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Wait... You're not the least disturbed by the fact that this "gf" turned out to be a "he" and that the Canadian guy apparently is OK with that? WTF?
JazzJackRabbit wrote:
You're not the least disturbed by the fact that this "gf" turned out to be a "he" and that the Canadian guy apparently is OK with that? WTF?
I'm betting the Canadian guy is still "in the closet" and didn't expect a civil servant to actually check the details.
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
Henry Minute wrote:
After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get?
No, that is it, then nadir of you life, it is only up from there! You are welcome anytime Henry.
------------------------------------ "When Belly Full, Chin Hit Chest" Confucius 502BC
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
Not quite the same thing, but I've attended the annual get together/party for an IRC channel I've been in since 99 each of the 4 years we've had one. It's been held about 600miles from me; we've talked about having it on the west coast next year (to make travel cheap for different people); which'd make it a few thousand miles from me.
The European Way of War: Blow your own continent up. The American Way of War: Go over and help them.
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Wait... You're not the least disturbed by the fact that this "gf" turned out to be a "he" and that the Canadian guy apparently is OK with that? WTF?
JazzJackRabbit wrote:
Wait... You're not the least disturbed by the fact that this "gf" turned out to be a "he" and that the Canadian guy apparently is OK with that? WTF?
No probs. Each to his/her own. One mans' meat etc. Live and let live. And any other platitudes you care to use for 'None of my f***ing business'.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
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Henry Minute wrote:
After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get?
No, that is it, then nadir of you life, it is only up from there! You are welcome anytime Henry.
------------------------------------ "When Belly Full, Chin Hit Chest" Confucius 502BC
I don't know Luton itself very well at all, but I think the Dunstable Downs is one of the nicest places in the South-East. I've spent many happy hours there Kite-flying with nephews/nieces and one particular gf. Just above the Gliding Club was my fave place.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
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I don't know Luton itself very well at all, but I think the Dunstable Downs is one of the nicest places in the South-East. I've spent many happy hours there Kite-flying with nephews/nieces and one particular gf. Just above the Gliding Club was my fave place.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
And you can see for miles up there.
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Not quite the same thing, but I've attended the annual get together/party for an IRC channel I've been in since 99 each of the 4 years we've had one. It's been held about 600miles from me; we've talked about having it on the west coast next year (to make travel cheap for different people); which'd make it a few thousand miles from me.
The European Way of War: Blow your own continent up. The American Way of War: Go over and help them.
Yeah, I think I'd do that. But to meet/stay with just one person? not for me.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
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Wait... You're not the least disturbed by the fact that this "gf" turned out to be a "he" and that the Canadian guy apparently is OK with that? WTF?
I was already disturbed at the need to fly 5000+ miles to find a suitable partner. When I did the online dating thing 100 miles driving was my limit actually that was a big exception that I probably should not discuss since my relationship with her fell through years ago and I am engaged to someone else.
John
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
I've been a member of the Dick Gaughan (Scottish folk musician) web forum for like 3 years now. Last May the local folks (Edinburgh) were planning a party for Dick's 60th B-day. A whole host of people from all over (mostly UK) came together in Edinburgh for the party myself included (New Hampshire USA). It was great getting to meet face to face people that I have been friends with for years. Granted the DG forum rules are such that there is no anonymity and no flaming. So the people that stick around are pretty upfront and honest. I traveled 3000 miles to meet 20+ people I have only know online and it was fantastic!!:thumbsup: Would I cross the street to meet some of the jokers on this site? Maybe! Maybe not! :laugh:
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
I met a person in 1998 when I first got on Yahoo messenger. We talked for several months via IM, when one evening she called me. It was strange at first, but interesting and we continued this pure friendship for several years. In 2002, I decided that it was time to travel to the US to meet this person I had never physically met. Cut to 2009, I had spent several years travelling back and forth across the pond. I'm now married to her, with a child, our own home and both in good jobs, living in the US. It's risky, and a very scary prospect to a lot of people. You hear more of the horror stories than you do the happy endings, but some of the relationships work out.
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
This is exactly how I met my wife of 10 years. We met on the internet, and talked for several months. Back then, there were no digital cameras or webcams, so we didn't have much of an idea what each other looked like. She came over from US to England to visit after we had been talking for about 6 months, and only seeing a handful of crappy photos of each other. To cut a (very!) long story short, I ended up in America, we got married and I never went back to England (except for a couple of vacations to visit family). I remember the first time I saw her, when she came through customs in Heathrow airport. Right then, I knew it was all worth it. Everything was just "right" - there wasn't a single moment of awkward silence or "WTF am I doing". It just seemed that everything in our lives just suddenly fell into place. To look at the two of us back then, you would never have put us together, and if we had passed each other in the street we would not have given each other a second look. But after talking online for so long, it really didn't matter. Of course, it didn't hurt that she's a smoking hot blonde. :-D
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I met a person in 1998 when I first got on Yahoo messenger. We talked for several months via IM, when one evening she called me. It was strange at first, but interesting and we continued this pure friendship for several years. In 2002, I decided that it was time to travel to the US to meet this person I had never physically met. Cut to 2009, I had spent several years travelling back and forth across the pond. I'm now married to her, with a child, our own home and both in good jobs, living in the US. It's risky, and a very scary prospect to a lot of people. You hear more of the horror stories than you do the happy endings, but some of the relationships work out.
That is a terrific story. Congratulations to you both and good wishes to you and the little one. :)
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
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This is exactly how I met my wife of 10 years. We met on the internet, and talked for several months. Back then, there were no digital cameras or webcams, so we didn't have much of an idea what each other looked like. She came over from US to England to visit after we had been talking for about 6 months, and only seeing a handful of crappy photos of each other. To cut a (very!) long story short, I ended up in America, we got married and I never went back to England (except for a couple of vacations to visit family). I remember the first time I saw her, when she came through customs in Heathrow airport. Right then, I knew it was all worth it. Everything was just "right" - there wasn't a single moment of awkward silence or "WTF am I doing". It just seemed that everything in our lives just suddenly fell into place. To look at the two of us back then, you would never have put us together, and if we had passed each other in the street we would not have given each other a second look. But after talking online for so long, it really didn't matter. Of course, it didn't hurt that she's a smoking hot blonde. :-D
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That's two really good results. The difference between your situation and the one I reported is that you 'knew' each other for quite some time before meeting. I notice that in your case it was she that took the risk. :-D Anyway, well done to you both and may you have many more years together.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
Strange how people are so fearful of flesh and blood contact, and yet are more than happy to reveal the most intimate of detais over the interweb. Anyway, blathering aside, to answer your question: probably not. More out of apathy than anything else.
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Yeah, I think I'd do that. But to meet/stay with just one person? not for me.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
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This is exactly how I met my wife of 10 years. We met on the internet, and talked for several months. Back then, there were no digital cameras or webcams, so we didn't have much of an idea what each other looked like. She came over from US to England to visit after we had been talking for about 6 months, and only seeing a handful of crappy photos of each other. To cut a (very!) long story short, I ended up in America, we got married and I never went back to England (except for a couple of vacations to visit family). I remember the first time I saw her, when she came through customs in Heathrow airport. Right then, I knew it was all worth it. Everything was just "right" - there wasn't a single moment of awkward silence or "WTF am I doing". It just seemed that everything in our lives just suddenly fell into place. To look at the two of us back then, you would never have put us together, and if we had passed each other in the street we would not have given each other a second look. But after talking online for so long, it really didn't matter. Of course, it didn't hurt that she's a smoking hot blonde. :-D
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Wow, sounds so familiar. I walked out in JFK, saw her and there were no err.. what to say next moments.
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I met a person in 1998 when I first got on Yahoo messenger. We talked for several months via IM, when one evening she called me. It was strange at first, but interesting and we continued this pure friendship for several years. In 2002, I decided that it was time to travel to the US to meet this person I had never physically met. Cut to 2009, I had spent several years travelling back and forth across the pond. I'm now married to her, with a child, our own home and both in good jobs, living in the US. It's risky, and a very scary prospect to a lot of people. You hear more of the horror stories than you do the happy endings, but some of the relationships work out.
But does your other wife know about her or is she a secret wife for when you are in the states?
------------------------------------ "When Belly Full, Chin Hit Chest" Confucius 502BC
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But does your other wife know about her or is she a secret wife for when you are in the states?
------------------------------------ "When Belly Full, Chin Hit Chest" Confucius 502BC
Haha! What maniac would actually want two wives?!
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I just stopped work a while ago, for a nicotine break, flicked on the haunted fishtank and there was a programme about the UK border force. The part I saw was about a 19 yr old Canadian guy who had landed at Heathrow and wanted to stay for 4 months to visit his gf, who he had met in an online game site (they didn't say which one). The problem was that he didn't have a lot of money for 4 months, so the immigration officer gets the name and phone number of the gf and goes off to contact her. Turns out She is a He. Young lady immigration officer has to think for a long time, ask colleagues etc., in order to decide how she is going to break this news to the Canadian guy. Formulates a plan and goes to break it to him. He knew. Long story short gfs mother says she will support him for duration and all ends happily. Thing is, it made me think. Financial constraints aside, would I travel great distance specifically to meet someone I'd only ever 'met' on line, I like to think that my suspicious nature would prevent me from doing so, but I really don't know for sure. If I had to go to the US for example, for other reasons, and someone suggested a meet, I'd have no problem. I mean if, god forbid, I had to go to Luton anyway I'd go for a beer with DD, if he suggested it. After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get? :) So would you folks do as the Canadian guy did, or would you be like I think I would be and avoid it like the plague.
Henry Minute Do not read medical books! You could die of a misprint. - Mark Twain Girl: (staring) "Why do you need an icy cucumber?" “I want to report a fraud. The government is lying to us all.”
Well here's another success story... Way back before Al Gore invented the internet, I used to call BBS's. One of the BBS's that I called on a regular basis was a fairly tight-knit group. One day they decided to have a party and invited me to come over (setup!). Well one of the woman that I would chat with was there and we sort of hit it off (the Sysops wife thought we would), started dating and then 2 years later, we were married.
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Henry Minute wrote:
After all I'm in Luton, how much worse can it get?
No, that is it, then nadir of you life, it is only up from there! You are welcome anytime Henry.
------------------------------------ "When Belly Full, Chin Hit Chest" Confucius 502BC