It's that time
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I worked here before, and it was toxic. I went to another place and it was great, and I really learned a lot. They wanted me back here when that place closed down. Wanted me to change the world implementing the stuff I learned at the other place.... Couple months and I find out that it's the same. Still toxic. I gave it some time to see how it would work. 7 Months now, and it just gets worse. If I try to stay to myself and just "do my job" then I have an attitude because I'm not bubbly and talkative like normal. I've decided I'm moving on. I don't know how/when to tell the boss. I feel bad for leaving, even worse that this is the second time I've worked here.
If it's bad for you - move on! As fast as possible. When you feel bad it's bad for your family and friends too!!! Don't pity your boss, he's one of the reasons...
I'm not questioning your powers of observation; I'm merely remarking upon the paradox of asking a masked man who he is. (V)
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Don't tell him 'til you have another position lined up - you know that! But when you do tell him, tell him why. That way if they do ask you to come back again, you have a bargaining chip with which to beat him over the head: things have to change.
Those who fail to learn history are doomed to repeat it. --- George Santayana (December 16, 1863 – September 26, 1952) Those who fail to clear history are doomed to explain it. --- OriginalGriff (February 24, 1959 – ∞)
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I worked here before, and it was toxic. I went to another place and it was great, and I really learned a lot. They wanted me back here when that place closed down. Wanted me to change the world implementing the stuff I learned at the other place.... Couple months and I find out that it's the same. Still toxic. I gave it some time to see how it would work. 7 Months now, and it just gets worse. If I try to stay to myself and just "do my job" then I have an attitude because I'm not bubbly and talkative like normal. I've decided I'm moving on. I don't know how/when to tell the boss. I feel bad for leaving, even worse that this is the second time I've worked here.
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At first it sounds like you just want to GTFO, but then you're hesitating. So you're trying to extract some last something from that company. What?
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I am friends with a couple of they guys, and this was my first job out of college. I'm hesitant because I feel bad.
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I worked here before, and it was toxic. I went to another place and it was great, and I really learned a lot. They wanted me back here when that place closed down. Wanted me to change the world implementing the stuff I learned at the other place.... Couple months and I find out that it's the same. Still toxic. I gave it some time to see how it would work. 7 Months now, and it just gets worse. If I try to stay to myself and just "do my job" then I have an attitude because I'm not bubbly and talkative like normal. I've decided I'm moving on. I don't know how/when to tell the boss. I feel bad for leaving, even worse that this is the second time I've worked here.
A quick question. Have you told anyone who's in a position to do something about it that the job is toxic? If there's been an issue, you might have been able to get things sorted out just by talking to someone who probably didn't even know there was a problem.
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I don't know that it will be productive. I am not sure I could ever come back here again anyway. It will just never work.
Definitely don't tell them until you secure another position. It's not so much about burning bridges backwards. Are you prepared for being out of work for a year if they say "thanks, how about you just leave now then?"
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Stop feeling. (yes yes, easier said than done, do it anyway) Make a rational decision. That means good for you. Your first responsibility is to yourself.
Yep. Get out.
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A quick question. Have you told anyone who's in a position to do something about it that the job is toxic? If there's been an issue, you might have been able to get things sorted out just by talking to someone who probably didn't even know there was a problem.
It's a very small company. I haven't used those exact words, but someone else has. My manager actually says "this place is toxic" and "I think I'm goina quit" very often. The other programmer here doesn't expect to be here another 3 months. The other two are data processors, and throw temper tantrums pretty regularly.
Pete O'Hanlon wrote:
anyone who's in a position to do something about it
I don't think that person exists here. There are only 2 people "above" me. One is the manager, and the other is the boss. It's a small company.
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Definitely don't tell them until you secure another position. It's not so much about burning bridges backwards. Are you prepared for being out of work for a year if they say "thanks, how about you just leave now then?"
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Don't tell him 'til you have another position lined up - you know that! But when you do tell him, tell him why. That way if they do ask you to come back again, you have a bargaining chip with which to beat him over the head: things have to change.
Those who fail to learn history are doomed to repeat it. --- George Santayana (December 16, 1863 – September 26, 1952) Those who fail to clear history are doomed to explain it. --- OriginalGriff (February 24, 1959 – ∞)
OriginalGriff wrote:
That way if they do ask you to come back again, you have a bargaining chip with which to beat him over the head: things have to change.
:confused::confused: Go back again??? :omg: :wtf: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Fool me, once shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Did you ever see history portrayed as an old man with a wise brow and pulseless heart, waging all things in the balance of reason? Is not rather the genius of history like an eternal, imploring maiden, full of fire, with a burning heart and flaming soul, humanly warm and humanly beautiful? --Zachris Topelius Training a telescope on one’s own belly button will only reveal lint. You like that? You go right on staring at it. I prefer looking at galaxies. -- Sarah Hoyt
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OriginalGriff wrote:
That way if they do ask you to come back again, you have a bargaining chip with which to beat him over the head: things have to change.
:confused::confused: Go back again??? :omg: :wtf: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Fool me, once shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Did you ever see history portrayed as an old man with a wise brow and pulseless heart, waging all things in the balance of reason? Is not rather the genius of history like an eternal, imploring maiden, full of fire, with a burning heart and flaming soul, humanly warm and humanly beautiful? --Zachris Topelius Training a telescope on one’s own belly button will only reveal lint. You like that? You go right on staring at it. I prefer looking at galaxies. -- Sarah Hoyt
It never hurts to keep avenues open. Particularly if you can leave in a positive way so they know what the problem is. You never know, they *might* fix it.
Those who fail to learn history are doomed to repeat it. --- George Santayana (December 16, 1863 – September 26, 1952) Those who fail to clear history are doomed to explain it. --- OriginalGriff (February 24, 1959 – ∞)
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It's a very small company. I haven't used those exact words, but someone else has. My manager actually says "this place is toxic" and "I think I'm goina quit" very often. The other programmer here doesn't expect to be here another 3 months. The other two are data processors, and throw temper tantrums pretty regularly.
Pete O'Hanlon wrote:
anyone who's in a position to do something about it
I don't think that person exists here. There are only 2 people "above" me. One is the manager, and the other is the boss. It's a small company.
As long as someone else is aware it's toxic then you've done all that you can. Time to move on. Whereabouts are you based?
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I worked here before, and it was toxic. I went to another place and it was great, and I really learned a lot. They wanted me back here when that place closed down. Wanted me to change the world implementing the stuff I learned at the other place.... Couple months and I find out that it's the same. Still toxic. I gave it some time to see how it would work. 7 Months now, and it just gets worse. If I try to stay to myself and just "do my job" then I have an attitude because I'm not bubbly and talkative like normal. I've decided I'm moving on. I don't know how/when to tell the boss. I feel bad for leaving, even worse that this is the second time I've worked here.
Im_no_troll wrote:
I've decided I'm moving on. I don't know how/when to tell the boss.
After you have another job. :doh:
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OriginalGriff wrote:
That way if they do ask you to come back again, you have a bargaining chip with which to beat him over the head: things have to change.
:confused::confused: Go back again??? :omg: :wtf: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Fool me, once shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Did you ever see history portrayed as an old man with a wise brow and pulseless heart, waging all things in the balance of reason? Is not rather the genius of history like an eternal, imploring maiden, full of fire, with a burning heart and flaming soul, humanly warm and humanly beautiful? --Zachris Topelius Training a telescope on one’s own belly button will only reveal lint. You like that? You go right on staring at it. I prefer looking at galaxies. -- Sarah Hoyt
Dan Neely wrote:
insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
- Albert Einstein FTFY :-D
The report of my death was an exaggeration - Mark Twain
Simply Elegant Designs JimmyRopes Designs
Think inside the box! ProActive Secure Systems
I'm on-line therefore I am. JimmyRopes -
It never hurts to keep avenues open. Particularly if you can leave in a positive way so they know what the problem is. You never know, they *might* fix it.
Those who fail to learn history are doomed to repeat it. --- George Santayana (December 16, 1863 – September 26, 1952) Those who fail to clear history are doomed to explain it. --- OriginalGriff (February 24, 1959 – ∞)
OriginalGriff wrote:
You never know, they *might* fix it.
In my experience NOT! :~
The report of my death was an exaggeration - Mark Twain
Simply Elegant Designs JimmyRopes Designs
Think inside the box! ProActive Secure Systems
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As long as someone else is aware it's toxic then you've done all that you can. Time to move on. Whereabouts are you based?
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A bit too far for you to commute to my company then.
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I am friends with a couple of they guys, and this was my first job out of college. I'm hesitant because I feel bad.
Im_no_troll wrote:
I am friends with a couple of they guys,
You can still be friends with them when you leave. I am still friends with people I have worked with 30 years ago.
The report of my death was an exaggeration - Mark Twain
Simply Elegant Designs JimmyRopes Designs
Think inside the box! ProActive Secure Systems
I'm on-line therefore I am. JimmyRopes -
It's a very small company. I haven't used those exact words, but someone else has. My manager actually says "this place is toxic" and "I think I'm goina quit" very often. The other programmer here doesn't expect to be here another 3 months. The other two are data processors, and throw temper tantrums pretty regularly.
Pete O'Hanlon wrote:
anyone who's in a position to do something about it
I don't think that person exists here. There are only 2 people "above" me. One is the manager, and the other is the boss. It's a small company.
Im_no_troll wrote:
My manager actually says "this place is toxic" and "I think I'm goina quit" very often
Believe him and get out of there. :doh: He won't hold it against you and may even be a good reference in the future if you tell him why you are leaving. After you get another job that is.
The report of my death was an exaggeration - Mark Twain
Simply Elegant Designs JimmyRopes Designs
Think inside the box! ProActive Secure Systems
I'm on-line therefore I am. JimmyRopes
