to him and tell him what you feel. Ask him why... there might not be a reason for him to act this way, or there might just be... good luck
V. No hurries, no worries
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Maybe you should, instead of expecting praise, just expect your salary. The new guys may receive more praise because they still need some motivation, or require to be made to feel at home. Ask yourself if you really require all that attention?
_______________________________________________________________________ http://www.notreadytogiveup.com/Doubts.aspx[^] "you can't forget something you never knew..." M. Du Toit
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Maybe you should, instead of expecting praise, just expect your salary. The new guys may receive more praise because they still need some motivation, or require to be made to feel at home. Ask yourself if you really require all that attention?
_______________________________________________________________________ http://www.notreadytogiveup.com/Doubts.aspx[^] "you can't forget something you never knew..." M. Du Toit
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I do not require all that attention. Just a quick good job there and here would be nice as to know that someone appreciates my work. Newbie or not, praise is always an important factor in productivity.
I think that many managers are so wrapped up in their own self promotion that they either forget, or in cases I know of never knew how to, to offer a statement of praise. They get fast tracked through as if they are someone important and forget the civility and human touch that separates quality experienced managers from these fast-track johnnies who think they have made it. The effect of a well placed "thank you" or "well done" to the person who made that difference cannot be underestimated.
I still remember having to write your own code in FORTRAN rather than be a cut and paste merchant being pampered by colour coded Intellisense - ahh proper programming - those were the days :)
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Hey guys, I need some advice on the following, I've been working in this company for X amount of years right. At first i didnt do any wonders at work, so i understand the first few months of no praise at work. But after a while more people came and for example when the boss was talking online to others. Boss X praises them like saying "Great Job" or "good job" "You're great" or "keep it up". With me its always a formal conversation. Like "Ok good idea", "Ok", "Ok now you can go on that task." "When you finish this start that one". I do the same amount of work,and i consider my self a good developer, and productive when appreciated. Any suggestions on how to tackle this? because i do not have a clue
Stop whining and get back to work.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
Stop whining and get back to work.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
Hey guys, I need some advice on the following, I've been working in this company for X amount of years right. At first i didnt do any wonders at work, so i understand the first few months of no praise at work. But after a while more people came and for example when the boss was talking online to others. Boss X praises them like saying "Great Job" or "good job" "You're great" or "keep it up". With me its always a formal conversation. Like "Ok good idea", "Ok", "Ok now you can go on that task." "When you finish this start that one". I do the same amount of work,and i consider my self a good developer, and productive when appreciated. Any suggestions on how to tackle this? because i do not have a clue
Leave: he plainly can't stand you.
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Hey guys, I need some advice on the following, I've been working in this company for X amount of years right. At first i didnt do any wonders at work, so i understand the first few months of no praise at work. But after a while more people came and for example when the boss was talking online to others. Boss X praises them like saying "Great Job" or "good job" "You're great" or "keep it up". With me its always a formal conversation. Like "Ok good idea", "Ok", "Ok now you can go on that task." "When you finish this start that one". I do the same amount of work,and i consider my self a good developer, and productive when appreciated. Any suggestions on how to tackle this? because i do not have a clue
Do you go to work and expect to be treated like a pet? Perhaps a pat on the head or a tickle behind the ear is what you want. Just because your boss doesn't treat you like a lapdog doesn't mean that he doesn't respect you or appreciate what you do. Do you get payrises? If so, your boss appreciates you. Hollow platitudes are just that - hollow. The only thing that should matter to you is the quality of your work and the salary that you take home at the end of the month. Pride in your work and a competitive salary are far more important to your happiness than having your boss pat you on your back.
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You want me to take you seriously when your ID is "C0d3P03t"? Grow up...
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
You want me to take you seriously when your ID is "C0d3P03t"? Grow up...
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh im pissing my pants.The mighty John simmons the outlaw programmer told me to grow up. What a fuckin moron. You're telling me to grow up just because of a stupid nickname. What the fuck does that has to do with anything. Why dont you stick ur head up ur arse, last time i checked its a lounge u can write what ever u want without having assholes/morons like you and some of ur friends here pointing their fingers. For being an excellent website for reference, you guys are total fucking morons.
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ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh im pissing my pants.The mighty John simmons the outlaw programmer told me to grow up. What a fuckin moron. You're telling me to grow up just because of a stupid nickname. What the fuck does that has to do with anything. Why dont you stick ur head up ur arse, last time i checked its a lounge u can write what ever u want without having assholes/morons like you and some of ur friends here pointing their fingers. For being an excellent website for reference, you guys are total fucking morons.
let me see if I understand you're saying "I can do whatever I want but noone else is allowed to mock me at all". In the words of Bugs Bunny "What a Maroon".
-- If you view money as inherently evil, I view it as my duty to assist in making you more virtuous.
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Do you go to work and expect to be treated like a pet? Perhaps a pat on the head or a tickle behind the ear is what you want. Just because your boss doesn't treat you like a lapdog doesn't mean that he doesn't respect you or appreciate what you do. Do you get payrises? If so, your boss appreciates you. Hollow platitudes are just that - hollow. The only thing that should matter to you is the quality of your work and the salary that you take home at the end of the month. Pride in your work and a competitive salary are far more important to your happiness than having your boss pat you on your back.
Deja View - the feeling that you've seen this post before.
Pete O`Hanlon wrote:
Perhaps a pat on the head or a tickle behind the ear is what you want.
At least a good rub on the arse.
Michael Martin Australia "I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible." - Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004
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ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh im pissing my pants.The mighty John simmons the outlaw programmer told me to grow up. What a fuckin moron. You're telling me to grow up just because of a stupid nickname. What the fuck does that has to do with anything. Why dont you stick ur head up ur arse, last time i checked its a lounge u can write what ever u want without having assholes/morons like you and some of ur friends here pointing their fingers. For being an excellent website for reference, you guys are total fucking morons.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh im pissing my pants.
I have one word for you - Depends.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
The mighty John simmons the outlaw programmer told me to grow up.
Despite your growing list of short-comings, you seem to recognize my status here. Nobody has ever called me "mighty" before, but hey, I'll accept it.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
You're telling me to grow up just because of a stupid nickname.
There are other (now) more obvious reasons, but the nickname thing is tangible.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
Why dont you stick ur head up ur arse
I've been told before that it's already there. Try to come up with something more creative (and further removed from a primary school playground).
C0d3_P03t wrote:
last time i checked its a lounge u can write what ever u want
In that case, it's obvious that your reading comprehension skills are honed to something somewhat less than what I would call a knife-edge. Besides that, why is it not okay for me to tell you stop whining, but it's entirely alright for you to call me an asshole/moron? Frankly, I'm surprised your A.D.D. didn't kick in before you finished typing your drivel.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
without having assholes/morons like you and some of ur friends here pointing their fingers.
I don't have any friends, but people I know would laugh and point their fingers at you nonetheless.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
For being an excellent website for reference, you guys are total f****ing morons.
Look, you come in complaining that your boss doesn't praise you. Maybe it's because you're a prick, or maybe you suck at programming. It could even be that he just plain doesn't like you (an entirely believable possibility at this point). My advice is to STFU and get back to work. Nobody likes a self-important whiner.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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Pete O`Hanlon wrote:
Perhaps a pat on the head or a tickle behind the ear is what you want.
At least a good rub on the arse.
Michael Martin Australia "I controlled my laughter and simple said "No,I am very busy,so I can't write any code for you". The moment they heard this all the smiling face turned into a sad looking face and one of them farted. So I had to leave the place as soon as possible." - Mr.Prakash One Fine Saturday. 24/04/2004
Michael Martin wrote:
At least a good rub on the arse.
Well, that's a different matter and depends on how he wants to advance his career.:-D
Deja View - the feeling that you've seen this post before.
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C0d3_P03t wrote:
ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh im pissing my pants.
I have one word for you - Depends.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
The mighty John simmons the outlaw programmer told me to grow up.
Despite your growing list of short-comings, you seem to recognize my status here. Nobody has ever called me "mighty" before, but hey, I'll accept it.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
You're telling me to grow up just because of a stupid nickname.
There are other (now) more obvious reasons, but the nickname thing is tangible.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
Why dont you stick ur head up ur arse
I've been told before that it's already there. Try to come up with something more creative (and further removed from a primary school playground).
C0d3_P03t wrote:
last time i checked its a lounge u can write what ever u want
In that case, it's obvious that your reading comprehension skills are honed to something somewhat less than what I would call a knife-edge. Besides that, why is it not okay for me to tell you stop whining, but it's entirely alright for you to call me an asshole/moron? Frankly, I'm surprised your A.D.D. didn't kick in before you finished typing your drivel.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
without having assholes/morons like you and some of ur friends here pointing their fingers.
I don't have any friends, but people I know would laugh and point their fingers at you nonetheless.
C0d3_P03t wrote:
For being an excellent website for reference, you guys are total f****ing morons.
Look, you come in complaining that your boss doesn't praise you. Maybe it's because you're a prick, or maybe you suck at programming. It could even be that he just plain doesn't like you (an entirely believable possibility at this point). My advice is to STFU and get back to work. Nobody likes a self-important whiner.
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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".John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:
Nobody likes a self-important whiner
That's not true. In the UK he backstabbed his way to becoming Prime Minister.
Deja View - the feeling that you've seen this post before.
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John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:
Nobody likes a self-important whiner
That's not true. In the UK he backstabbed his way to becoming Prime Minister.
Deja View - the feeling that you've seen this post before.
I try not to comment of the political events of other countries (excent Iran, Mexico, Venezuela, and France).
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 -
I try not to comment of the political events of other countries (excent Iran, Mexico, Venezuela, and France).
"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass..." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997
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"...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:
I try not to comment of the political events of other countries (excent Iran, Mexico, Venezuela, and France).
:laugh: Very noble of you. I have no such compunctions about the UK. Our motto - "we were once great, but now we're pissant"
Deja View - the feeling that you've seen this post before.
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I think that many managers are so wrapped up in their own self promotion that they either forget, or in cases I know of never knew how to, to offer a statement of praise. They get fast tracked through as if they are someone important and forget the civility and human touch that separates quality experienced managers from these fast-track johnnies who think they have made it. The effect of a well placed "thank you" or "well done" to the person who made that difference cannot be underestimated.
I still remember having to write your own code in FORTRAN rather than be a cut and paste merchant being pampered by colour coded Intellisense - ahh proper programming - those were the days :)
Baconbutty wrote:
The effect of a well placed "thank you" or "well done" to the person who made that difference cannot be underestimated.
True, but the employee constantly yearning this acknowledgement and comparing himself with other employees in terms of this acknowledgement is digging himself deeper and deeper into a hole of insecurities! If you feel your being ignored, ignore it. Managers often tend to lack the required social skills and also tend to treat people differently, they're only human.