Couple.Divorce()

[Navin]

Just the opinions of a guy who's never been married, but seen lots of people get married. 1. Commitment problems, including but not limited to not viewing marriage as a lifetime commitment. 2. Getting married too quickly. 3. Getting marreid to the wrong person (different values, beliefs, etc.) But in fairness, it may also be related to: 4. People may be less afraid of getting out of bad or abusive relationships. You can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friend's nose.

[Navin]

Mauricio Ritter wrote: If it doesn't implement one of those (or one of them have a bug)... cabbboommm ! Exception ! Call Divorce method to clean up the mess. Yep. However the Divorce() method often has memory leaks or does not do a complete uninstall. :-D You can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friend's nose.

[Mauricio Ritter]

Navin wrote: but you can't pick your friend's nose X| X| X| disgusting... but funny :laugh: :laugh: Mauricio Ritter - Brazil Sonorking now: 100.13560 MRitter
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[Paul Watson]

You think just like me in this regard.

Paul Watson
Bluegrass
Cape Town, South Africa

Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

[Mauricio Ritter]

Navin wrote: However the Divorce() method often has memory leaks or does not do a complete uninstall Oh yeah ! Specially if you have members in the Kids collection. ;P Mauricio Ritter - Brazil Sonorking now: 100.13560 MRitter
Life is a mixture of painful separations from your loved ones and joyful reunions, without those two we'd just be animals I guess. The more painful the separation, that much more wonderful will be the reunion - Nish
"Th@ langwagje is screwed! It has if's but no end if's!! Stupid php cant even do butuns on forms! VISHAUL BASICS ARE THE FUTSHURE!" - Simon Walton

[l a u r e n]

women are taking more equality from the world than they used to have and are not so prepared to put up with so much crap from a wrong relationship as they were due to social stigmas etc its a healthy trend ... it means bad relationships might not last so long and kids might not have to grow up seeing mom and dad sniping at each other ... it might make kids realise marriage is a serious thing and that they should take their time before jumping into it did for me

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[Paul Watson]

Nitron wrote: Lack of religion; not letting God into your relationship. So two atheists have no chance?

Paul Watson
Bluegrass
Cape Town, South Africa

Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

[Joao Vaz]

peterchen wrote: Removal of economic pressure, loss of classic role models, emphasis on individuality and personal happiness, general loss of responsibility and dedication. In that order. Succint and to the point. I couldn't agree more :cool: Cheers,Joao Vaz And if your dream is to care for your family, to put food on the table, to provide them with an education and a good home, then maybe suffering through an endless, pointless, boring job will seem to have purpose. And you will realize how even a rock can change the world, simply by remaining obstinately stationary.-Shog9 Remember just because a good thing comes to an end, doesn't mean that the next one can't be better.-Chris Meech

[Tim Smith]

Lauren is exactly right here. Woman's rights has caused a lot of the problem but IT IS A GOOD THING. Women now have more power to leave a bad relationship where as before only the man would initiate a divorce. Now you actually have two people who must be happy in the relationship. There are other causes. But I think this cause is too often overlooked because of the PC problems involved with the argument. Tim Smith I'm going to patent thought. I have yet to see any prior art.

[Paul Watson]

l a u r e n wrote: women are taking more equality from the world than they used to have and are not so prepared to put up with so much crap from a wrong relationship as they were due to social stigmas etc I think it works for men as well. Less social stigma, as you say, around getting divorced means men with big status issues are more able to consider getting divorced. Before it was a case of "get divorced, loose status, loose money, respect etc." so they would rather not. And hey, women can give just as much crap as men can :) l a u r e n wrote: did for me My parents were happier and better friends after their divorce. It made for a better relationship for the whole family as well as there was less tension.

Paul Watson
Bluegrass
Cape Town, South Africa

Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

[Paul Watson]

peterchen wrote: loss of classic role models What is a classical role model and how does it help?

Paul Watson
Bluegrass
Cape Town, South Africa

Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

[Megan Forbes]

I'm no expert (having never been divorced), but I think part of it is the instant gratification lifestyle we lead these days. That, and the fact that expecting such a lifestyle is owed to us. One day you decide you would be happy married - so you get married, as quickly as possible. A few years later you decide you would be happier if you were not married - easy solution, get a divorce as quickly as possible. The world owes you happines, why should you work for it. Very sad state of mind we seem to have found for ourselves. Especially as experience teaches any sane person that the things they've had to work hardest for are the things they enjoy and appreciate the most. Hmmm... I'm not typing very coherently today am I? :rolleyes:

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[Kevnar]

I blame the "Wedding Industry". These people that sell the bridal mags, the dress makers, the caterers, decorators, the "Wedding Story" type shows, etc. They fill women's heads with all these romanticized notions of "the beautiful day". So women want to rush to the altar so they can be the star of a little fairy tale show cooked up by some high-priced wedding planner. The trouble is, after that the women realize that the reality of living with that person for the rest of your life is nowhere near as romantic as their wedding "show" might have predicted. Most marriages that are going to end in divorce usually end within 2 to 5 years. The groom is just a prop in the ceremony. It's all about the bride, and every woman wants to be a bride. It's like I used to say, "You don't want to marry that guy. You just want to have a wedding." I bet the divorce rate would drop off signifigantly if the wedding industry offered people mock weddings. The whole ceremony, the decorations, the dress, etc, with some stand-up hottie of a groom. Set that all up so the women can get all the gooey feelings of a wedding, without having to actually marry anyone. As for men, they just want to get their carrot wet, so to speak. They think marriage will ensure a steady supply of sex. Then they are surprised to find that the opposite is true. The sex was just the carrot to lure them into the wedding. Now that it's over, it's over. Granted there are exceptions to these rules, and I'm sure you'll all stand up in protest, but I'm just ranting about the typical scenarios here. If you've found something good, congratulations. Doesn't mean I'm wrong though. ;P Just my cynical 2-cent opinion. Since you asked.

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[Tim Smith]

I think you aren't remembering what it was like for women even pre 1960. There was a huge social stigma that women suffered that men didn't. A divorce was always the woman's fault in peoples eyes. Then if you roll back the time 30 more years, women were basically still property. They had limited power in the relationship. Women's rights over the last 100 years has really changed things for women more than most even realized. If you talk about older African American's they will tell you the same about the civil rights movement. We might not be there yet, but us youngsters really don't know what it was really like 50 years ago. Tim Smith I'm going to patent thought. I have yet to see any prior art.

[Nitron]

The grounds for athiesm are shaky at best. I don't mean to turn this in a religious direction, but I will attempt to make one small point. Before evaluating any given fact about religion, people bring to the table a pair of rose-colored glasses representing their world-view. This world-view is a culimination of all their experiences and beliefs, as well as the root of their logic. Everyone needs a starting point for their arguments: a faith-based assumption so to speak. From the secular athiest point of view, all there exists in the universe is molecules in motion. Love is nothing more than random firings of neurons that can be duplicated by consuming lots of cholocate. It is their belief that the universe came into being merely by chance, and there is no intelligent creator (God). However, that assumption is not scientifically provable, and as thus is merely an assumption of faith. There is no scientific method to prove what is beyond the universe or supernatural. Now from a bible-believing point of view, the faith assumption is that the bible is the inerrant word of god. A revealing of the nature of God to his people. Like the secular point of view, this assumption is also not provable by scientific method, but is a faith assumption. Thus it is the bible-believer who argues that the only reason the laws of the universe make any sense is that there is an intelligent creator. It is the bible-believer who states that it is no accident that the earth is the exact distance from the sun that it needs to be. The bible-believer will argue that the only reason man can do what he does is that an intelligent creator set it all in motion. Well, considering those two points of view, an athiest marriage is nothing more than random electrical neural patterns, with no set course and no arguable reason to be in the relationship in the first place. Wheras, the believers in a supreme being (God) have taken an oath in front of God as has been revealed to them in God's word. Thus the marriage has a goal and substance, and is not merely random chemical and electrial responses to the presence of the other individual. I am not intending to move this to religious debate, just supporting my response. - Nitron

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[Paul Watson]

So a man never lost any status from a divorce? I am not just talking about kings, politicians and top business men but also just the average joe on the street. I am curious. While I do realise women were treated very poorly I did also think that men suffered loss of face (especially religious men) in divorces.

Paul Watson
Bluegrass
Cape Town, South Africa

Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

[Paul Watson]

You have a very wrong idea about what and how atheists think then. But so as to not end up in a lengthy debate you answered my question and the answer was: No, atheists have no chance in marriage. I disagree, but thanks for the response.

Paul Watson
Bluegrass
Cape Town, South Africa

Macbeth muttered: I am in blood / Stepped in so far, that should I wade no more, / Returning were as tedious as go o'er DavidW wrote: You are totally mad. Nice.

[Kevnar]

I'm all for extensive pre-nuptual counselling being mandatory for any couple thinking of tying the knot. Make sure they are compatable, both with each other and with the relationship itself. It's funny how people are forced to take 4-8 years of career training before they are allowed to practice their occupation of choice, law, medicince, whatever, but when it comes to a life-long choice like marriage or parenthood, any idiot with gentials can sign up and ruin someone's life with no training at all.

"How many more people have to die before no one ever dies again?" - Daniel Haley, The Onion

[Navin]

Yes, somehow IAlimony and IChildSupport objects never seem to get deleted. :-D You can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friend's nose.

[brianwelsch]

Paul Watson wrote: Simple enough question Not quite. I think part of the problem is we are in between tradition and self-empowerment. With that, I mean, there were traditional reasons for marriage and reasons to keep them together, whether they were political, financial, social, whatever. Today, marriage is more becoming an expression of love. The problem is we too often enter the contract under the of traditional reasons, even though our true expectation is that of a beautiful life of love and romance and support. We buy the fairytale idea of what marriage is, no matter what those who are married are telling us, but then leave chance to ensure it for us. One day, we wake up wondering what the hell happened here!? Then, it a fit of trying to reclaim our lives and "try it again", we convince ourselves divorce will be tough for a while, but I'll survive, and who knows maybe even be happy on the other side of it. By and large, society supports this because you can easily blame the other party for all wrongs, and feel good about yourself. Who can deny your wish to find happiness after all? Obviously, all cases are unique, and I in no way intend to say that divorce is wrong in any case, so if you are divorced, please take no offense at my over simplification of it. BW "We get general information and specific information, but none of the specific information talks about time, place or methods or means..." - Tom Ridge - US Secretary of Homeland Security