Has anyone ever need to live extensively for a project away from their spouse
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.
Yup - I worked in Luxembourg for quite a while. The trick was to fly back home as often as possible and to devote as much free time as possible. Bear in mind that this was the year I got married and you can see how it could have put the teeniest weeniest bit of a strain, but my wife's fantastic. If your other half is as wonderful as mine, you can get by. Mind you - this was the year that I decided to fly solo, this project was the last straw as far as I was concerned.
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.
yea...it was a project called trial separation.
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.
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Yup - I worked in Luxembourg for quite a while. The trick was to fly back home as often as possible and to devote as much free time as possible. Bear in mind that this was the year I got married and you can see how it could have put the teeniest weeniest bit of a strain, but my wife's fantastic. If your other half is as wonderful as mine, you can get by. Mind you - this was the year that I decided to fly solo, this project was the last straw as far as I was concerned.
Deja View - the feeling that you've seen this post before.
Pete O'Hanlon wrote:
I decided to fly solo
That a euphemism?
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Yup - I worked in Luxembourg for quite a while. The trick was to fly back home as often as possible and to devote as much free time as possible. Bear in mind that this was the year I got married and you can see how it could have put the teeniest weeniest bit of a strain, but my wife's fantastic. If your other half is as wonderful as mine, you can get by. Mind you - this was the year that I decided to fly solo, this project was the last straw as far as I was concerned.
Deja View - the feeling that you've seen this post before.
I agree, if you have miles or make enough extra income fly out as often as possible. I did this for about 4 months and even though it doesn't sound like much time, it was kind of a big deal for me/us. If I can avoid it I wouldn't do it again, but I don't regret doing it that once. Try to stay connected with her day to day life and fill her in on yours.
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.
Yuck DC. Hope you are asking alot of money. Can be expensive place to live. When you say "DC" do you really mean Reston?
MrPlankton
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.
At least you'd be in the same country. :) My husband spent a year in South Korea a couple of years back. The key is to maintain the communication. E-mail was a godsend for us because of the time difference. He was able to get back to the US about once every 3 months for work and always tried to schedule the meetings so that we could have one of the weekend days to meet. We don't have children, so that was one issue we didn't have to deal with. You'll need to decide how the person left at "home" handles all the jobs that the other person used to do, or how the "leaving" person will handle those jobs remotely. Lots of talking, in one form or another, is the key to surviving a long seperation. Judy
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.
Distance relations are a pain dude..trust me.. It did not worked out for me and finally we broke up n yeh she was just my gf so it was allright but if you got a family then make sure you visit home as often as possible because only talk n talk over the phone or internet will make your life boring and soon you both will lose interest in each other. Rest depends how good is understanding between you both but in either case you got to spend some money in flying back as often as possible. All the best :)
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.
James Foreman wrote:
I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am.
That is a wise move. I negotiated a 25% increase in salary. After 9 months, the company plans (the reason I took the job) were scrapped. I still had the job, but not the "excitement". I still had a home (and wife) to come back to, which I did. The trick is constant communications - daily phone calls, and several times a day. Also, realize that you going home is NOT as exciting as a vacation for your wife and kids to come see you. Give them a break. Let the Mrs. check out the housing market. Take the kids to the beach. Tour DC. Go clothes shopping with your wife. See if it is a fit for your life-style. I brought the in-laws up for a week-end and went "exploring". They'd been in their home for 40 years, but were willing to move with us. Before this time, I had been away from my wife for - at most - a week at a time, after 20 years of marriage, so it was difficult. Don't pull up your roots until you are BOTH convinced the new location will work. Keys: constant communications, explore, trips for the family, a couple weeks with your spouse staying with you, keep your nose clean. And if you're like me, I had my wife put together matching outfits which I dutifully noted in my log so that after the first washing I could still look good on my own. :) Best of luck to you.
Gary
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James Foreman wrote:
I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am.
That is a wise move. I negotiated a 25% increase in salary. After 9 months, the company plans (the reason I took the job) were scrapped. I still had the job, but not the "excitement". I still had a home (and wife) to come back to, which I did. The trick is constant communications - daily phone calls, and several times a day. Also, realize that you going home is NOT as exciting as a vacation for your wife and kids to come see you. Give them a break. Let the Mrs. check out the housing market. Take the kids to the beach. Tour DC. Go clothes shopping with your wife. See if it is a fit for your life-style. I brought the in-laws up for a week-end and went "exploring". They'd been in their home for 40 years, but were willing to move with us. Before this time, I had been away from my wife for - at most - a week at a time, after 20 years of marriage, so it was difficult. Don't pull up your roots until you are BOTH convinced the new location will work. Keys: constant communications, explore, trips for the family, a couple weeks with your spouse staying with you, keep your nose clean. And if you're like me, I had my wife put together matching outfits which I dutifully noted in my log so that after the first washing I could still look good on my own. :) Best of luck to you.
Gary
ghle wrote:
put together matching outfits
Sounds like Garanimals. :laugh: On a more serious note, great advice contained herein. Not just good, great!
BDF A learned fool is more a fool than an ignorant fool. -- Moliere
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ghle wrote:
put together matching outfits
Sounds like Garanimals. :laugh: On a more serious note, great advice contained herein. Not just good, great!
BDF A learned fool is more a fool than an ignorant fool. -- Moliere
Big Daddy Farang wrote:
Sounds like Garanimals. :laugh:
Hey, I'm an adult here. [Garanimals not available] They were little slips of paper pinned to the clothes. Example: This shirt with navy jacket and beige pants, paisley tie with black swirls or blue tie with beige squares, black belt and shoes. After 3 months, I could figure out the shoes and belts without referring to the notes, proving you can teach on old dog new tricks (but we still can't see colors). ;)
Gary
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I might get hired for a project that is out of state back in the DC area. I wanted to stay up there for a bit before i uproot my family from where I am. Wanted to know if anyone had issues with this and if so how did they handle it. Cheers.