The wedding went perfectly!
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I'm now married! And what a day, it went off without a hitch! I was, to be honest, bricking it. I wasn't nervous about marrying the missus, we've been together for 9 years now, so that wasn't worrying me. It was the speech part, I'm not really a public speaker. Speaking in front of, or explaining how a system works to a group of people - no problems. Speaking up in meetings and voicing my concerns - piece of piss. But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat. Didn't sleep the night before (even after a few pints), and was up modifying the speech at 1am before the wedding, and then again when I got up the next morning. It was all I thought about - I wasn't concerned with the actual ceremony, and maybe I should have been, because as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle. She looked stunning. Fluffed my lines a little, and had to ask the registrar to repeat what I had to say, but everyone just had a chuckle and it broke the tension. After drinks and lots of photos, was the dinner - which I couldn't eat for nerves. Managed most of the starter, about half the main, and a bite of the desert. Anyway, the father of the bride got up to do his speech, which lasted about 3 minutes - a lot shorter than I was expecting; but still well delivered and nicely done. Then it was my turn, I stood up and as soon as I first started speaking I shocked myself with the confidence and eloquence of how I delivered it - even if I do say so myself :D It went swimmingly well! People laughed at the jokes, people wept at the emotional parts. Various people came up to me after and said it was the best Grooms speech they had ever heard, so I was well chuffed! The best men did their job, which I think is the hardest of the lot, as everyone there is expecting you to be funny. And they didn't disappoint - but they did hold back from parting with all the silly things I've ever done (phew!) Other than that the party afterwards was cracking, I put enough money behind the bar for everyone to get drunk on, then it was just a matter for them to pay to top themselves up later on in the night. We had the venue, which was an old manor house now converted to a hotel, all to ourselves. The bar was open to residents all night - so it stayed serving booze until the early hours. Only cl
Well done on the Wedding. I was surprised at 'Best Men' for normally only one. There is a reason for a Best Man and a Maid of honour. In Days of Yore, when there was to be a wedding it was a serious matter. Should the groom not turn up, the bride would marry the Best Man. Should the Bride not turn up it was the Maid of Honour who would get married. Given the times (Circa 1000ad - 1400ad when this was customary) it was not unusual for such thing owing to war, disease, murder etc. So Two best men might have proven a difficult thing for your wife to deal with had you not made it. :) All you have to worry about now is paying for it for the next rest of your life.
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I'm now married! And what a day, it went off without a hitch! I was, to be honest, bricking it. I wasn't nervous about marrying the missus, we've been together for 9 years now, so that wasn't worrying me. It was the speech part, I'm not really a public speaker. Speaking in front of, or explaining how a system works to a group of people - no problems. Speaking up in meetings and voicing my concerns - piece of piss. But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat. Didn't sleep the night before (even after a few pints), and was up modifying the speech at 1am before the wedding, and then again when I got up the next morning. It was all I thought about - I wasn't concerned with the actual ceremony, and maybe I should have been, because as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle. She looked stunning. Fluffed my lines a little, and had to ask the registrar to repeat what I had to say, but everyone just had a chuckle and it broke the tension. After drinks and lots of photos, was the dinner - which I couldn't eat for nerves. Managed most of the starter, about half the main, and a bite of the desert. Anyway, the father of the bride got up to do his speech, which lasted about 3 minutes - a lot shorter than I was expecting; but still well delivered and nicely done. Then it was my turn, I stood up and as soon as I first started speaking I shocked myself with the confidence and eloquence of how I delivered it - even if I do say so myself :D It went swimmingly well! People laughed at the jokes, people wept at the emotional parts. Various people came up to me after and said it was the best Grooms speech they had ever heard, so I was well chuffed! The best men did their job, which I think is the hardest of the lot, as everyone there is expecting you to be funny. And they didn't disappoint - but they did hold back from parting with all the silly things I've ever done (phew!) Other than that the party afterwards was cracking, I put enough money behind the bar for everyone to get drunk on, then it was just a matter for them to pay to top themselves up later on in the night. We had the venue, which was an old manor house now converted to a hotel, all to ourselves. The bar was open to residents all night - so it stayed serving booze until the early hours. Only cl
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Well done on the Wedding. I was surprised at 'Best Men' for normally only one. There is a reason for a Best Man and a Maid of honour. In Days of Yore, when there was to be a wedding it was a serious matter. Should the groom not turn up, the bride would marry the Best Man. Should the Bride not turn up it was the Maid of Honour who would get married. Given the times (Circa 1000ad - 1400ad when this was customary) it was not unusual for such thing owing to war, disease, murder etc. So Two best men might have proven a difficult thing for your wife to deal with had you not made it. :) All you have to worry about now is paying for it for the next rest of your life.
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I'm now married! And what a day, it went off without a hitch! I was, to be honest, bricking it. I wasn't nervous about marrying the missus, we've been together for 9 years now, so that wasn't worrying me. It was the speech part, I'm not really a public speaker. Speaking in front of, or explaining how a system works to a group of people - no problems. Speaking up in meetings and voicing my concerns - piece of piss. But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat. Didn't sleep the night before (even after a few pints), and was up modifying the speech at 1am before the wedding, and then again when I got up the next morning. It was all I thought about - I wasn't concerned with the actual ceremony, and maybe I should have been, because as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle. She looked stunning. Fluffed my lines a little, and had to ask the registrar to repeat what I had to say, but everyone just had a chuckle and it broke the tension. After drinks and lots of photos, was the dinner - which I couldn't eat for nerves. Managed most of the starter, about half the main, and a bite of the desert. Anyway, the father of the bride got up to do his speech, which lasted about 3 minutes - a lot shorter than I was expecting; but still well delivered and nicely done. Then it was my turn, I stood up and as soon as I first started speaking I shocked myself with the confidence and eloquence of how I delivered it - even if I do say so myself :D It went swimmingly well! People laughed at the jokes, people wept at the emotional parts. Various people came up to me after and said it was the best Grooms speech they had ever heard, so I was well chuffed! The best men did their job, which I think is the hardest of the lot, as everyone there is expecting you to be funny. And they didn't disappoint - but they did hold back from parting with all the silly things I've ever done (phew!) Other than that the party afterwards was cracking, I put enough money behind the bar for everyone to get drunk on, then it was just a matter for them to pay to top themselves up later on in the night. We had the venue, which was an old manor house now converted to a hotel, all to ourselves. The bar was open to residents all night - so it stayed serving booze until the early hours. Only cl
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Well done on the Wedding. I was surprised at 'Best Men' for normally only one. There is a reason for a Best Man and a Maid of honour. In Days of Yore, when there was to be a wedding it was a serious matter. Should the groom not turn up, the bride would marry the Best Man. Should the Bride not turn up it was the Maid of Honour who would get married. Given the times (Circa 1000ad - 1400ad when this was customary) it was not unusual for such thing owing to war, disease, murder etc. So Two best men might have proven a difficult thing for your wife to deal with had you not made it. :) All you have to worry about now is paying for it for the next rest of your life.
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Hehehha, thanks! I didn't know that about best men! That would have been a thing to sort out! Lucky for me that I have some cracking good mates, it too hard to pick just one, a bit easier to pick two. Still, it could have been more. Like I say, I count myself lucky. :)
"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough" ~ Albert Einstein "If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." ~ Paul Neal "Red" Adair
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This brought back some memories, especially the "she was stunning" part. My speech was "thank you !", so not too hard. Congratulations to both of you, you know what the next step is :)
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you know what the next step is
Yeah, I know. I'm not prepared for it, and am scared to death, but from what I have bee told you never will be prepared for it - you just have to get on with it otherwise you'll find yourself too old and sterile to do it ;-) The missus would be a great mum anyway, of that I have no doubts. After the honeymoon the next journey begins... :)
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Thanks! :)
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Rage wrote:
you know what the next step is
Yeah, I know. I'm not prepared for it, and am scared to death, but from what I have bee told you never will be prepared for it - you just have to get on with it otherwise you'll find yourself too old and sterile to do it ;-) The missus would be a great mum anyway, of that I have no doubts. After the honeymoon the next journey begins... :)
"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough" ~ Albert Einstein "If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." ~ Paul Neal "Red" Adair
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I'm now married! And what a day, it went off without a hitch! I was, to be honest, bricking it. I wasn't nervous about marrying the missus, we've been together for 9 years now, so that wasn't worrying me. It was the speech part, I'm not really a public speaker. Speaking in front of, or explaining how a system works to a group of people - no problems. Speaking up in meetings and voicing my concerns - piece of piss. But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat. Didn't sleep the night before (even after a few pints), and was up modifying the speech at 1am before the wedding, and then again when I got up the next morning. It was all I thought about - I wasn't concerned with the actual ceremony, and maybe I should have been, because as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle. She looked stunning. Fluffed my lines a little, and had to ask the registrar to repeat what I had to say, but everyone just had a chuckle and it broke the tension. After drinks and lots of photos, was the dinner - which I couldn't eat for nerves. Managed most of the starter, about half the main, and a bite of the desert. Anyway, the father of the bride got up to do his speech, which lasted about 3 minutes - a lot shorter than I was expecting; but still well delivered and nicely done. Then it was my turn, I stood up and as soon as I first started speaking I shocked myself with the confidence and eloquence of how I delivered it - even if I do say so myself :D It went swimmingly well! People laughed at the jokes, people wept at the emotional parts. Various people came up to me after and said it was the best Grooms speech they had ever heard, so I was well chuffed! The best men did their job, which I think is the hardest of the lot, as everyone there is expecting you to be funny. And they didn't disappoint - but they did hold back from parting with all the silly things I've ever done (phew!) Other than that the party afterwards was cracking, I put enough money behind the bar for everyone to get drunk on, then it was just a matter for them to pay to top themselves up later on in the night. We had the venue, which was an old manor house now converted to a hotel, all to ourselves. The bar was open to residents all night - so it stayed serving booze until the early hours. Only cl
Congrads! I got married back in June and the day was just perfect. Must just be the right year to get married! All the best for the future
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Rage wrote:
you know what the next step is
Yeah, I know. I'm not prepared for it, and am scared to death, but from what I have bee told you never will be prepared for it - you just have to get on with it otherwise you'll find yourself too old and sterile to do it ;-) The missus would be a great mum anyway, of that I have no doubts. After the honeymoon the next journey begins... :)
"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough" ~ Albert Einstein "If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." ~ Paul Neal "Red" Adair
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Congrads! I got married back in June and the day was just perfect. Must just be the right year to get married! All the best for the future
Thanks, and congrats to you!! :-D
"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough" ~ Albert Einstein "If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." ~ Paul Neal "Red" Adair
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1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
I'm not prepared for it
If it goes for you like it did for me, and I wish it does, what you just experienced is nothing compared to be a dad ! (But for the moment, enjoy the honeymoon !! ) :-D Wish you all the best !
Fingers crossed! :)
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I'm now married! And what a day, it went off without a hitch! I was, to be honest, bricking it. I wasn't nervous about marrying the missus, we've been together for 9 years now, so that wasn't worrying me. It was the speech part, I'm not really a public speaker. Speaking in front of, or explaining how a system works to a group of people - no problems. Speaking up in meetings and voicing my concerns - piece of piss. But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat. Didn't sleep the night before (even after a few pints), and was up modifying the speech at 1am before the wedding, and then again when I got up the next morning. It was all I thought about - I wasn't concerned with the actual ceremony, and maybe I should have been, because as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle. She looked stunning. Fluffed my lines a little, and had to ask the registrar to repeat what I had to say, but everyone just had a chuckle and it broke the tension. After drinks and lots of photos, was the dinner - which I couldn't eat for nerves. Managed most of the starter, about half the main, and a bite of the desert. Anyway, the father of the bride got up to do his speech, which lasted about 3 minutes - a lot shorter than I was expecting; but still well delivered and nicely done. Then it was my turn, I stood up and as soon as I first started speaking I shocked myself with the confidence and eloquence of how I delivered it - even if I do say so myself :D It went swimmingly well! People laughed at the jokes, people wept at the emotional parts. Various people came up to me after and said it was the best Grooms speech they had ever heard, so I was well chuffed! The best men did their job, which I think is the hardest of the lot, as everyone there is expecting you to be funny. And they didn't disappoint - but they did hold back from parting with all the silly things I've ever done (phew!) Other than that the party afterwards was cracking, I put enough money behind the bar for everyone to get drunk on, then it was just a matter for them to pay to top themselves up later on in the night. We had the venue, which was an old manor house now converted to a hotel, all to ourselves. The bar was open to residents all night - so it stayed serving booze until the early hours. Only cl
1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle.
I think about this sometimes, and I don't think I have a hope in hell of keeping it together when it happens to me, I'll be on YBF a few years down the line, in the mash up of clips of fainting grooms! Why does it always seem to be the groom that drops? I can't stand speeches either, writing or reading!
1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
So, if you're thinking about getting married, and have found the right gal - do it.
I certainly think about it a lot, all I need is to decide how and where to do it, also the money for one of them hyperexpensive rings that they seem to like ;P But hey, that's part of what my new job is for, after our move, saving shouldn't be too much of a problem. Though I'm sure I'd get the ring choice wrong, perhaps I should get a cheaper token ring, and then she can choose the big tomali herself. As I say, lots to consider! Anyway, congrats to the both of you! :beer:
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I'm now married! And what a day, it went off without a hitch! I was, to be honest, bricking it. I wasn't nervous about marrying the missus, we've been together for 9 years now, so that wasn't worrying me. It was the speech part, I'm not really a public speaker. Speaking in front of, or explaining how a system works to a group of people - no problems. Speaking up in meetings and voicing my concerns - piece of piss. But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat. Didn't sleep the night before (even after a few pints), and was up modifying the speech at 1am before the wedding, and then again when I got up the next morning. It was all I thought about - I wasn't concerned with the actual ceremony, and maybe I should have been, because as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle. She looked stunning. Fluffed my lines a little, and had to ask the registrar to repeat what I had to say, but everyone just had a chuckle and it broke the tension. After drinks and lots of photos, was the dinner - which I couldn't eat for nerves. Managed most of the starter, about half the main, and a bite of the desert. Anyway, the father of the bride got up to do his speech, which lasted about 3 minutes - a lot shorter than I was expecting; but still well delivered and nicely done. Then it was my turn, I stood up and as soon as I first started speaking I shocked myself with the confidence and eloquence of how I delivered it - even if I do say so myself :D It went swimmingly well! People laughed at the jokes, people wept at the emotional parts. Various people came up to me after and said it was the best Grooms speech they had ever heard, so I was well chuffed! The best men did their job, which I think is the hardest of the lot, as everyone there is expecting you to be funny. And they didn't disappoint - but they did hold back from parting with all the silly things I've ever done (phew!) Other than that the party afterwards was cracking, I put enough money behind the bar for everyone to get drunk on, then it was just a matter for them to pay to top themselves up later on in the night. We had the venue, which was an old manor house now converted to a hotel, all to ourselves. The bar was open to residents all night - so it stayed serving booze until the early hours. Only cl
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1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle.
I think about this sometimes, and I don't think I have a hope in hell of keeping it together when it happens to me, I'll be on YBF a few years down the line, in the mash up of clips of fainting grooms! Why does it always seem to be the groom that drops? I can't stand speeches either, writing or reading!
1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
So, if you're thinking about getting married, and have found the right gal - do it.
I certainly think about it a lot, all I need is to decide how and where to do it, also the money for one of them hyperexpensive rings that they seem to like ;P But hey, that's part of what my new job is for, after our move, saving shouldn't be too much of a problem. Though I'm sure I'd get the ring choice wrong, perhaps I should get a cheaper token ring, and then she can choose the big tomali herself. As I say, lots to consider! Anyway, congrats to the both of you! :beer:
He who makes a beast out of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man.
Thanks!
phannon86 wrote:
I can't stand speeches either, writing or reading!
A few good tips that helped me: - This from Dalek Dave, "You'll know mostly everyone in the room, they're not there to goad you, they just want to hear what you have to say." So relax, but don't get drunk. I think any bride would be pissed at you if you were slurring your words infront of her family. - Get plain small sized speech cards and print out your speech on those cards in a nice big font, with only, say, four to six lines per card. That way you can hold the card away from you as you speak and project your voice to the room without facing the ground reading from a piece of paper. You also shouldn't loose your place as you should be able to remember where you are on that card - fist section, middle section or last section. Memorising your speech is fine, or bullet points are fine also, if you think you'll remember what you want to say in front of everyone. I didn't think I would. So I had my whole speech on the cards, which I rehearsed, and knew reasonably well, so that I could face the audience when I knew what I had to say, and then read from the card when I didn't. - The grooms speech is actually the easiest one to do. You have to thank lots of people for their help in the wedding (Best Men, Maid of Honour, Bridesmaids, parents etc) so that should fatten it out a bit. - Last point of all, and the most important: Be honest. If you can't explain to everyone why you love your wife then why are you marrying her? Also, don't copy stuff off the internet as everyone would have heard of it before. The internet is great to get an idea of the structure of a speech, the things to include etc - but don't copy standard phrases or blurbs as it will sound cliched and as if you haven't thought about it enough for yourself. Make it personal. [EDIT] And another thing, start writing it months in advance. Give yourself plenty of time to think, edit, re-edit and change sections as you get a feel for how you'd like to structure the words. It takes time, so don't leave it to the last minute. [/EDIT] As for rings, find out what you like and then look on the internet, I found an excellent site that had gorgeous rings that were hundreds of pounds cheaper than the high street, and I was able to ring up and speak to the guy who was going to make it abd have a chat about the type of stone and get advise about what to spend money on etc. :)
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I'm now married! And what a day, it went off without a hitch! I was, to be honest, bricking it. I wasn't nervous about marrying the missus, we've been together for 9 years now, so that wasn't worrying me. It was the speech part, I'm not really a public speaker. Speaking in front of, or explaining how a system works to a group of people - no problems. Speaking up in meetings and voicing my concerns - piece of piss. But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat. Didn't sleep the night before (even after a few pints), and was up modifying the speech at 1am before the wedding, and then again when I got up the next morning. It was all I thought about - I wasn't concerned with the actual ceremony, and maybe I should have been, because as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle. She looked stunning. Fluffed my lines a little, and had to ask the registrar to repeat what I had to say, but everyone just had a chuckle and it broke the tension. After drinks and lots of photos, was the dinner - which I couldn't eat for nerves. Managed most of the starter, about half the main, and a bite of the desert. Anyway, the father of the bride got up to do his speech, which lasted about 3 minutes - a lot shorter than I was expecting; but still well delivered and nicely done. Then it was my turn, I stood up and as soon as I first started speaking I shocked myself with the confidence and eloquence of how I delivered it - even if I do say so myself :D It went swimmingly well! People laughed at the jokes, people wept at the emotional parts. Various people came up to me after and said it was the best Grooms speech they had ever heard, so I was well chuffed! The best men did their job, which I think is the hardest of the lot, as everyone there is expecting you to be funny. And they didn't disappoint - but they did hold back from parting with all the silly things I've ever done (phew!) Other than that the party afterwards was cracking, I put enough money behind the bar for everyone to get drunk on, then it was just a matter for them to pay to top themselves up later on in the night. We had the venue, which was an old manor house now converted to a hotel, all to ourselves. The bar was open to residents all night - so it stayed serving booze until the early hours. Only cl
Congrats !
1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat
MMm, my speech was in front of 300 guests. I thought up some concepts in my head and invented the rest. Went perfectly. The least you prepare, the better. :-)
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I'm now married! And what a day, it went off without a hitch! I was, to be honest, bricking it. I wasn't nervous about marrying the missus, we've been together for 9 years now, so that wasn't worrying me. It was the speech part, I'm not really a public speaker. Speaking in front of, or explaining how a system works to a group of people - no problems. Speaking up in meetings and voicing my concerns - piece of piss. But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat. Didn't sleep the night before (even after a few pints), and was up modifying the speech at 1am before the wedding, and then again when I got up the next morning. It was all I thought about - I wasn't concerned with the actual ceremony, and maybe I should have been, because as soon as she walked in my eyes just welled up, I completely choked, and it was a struggle to keep it together. Honestly I really wasn't expecting the emotions that ran through me as I saw her come down the isle. She looked stunning. Fluffed my lines a little, and had to ask the registrar to repeat what I had to say, but everyone just had a chuckle and it broke the tension. After drinks and lots of photos, was the dinner - which I couldn't eat for nerves. Managed most of the starter, about half the main, and a bite of the desert. Anyway, the father of the bride got up to do his speech, which lasted about 3 minutes - a lot shorter than I was expecting; but still well delivered and nicely done. Then it was my turn, I stood up and as soon as I first started speaking I shocked myself with the confidence and eloquence of how I delivered it - even if I do say so myself :D It went swimmingly well! People laughed at the jokes, people wept at the emotional parts. Various people came up to me after and said it was the best Grooms speech they had ever heard, so I was well chuffed! The best men did their job, which I think is the hardest of the lot, as everyone there is expecting you to be funny. And they didn't disappoint - but they did hold back from parting with all the silly things I've ever done (phew!) Other than that the party afterwards was cracking, I put enough money behind the bar for everyone to get drunk on, then it was just a matter for them to pay to top themselves up later on in the night. We had the venue, which was an old manor house now converted to a hotel, all to ourselves. The bar was open to residents all night - so it stayed serving booze until the early hours. Only cl
1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
I read both these books in about 3 days - real page turners.
NOT on your honeymoon I hope!
He took it all too far, but boy could he play guitar!
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phannon86 wrote:
I can't stand speeches either, writing or reading!
A few good tips that helped me: - This from Dalek Dave, "You'll know mostly everyone in the room, they're not there to goad you, they just want to hear what you have to say." So relax, but don't get drunk. I think any bride would be pissed at you if you were slurring your words infront of her family. - Get plain small sized speech cards and print out your speech on those cards in a nice big font, with only, say, four to six lines per card. That way you can hold the card away from you as you speak and project your voice to the room without facing the ground reading from a piece of paper. You also shouldn't loose your place as you should be able to remember where you are on that card - fist section, middle section or last section. Memorising your speech is fine, or bullet points are fine also, if you think you'll remember what you want to say in front of everyone. I didn't think I would. So I had my whole speech on the cards, which I rehearsed, and knew reasonably well, so that I could face the audience when I knew what I had to say, and then read from the card when I didn't. - The grooms speech is actually the easiest one to do. You have to thank lots of people for their help in the wedding (Best Men, Maid of Honour, Bridesmaids, parents etc) so that should fatten it out a bit. - Last point of all, and the most important: Be honest. If you can't explain to everyone why you love your wife then why are you marrying her? Also, don't copy stuff off the internet as everyone would have heard of it before. The internet is great to get an idea of the structure of a speech, the things to include etc - but don't copy standard phrases or blurbs as it will sound cliched and as if you haven't thought about it enough for yourself. Make it personal. [EDIT] And another thing, start writing it months in advance. Give yourself plenty of time to think, edit, re-edit and change sections as you get a feel for how you'd like to structure the words. It takes time, so don't leave it to the last minute. [/EDIT] As for rings, find out what you like and then look on the internet, I found an excellent site that had gorgeous rings that were hundreds of pounds cheaper than the high street, and I was able to ring up and speak to the guy who was going to make it abd have a chat about the type of stone and get advise about what to spend money on etc. :)
1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
Also, don't copy stuff off the internet as everyone would have heard of it before.
Wouldn't dream of it, aside from the reason you mention, surely you owe it to the bride to put the proper effort in :) When it comes to the ring, it's not so much the cost that has me worried, just getting something she'll like, her tastes are quite difficult to gauge.
He who makes a beast out of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man.
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Congrats !
1.21 Gigawatts wrote:
But to make a formal speech in front of 90 guests, well, that got the nerves jangling somewhat
MMm, my speech was in front of 300 guests. I thought up some concepts in my head and invented the rest. Went perfectly. The least you prepare, the better. :-)
V.
V. wrote:
MMm, my speech was in front of 300 guests
:omg: I would have passed out!
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