House Keeper
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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loctrice wrote:
Is this out of the ordinary?
Not if you're Bill Gates... :-) No, not at all. You're both busy and need help so you got it. Nothing wrong with that.
"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." Red Adair. nils illegitimus carborundum me, me, me
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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Common, no, not amongst my colleagues, friends or relatives. Odd, not at all. I find this a lot less odd than people I know who barely see their kids or are too tired to do anything with them but go on yearly week long vacation they can't afford to reconnect with their kids. If you can afford it and feel the benefit it brings to your life is worth it... Whatever family time is left at the end of the day is precious and can't be brought back once it's passed.
loctrice wrote:
my training quit often
I also quit training often, perhaps more often than I begin :)
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Common, no, not amongst my colleagues, friends or relatives. Odd, not at all. I find this a lot less odd than people I know who barely see their kids or are too tired to do anything with them but go on yearly week long vacation they can't afford to reconnect with their kids. If you can afford it and feel the benefit it brings to your life is worth it... Whatever family time is left at the end of the day is precious and can't be brought back once it's passed.
loctrice wrote:
my training quit often
I also quit training often, perhaps more often than I begin :)
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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Sounds like you hired a fulltime one, yes that is out of the ordinary in the States, especially for a one child house. It is also out of the ordinary to home school, sure plenty of people do it, but it is out of the ordinary. What I find the most out of the ordinary is that you would home school your child, then hire a nanny to teach her? That being said, on the block I live there is one Asian nanny per house (I see them walking the white children like dogwalkers do), one housewife with 2+ children (I see Mrs. Trophy going to and from appointments in their Range Rover), and one male bread winner that is out of town on business 50% of the time (I see the limos every day). So depending on where you live, maybe it is quite ordinary.
"I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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A cow-orker has a Kurdish wife. They shipped one of her relatives over to act as a Nanny/house keeper. He installed nanny cams behind book cases disguised as clocks and such and has a window open on his work computer so he can "make sure every think is all right". :~
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Sounds like you hired a fulltime one, yes that is out of the ordinary in the States, especially for a one child house. It is also out of the ordinary to home school, sure plenty of people do it, but it is out of the ordinary. What I find the most out of the ordinary is that you would home school your child, then hire a nanny to teach her? That being said, on the block I live there is one Asian nanny per house (I see them walking the white children like dogwalkers do), one housewife with 2+ children (I see Mrs. Trophy going to and from appointments in their Range Rover), and one male bread winner that is out of town on business 50% of the time (I see the limos every day). So depending on where you live, maybe it is quite ordinary.
"I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson
Nanny doesn't teach her for the most part, we still do that. Actually she's pretty good on auto pilot :D She is pretty responsible. The nanny's job in that department is to help if she has a question, make sure she does her lessons we've planned while we are gone, and maybe help with the science projects and art occassionally. We are still very much a part of her education, we are not putting it off on the nanny at all. There are many reasons not to chose public school. We discussed private school instead of the nanny, but as I stated in a reply below the nanny gives us more time together with less stress.
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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loctrice wrote:
run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work
Sounds like being an adult and parent. Good thing you hired one.
Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.
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A cow-orker has a Kurdish wife. They shipped one of her relatives over to act as a Nanny/house keeper. He installed nanny cams behind book cases disguised as clocks and such and has a window open on his work computer so he can "make sure every think is all right". :~
We didn't hire someone we don't know. My daughter will also tell if anything happens :D (and she knows martial arts as well). My daughter is not in any danger, and I'm very confident that she won't be. Even if she is, I'm also confident that she would tell the moment something happened. The worst I have to worry about is making sure she doesn't get fast food, and if that is the most I have to worry about then I'm ok with it.
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Nanny doesn't teach her for the most part, we still do that. Actually she's pretty good on auto pilot :D She is pretty responsible. The nanny's job in that department is to help if she has a question, make sure she does her lessons we've planned while we are gone, and maybe help with the science projects and art occassionally. We are still very much a part of her education, we are not putting it off on the nanny at all. There are many reasons not to chose public school. We discussed private school instead of the nanny, but as I stated in a reply below the nanny gives us more time together with less stress.
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loctrice wrote:
We discussed private school instead of the nanny, but as I stated in a reply below the nanny gives us more time together with less stress.
Do you think she will reach an age when time with her peers will beneficial? I'm not trolling, just trying to understand the home school mindset. Most of the people I know that are interested in it for their children are so because they would've liked it themselves.
"I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson
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loctrice wrote:
run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work
Sounds like being an adult and parent. Good thing you hired one.
Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.
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loctrice wrote:
So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny.
I envy you! I wish I could afford to hire a housekeeper myself!
We are pretty simple in our needs. We also have a good budget plan that we stay active with, because my wife is an accountant and I think like a programmer. We've spent quite some time monitoring our spending and weeding out the inefficiencies. We found out where we waste money, and trimmed it out. We don't go out to eat often, instead we make sure we have nice things at home. We bake things for parties instead of buy them, we bring our snacks to work instead of buying them,etc.
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loctrice wrote:
We discussed private school instead of the nanny, but as I stated in a reply below the nanny gives us more time together with less stress.
Do you think she will reach an age when time with her peers will beneficial? I'm not trolling, just trying to understand the home school mindset. Most of the people I know that are interested in it for their children are so because they would've liked it themselves.
"I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson
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We didn't hire someone we don't know. My daughter will also tell if anything happens :D (and she knows martial arts as well). My daughter is not in any danger, and I'm very confident that she won't be. Even if she is, I'm also confident that she would tell the moment something happened. The worst I have to worry about is making sure she doesn't get fast food, and if that is the most I have to worry about then I'm ok with it.
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loctrice wrote:
My daughter will also tell if anything happens
Not to be too negative and nothing against you or your daughter but this statement has been made by many a parent before their child is abducted or molested.
Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.
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loctrice wrote:
We discussed private school instead of the nanny, but as I stated in a reply below the nanny gives us more time together with less stress.
Do you think she will reach an age when time with her peers will beneficial? I'm not trolling, just trying to understand the home school mindset. Most of the people I know that are interested in it for their children are so because they would've liked it themselves.
"I have a theory that the truth is never told during the nine-to-five hours. " — Hunter S. Thompson
Eventually I believe she will. And when she is old enough to make an educated decision on the matter then I will talk with her and decide what is best. We expect that near high school she will be wanting to be in private school. However, we do make sure she is not socially "cut off". She has friends, she is around people often, etc. Before the nanny we had a daycare we met through some friends of ours. Their two kids were among the several at the daycare, so it was not like she sits around alone or anything. We also have regular family get togethers, and let her invite friends over, etc. We have a friend of mine that comes and picks her up about once a month for the weekend with some other kids. These other kids she met before we moved, so it's like she gets to go hang with her old friends. We are active in making sure she does not have a social stigma. -edit- I didn't think you were trolling, and it's a valid question. Besides, you can't expect that you would be the first to challenge that decision (if you were challenging it I mean). -end-
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loctrice wrote:
My daughter will also tell if anything happens
Not to be too negative and nothing against you or your daughter but this statement has been made by many a parent before their child is abducted or molested.
Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.
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loctrice wrote:
run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work
Sounds like being an adult and parent. Good thing you hired one.
Failure is not an option; it's the default selection.
Not trying to be combative, just want to take everyone's opinions correctly. In order to do that I need to understand them correctly. Are you saying that as a joke? Or do you mean that I am attempting to escape responsibility that I should shoulder instead? Do you think this was a bad choice? If so, why?
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