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[BillWoodruff]

Fredrik Bornander wrote: Any tips on how to deal with the separation anxiety?

Hi, I'm assuming that by the word "anxiety" (which has so many semantic connotations "layered over" it, that it can mean so many things), you mean: "feelings," as your post's title suggests. I think every person is quite different in what, at a given point in their life, in their current social context, in their culture, in their "natural temperament," helps them at moments like this. For me, a long walk out in nature, alone, would be the kind of "activity" I would choose to allow whatever feelings were present to emerge into my conscious mind, and be expressed, and experienced. And a talk with a trusted friend, who is completely "outside" the whole context in which the "separation" happened: with someone who knows how to listen, without judgement, would be equally helpful: to me. For me, that "trusted friend" would always be from "outside my family," (a sad comment on my family, perhaps ?) but, for many people, I think. they might find that "trusted friend," inside their family. For other people, I can imagine a near-death work-out in the gym might just the thing to bring them to the state where they could "let their feelings out;" for others, perhaps, getting drunk, or stoned, might work (but, I doubt that one, because it's often done as an "escape," and, while drunk or stoned, one may, indeed, pour out their feelings ... literally and figuratively ... whether they have a true "healing catharsis," of enduring value, is something I have serious doubts about). The gym-thing would work for me. For me, "grief" (I am not assuming you are grieving, by the way), is always a "flux" of different emotions: including, at times, anger, a depressing sense of emptiness, a frightened feeling that the future is uncertain, and unclear. And, at times, really relatively "crazy" thoughts: grandiose fantasies, thoughts of bizarre acts of "revenge." Or, "denial:" "this isn't really happening;" "it's just a mistake that will be cleared-up soon." And, a "flux" of varying mental content: from "worry" about: "what to do next;" to, sometimes, depressing thoughts about: "how I failed, how I could have done better, where did I go wrong." At other times, there are angry thoughts, angry emotions: "how unfair this is;" "how could that s.o.b. f*k me like this," etc. And, to balance the focus of these comments on what you might call the spectrum of "negative states," I'd like to asser

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Clearly you haven't tried hard enough. Have another go at it.

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[Marc Clifton]

Fredrik Bornander wrote:

Any tips on how to deal with the seperation anxiety?

Facebook. (note the joke icon) Seriously though - why not keep in touch occasionally with some of the folks you've worked with? Marc

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[Fredrik Bornander]

I'll try to but it's made difficult by me not only changing jobs but also leaving the country. (Probably should have mentioned that in the first post)

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[Marc Clifton]

Fredrik Bornander wrote:

but also leaving the country.

Ah. Well, it's hard to do. Even moving within the same country (to New York from California) I lost contact with a really good friend out there. Marc

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[Ron Anders]

I dunno... My dog chews on her leg. You might try that.

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Drinking excessive amounts of cleaning products has always worked for me...

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6 gins-and-tonics at a nearby bar in a good-bye-and-good-luck party with your co-workers. :laugh: