The stress finally got to me...
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You'll wake up the next day and feel strange, but after a couple of days you'll be much more relaxed. I've been there a few times and it always felt like the weight of the world was lifted (temporarily). Depending on your situation, try and get a plan together for what's next or else anxiety will creep in. I'm not sure which is worse! :-D
Bert delaVega wrote:
anxiety will creep in. I'm not sure which is worse!
Yay... something to look forward to :~ lol
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Thats the same way I felt when I did what you did. Its still hard to decide whether it was a mistake or not, but I am in a better situation now so it all worked out eventually.
Chief Master C# wrote:
but I am in a better situation now so it all worked out eventually.
I figure I cant be much worse off so it can only get better from here :)
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So I resigned... after 3 and a half years of employment here, and one year of taking crap, I have decided to leave. I handed in my resignation and started to pack my stuff. I am very nervous as I don't know what I am going to do, but I was at the point of leave or the stress would kill me, so I know it was the best thing I could have done.
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
hey ive never been in the position your in now, but im convinced you did the right thing... if your not happy where you are you shouldnt be there. Remember that life is a game and if you dont play it HARD other players will F**c you over. good luck
Harvey Saayman - South Africa Junior Developer .Net, C#, SQL
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hey ive never been in the position your in now, but im convinced you did the right thing... if your not happy where you are you shouldnt be there. Remember that life is a game and if you dont play it HARD other players will F**c you over. good luck
Harvey Saayman - South Africa Junior Developer .Net, C#, SQL
you.suck = (you.passion != Programming)HarveySaayman wrote:
if your not happy where you are you shouldnt be there
Yeah, I kept holding onto the hope it would get better, but after more then a year of it being crap, I figured it wasnt getting any better.
HarveySaayman wrote:
good luck
Thanks :)
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
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So I resigned... after 3 and a half years of employment here, and one year of taking crap, I have decided to leave. I handed in my resignation and started to pack my stuff. I am very nervous as I don't know what I am going to do, but I was at the point of leave or the stress would kill me, so I know it was the best thing I could have done.
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
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So I resigned... after 3 and a half years of employment here, and one year of taking crap, I have decided to leave. I handed in my resignation and started to pack my stuff. I am very nervous as I don't know what I am going to do, but I was at the point of leave or the stress would kill me, so I know it was the best thing I could have done.
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
Wish you a bright future with flying colors :)
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Good on ya. I get the impression you're only young. Plenty more opportunites for a smart guy out there. You gunna move to the big smoke or what?
Josh Gray wrote:
I get the impression you're only young.
I just turned 20 this month.
Josh Gray wrote:
You gunna move to the big smoke or what?
I was actually thinking of moving down south to that small island where everyone has 2 heads :p Most likely Devonport There are some awesome places down there and they are a lot more laid back then up here (NSW) I've got friends and family down there.. free accommodation for a few weeks while I find a place and job
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Wish you a bright future with flying colors :)
hogan.john wrote:
Wish you a bright future
Thanks :)
hogan.john wrote:
with flying colors
hmmm.. can we skip this part?? people may think I'm on drugs if I start seeing flying colours
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hogan.john wrote:
Wish you a bright future
Thanks :)
hogan.john wrote:
with flying colors
hmmm.. can we skip this part?? people may think I'm on drugs if I start seeing flying colours
you are still enough smart to be funny in your worst situation. :) So you can overcome the situation with out drugs
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Josh Gray wrote:
I get the impression you're only young.
I just turned 20 this month.
Josh Gray wrote:
You gunna move to the big smoke or what?
I was actually thinking of moving down south to that small island where everyone has 2 heads :p Most likely Devonport There are some awesome places down there and they are a lot more laid back then up here (NSW) I've got friends and family down there.. free accommodation for a few weeks while I find a place and job
Thunderbox666 wrote:
I just turned 20 this month.
So you did HSC and hit the work force? Thats what I did and given my time over I'd have worked for another qualification. Have you looked into doing a uni degree part time or by correspondance? Even something generic like an MBA will give you a good grounding in many things
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So I resigned... after 3 and a half years of employment here, and one year of taking crap, I have decided to leave. I handed in my resignation and started to pack my stuff. I am very nervous as I don't know what I am going to do, but I was at the point of leave or the stress would kill me, so I know it was the best thing I could have done.
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
Good on you. It's good to keep life in perspective. There is absolutely no point in wasting your precious time in a place you hate. Do things that make you happy, and stay laid back. You do this, and you'll likely be successful.
Mark Brock Click here to view my blog
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Thunderbox666 wrote:
I just turned 20 this month.
So you did HSC and hit the work force? Thats what I did and given my time over I'd have worked for another qualification. Have you looked into doing a uni degree part time or by correspondance? Even something generic like an MBA will give you a good grounding in many things
Josh Gray wrote:
So you did HSC and hit the work force?
Na left in yr 11, worked for a year putting up garage doors, then did a traineeship in IT Cert III (general) I did a MCP course, but never had time for the exam.
Josh Gray wrote:
Have you looked into doing a uni degree part time or by correspondance?
Yeah I have considered it, but never went any further. I may take it up now, but I will see what happens.
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So I resigned... after 3 and a half years of employment here, and one year of taking crap, I have decided to leave. I handed in my resignation and started to pack my stuff. I am very nervous as I don't know what I am going to do, but I was at the point of leave or the stress would kill me, so I know it was the best thing I could have done.
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
Good choice! I wish you the best.
Sovereign ingredient for a happy marriage: Pay cash or do without. Interest charges not only eat up a household budget; awareness of debt eats up domestic felicity. --Lazarus Long
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Good choice! I wish you the best.
Sovereign ingredient for a happy marriage: Pay cash or do without. Interest charges not only eat up a household budget; awareness of debt eats up domestic felicity. --Lazarus Long
Chris Austin wrote:
I wish you the best
Thanks :)
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Good on you. It's good to keep life in perspective. There is absolutely no point in wasting your precious time in a place you hate. Do things that make you happy, and stay laid back. You do this, and you'll likely be successful.
Mark Brock Click here to view my blog
MarkBrock wrote:
You do this, and you'll likely be successful
Or at very least, will be happy
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Thunderbox666 wrote:
I have decided to leave. I handed in my resignation and started to pack my stuff.
I did that once, I was unemployed for 6 months, got in debt for the first time, started stealing food, and went overboard with DXM. Good luck.
So did I, but my house mate earned enough as a barman to feed us. There was no money for DXM, but we had enough whisky. :) The debt situation was bad though; I had two credit cards over their limits, in arrears, and my home loan. None of them were paid for at six months. I just finished sorting the last credit card last month, with a final payment of about ZAR 10,300. It's still a week from payday, and I'm broke, but at least I'm free. Next month it's all mine.
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MarkBrock wrote:
You do this, and you'll likely be successful
Or at very least, will be happy
That is being successful.
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So I resigned... after 3 and a half years of employment here, and one year of taking crap, I have decided to leave. I handed in my resignation and started to pack my stuff. I am very nervous as I don't know what I am going to do, but I was at the point of leave or the stress would kill me, so I know it was the best thing I could have done.
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
Having been there several times here's my recommendations: Respect your finances, especially your cashflow. You might be thinking "I don't have any cashflow now", but the fact is blowing what cash you have by paying off all your credit cards, loans, buying stuff - is a really silly thing to do, unless you have a hell of a lot of cash. Leave yourself as much breathing space financially as you can, if there's anything you're paying for month in month out that you don't really need, get it cut off as quickly as possible, stop the bleeding. You're already employed - your job now is to find your next job. Every single day, get up on time, ring and email people (in that order) and do it all in the mornings. In the afternoons you can relax and enjoy the fact that you're not working. Learn how to sell yourself, written, on the phone and in person. Avoid self-destructive behaviour and 'friends' at all costs, because they will cost you plenty if you don't. Think outside of your comfort zone when it comes to your next job. You've lived a few years of stress, why not try something boring. Oh yes ... you've done the right thing.
I am convinced that lobotomising users will make little to no difference.
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Having been there several times here's my recommendations: Respect your finances, especially your cashflow. You might be thinking "I don't have any cashflow now", but the fact is blowing what cash you have by paying off all your credit cards, loans, buying stuff - is a really silly thing to do, unless you have a hell of a lot of cash. Leave yourself as much breathing space financially as you can, if there's anything you're paying for month in month out that you don't really need, get it cut off as quickly as possible, stop the bleeding. You're already employed - your job now is to find your next job. Every single day, get up on time, ring and email people (in that order) and do it all in the mornings. In the afternoons you can relax and enjoy the fact that you're not working. Learn how to sell yourself, written, on the phone and in person. Avoid self-destructive behaviour and 'friends' at all costs, because they will cost you plenty if you don't. Think outside of your comfort zone when it comes to your next job. You've lived a few years of stress, why not try something boring. Oh yes ... you've done the right thing.
I am convinced that lobotomising users will make little to no difference.
Some really great advice there. Thanks heaps :)
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
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I hope so, because right now I am thinking I may have made a mistake (even though I know it was the right thing to do:()
Thunderbox666 wrote:
I hope so, because right now I am thinking I may have made a mistake (even though I know it was the right thing to do [Frown] )
You'll get over that feeling, you just probably feel as you have given up... I had a similar situation at the beginning of my career where the stress was killing me. Started only getting 4 hours of sleep on weekdays and staff members began nitpicking. Well I gave my 2 weeks noticed, and now I feel I am in a way better situation than before. A proper team, better work ethics and work/life balance and I honestly can be proud of what I do... So chin up, don't look back and keep moving forward. The worse thing you could do is just give up and do nothing about your stressful situation! :-D (Oh and if your wondering, I heard from a colleague at the company I left that 6 months later, more than half the staff was replaced or left... Guess I wasn't the only one feeling stressed out! :laugh: )