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My Two-Cents on: How to handle (yourself around) the kids

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  • M Marc Clifton

    Edo Tzumer wrote:

    If your kids are over 10, I don't think I (perhaps anyone) can help you anymore...

    #8: It's never too late. Marc

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    Nagy Vilmos
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    100% with you. Eldest is just 11 and only now is she becoming a tolerable human being. She still has an awful temper, but at least it is now mostly controlled.

    Reality is an illusion caused by a lack of alcohol

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    • J Joezer BH

      I beg to differ. E.g. - If you give in to whining you had better pad your wallet (and savings) to when they reach adolescence ... :~

      Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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      Pete OHanlon
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      See, this can be dealt with by my rule: "I'm not going to give you money because you're an ungrateful little wretch"

      I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
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      • OriginalGriffO OriginalGriff

        Can I add "If you declare a punishment, carry it out in full"? Because if you don't they know that it doesn't matter and it reinforces negative behavior instead of making it less attractive.

        The universe is composed of electrons, neutrons, protons and......morons. (ThePhantomUpvoter)

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        Colin Mullikin
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        My dad hates parents that don't follow that rule. A woman we know once said to her 6 year old son, "If you don't stop that right now, I'm going to break your little arm." He stopped for about 3 seconds just long enough to listen to her, then continued doing what he was doing. My dad asked her if she truly was going to break his arm, to which she replied, "Well, no." He told her that she shouldn't threaten punishments that she has no intention of executing, because her son knows that he isn't actually going to get punished. Growing up, I knew that if my dad ever threatened any sort of punishment on me for something, and I still did that something, I was going to be punished to the full extent of what he said. I'm quite glad that I was raised that way, because it instills in you a sense of what repercussions your actions might have. You still have a choice, but you have to weigh all possible outcomes of that choice.

        The United States invariably does the right thing, after having exhausted every other alternative. -Winston Churchill America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between. -Oscar Wilde Wow, even the French showed a little more spine than that before they got their sh*t pushed in.[^] -Colin Mullikin

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        • N Nagy Vilmos

          100% with you. Eldest is just 11 and only now is she becoming a tolerable human being. She still has an awful temper, but at least it is now mostly controlled.

          Reality is an illusion caused by a lack of alcohol

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          Pete OHanlon
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          How did today go for her? Is she happy to have the first SATS out of the way?

          I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
          CodeStash - Online Snippet Management | My blog | MoXAML PowerToys | Mole 2010 - debugging made easier

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          • J Johnny J

            Mike Hankey wrote:

            < 11 You're the mentor. >11 You're the counselor.

            and = 11??? Out of range exception?

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            Mike Hankey
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            Johnny J. wrote:

            and = 11???
             
            Out of range exception?

            Reloading..you're bound to hit em if you keep at it. :)

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            • J Joezer BH

              You have got to get yourself some kids to know why it's worth everything!

              Never underestimate the difference you can make in the lives of others.

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              Moykn
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              :thumbsup: No way i could live anymore without my kids.

              Sorry, my english is bad! Everything is easy for the man who doesn't have to do it himself. (Fran Porretto)

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              • A Argonia

                When you f***ed up your relassionship with your kid(s) (or you don't have one) at her/his age of 20 - 25 its too late.

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                Marc Clifton
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                Argonia wrote:

                When you f***ed up your relassionship with your kid(s) (or you don't have one) at her/his age of 20 - 25 its too late.

                Well, reading books like Non-Violent Communication and Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and having both participated and run NVC workshops for adults and youth, I can definitely tell you, from first-hand experience, that no matter how fubar'd or non-existent you think your relationship with a kid is, it can be improved. And that even goes for young women that want to reconnect with their fathers who "abused" them (trying to keep it KSS here) when they were younger. So I know it IS possible - it may not happen for everyone, but it does happen for people that I personally know. Marc

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                • P Pete OHanlon

                  There's only one rule. Never lie to your kids. Remember - rules are made to be broken.

                  I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
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                  Erm, so the rule is actually "sometimes lie to your kids"? I do, however, concur.

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                  • P Pete OHanlon

                    How did today go for her? Is she happy to have the first SATS out of the way?

                    I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
                    CodeStash - Online Snippet Management | My blog | MoXAML PowerToys | Mole 2010 - debugging made easier

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                    Nagy Vilmos
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                    Went well yesterday. All questions answered and nothing on the paper bothered her - a good sign. If she can't ace SPAG today I will be shocked. When it comes to being a grammar Nazi, she is the Canine's Testicles. [pressed enter too quick] How did Catherine get on? Well, I hope.

                    Reality is an illusion caused by a lack of alcohol

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                      Went well yesterday. All questions answered and nothing on the paper bothered her - a good sign. If she can't ace SPAG today I will be shocked. When it comes to being a grammar Nazi, she is the Canine's Testicles. [pressed enter too quick] How did Catherine get on? Well, I hope.

                      Reality is an illusion caused by a lack of alcohol

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                      Pete OHanlon
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                      She was pleased with the paper - they did the Jungle Book, which was much more interesting than some of the texts they did during the preparations. She should, also, ace the SPAG.

                      I was brought up to respect my elders. I don't respect many people nowadays.
                      CodeStash - Online Snippet Management | My blog | MoXAML PowerToys | Mole 2010 - debugging made easier

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