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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
Such conditions can get to everybody over time. Some take it longer, some not. I realize that these are not good times, but you should simply get yourself a plan B. In this particular case plan B might be to carefully look around for another job opportunity. Then you may have some options when things even get worse or you may eventually find a place with better working conditions. Meanwhile you still have your old job and there is nothing to lose by looking around. Just don't let anybody know what you are doing before you are really ready to leave, as there may be people who might feel betrayed by this. I did the same thing two years ago and my old boss reacted surprisingly positive when I finally broke the news to him. There were some sacrifices to make, like moving to another city, but I don't regret doing it.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
My advice based on what you have said is "GET OUT, ASAP". If you're constantly but under pressure to meet impossible deadlines then you will eventually burn out, your company will suffer because you'll end up of sick leave, software will not be tested properly and will be of poor quality because you and your team will take shortcut. End result will be your company will end-up with a bad name in the customer-base. If you're not being provided with all the information required, then you can't give a timescale, so don't give one, or only give one in writing, including the details/information provided and the clearly state that the timescale provided with based solely on the information provided. If when additional requirements are added, revise the timescale accordingly. Remember, you work to live, not live to work and if you're not enjoying your work, then your in the wrong job. Get out and find somewhere where you are truely valued.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
Jobs are like relationships. Heck, the are a relationship, often we spend more time at our jobs than with our S.O's! So if the relationship isn't working, you have basically three choices: 1. live with it 2. leave it 3. communicate your needs and try and improve it Pick one. Marc
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Agreed, look for another job. This is intimidation and as long as it works they won't stop. Negative management is always a bad sign and you are doing well to cope with the situation.
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Jobs are like relationships. Heck, the are a relationship, often we spend more time at our jobs than with our S.O's! So if the relationship isn't working, you have basically three choices: 1. live with it 2. leave it 3. communicate your needs and try and improve it Pick one. Marc
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Jobs are like relationships. Heck, the are a relationship, often we spend more time at our jobs than with our S.O's! So if the relationship isn't working, you have basically three choices: 1. live with it 2. leave it 3. communicate your needs and try and improve it Pick one. Marc
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1. leaive with it 2. leave it 3. communicate your needs and try and improve it goto 1
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
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To summarise : Some days you have to work late and some weekends too. Sometimes your bonus isn't paid. Your company, understandably wants project completion dates which you have difficulty giving. This gives you negative thoughts, a stiff neck and low self esteem. MAN UP for fucks sake. Wheres your self respect? Go switch on the news and see what is happening to Pakistan at the moment stop your self pitying drivel and make the most of what you have. So what if you under pressure at work, I am surer you are compensated for this in your salary,l if not get another job. NO WHINING IN THE LOUNGE PLEASE!
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
IMO, Leave. a) There is other work out there, you just have to find it. b) They are showing their true colours, once they get into this habit, it won't be broken. c) The company is probably already failing, the warning signs are there: long hours, no bonus, laying people off. d) Given point c, you might find yourself without a job anyway & without your final pay-packet e) Your health (and it is being effected, judging by your posts) is more important than some a**hole's company c & d happened to a friend of mine BTW, during the end of the Internet bubble. I have known all the symptoms you described (albeit in slightly different circumstances), one of the worst aspects is that you start doubting whether you are making the right decision or not, so you postpone decision making. You need to work out realistically (which is the hard part) how quickly and likely you are to get another job. I started to feel exactly what you are feeling with my last employer, so I left before I had a new position (but I had several irons in the fire!). I left because they promoted someone else (actually an outsider from the company) to be in charge of a (fairly successful!) system I designed, then move me on to an irredeemable pile of [expletive deleted] project that had no hope of ever improving. The reasons they gave for not promoting me were "[I was] highly technical and my skill are better suited there" and they moved me because "we know we can rely on you to get problems sorted out", turns out they were wrong. I pushed for promotion to technical architect first (which they actually said they were considering) when they said it wasn't going to happen due to the current "economic climate" I left. Even if the company finds a bigger contract, I doubt it will suddenly become a good place to work, they'll underestimate cost to win the contract, then make you all work to their expectations. Worse, when a company starts to act like this, the better devs will just go elsewhere, leaving a less able dev team in a worsening situation.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
I go through the same situation in the past as you are currently. I suggest you do not leave your current job until u get new one. Find another job and dont tell your colleagues & seniors that you are searching for new one...:cool: Best of luck..... :)
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To summarise : Some days you have to work late and some weekends too. Sometimes your bonus isn't paid. Your company, understandably wants project completion dates which you have difficulty giving. This gives you negative thoughts, a stiff neck and low self esteem. MAN UP for fucks sake. Wheres your self respect? Go switch on the news and see what is happening to Pakistan at the moment stop your self pitying drivel and make the most of what you have. So what if you under pressure at work, I am surer you are compensated for this in your salary,l if not get another job. NO WHINING IN THE LOUNGE PLEASE!
Wow, you really caught the zeitgeist there didn't you. What a plainly stupid answer, "MAN UP" is just about the most f***ing ignorant thing I've ever heard here, outside of the Back-Room. This is easily the worst advice you can give. "MANNING UP", as you describe it achieves the following: 1) Ignores the fact the company is more than likely going under 2) Is in fact a way justifying to yourslef a way of allowing your manager to get you to roll over and assume the position. The manly thing to do would be to stand up for yourself, or get another job, not to take it up the wrong'un, as you describe. 3) So what about Pakistan? I' genuinely sorry for the people there, but everyone has their own problems too, doesn't diminish them. A few other observations: The OP is called Meena Kumar, all the Meenas I've ever met have been women. The OP might well be in India (the profile says US, but that is the default). Devs outside the west get a comparatively low salary (in terms of the relative standard of living) so the imagine yourself living in the UK on 2/3 of your salary, then working the hours described.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
I'd tend to agree with pompeyboy3. If times are hard, the worst possible thing that you can do is feel sorry for yourself. Get a grip, stiffen the upper lip, and start paying more attention to things that make you happy. Once you're out of that wasteful, self-pitying mood, start taking a sensible look at what you can do to improve the situation. For one thing: you're going through an experience (which will not last forever); see what you can learn from it.
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Marc Clifton wrote:
1. leaive with it 2. leave it 3. communicate your needs and try and improve it goto 1
Fixed. :)
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Wow, you really caught the zeitgeist there didn't you. What a plainly stupid answer, "MAN UP" is just about the most f***ing ignorant thing I've ever heard here, outside of the Back-Room. This is easily the worst advice you can give. "MANNING UP", as you describe it achieves the following: 1) Ignores the fact the company is more than likely going under 2) Is in fact a way justifying to yourslef a way of allowing your manager to get you to roll over and assume the position. The manly thing to do would be to stand up for yourself, or get another job, not to take it up the wrong'un, as you describe. 3) So what about Pakistan? I' genuinely sorry for the people there, but everyone has their own problems too, doesn't diminish them. A few other observations: The OP is called Meena Kumar, all the Meenas I've ever met have been women. The OP might well be in India (the profile says US, but that is the default). Devs outside the west get a comparatively low salary (in terms of the relative standard of living) so the imagine yourself living in the UK on 2/3 of your salary, then working the hours described.
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Pete o'Hanlon: If it wasn't insulting tools, I'd say you were dumber than a bag of spanners.If he's confident in his ability to find another job, he should "man up" and take charge of his own life. If he'd not confident in his ability to find another job, he should "man up" and deal with it. Either way, "man up" is the right answer.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
Recent research has shown that the degree of control you have over your decisions directly influences your satisfaction. So here are some hints for being a dev: 1) There is no such thing as a tight development deadline; only an accurate one and an inaccurate one. Keep track of your personal estimates, especially if you continually meet them. Even in tough times managers prefer dead-accurate time lines over an unrealistic one. Good estimates builds lots of credibility. 2) See the situation as an opportunity. Working under deadlines is the best way to become a good developer; just don't take short-cuts. 3) Don't think about work at home; it isn't allowed. As a developer you probably don't own the company and have zero potential for real advancement so there is no point in taking your troubles home. Go home, do anything else but worry about work 4) You are a resource. All developers are and companies may pretend to care but they don't. When there is no project, there is no job ... period. Develop a strong social network outside of work so you don't care so much at work that no one cares. 5) Play kids at chess. It's nice to have a victory some days.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
Step one (required): Be prepared to leave: Look for a better (or at least better-looking) job, try to create some savings. Step two (your civil duty, or just for the kicks): Point out that this doesn't work long-term You could dare to ask when things are expected to be back to normal. I'd predict an answer that effectively says "what normal? This is the new normal". That's basically a "please leave now, before it hurts you more". Step three (optional, for social treehuggers that believe in changing the world into a better place only): Try to save things The common problems in this situation are two:
- Management doesn't understand the software development process or their role in it
- - you don't have enough power in estimation, management basically forces you to accept their estimates that is based on business requirements ("we need to release that in December, or competition will kill us") rather than puny technical details ("this requires 5 million lines of code. If would take us twice that much just to type it in").
You may want to find a strong advocate among your three, that takes it up with management to remind them:
- Estimates are yours, not theirs
- Creating a reliable estimate requires an implementation specification and a few spikes/test implementations. It can't be created from a product specification. Everything else is a "gut feel".
- Even the best estimate has a margin of error. What if one of the developers gets sick?
- You management is responsible for defining beforehand which features can be cut in case a schedule doesn't work out and the delivery date has to be held.
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If he's confident in his ability to find another job, he should "man up" and take charge of his own life. If he'd not confident in his ability to find another job, he should "man up" and deal with it. Either way, "man up" is the right answer.
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"The staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - J. Jystad, 2001I agree, the OP should take charge of the situation and either get a new job or sort their current one out. All of the suggestions are saying pretty much the same thing, but there are helpful and unhelpful ways of saying it. The problem is the OP is pretty obviously either depressed or suffering from anxiety, or at least starting to suffer from one of these (the "unexplained" neck pains are a classic symptom). In either case the worst thing anyone can do is imply weakness, it only adds to the problem. Unless you have actually been like this you cannot understand how it effects you it totally changes how you think. Its a bit like grief when a close family member of a friend dies. Unless it has happened to you too, you know what being sad is, but grief is on a whole different scale. My point 2 against pompeyboy's post still stands BTW, it is less manly to just take any c**p your boss throws at you. "Manning up" like this is just a form of self-justification.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
If you're good at your job and you're a hard worker there's no reason to beat yourself up. I ran into this on a 4 year stint where it got worse and worse...the company wasn't hurting due to a recession, but the culture was the same as you describe, rather, it grew to that. If the company gets a big new contract, are they going to fire all your management and start over? If not, it's likely your environment won't change either. There will be other motivators. I ended up taking 2 months off and spent time with my family. It was tight for cash, but I found a better job in the long run - with a little less pay - and we were far better off for it. Cheers.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
I think what has happened is even though your company is struggling, you have got into a sort of comfort zone and are not able to pull yourself to move out. Start giving a few interviews to gain some confidence (you will most likely be rejected initially but remember you will be learning through every interview). Eventually, you will get a new job and will be able to move out of this situation.
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Hi group, I hope some of you guys can help me in dealing the tougher condition I am facing. I am working a very small scale company which has a man power of 10. Out of that we have only 3 developers including myself. Since last year, due to recession company started facing tougher times and it brought very tough measures from the management.There are some job cuts in the company. Management can not tolerate any project delays. So we are asked to prepare the tight estimates for the coming project and we have to deliver the project in that tight scope. Preparing the estimates is difficult as there are many unknown variables. So we sometimes end up giving wrong estimates. So for execution we often spend long working day and weekends. COmpany pays bonus for every 4 months and to pay that they do lot of scrutiny. There is a review for that. Every -ve point even if its very small they blow it out of proportion and they warn bonus wont be paid next time. Even if company facing problem they tell that we dont have to worry and during work hours they are very tough to ask the question about project task completions and every now and then we are reminded of the cost of an resource involved in the project. There is no casual relationship in the company and often feel ignored. there is very less talk in the company and we often speak on messenger. ALl this is causing lot of anxiety to me all the time. Mind is not free of -ve thoughts. I get stiff neck all the time and there is always heavy thoughts when I go home until I sleep. Morning same cycle continues. Even on weekend we end up doing some work. so it looks liek there is no escape. Its causing great harm to my self esteem as there is lot of negativity and worried about health. Company is looking for a bigger project but not sure if we can get and even if we get those, will the working environment improve. So help me guys in dealing such tougher times. May be I am weak to handle the situation and ready for the criticism. Thanks Meena kumar
Hmmm, I guess things have gone down-hill from a year ago. This is what you wrote:
Hi, I really need you help guys. Now i am experiencing something wierd. I just can not concentrate on work. When I come to office early morning. first thing i do is open my mail, news websites, some movie news some blogs and it eats almost one and half hour. then hardly i do few things then again come the lunch time after lunch i feel sleepy then after 3pm i slowly able to concentrate but then three hours are left .. then i repent i uncessarily wasted so much time. I dont feel that enthusiasm of learning and grasping things and be full of information. Have I grown old? or do I need some excercise? I go home in the evening them my thoughts are just into my work there too i change the mood after one and half hour or soo then again in the morning after I come to office i am unable to switch my mood. Guys just dont feel like switching my mood and work. Am I depressed? Please give me some tips . I want to regain that attitude again. thanks, kMeena.So are you still in Saudi Arabia?It’s not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it’s because we do not dare that things are difficult. ~Seneca