House Keeper
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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I don't have kids yet, but this is something already spoke with my girlfriend. She is about to finish medicine and I am quite well payed. I will probably move with her when she get a place in a good hospital. A point I have in my list to speak with possible new companies is the flexible horary or even home-work. She is probably going to earn more than me very soon, so I don't mind staying at home and taking care of kids. On the other hand, if new job is good, has a nice atmosphere where I feel comfortable and I like it, then we will hire someone as well. As my father always tells: Money and nuts, to be used on demand So if paying someone to take care of some activities, you get more time to enjoy your family and increase the quality of your life... Why the hell should not be done?
Regards. -------- M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpfull answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
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I don't have kids yet, but this is something already spoke with my girlfriend. She is about to finish medicine and I am quite well payed. I will probably move with her when she get a place in a good hospital. A point I have in my list to speak with possible new companies is the flexible horary or even home-work. She is probably going to earn more than me very soon, so I don't mind staying at home and taking care of kids. On the other hand, if new job is good, has a nice atmosphere where I feel comfortable and I like it, then we will hire someone as well. As my father always tells: Money and nuts, to be used on demand So if paying someone to take care of some activities, you get more time to enjoy your family and increase the quality of your life... Why the hell should not be done?
Regards. -------- M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpfull answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
Nelek wrote:
As my father always tells: Money and nuts, to be used on demand
Brother! :-) (my dad used to say something similar!)
"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." Red Adair. nils illegitimus carborundum me, me, me
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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It depends on the culture of your country, in Oz like the US it would be unusual, in Singapore, like most affluent Asian countries this is normal and expected, 2 incomes and work commitments you get a maid, said maid does EVERYTHING around the house. I know of families with a maid for the dogs and another for the children. cultural thing.
Never underestimate the power of human stupidity RAH
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Nelek wrote:
As my father always tells: Money and nuts, to be used on demand
Brother! :-) (my dad used to say something similar!)
"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." Red Adair. nils illegitimus carborundum me, me, me
Hey bro :) Probably just the same as mine, the difference come for sure in my translation to english
Regards. -------- M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpfull answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
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:doh: You spotty my spilling erur >,< One of the benefits of having the nanny is we spend less time driving back and forth to the sitter, and less time running errands. This means more family time and less stress for all of us.
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loctrice wrote:
:doh: You spotty my spilling erur >,<
Yes I spottyed, but only quote when spilling erur is funy. :-)
loctrice wrote:
One of the benefits of having the nanny is we spend less time driving back and forth to the sitter, and less time running errands. This means more family time and less stress for all of us.
Exactly what I meant when saying it was not common to me but not odd. :thumbsup:
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It depends on the culture of your country, in Oz like the US it would be unusual, in Singapore, like most affluent Asian countries this is normal and expected, 2 incomes and work commitments you get a maid, said maid does EVERYTHING around the house. I know of families with a maid for the dogs and another for the children. cultural thing.
Never underestimate the power of human stupidity RAH
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I don't have kids yet, but this is something already spoke with my girlfriend. She is about to finish medicine and I am quite well payed. I will probably move with her when she get a place in a good hospital. A point I have in my list to speak with possible new companies is the flexible horary or even home-work. She is probably going to earn more than me very soon, so I don't mind staying at home and taking care of kids. On the other hand, if new job is good, has a nice atmosphere where I feel comfortable and I like it, then we will hire someone as well. As my father always tells: Money and nuts, to be used on demand So if paying someone to take care of some activities, you get more time to enjoy your family and increase the quality of your life... Why the hell should not be done?
Regards. -------- M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpfull answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
Nelek wrote:
So if paying someone to take care of some activities, you get more time to enjoy your family and increase the quality of your life... Why the hell should not be done?
This was kinda my thought when we decided to do it. It was a close tossup between the nanny and private school though.
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As a parent of 4 (and guardian of 1) you need to do what suits you best, not what others think you should do (mostly becuase the ones with the loudest opinions are usually wrong anyway). And it's really no one else's business what you do (provided it's legal! :-)) as long as you believe it to be of benefit to your family. Please stop worrying about what other people think and think for yourself!
"If you think it's expensive to hire a professional to do the job, wait until you hire an amateur." Red Adair. nils illegitimus carborundum me, me, me
mark merrens wrote:
Please stop worrying about what other people think and think for yourself!
I do think for myself. Considering other peoples opinions, and getting other peoples ideas is in not the same. Some people who are actually important to me thought this was strange, so I wanted to get other peoples thoughts on it as well. I am not worried at all about what they think, and I know that this decision will not make or break my relationship with these people. They also didn't do a good job at explaining why they thought that way. It's more trying to understand their point of view than asking someone to think for me, or being worried about what they think.
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So I recently hired a house keeper / nanny. I didn't think it was too odd myself. My wife works spiratic shifts, and I work 8-5 and have my training quite often. We hired someone to run errands, watch my daughter and help her with school work (she's home schooled) and keep up with house work we don't get to. Again, I didn't think this was odd at all. My sister and a couple of friends though, nearly spit out their drinks when they heard. I got the impression, mostly because they said as much, that this was very odd. After talking to them, I felt pretty strange about it. What do you people think? Is this out of the ordinary?
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I would do the same if I could afford it. The only thing I find odd is the homeschooling. Considering that you can afford a nanny/house keeper, I have my doubts that you're living in an area where the public schools would be that bad that you need to home school. The social interaction and actually, the ability to deal with life in general (and induhviduals) is best tought in reality. But that's just an opinion, and I don't know about any of your other circumstances.
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So it wasn't insanely boring and filled with arrogant teachers who corrected you when you were right and they were wrong, and loads of kids lacking anything remotely resembling brains? Or were you just OK with that?
harold aptroot wrote:
loads of kids lacking anything remotely resembling brains?
Hey, if you want to discuss with him, keep it between you and him. There's no need to talk about *me* and my cronies. :-\
"Real men drive manual transmission" - Rajesh.
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I would do the same if I could afford it. The only thing I find odd is the homeschooling. Considering that you can afford a nanny/house keeper, I have my doubts that you're living in an area where the public schools would be that bad that you need to home school. The social interaction and actually, the ability to deal with life in general (and induhviduals) is best tought in reality. But that's just an opinion, and I don't know about any of your other circumstances.
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I've wrote a term paper in college on public schools. It dealt with things like crime, gangs, No Child Left Behind, and many other things. There are many reasons to choose home schooling or private school over public school. Not to mention the fact that school is about learning academics. The fact that school is so much drama, and not at all like the real world, is a significant reason. We can make sure she is not sheltered, and teach her at home. The lessons actually go faster, and she learns quicker this way. The friends, karate, etc.. that we use to make sure she still has social interaction teach her how to do things like handle peer pressure, deal with ^%*holes, etc. This just allows us to keep learning about learning, and social experiences about life. We did, one school year, try to put my daughter in public school for a while. Mainly because she wanted to try it and see what would be different. They refused to do a placement test on her, and put her in first grade. She was nearly done with second grade.... but because of her age they decided that she couldn't do that. I think she could have started public school in second, or possibly even third grade. I think that we will keep her at home and re-evaluate her around middle school. If there is a private school that will put her at her level , determined by testing, then that will be a valid solution. She does well in her homework , and advances at a pretty decent pace. Her goal is to be in college when she's 16. I know this is possible because a good friend of mine was in college when he was 16.
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I've wrote a term paper in college on public schools. It dealt with things like crime, gangs, No Child Left Behind, and many other things. There are many reasons to choose home schooling or private school over public school. Not to mention the fact that school is about learning academics. The fact that school is so much drama, and not at all like the real world, is a significant reason. We can make sure she is not sheltered, and teach her at home. The lessons actually go faster, and she learns quicker this way. The friends, karate, etc.. that we use to make sure she still has social interaction teach her how to do things like handle peer pressure, deal with ^%*holes, etc. This just allows us to keep learning about learning, and social experiences about life. We did, one school year, try to put my daughter in public school for a while. Mainly because she wanted to try it and see what would be different. They refused to do a placement test on her, and put her in first grade. She was nearly done with second grade.... but because of her age they decided that she couldn't do that. I think she could have started public school in second, or possibly even third grade. I think that we will keep her at home and re-evaluate her around middle school. If there is a private school that will put her at her level , determined by testing, then that will be a valid solution. She does well in her homework , and advances at a pretty decent pace. Her goal is to be in college when she's 16. I know this is possible because a good friend of mine was in college when he was 16.
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It sounds to me that you're in control and that your motivation is sound. :thumbsup: Over here in Europe, you're mostly hearing about home schooling in the US in the context of flat earth society and the likes. Which probably isn't representative for most kids.
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