Child's Play
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Yesterday, we had a meeting at the school to review my 7 year old autistic daughters progress this week and to plan for next year. Being autistic, she struggles with communication and has been put in a 'social skills group' to foster communcation, co-operation, etc. The instructor over the social skills group relayed the following: My daughter and an autistic classmate were directed to play together, but they had to agree on the center they would be in. She wanted the home center, he wanted trucks and cards. Their resolution? Rock-paper-scissors. After a couple of ties, she won. No arguments from either child. I would that we, as adults, could resolve differences as cleanly. How has your child handled problem resolution? Tim
When my daughter was about 2½ years old the neighbor boy came over to play. They were getting along pretty well, that is until he decided he was going to sit at her little drawing desk and color. Her conflict resolution method was to slug him in the stomach and pull him off the chair leaving him to lie on the floor in the fetal position crying and gasping for air. That day we had a little talk with my daughter about proper conflict resolution. :-O [Edit] We were able to "fix" the neighbor boy with some Oreos and milk.
It was broke, so I fixed it.
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When my daughter was about 2½ years old the neighbor boy came over to play. They were getting along pretty well, that is until he decided he was going to sit at her little drawing desk and color. Her conflict resolution method was to slug him in the stomach and pull him off the chair leaving him to lie on the floor in the fetal position crying and gasping for air. That day we had a little talk with my daughter about proper conflict resolution. :-O [Edit] We were able to "fix" the neighbor boy with some Oreos and milk.
It was broke, so I fixed it.
Sounds like a perfectly reasonable solution to the given problem to me... It does, however, show slight lack of foresight; She might want to have somebody to play with again at some later point in life... :laugh:
Why can't I be applicable like John? - Me, April 2011
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Sounds like a perfectly reasonable solution to the given problem to me... It does, however, show slight lack of foresight; She might want to have somebody to play with again at some later point in life... :laugh:
Why can't I be applicable like John? - Me, April 2011
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Beidh ceol, caint agus craic againn - Seán Bán Breathnach
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Just because a thing is new don’t mean that it’s better - Will Rogers, September 4, 1932Johnny J. wrote:
It does, however, show slight lack of foresight
From her perspective, it was as you said, a reasonable solution. He did come over again, but he never did sit at her desk again.
It was broke, so I fixed it.
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Yesterday, we had a meeting at the school to review my 7 year old autistic daughters progress this week and to plan for next year. Being autistic, she struggles with communication and has been put in a 'social skills group' to foster communcation, co-operation, etc. The instructor over the social skills group relayed the following: My daughter and an autistic classmate were directed to play together, but they had to agree on the center they would be in. She wanted the home center, he wanted trucks and cards. Their resolution? Rock-paper-scissors. After a couple of ties, she won. No arguments from either child. I would that we, as adults, could resolve differences as cleanly. How has your child handled problem resolution? Tim
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Yesterday, we had a meeting at the school to review my 7 year old autistic daughters progress this week and to plan for next year. Being autistic, she struggles with communication and has been put in a 'social skills group' to foster communcation, co-operation, etc. The instructor over the social skills group relayed the following: My daughter and an autistic classmate were directed to play together, but they had to agree on the center they would be in. She wanted the home center, he wanted trucks and cards. Their resolution? Rock-paper-scissors. After a couple of ties, she won. No arguments from either child. I would that we, as adults, could resolve differences as cleanly. How has your child handled problem resolution? Tim
By sthcweaming and sthcweaming and sthcweaming until she was thick.
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Johnny J. wrote:
It does, however, show slight lack of foresight
From her perspective, it was as you said, a reasonable solution. He did come over again, but he never did sit at her desk again.
It was broke, so I fixed it.
S Houghtelin wrote:
From her perspective
Mine too, but then again: I'm not famous for my people skills... ;)
Why can't I be applicable like John? - Me, April 2011
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Beidh ceol, caint agus craic againn - Seán Bán Breathnach
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Da mihi sis crustum Etruscum cum omnibus in eo!
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Just because a thing is new don’t mean that it’s better - Will Rogers, September 4, 1932 -
When my daughter was about 2½ years old the neighbor boy came over to play. They were getting along pretty well, that is until he decided he was going to sit at her little drawing desk and color. Her conflict resolution method was to slug him in the stomach and pull him off the chair leaving him to lie on the floor in the fetal position crying and gasping for air. That day we had a little talk with my daughter about proper conflict resolution. :-O [Edit] We were able to "fix" the neighbor boy with some Oreos and milk.
It was broke, so I fixed it.
My brother's kid (when about 5 or so) floored another kid in a play area. When asked why she had done that she replied "I said excuse me, but he didn't move". She'd exhausted everything she'd been taught so came up with her own (more effective) solution.
“I believe that there is an equality to all humanity. We all suck.” Bill Hicks
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I have 2 children with Aspergers, the youngest one you have to reason with him positively and logically and it works My eldest he has a very black and white logic, this is how its done get over it attitude and he gets upset when proven wrong, we haven't yet found a way to deal with him positively at present
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As someone with (Thankfully mild) aspies I can sympathise with you. My sister's son has Asparagus too, again rather low level. It does mean that one gets some marvellous conversations with him about all kinds of science and maths. He is 8 and is probably capable of sitting a General Science GCSE. He loves computers and technology, and, best of all, I am the best Uncle he has. (None of the others are aspy uncles). He loves coming round to me and Michelle and I am in the throes of joy teaching him stuff. Enjoy the situation with your children and ensure they put the wonderful gift they have been given to good purpose. (Yes, a gift, the ability to learn, think logically, not get distracted and to develop an interest in the most outré subject and then learn about and study it to the nth degree until they are a world authority upon it. I fell upon Dr Who and could point out who played third monster from the left in a 1973 episode!. Point them to something more useful and let them rule their world).
--------------------------------- I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC Link[^]
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My brother's kid (when about 5 or so) floored another kid in a play area. When asked why she had done that she replied "I said excuse me, but he didn't move". She'd exhausted everything she'd been taught so came up with her own (more effective) solution.
“I believe that there is an equality to all humanity. We all suck.” Bill Hicks
ChrisElston wrote:
"I said excuse me, but he didn't move".
:laugh: I wonder how many of today's problems might have been avoided if some of today’s world "leaders" would have benefitted from children’s effective solutions when they were bullying the other kids on the playground. As George Harrison sang… In their eyes there’s something lacking, what they need’s a damn good whacking!
It was broke, so I fixed it.
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As someone with (Thankfully mild) aspies I can sympathise with you. My sister's son has Asparagus too, again rather low level. It does mean that one gets some marvellous conversations with him about all kinds of science and maths. He is 8 and is probably capable of sitting a General Science GCSE. He loves computers and technology, and, best of all, I am the best Uncle he has. (None of the others are aspy uncles). He loves coming round to me and Michelle and I am in the throes of joy teaching him stuff. Enjoy the situation with your children and ensure they put the wonderful gift they have been given to good purpose. (Yes, a gift, the ability to learn, think logically, not get distracted and to develop an interest in the most outré subject and then learn about and study it to the nth degree until they are a world authority upon it. I fell upon Dr Who and could point out who played third monster from the left in a 1973 episode!. Point them to something more useful and let them rule their world).
--------------------------------- I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC Link[^]
The youngest has a sponge like mind and is constantly asking questions that are what I would think above his age range, as for example, last night he asked what are clouds made from and how high up are they, as they are made from ice particles could we walk on them like we would do snow. Other topics have included the heart, boilers and space. The depth and complexity of his questions are always growing which myself and his mother encourage on a daily basis. My eldest how ever is more caught up in his own world and to be included you must accepted by him, but he posses the ability of a photographic memory (which has been tested, how I'm not sure or understand). I wouldn't change either of them!
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I have 2 children with Aspergers, the youngest one you have to reason with him positively and logically and it works My eldest he has a very black and white logic, this is how its done get over it attitude and he gets upset when proven wrong, we haven't yet found a way to deal with him positively at present
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has a very black and white logic, this is how its done get over it attitude and he gets upset when proven wrong
There are several cable news outlets in the US that would employ him based on this alone. It also sounds like he's ready for a career in politics. On a more serious note, I've found more success with children with Aspergers by letting them present their own logic and letting them come to the conclusion that they're wrong (with some guiding questions usually), versus presenting them with information to prove they're wrong. I sincerely wish you luck in with your sons.
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has a very black and white logic, this is how its done get over it attitude and he gets upset when proven wrong
There are several cable news outlets in the US that would employ him based on this alone. It also sounds like he's ready for a career in politics. On a more serious note, I've found more success with children with Aspergers by letting them present their own logic and letting them come to the conclusion that they're wrong (with some guiding questions usually), versus presenting them with information to prove they're wrong. I sincerely wish you luck in with your sons.
The youngest one, that we do and it works. The oldest you could teach him that 2 + 2 = 4 (simple example), but if you asking him and then he says 5 he will argue the point even if you assist positively in showing him the error in his ways. he is more severe in his Aspergers
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The youngest has a sponge like mind and is constantly asking questions that are what I would think above his age range, as for example, last night he asked what are clouds made from and how high up are they, as they are made from ice particles could we walk on them like we would do snow. Other topics have included the heart, boilers and space. The depth and complexity of his questions are always growing which myself and his mother encourage on a daily basis. My eldest how ever is more caught up in his own world and to be included you must accepted by him, but he posses the ability of a photographic memory (which has been tested, how I'm not sure or understand). I wouldn't change either of them!
Lobster Thermidor aux crevettes with a Mornay sauce, served in a Provençale manner with shallots and aubergines, garnished with truffle pate, brandy and a fried egg on top and Spam - Monty Python Spam Sketch
That memory will be a godsend. It is a very aspie trait. Fill him with lists and he will never forget them. I can do every capital of every state, and I am not even an American! (I can almost do every president in order, although I get confused by early 20th century for some reason). So encourage them to learn as much as they can. This[^] may prove of interest
--------------------------------- I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC Link[^]
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That memory will be a godsend. It is a very aspie trait. Fill him with lists and he will never forget them. I can do every capital of every state, and I am not even an American! (I can almost do every president in order, although I get confused by early 20th century for some reason). So encourage them to learn as much as they can. This[^] may prove of interest
--------------------------------- I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC Link[^]
As I never had (knowingly) anything to do with someone with asperger. It is still pretty rare isn't it? (So quite interesting that already a few of the CP members can report some of their experiences...) Still interesting how one can influence a child with asperger to accomplish really great things. But it still seems that one without it can't really grasp how those with interact with (or one might say "see") the world. One a side note: We had a classmate with autism at school for 2 or 3 years. But I didn't had much interaction with him (as he generally didn't say anything and as I remember there was always someone around him which had to give him information and tried to focus him on what he should do. Also, I don't know a lot about it as he wasn't in my class...)
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Yesterday, we had a meeting at the school to review my 7 year old autistic daughters progress this week and to plan for next year. Being autistic, she struggles with communication and has been put in a 'social skills group' to foster communcation, co-operation, etc. The instructor over the social skills group relayed the following: My daughter and an autistic classmate were directed to play together, but they had to agree on the center they would be in. She wanted the home center, he wanted trucks and cards. Their resolution? Rock-paper-scissors. After a couple of ties, she won. No arguments from either child. I would that we, as adults, could resolve differences as cleanly. How has your child handled problem resolution? Tim
How do you know someone has been diagnosed with Asperger's? They tell you when you meet them. I'm pretty sure I have it, not severe at all though. I'm almost 31, and when I was younger I feel like only full blown autism was diagnosed. Myself, and other people I know probably have it. Here's my theory on it: it's not a disorder, just the next evolution of the human brain.
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How do you know someone has been diagnosed with Asperger's? They tell you when you meet them. I'm pretty sure I have it, not severe at all though. I'm almost 31, and when I was younger I feel like only full blown autism was diagnosed. Myself, and other people I know probably have it. Here's my theory on it: it's not a disorder, just the next evolution of the human brain.
It is not a disease or a syndrome. That is just a name that the NT's* give it. It is a Condition. Like Happiness, Misery, Genius or Stoopid. We just have our wires crossed, leading to some interesting results, neurologically speaking. *NT = Neurotypical, hoi polloi, commonfolk, muggles, those without any superpowers!
--------------------------------- I will never again mention that I was the poster of the One Millionth Lounge Post, nor that it was complete drivel. Dalek Dave CCC Link[^]
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Yesterday, we had a meeting at the school to review my 7 year old autistic daughters progress this week and to plan for next year. Being autistic, she struggles with communication and has been put in a 'social skills group' to foster communcation, co-operation, etc. The instructor over the social skills group relayed the following: My daughter and an autistic classmate were directed to play together, but they had to agree on the center they would be in. She wanted the home center, he wanted trucks and cards. Their resolution? Rock-paper-scissors. After a couple of ties, she won. No arguments from either child. I would that we, as adults, could resolve differences as cleanly. How has your child handled problem resolution? Tim
Tim Carmichael wrote:
How has your child handled problem resolution?
They both use the infamous JSOP technique.
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How do you know someone has been diagnosed with Asperger's? They tell you when you meet them. I'm pretty sure I have it, not severe at all though. I'm almost 31, and when I was younger I feel like only full blown autism was diagnosed. Myself, and other people I know probably have it. Here's my theory on it: it's not a disorder, just the next evolution of the human brain.
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As I never had (knowingly) anything to do with someone with asperger. It is still pretty rare isn't it? (So quite interesting that already a few of the CP members can report some of their experiences...) Still interesting how one can influence a child with asperger to accomplish really great things. But it still seems that one without it can't really grasp how those with interact with (or one might say "see") the world. One a side note: We had a classmate with autism at school for 2 or 3 years. But I didn't had much interaction with him (as he generally didn't say anything and as I remember there was always someone around him which had to give him information and tried to focus him on what he should do. Also, I don't know a lot about it as he wasn't in my class...)
I have aspergers syndrome. And I am an Eagle Scout with all 129 Merit Badges, an Honors Student, on the Deans List (several times), and I got into Purdue (and about 15 other colleges/universities) with no difficulty. I have basically overcome my autism, and most people who meet me don't even realize I am autistic unless I tell them.
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S Houghtelin wrote:
From her perspective
Mine too, but then again: I'm not famous for my people skills... ;)
Why can't I be applicable like John? - Me, April 2011
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Beidh ceol, caint agus craic againn - Seán Bán Breathnach
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Da mihi sis crustum Etruscum cum omnibus in eo!
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Just because a thing is new don’t mean that it’s better - Will Rogers, September 4, 1932Johnny J. wrote:
I'm not famous for my people skills... ;)
That's probably why you are lurking around here. Sadly, same goes for me. But only with people who pissed me off.
cheers Marco Bertschi
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