Children of the State

[Christian Graus]

Yeah, I'm open to that possibility, I'm not accusing him as much as hoping that whatever the reason, he'll take the invitation to revisit the thread when he has time, and explain why he skewed the story the way he did.

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[kmg365]

If the family wasn't broken, then there would be no court case and the state would not have to get involved. You allways roll the dice when you get the state involved. This problem is clearly the fault of the parents since they can't work out thier own affairs.

[Oakman]

Christian Graus wrote:

1 - " They have tested two years above their grade levels, she said." is this independantly verified ?

That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools. We looked into it pretty seriously, but my ex decided she wanted to keep working.

Christian Graus wrote:

the main reason for home schooling in the US appears to be to hide children from science.

Sorry, but you are dead wrong. The primary reason is to insure that the kids get a great education. There are plenty of Christian schools around that will skip Evolution in teaching biology.

Christian Graus wrote:

At the core, it's probably about two people trying to hurt each other,

I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface

[Oakman]

kmg365 wrote:

This problem is clearly the fault of the parents since they can't work out thier own affairs.

it only takes one to make divorce a living hell for other parent and all the kids.

Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface

[Oakman]

Bob Emmett wrote:

Does the USA specify a curriculum at State or Federal level

I'm most familiar with Mass. They require specific subjects and written lesson plans of home schooling parent, who kids still must pass the same standardized test as everyone else. Mas also has an alternate school programs, capped at something like 100 schools where the equivalent of a private school is set up and then funded by the state - same rules about courses and lesson plans and tests. They capped the school program when it became obvious that most parents wanted their kids to go to one. Teachers Union is very upset because money is allotted to alternate schools and regular schools based on how many students they have. So funding going to them cuts down on the number of teachers in the public system

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[Gary Kirkham]

Oakman wrote:

That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools

That's my observation as well, but I don't think that the curriculum is the key. With children, you will not get more than you expect from them. If a parent home schools a child, then they are taking an active interest in what the child is learning and where the bar is set...and the bar is usually set pretty high. In a public school, a parent can also take an active interest and have high expectations, but their child's development is slowed by a system that caters to the lowest common denominator (diminshed expectations). Unfortunately most parents are passive when it comes to their child’s education.

Oakman wrote:

There are plenty of Christian schools around that will skip Evolution in teaching biology.

Is that what you meant to write?

Oakman wrote:

I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

I have two friends who have ex-wives that have used their children as a hammer. I have been with them through their pain and have seen how the courts have stacked the deck against them. Their only crime: wanting to see their children. It's sad. Unfortunately, dead beat dads seem to get the most press.

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[Christian Graus]

Oakman wrote:

That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools

Seems possible. I mean, having a private tutor who is not family would do the same thing, surely.

Oakman wrote:

The primary reason is to insure that the kids get a great education

OK, so see my other comments re: this. You're saying the US school system is fundamentally broken and people forced to rely on it, are doomed to ignorance ? Also, I am repeating what I've been told by Americans here, not saying I am right, but I'm not basing my views on some outsider viewing of a few news stories.

Oakman wrote:

I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

Yes, in this case, I have no doubt. And that's what interests me about this most, is that Mike implies that this is a case of the state interfering with what the parents want, and that is plainly not the case.

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[Christian Graus]

Gary Kirkham wrote:

Is that what you meant to write?

I expect so. They don't teach evolution, they skip it.

Gary Kirkham wrote:

I have been with them through their pain and have seen how the courts have stacked the deck against them.

Yeah, the system sucks that way. I know a guy in the US who has sole custody of his kids and I can only assume is ex is at least as screwed up as he claims, for him to pull that off.

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[Oakman]

Christian Graus wrote:

You're saying the US school system is fundamentally broken and people forced to rely on it, are doomed to ignorance ?

No, I am saying that the system is breaking down, because, in part due to a lack of funding, and, in part, because of a takeover of the public schools by a union more interested in its members than their mission, and, in part, by an influx of kids from social backgrounds that do not respect the educational process or the educated, and in part by a teaching philosophy that cares more about not hurting the kids feelings than in insuring that they receive an education. There are lots of ways around the problem and some folks choose home-schooling. It's terribly elitist, as any left-thinking bureacrat will tell you, as are alternate schools, private schools, etc. So? As to people being doomed, how is it any different than the people in your area who cannot afford to pull their kids out of the school you say prepares them for welare? People make their own doom.

Christian Graus wrote:

Mike implies that this is a case of the state interfering with what the parents want

It is making a choice. The parents, or one of them, may have forced it to that point, but still it is choosing, and by choosing a moribund educational system, it sets a bad precedent. Judges need to learn that there are things that can't be litgated.

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[Christian Graus]

Oakman wrote:

As to people being doomed, how is it any different than the people in your area who cannot afford to pull their kids out of the school you say prepares them for welare? People make their own doom.

Well, the issue is that those kids are already doomed, because the contempt they hold the school system in, and the attitude of a life on welfare, is already ingrained in them at home. You seem to be saying that largely the same thing is happening in the USA.

Oakman wrote:

Judges need to learn that there are things that can't be litgated.

The judge is being forced to litigate, forced to choose one or the other. That he chose what he did may represent all sorts of things, but he didn't choose to litigate this issue.

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[Oakman]

Christian Graus wrote:

The judge is being forced to litigate, forced to choose one or the other. That he chose what he did may represent all sorts of things, but he didn't choose to litigate this issue.

He needs to learn to say, "no."

Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface

[Oakman]

Gary Kirkham wrote:

Is that what you meant to write?

I should have said fundamentalist and not picked on one religion. But in this country, most of the evolution-deniers are Christian, or at least claim to be. In Arabia, not so much. If you thought I was implying that all Christian schools or all Christians were cut from the same cloth, I apologize for leaving my words open to that interpretation

Gary Kirkham wrote:

Unfortunately, dead beat dads seem to get the most press.

well, I won't lose much sleep over them. But I agree that women who will use any thing as a weapon, including their children and the most outrageous lies that could be told are deserving of as much opprobrium

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[Shog9 0]

Christian Graus wrote:

2 - some of these parents are, with whatever intention, bringing harm to their kids by failing to teach them the basic skills they will need to nagivate life ?

CG, you sound like you've put a fair bit of thought and effort into giving your kids the education they need. I suspect you would find it quite irritating, if your rulers decided they would no longer give you any say in this. Surely, the cost of the freedom to do well by your own is the freedom of your peers to do poorly on theirs?

Christian Graus wrote:

In any case, if your schools and teachers are so bad, perhaps the problem is that people are not complaining about it ?

Complaining doesn't fix anything. Squeaky wheels get greased, but that doesn't do much when a bearing is failing. And when it comes to doing something... Well, you can stay in the system and try to fix it while accepting that even if you succeed it might be too late to help your own kids, or you can leave. Many parents appear to be quite selfish when this choice comes up... ;-P

[Shog9 0]

Christian Graus wrote:

2 - the main reason for home schooling in the US appears to be to hide children from science.

I've heard that an awful lot, though not as much as the "emotionally stunted for life" bit. Not to sound whiny, but... it's getting stale. I could probably think up some fresh ones if you're interested...?

[Ilion]

Christian Graus wrote:

50 years ago, less child abuse was reported because of the same attitude, ...

What a socialist-totalitarian ass.

[Christian Graus]

Shog9 wrote:

CG, you sound like you've put a fair bit of thought and effort into giving your kids the education they need

Yes, we have.

Shog9 wrote:

I suspect you would find it quite irritating, if your rulers decided they would no longer give you any say in this.

Sure. And I'm not advocating that parents have no say. Indeed, at the core, I am pointing out that Mike's implication is false, the issue here is not that parents get no say, but that the parents disagree and are asking the state to step in.

Shog9 wrote:

Surely, the cost of the freedom to do well by your own is the freedom of your peers to do poorly on theirs?

Well, my right to decide how my kids eat, doesn't give someone else the right to starve their kids to death because they think that people can live on air ( there are people who believe this, BTW ). There comes a time when a child is being harmed, and that's where the state needs to be involved, to protect children. If someone wants to home school their kids to not believe in science, so long as they are teaching them enough to function in society, I don't have a huge problem with it, but, the freedom has to include some standards. School is the law, and if that's the case, the state should also be allowed to define school. That's all I am saying.

Shog9 wrote:

Complaining doesn't fix anything.

Not complaining fixes even less. There's lots of parents in America, you're saying this doesn't have the power to become an issue that politicians will do something about, to get elected ?

Shog9 wrote:

Many parents appear to be quite selfish when this choice comes up...

Sure, I accept that at the end of the day, each parent cares most for their own kids. But, surely it's possible to attack the problem from both ends. I assume the bulk of kids are still in public schools, why are those parents not complaining ? Do they just not care ?

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[Christian Graus]

Where does that leave the kids ? The father wants them in school, the mother does not. How do they resolve that, if they take it to a judge and he refuses to decide ? He might have forced them into some sort of arbitration, to make them discuss it, that would be acceptable.

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[Christian Graus]

Ilíon wrote:

What a socialist-totalitarian ass.

You think my ass is socialist ? Is that good or bad ? Or did I misunderstand you ? Are you really saying that you think child abuse is a good thing, and up to the parents to decide ?

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[Chris Austin]

Come on man. That's weak sauce. CG is being a man enough to have an opinion that doesn't seem popular in this discussion but he is standing up, making his case and, listening. At least show some respect for yourself and keep the discussion above the 3rd grade.

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[Chris Austin]

Christian Graus wrote:

Not complaining fixes even less. There's lots of parents in America, you're saying this doesn't have the power to become an issue that politicians will do something about, to get elected ?

It is 'always' an issue. The problem is that big systems like this have a hell of a lot of inertia so to speak. The last decade or so, the solution has been to throw money at it and emphasize standardized testing. I have no doubt the school system will eventually get guided back onto course but it's going to take time.

Christian Graus wrote:

I assume the bulk of kids are still in public schools, why are those parents not complaining ? Do they just not care ?

I am sure they all care. And, I remember many parents complained even when I was in school. Heck, recently in Dallas a group of parents were protesting at a school supernatant's home :) But, positive news like that rarely makes it past the local stuff.

Sovereign ingredient for a happy marriage: Pay cash or do without. Interest charges not only eat up a household budget; awareness of debt eats up domestic felicity. --Lazarus Long Avoid the crowd. Do your own thinking independently. Be the chess player, not the chess piece. --?