The Tiger Mother and the lounge... [modified] THIS IS NOT ME, JUST AN EXCERPT FROM AN ARTICLE
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iris.frigole wrote:
•attend a sleepover •have a playdate
Wow, so they are socially inept then right? I'm sure they will be stable enough to be in great relationships. The wire mesh baby monkey comes to mind: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harry_Harlow[^]
iris.frigole wrote:
•be in a school play •complain about not being in a school play
iris.frigole wrote:
•not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
You could be withholding the world from world class actresses, but you'll never know.
iris.frigole wrote:
•play any instrument other than the piano or violin •not play the piano or violin
What is it about these 2 instruments that is different than any other instrument?
iris.frigole wrote:
choose their own extracurricular activities
Once again, what is the harm here? I actually think your daughters would not stick out if applying to top tier American Universities today. There's no diversity in interests or unique characteristics.
iris.frigole wrote:
•not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
In my opinion, this encourages cheating. My rationale is that since your daughters are not likely the most intelligent in their class, they must cheat to become the number 1 students. This is based on proper brain development through a range of experiences, and your daughters' experiences are extremely limited.
really, this is not what i am doing to my daughters... i don't even have two daugters!!! it's an excerpt from a WSJ article!!!!
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Jim, this is not me. It's an article I came across and just wanted to know what people thought of it.
iris.frigole wrote:
Jim, this is not me. It's an article I came across and just wanted to know what people thought of it.
:laugh: I feel for you man. Some of the reactions you got have been hilarious! Oh well, the good thing is they all probably think you own the Wall Street Journal :-D
Regards, Nish
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Next time I think you should make your post more "clear" as to what you are saying and what the article excerpt is saying. I don't think I was the only one here that misunderstood your post. I am glad to hear that you don't feel this way. :)
Slacker007 wrote:
Next time I think you should make your post more "clear" as to what you are saying and what the article excerpt is saying. I don't think I was the only one here that misunderstood your post. I am glad to hear that you don't feel this way.
You mean, make it "stupid" proof? :-D
Regards, Nish
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I thought it was pretty clear myself - he's posting about an article he read.
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I thought it was pretty clear myself - he's posting about an article he read.
Yeah, same here. There was no confusion there at all, unless anyone thinks the OP owns the Wall Street Journal domain. :)
Regards, Nish
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Next time I think you should make your post more "clear" as to what you are saying and what the article excerpt is saying. I don't think I was the only one here that misunderstood your post. I am glad to hear that you don't feel this way. :)
It was clear to me... :)
I wasn't, now I am, then I won't be anymore.
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iris.frigole wrote:
•attend a sleepover •have a playdate
Wow, so they are socially inept then right? I'm sure they will be stable enough to be in great relationships. The wire mesh baby monkey comes to mind: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harry_Harlow[^]
iris.frigole wrote:
•be in a school play •complain about not being in a school play
iris.frigole wrote:
•not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
You could be withholding the world from world class actresses, but you'll never know.
iris.frigole wrote:
•play any instrument other than the piano or violin •not play the piano or violin
What is it about these 2 instruments that is different than any other instrument?
iris.frigole wrote:
choose their own extracurricular activities
Once again, what is the harm here? I actually think your daughters would not stick out if applying to top tier American Universities today. There's no diversity in interests or unique characteristics.
iris.frigole wrote:
•not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
In my opinion, this encourages cheating. My rationale is that since your daughters are not likely the most intelligent in their class, they must cheat to become the number 1 students. This is based on proper brain development through a range of experiences, and your daughters' experiences are extremely limited.
wizardzz wrote:
What is it about these 2 instruments that is different than any other instrument?
Those two instruments are seen as the "pinnacle" of the classical music instruments, where one can be a superstar soloist (i.e. you can train and practice mostly alone).
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I thought it was pretty clear myself - he's posting about an article he read.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997Yes John, it is clear now (after he modified the article) but it wasn't clear when he originally posted. I wasn't the only one who was thrown off a bit. ;)
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Slacker007 wrote:
You, my friend, are full of sh*t. I don't believe this for a minute. You are looking for a fight.
:wtf: Dude, it's a wsj article! :~
Regards, Nish
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Slacker007 wrote:
Next time I think you should make your post more "clear" as to what you are saying and what the article excerpt is saying. I don't think I was the only one here that misunderstood your post. I am glad to hear that you don't feel this way.
You mean, make it "stupid" proof? :-D
Regards, Nish
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Nishant Sivakumar wrote:
You mean, make it "stupid" proof?
Yeah, something like that.
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wizardzz wrote:
What is it about these 2 instruments that is different than any other instrument?
Those two instruments are seen as the "pinnacle" of the classical music instruments, where one can be a superstar soloist (i.e. you can train and practice mostly alone).
Watched code never compiles.
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really, this is not what i am doing to my daughters... i don't even have two daugters!!! it's an excerpt from a WSJ article!!!!
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Jim, this is not me. It's an article I came across and just wanted to know what people thought of it.
Well then I'd say the same thing sort of, balance is still the key, I think whoever raises kids like this needs to look at that. Sorry to have implied this was you.
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What's wrong with being driven to succeed? Why are we in the west so eager to accept mediocrity as an achievement? These are exactly the reasons the west is in decline. Everyone is expected to succeed or fail to the same level so that nobody stands out as being "better". Your typical Chinese familiy is only allowed to have one child, and getting accepted into a college there is extremely difficult, so if you don't want your kid to be harvesting rice for the rest of his life, you have to use extreme parenting to give them an equal chance at success. I don't have a problem with the strategies listed in the OP as long as the parents aren't psychopaths.
".45 ACP - because shooting twice is just silly" - JSOP, 2010
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You can never have too much ammo - unless you're swimming, or on fire. - JSOP, 2010
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"Why don't you tie a kerosene-soaked rag around your ankles so the ants won't climb up and eat your candy ass." - Dale Earnhardt, 1997I didn't read the entire article, but I am flabbergasted that YOU are the one agreeing with it :wtf: while the rest are flaming and insulting the OP :omg:
Cheers, विक्रम (Have gone past my troika - 4 CCCs!) "We have already been through this, I am not going to repeat myself." - fat_boy, in a global warming thread :doh:
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Nishant Sivakumar wrote:
You mean, make it "stupid" proof?
Yeah, something like that.
Sorry, I am just trying to give you a hard time :-)
Regards, Nish
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I posted about the article because i genuinely wanted to know what you thought, it's not how i am raising my own children. I want to know CP member opinion because imo they mostly are smart, successful people, that's all. Was not meaning to disturb anyone.
Ah - that was not clear. Link to the article ? I read it as, you did this and wondered what we thought.
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iris.frigole wrote:
Jim, this is not me. It's an article I came across and just wanted to know what people thought of it.
:laugh: I feel for you man. Some of the reactions you got have been hilarious! Oh well, the good thing is they all probably think you own the Wall Street Journal :-D
Regards, Nish
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I didn't read the entire article, but I am flabbergasted that YOU are the one agreeing with it :wtf: while the rest are flaming and insulting the OP :omg:
Cheers, विक्रम (Have gone past my troika - 4 CCCs!) "We have already been through this, I am not going to repeat myself." - fat_boy, in a global warming thread :doh:
Vikram A Punathambekar wrote:
while the rest are flaming and insulting the OP
Poor OP. He posts a link. First sentence, he asks if anyone has read the article. Second sentence, he says he's posting an excerpt. And yet people overlooked all that! Truly unbelievable if you ask me :-)
Regards, Nish
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wizardzz wrote:
What is it about these 2 instruments that is different than any other instrument?
Those two instruments are seen as the "pinnacle" of the classical music instruments, where one can be a superstar soloist (i.e. you can train and practice mostly alone).
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Yes and no. The same can be said of the Cello. Ditto for the most of the other orchestral instruments, though their tend to be more concertoes for hte violin than others. And what about the voice? The only valid difference I can see is that violin/cello/viola/classical guitar and piano all lend themselves to polyphony/counterpoint. That's a crucial and useful part of learning music theory both as a performer, and as a composer. You could argue that out of all of these, you could drop the strings entirely (not a bad idea, I HATE the violin and viola) and just practice the piano.
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Anyone read this? http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html[^] Pasting an excerpt here: //BOF EXCERPT //*****THIS A EXCERPT FROM THE ARTICLE, NOT MY OWN DEEDS***** A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it’s like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I’ve done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do: •attend a sleepover •have a playdate •be in a school play •complain about not being in a school play •watch TV or play computer games •choose their own extracurricular activities •get any grade less than an A •not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama •play any instrument other than the piano or violin •not play the piano or violin //EOF EXCERPT what do you think?
modified on Friday, January 28, 2011 11:23 AM
OK, let me try again, having read the article. I would agree that a lot of western parents think kids will just raise themselves. I'd say I reach a happy medium. I know when my kids have homework, and I help with it, or make sure it gets done. I also want my kids to be kids, to enjoy their lives, and to do things like music, because they like them. Both my kids play an instrument, the older one practices a lot more, and she enjoys it a lot more having found she likes it, than if I was forcing her to do it.
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My first instinct was that this was really absurd, and that she was bringing up her kids with extremely strict rules. And that they'd grow up missing out on a lot of fun. But now I think that it's not as simple as that. Kids don't all behave the same, and most kids are strongly affected by their upbringing. To these kids, from a very early age, the idea strongly fed into their minds is that they need to study, excel at academics, and then when they become doctors and lawyers with stunning salaries, then they can enjoy life. So perhaps the kids don't really grow up in an unhappy state. I reckon there will be the odd moment when they see other kids have fun and may wish they could do that too. But that happens even to normally brought up kids when they see friends having fun with drugs and high school sex. But they know it's wrong, because their parents taught them it's wrong and they move on. Similarly these Asian kids will wish they could have sleep over parties and xbox games too, but they are programmed into thinking that these are all wrong and that their main aim should be their future. This is probably analogous to religious values that parents give their kids. Christian parents bring up their kids as Christians, Muslims, Jews, Hindus etc. probably do the same. To a non-religious person, this would seem like the wrong thing to do , but eventually it's the parents' decision and the kids grow up with these beliefs strongly ingrained into their minds. Religious values, career goals etc. are things where most kids never get a choice. Very early on, parents feed them with what they think is the best way to do these things. So very few kids ever know any better. Eventually, we should not be quick to judge. Sometimes when you look deeper, and try and empathize with how a different mindset would perceive a situation, things look a lot different from what they did originally.
Regards, Nish
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Nishant Sivakumar wrote:
Eventually, we should not be quick to judge. Sometimes when you look deeper, and try and empathize with how a different mindset would perceive a situation, things look a lot different from what they did originally.
I know that not "all" Chinese parents raise their children this way but I know that "many" Chinese parents raise their children this (not just a Chinese thing either) way...I went to private school for 10+ years any many Chinese (and other cultures) raise there kids like this...some even worse. You are right, we should not be quick to judge and I am very guilty of this. However, I have seen it, been around it, and I know that it messes up the kids in the long run.