A Nice Tale to Relax You
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
Don't let it annoy you. She clearly must be worn out to even table the suggestion that your mother should step in. It sounds very stressful for all of you and I really hope the best for you all. Thankfully you've got this place to vent your frustrations. We're all ears. Are there any charities in your area that may be able to help?
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No? My bad.
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Don't let it annoy you. She clearly must be worn out to even table the suggestion that your mother should step in. It sounds very stressful for all of you and I really hope the best for you all. Thankfully you've got this place to vent your frustrations. We're all ears. Are there any charities in your area that may be able to help?
No, she really is a selfish bee-atch. Has been ever since they've been together and the relationship between the family and her have always been frosty. One of her highlights was telling my parents they were wrong to let my other brother move home after he separated from his wife as it was his fault [the ex had an affair] and the ex needed the support not him.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
This is not easy to judge*. The first time you have reported about your bro's cancer was months ago, and this is for sure a terrible experience for his wife. I can understand she needs a break. [EDIT] *Well, this[^] is exactly why it is not easy. Context makes it all.
~RaGE();
I think words like 'destiny' are a way of trying to find order where none exists. - Christian Graus Entropy isn't what it used to.
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This is not easy to judge*. The first time you have reported about your bro's cancer was months ago, and this is for sure a terrible experience for his wife. I can understand she needs a break. [EDIT] *Well, this[^] is exactly why it is not easy. Context makes it all.
~RaGE();
I think words like 'destiny' are a way of trying to find order where none exists. - Christian Graus Entropy isn't what it used to.
It's coming on for a year now and in all honestly he probably won't make another birthday [in April]. She is the one who has to be there.
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No? My bad.
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It's coming on for a year now and in all honestly he probably won't make another birthday [in April]. She is the one who has to be there.
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It's coming on for a year now and in all honestly he probably won't make another birthday [in April]. She is the one who has to be there.
My BIL&SIL had a preterm baby several years ago, who had to stay about 6 months in the hospital after his birth. I agree, this is not the same context at all, even if there were about three months uncertainty about whether if the baby could survive or not, but this meant a good lot of hospital hours each day for both of them alternately, to the point that they had to have a break at some point, no matter how much it was needed for them to be there. But again, not easy to comment from this side of the screen.
~RaGE();
I think words like 'destiny' are a way of trying to find order where none exists. - Christian Graus Entropy isn't what it used to.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
It doesn't address this specific situation, but I'd suggest someone contact McMillan Trust - they can arrange volunteers to help with driving to hospital and loads of similar things through their support network. (They were my favourite charity when I lived in the UK.)
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
I do not know if there is anything can help him (sounds too bad), but to curse her aloud and badly probably will help you...
I'm not questioning your powers of observation; I'm merely remarking upon the paradox of asking a masked man who he is. (V)
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
I live in Bangalore, India; there's something called Nightingale Services[^]. I find an equivalent service[^] in the UK. Not exactly the type of service your brother requires, but they may have contacts / references who may provide the kind of service needed. (I am not sure whether Kent is nearby where your brother lives).
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No, she really is a selfish bee-atch. Has been ever since they've been together and the relationship between the family and her have always been frosty. One of her highlights was telling my parents they were wrong to let my other brother move home after he separated from his wife as it was his fault [the ex had an affair] and the ex needed the support not him.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
Nagy Vilmos wrote:
His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro.
What I'm about to say is my own stupid opinion and will most likely offend some here, but... If a "wife" is tired of helping her husband, especially if he is this sick, and is tapping out, so to speak, then I have to question her love and loyalty to her husband, as a whole. BTW, Nagy, if this offends you, I will remove it. Just wanted to share my strong opinion on this topic you posted. I have seen similar scenarios in the past, and this is motive for my opinion. Stay strong.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
Sorry to hear about the whole situation. I am sure it must be difficult for everyone. It's difficult for me to say whether you should laugh or cry. But what I will say is give her the benefit of the doubt. She may be thinking of the worse case scenarios so often that it is mentally draining her. As others have stated it is good to at least speak this out to fellow cp'ers (CPians?) who have a sympathetic ear to listen. You and your family are in my prayers.
"Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul." -Douglas MacArthur
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
Sorry to hear that Nagy. It's easy to understand your frustration / anger with that. But it is difficult to say anything about the situation. So I won't. Best wishes for you and your family.:rose::rose::rose:
M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
Our thoughts to you and your brother my friend. Your SIL wouldn't be the first in-law that prompts visions of being strangled with their own entrails. I hope that you can take refuge in some of that wine you posted on yesterday and that your world rights itself soon.
Life is like a s**t sandwich; the more bread you have, the less s**t you eat.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
Agreed, this is not relaxing. And no, it is not hard to judge... After reading some of your posts here... I feel sorry for your family and you. What a... Why have you posted this on the lounge? That was clearly soapbox material... now we can't tell you what we think.
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One of my brothers is sick, real sick. He has a tumour in his brain and the constant treatment has left him a shadow of his former self. His last Chemo session was cancelled as his white blood cell level was around 60% of what is needed to take the treatment. Currently he is having 2-3 outpatient every single week. His wife of 22 years has complained to our Mum that "The constant hospital have left her drained." and asked for help ferrying him to and fro. I elephant you not. She doesn't want to keep taking her husband to hospital, because it tires her out, so she's asked Mum to step in. This is the same mother who has had a tit lopped off and enough tissue removed to fill at least one leg in treating her own cancer. The same woman my dearest sister-in-law calls a useless baggage. Did I mention my Dad also has regular check-ups for his failing eyes and you guess who bloody well has to take him to clinic. So my 'useless old baggage' [I will call her this in an affectionate manner] of a mother has, at the age of 77 with failing health of her own, had to step into the breach. I really don't know if I should laugh or cry.
Just let it go, some people just doesn't have it, and aren't worth the cursing. Curse the cancer instead, and keep affectionate to your Mother. She's the one needing it most.
Wrong is evil and must be defeated. - Jeff Ello[^]
