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    Paresh Solanki
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    Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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      Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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      Paresh Solanki wrote: Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? I'd like to think I would support her choice, but one never knows until truly faced with the situation. P.S. - My daughter is 15.5 years old, so I take this kind of question very seriously. :|

      Mike Mullikin - We hang the petty thieves and appoint the great ones to public office. Aesop (~550 BC)

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        Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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        :-) Ok lets get one thing straight. My 4 and 1/2 yr old daughter is more beautiful then yours. :-) My wife and I have discussed this and continue to have disagreements on it. I want to tell my kids now that such behavior is unacceptable and they will be kicked out of home straight onto the streets if this ever happens. Also I wish us to maintain a very strong pretense of this. But in reality, I'd probably want her to have the kid and accept it into our family possibly as our own. I want my kids to believe that hetro-sexual marriage is normal and divorce and homosexuality is not normal. However also that it is wrong to discriminate on those that are not what we term "normal". Regardz Colin J Davies

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          Paresh Solanki wrote: Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? I'd like to think I would support her choice, but one never knows until truly faced with the situation. P.S. - My daughter is 15.5 years old, so I take this kind of question very seriously. :|

          Mike Mullikin - We hang the petty thieves and appoint the great ones to public office. Aesop (~550 BC)

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          Mike Mullikin wrote: My daughter is 15.5 years old, so Funny though, My wife's mother was married and had had two legitimate children by that age. (one stillborn) But that was accepted in that society at that time. Regardz Colin J Davies

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            Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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            Nemanja Trifunovic
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            My daughter is 2 months old, and I am simply unable to think of her as a teenager. But when she becomes one, I don't think she'll ask me what to do with her life :rolleyes: I vote pro drink :beer:

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              Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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              Let her have the baby, but sell it and the daughter into slavery. "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.

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                Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                Nnamdi Onyeyiri
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                IMHO as a 15 year old, if you raise ur daughter in the right way, you need not worry about this.


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                  Let her have the baby, but sell it and the daughter into slavery. "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio.

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                  John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote: Let her have the baby, but sell it and the daughter into slavery. If this happened at my house, I imagine my daughter would prefer a life of slavery over living with her mother. :rolleyes:

                  Mike Mullikin - People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for the freedom of thought which they seldom use. Soren Kierkegaard

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                    My daughter is 2 months old, and I am simply unable to think of her as a teenager. But when she becomes one, I don't think she'll ask me what to do with her life :rolleyes: I vote pro drink :beer:

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                    Paresh Solanki
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                    She may not ask you what to do with her life, but what if she was still at school and came home with the news? what would your reaction be? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                      IMHO as a 15 year old, if you raise ur daughter in the right way, you need not worry about this.


                      :bob: Email: theeclypse@hotmail.com   URL: http://www.onyeyiri.co.uk:bob:

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                      Paresh Solanki
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                      That's easy for you to say. :) However in reality, no matter how well you have raised your daughter, the possibility is there. It may never happen, but what if it did? Kids today are (in the UK at least) are being taught the mechanics of making a baby and will want to experiment. I hope my daughter won't get involved in this, but I'm realistic enough to consider it as a possibility. Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                        That's easy for you to say. :) However in reality, no matter how well you have raised your daughter, the possibility is there. It may never happen, but what if it did? Kids today are (in the UK at least) are being taught the mechanics of making a baby and will want to experiment. I hope my daughter won't get involved in this, but I'm realistic enough to consider it as a possibility. Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                        Nnamdi Onyeyiri
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                        thats something I was wondering about, you are tought this in Y6 (last year of primary school) and you go over it again in the 1st year of secondary school, and again as part of the GCSE, you taught even more, mostly about the feamale annatomy, which is a bit strange for me, as being in an all boys school, i no more about women, than i do about myself.


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                          She may not ask you what to do with her life, but what if she was still at school and came home with the news? what would your reaction be? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                          Nemanja Trifunovic
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                          Paresh Solanki wrote: what would your reaction be? I hope I would be happy, but again, who knows? :confused: I vote pro drink :beer:

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                            Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                            I am not a parent... althoug maybe I will be someday. I do sometimes think about parenting issues even though that's a long way off at this point. If I had a teenage daughter who one day came home and said "I'm pregnant", I would not kick her out of the house. She would have the baby - I would not sign any parental consent forms necessary for an abortion (I think we have those here... but I'm not sure...) After that, I would let her decide if she wants to keep the baby and raise it herself, or if she wants to give it up for adoption. I'd make sure all the practical things get done... like making sure she gets screend for STD's, AIDS, etc., and find out who the father is. Then, she'd get a long, loud lecture about having sex unmarried and at that age!! I would stress that the problem was having sex, not getting pregnant (getting "caught".) Even the best forms of birth control are not 100% failsafe. Even if you win the rat race, you're still a rat.

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                              Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                              I think I would be quite upset, and I'd do everything possible to persuade her to terminate the pregnancy. However, I would definetely support her decision, with the hope that the experience would also make her a more mature and responsible person. Regards, Alvaro Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. - Albert Einstein

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                                thats something I was wondering about, you are tought this in Y6 (last year of primary school) and you go over it again in the 1st year of secondary school, and again as part of the GCSE, you taught even more, mostly about the feamale annatomy, which is a bit strange for me, as being in an all boys school, i no more about women, than i do about myself.


                                :bob: Email: theeclypse@hotmail.com   URL: http://www.onyeyiri.co.uk:bob:

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                                Nnamdi Onyeyiri wrote: i no more about women, than i do about myself. Then, the next time you take a whiz - look down! ;P Jeremy L. Falcon Homepage : Sonork = 100.16311
                                "But everybody darlin' sometimes bites the hand that feeds." "Remember in this game we call life that no one said it's fair." "Just because you're winnin' don't mean you're the lucky ones." Song: Breakdown - Album: Use Your Illusion II - Artist: Guns N' Roses

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                                  Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                                  I am the father of many children. Two I created. Two I addopted. Countless foster children of all ages over the past 16 years. I have struggled with this question. I have watched people struggle with this question. I have watched as 15 year olds gave up babies. Some have changed their minds and greatly dissapointed adoptive parents. I've seen parents change their minds at the last minute and agree to keep the baby. Some adopt, some don't. Many of these people thought that if they "raise their kid right" they would never have to worry about this. They were wrong. I hope that I have raised my kids right, but that doesn't rule out things like date rape, etc... So the short answer is, I don't know. If it ever happened, I'd keep an open mind up to the day of the childs birth. Brad Manske

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                                    Although if you're not parents, you can still post your opinions. Today, in the UK, it was anounced that contraceptives were to be given out free to schoolchildren in an effort to reduce teenage pregnancy. I'm the father of a beautiful (biased opinion) six year old girl, so I have a few years before I need to worry about this problem, but... If you had a young girl and despite all your little chats, lectures and everything else, your 'little' girl comes home one day and says 'I'm Pregnant' What would you do? Would you support her, whether she decided to have the baby, or a termination. Would you persuade her to have/terminate the baby in line with *your* wishes, kick her out of the house or what? Paresh Solanki "Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep." Scott Adams (Dilbert cartoonist)

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                                    I am a parent and have a 17 year old daughter. First I would support her no matter what. As for my personal opinion this gets into my religious views very quickly but must come secondary to my unconditional love and support for her. I believe that taking a life of an fetus is killing a person. I am not against the death penalty. Or there are cases where taking a life is best for society and you must evaluate is this action justified. I also own a shotgun and several combat knives and I let all of her boy friends know this. The gun is cleaned much more often than used, but they do not know that. Also the sound of a stone on the knife blade is very effective. To be conscious that you are ignorant of the facts is a great step towards Knowledge. Benjamin Disraeli

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                                      I think I would be quite upset, and I'd do everything possible to persuade her to terminate the pregnancy. However, I would definetely support her decision, with the hope that the experience would also make her a more mature and responsible person. Regards, Alvaro Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. - Albert Einstein

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                                      Alvaro Mendez wrote: I'd do everything possible to persuade her to terminate the pregnancy. Alvaro Mendez wrote: with the hope that the experience would also make her a more mature and responsible person. How would you expect your daughter to turn out responsible when she has her dad trying to convince her that she should terminate an unborn baby out of convenience? -Jack To an optimist the glass is half full. To a pessimist the glass is half empty. To a programmer the glass is twice as big as it needs to be.

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                                        :-) Ok lets get one thing straight. My 4 and 1/2 yr old daughter is more beautiful then yours. :-) My wife and I have discussed this and continue to have disagreements on it. I want to tell my kids now that such behavior is unacceptable and they will be kicked out of home straight onto the streets if this ever happens. Also I wish us to maintain a very strong pretense of this. But in reality, I'd probably want her to have the kid and accept it into our family possibly as our own. I want my kids to believe that hetro-sexual marriage is normal and divorce and homosexuality is not normal. However also that it is wrong to discriminate on those that are not what we term "normal". Regardz Colin J Davies

                                        Sonork ID 100.9197:Colin

                                        More about me :-)

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                                        From what I have heard from homosexual friends, and friends who know homosexuals, homosexuality is not a conscious choice. Rather, it is just the way they are. Someone wrote something once that went something like follows: "Why would I choose to be discriminated against, made fun of, and be regarded with disgust? Homosexuality was not a choice for me." Basically, my point is that you can tell them homosexuality is not normal, but if they are already homosexual, I don't think it will help them change.

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                                          From what I have heard from homosexual friends, and friends who know homosexuals, homosexuality is not a conscious choice. Rather, it is just the way they are. Someone wrote something once that went something like follows: "Why would I choose to be discriminated against, made fun of, and be regarded with disgust? Homosexuality was not a choice for me." Basically, my point is that you can tell them homosexuality is not normal, but if they are already homosexual, I don't think it will help them change.

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                                          Bao Nguyen wrote: Why would I choose to be discriminated against, made fun of, and be regarded with disgust? And yet, some people still choose to wear mullets... --------

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