Curiosity
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Hi, I have read this whole thread[^] in the Lounge and some questions popped in my mind. If you don't mind, I will post my questions and if you really, really don't mind, I want some honest answers. ;) Here it goes.. 0. Why do I sense that you guys are afraid of getting married? 1. What's with the wife that you don't like? 2. And you even give "survival guide" after getting married. What's that for? Just curious. :-O
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL. I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
Ok, read this whole thread before replying. 0. Some men (and women) and afraid to get married because they have witnessed bad marriages. My wife was 32 when we married; she was VERY cautious because her mother had two bad marriages and she wanted to be sure her's would be fulfilling and last. 1. It is not so much that men don't 'like' their wives, they don't understand them. I can say something to my wife and hear back, "Oh, you mean....". I reply, "That's not what I said..." and repeat my words exactly. Her next reply, "You said EXACTLY this..." and I hear something 90 degrees off of what I said. She heard my words, but interpretting them in a manner I did not mean, but, to her, that is exactly what I said. Then, I go out and chop firewood... stress relief. 2. A survival guide is like seasoned advice. Last night, I was talking to a friend whose wife had a baby 3 weeks ago. She wants to take a week and visit family out of state. His thoughts, "Go, but leave me here. I don't want to go." What she will hear, "I don't like your family and can't be bothered to spend time with them; it is more important to me to avoid them than it is to spend time with you." My advice, tell her how many vacation days you have left this year (5 I think) and ask when she would like him to take them. If he goes out of town, then he will have no time left for the rest of the year - no Thanksgiving time off, no Christmas time off. So, reword what he says and make it HER option. Does that help? Tim P.S. - My wife thinks she can program because she can change formulas in a spreadsheet; I am happy to let her have a toenail in my world and let her think she is swimming with the dolphins.
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0. Because we actually are. 1. Nothing. However we also like other people's wives. 2. Surviving. -- Carlo The Honest
Veni, vidi, vici.
CPallini wrote:
1. Nothing. However we also like other people's wives.
And divorcees. :cool:
You'll never get very far if all you do is follow instructions.
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I don't know if this is something peculiar for a woman, but I also enjoy my freedom. I have a fear of committing myself to someone just because I am not ready to give up the freedom I have now. How about love? Did you just marry her because you know how to tolerate each other? Or just because you are compatible?* *Sorry for nastiness.
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL. I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
Of course there's love. Without love there's no way we could put up with each other for very long. Also a good sense of humor goes a long way.
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Hi, I have read this whole thread[^] in the Lounge and some questions popped in my mind. If you don't mind, I will post my questions and if you really, really don't mind, I want some honest answers. ;) Here it goes.. 0. Why do I sense that you guys are afraid of getting married? 1. What's with the wife that you don't like? 2. And you even give "survival guide" after getting married. What's that for? Just curious. :-O
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL. I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
0. I'm not, I look forward to it. 1. With the woman I want to marry, nothing. 2. I don't understand it myself, but I suspect it's the doublethink of some men wanting to be married and single at the same time. :doh:
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CPallini wrote:
1. Nothing. However we also like other people's wives.
And divorcees. :cool:
You'll never get very far if all you do is follow instructions.
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Ok, read this whole thread before replying. 0. Some men (and women) and afraid to get married because they have witnessed bad marriages. My wife was 32 when we married; she was VERY cautious because her mother had two bad marriages and she wanted to be sure her's would be fulfilling and last. 1. It is not so much that men don't 'like' their wives, they don't understand them. I can say something to my wife and hear back, "Oh, you mean....". I reply, "That's not what I said..." and repeat my words exactly. Her next reply, "You said EXACTLY this..." and I hear something 90 degrees off of what I said. She heard my words, but interpretting them in a manner I did not mean, but, to her, that is exactly what I said. Then, I go out and chop firewood... stress relief. 2. A survival guide is like seasoned advice. Last night, I was talking to a friend whose wife had a baby 3 weeks ago. She wants to take a week and visit family out of state. His thoughts, "Go, but leave me here. I don't want to go." What she will hear, "I don't like your family and can't be bothered to spend time with them; it is more important to me to avoid them than it is to spend time with you." My advice, tell her how many vacation days you have left this year (5 I think) and ask when she would like him to take them. If he goes out of town, then he will have no time left for the rest of the year - no Thanksgiving time off, no Christmas time off. So, reword what he says and make it HER option. Does that help? Tim P.S. - My wife thinks she can program because she can change formulas in a spreadsheet; I am happy to let her have a toenail in my world and let her think she is swimming with the dolphins.
Tim Carmichael wrote:
She heard my words, but interpreting them in a manner I did not mean, but, to her, that is exactly what I said
Now, I can say, I'm a woman after all. IMO, the reason why WE are like that is because we are used to express ourselves through trivial words, like saying, "I'm fine" though we're not. Saying, "It's nothing" though deep inside, there's something bothering us. I don't know why are we like this, but in some cases, I can say that if I use "I'm fine" and "It's nothing", I just want to get my man's attention. I want him to push me to tell him what is really bothering me. Just a glimpse on how a woman's mind works. ;)
Tim Carmichael wrote:
reword what he says and make it HER option.
Maybe it applies to some, but for me, it's just a "Yes" or "No". And just give straight answer to my "Why" question.
Tim Carmichael wrote:
Does that help?
Yes. Thanks. :)
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL. I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64
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- Experience. Coming up on twenty-two years of it myself. 1) She just doesn't Wang Chung like she used to. :sigh: 2) You haven't truly mastered a subject until you've taught it. She's still the one for me.
You'll never get very far if all you do is follow instructions.
PIEBALDconsult wrote:
- She just doesn't Wang Chung like she used to.
Maybe she no longer likes Wanging your Chung because you've let yourself go a bit? :laugh:
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PIEBALDconsult wrote:
- She just doesn't Wang Chung like she used to.
Maybe she no longer likes Wanging your Chung because you've let yourself go a bit? :laugh:
Quad skating his way through the world since the early 80's... Booger Mobile - My bright green 1964 Ford Falcon - check out the blog here!! | If you feel generous - make a donation to Camp Quality!!
I think you have that backward. :badger:
You'll never get very far if all you do is follow instructions.
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I think you have that backward. :badger:
You'll never get very far if all you do is follow instructions.
Hey... whatever floats your boat!! ;-)
Quad skating his way through the world since the early 80's... Booger Mobile - My bright green 1964 Ford Falcon - check out the blog here!! | If you feel generous - make a donation to Camp Quality!!
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Hi, I have read this whole thread[^] in the Lounge and some questions popped in my mind. If you don't mind, I will post my questions and if you really, really don't mind, I want some honest answers. ;) Here it goes.. 0. Why do I sense that you guys are afraid of getting married? 1. What's with the wife that you don't like? 2. And you even give "survival guide" after getting married. What's that for? Just curious. :-O
Don't mind those people who say you're not HOT. At least you know you're COOL. I'm not afraid of falling, I'm afraid of the sudden stop at the end of the fall! - Richard Andrew x64