Friends
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It's a strange thing this modern world, there are plenty of people I am 'friends' with on Facebook who I have never met, but some I consider to be friends in the real sense of the word. Steve Tickle was very much one of those, we talked about anything and everything online, I liked him a lot and he was a very good guy. Totally shocked to hear this evening that he has died, although perhaps fitting that I heard about his death on Facebook. I shall miss him, that man I've never met. My thoughts are with his daughters and those who cared for him. I've actually known him in an online sense for quite a few years before Facebook. We share a common interest, and he only lived around 15 miles from me. Nearly met a number of times, but on such occasions that could have brought us together one or the other couldn't make it. Absolutely gutted now that we never will. Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met? It's a strange thing this modern world.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
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Eddy Vluggen wrote:
Not at all; physically "meeting" is overrated.
Beg to differ man. You never really know a person until you hang out with them on a regular basis. Even words are only 30% of communication, the rest is attitude, energy, body language, etc. The point being, I can post about my life all day long, but that falls very short to one of you guys actually going out clubbing or whatever with me for instance to see just who I really am behind the veil of the Internet.
Jeremy Falcon
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chriselst wrote:
Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met?
Not if there is a rich widow involved. :cool: (I prefer not to go to any funerals anyway.)
It's another strange thing, but some of my favourite times have been at funerals, or more specifically wakes I suppose. A group of people gathered together because of their love or affection for one person and sharing memories of good times. Still best not to have to go to one, but the older you get the more there are.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
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It's another strange thing, but some of my favourite times have been at funerals, or more specifically wakes I suppose. A group of people gathered together because of their love or affection for one person and sharing memories of good times. Still best not to have to go to one, but the older you get the more there are.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
chriselst wrote:
the older you get the more there are.
Ah, there's a built-in escape clause. :~
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chriselst wrote:
the older you get the more there are.
Ah, there's a built-in escape clause. :~
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It's a strange thing this modern world, there are plenty of people I am 'friends' with on Facebook who I have never met, but some I consider to be friends in the real sense of the word. Steve Tickle was very much one of those, we talked about anything and everything online, I liked him a lot and he was a very good guy. Totally shocked to hear this evening that he has died, although perhaps fitting that I heard about his death on Facebook. I shall miss him, that man I've never met. My thoughts are with his daughters and those who cared for him. I've actually known him in an online sense for quite a few years before Facebook. We share a common interest, and he only lived around 15 miles from me. Nearly met a number of times, but on such occasions that could have brought us together one or the other couldn't make it. Absolutely gutted now that we never will. Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met? It's a strange thing this modern world.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
chriselst wrote:
Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met?
Not at all.
Wrong is evil and must be defeated. - Jeff Ello Any organization is like a tree full of monkeys. The monkeys on top look down and see a tree full of smiling faces. The monkeys on the bottom look up and see nothing but assholes.
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It's a strange thing this modern world, there are plenty of people I am 'friends' with on Facebook who I have never met, but some I consider to be friends in the real sense of the word. Steve Tickle was very much one of those, we talked about anything and everything online, I liked him a lot and he was a very good guy. Totally shocked to hear this evening that he has died, although perhaps fitting that I heard about his death on Facebook. I shall miss him, that man I've never met. My thoughts are with his daughters and those who cared for him. I've actually known him in an online sense for quite a few years before Facebook. We share a common interest, and he only lived around 15 miles from me. Nearly met a number of times, but on such occasions that could have brought us together one or the other couldn't make it. Absolutely gutted now that we never will. Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met? It's a strange thing this modern world.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
I've had several online friends whose funerals I would've gone to if they were within driving distance instead of cross country flights.:rose:
Did you ever see history portrayed as an old man with a wise brow and pulseless heart, waging all things in the balance of reason? Is not rather the genius of history like an eternal, imploring maiden, full of fire, with a burning heart and flaming soul, humanly warm and humanly beautiful? --Zachris Topelius Training a telescope on one’s own belly button will only reveal lint. You like that? You go right on staring at it. I prefer looking at galaxies. -- Sarah Hoyt
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Eddy Vluggen wrote:
Not at all; physically "meeting" is overrated.
Beg to differ man. You never really know a person until you hang out with them on a regular basis. Even words are only 30% of communication, the rest is attitude, energy, body language, etc. The point being, I can post about my life all day long, but that falls very short to one of you guys actually going out clubbing or whatever with me for instance to see just who I really am behind the veil of the Internet.
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
You never really know a person until you hang out with them on a regular basis.
There are persons I knew intimately but never "really knew". I hang out daily with some smokers from a different department for 15 minutes, three times a day. Do I really need to get to know them all in each possible way before I can admit that there is or has been an emotional bond? I consider my neighbours friends; they're too old for clubbing, and I hardly know them, but they feed me pastry and coffee.
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
that falls very short to one of you guys actually going out clubbing or whatever with me for instance to see just who I really am behind the veil of the Internet
The only way we go clubbing is when we'd be dating, which is not going to happen. And even when drunk, part of the veil remains - it's what sets us apart from animals.
Bastard Programmer from Hell :suss: If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
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That's how you win at life, by going to more funerals than your mates.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
A mate queried of me, "When I pass on before you, you gonna go to my funeral?" "Hell, no!" I says, "Not if yer not gonna go to mine!" -------------- Go anyway!
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It's a strange thing this modern world, there are plenty of people I am 'friends' with on Facebook who I have never met, but some I consider to be friends in the real sense of the word. Steve Tickle was very much one of those, we talked about anything and everything online, I liked him a lot and he was a very good guy. Totally shocked to hear this evening that he has died, although perhaps fitting that I heard about his death on Facebook. I shall miss him, that man I've never met. My thoughts are with his daughters and those who cared for him. I've actually known him in an online sense for quite a few years before Facebook. We share a common interest, and he only lived around 15 miles from me. Nearly met a number of times, but on such occasions that could have brought us together one or the other couldn't make it. Absolutely gutted now that we never will. Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met? It's a strange thing this modern world.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
Why are you talking to me?
I wanna be a eunuchs developer! Pass me a bread knife!
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
You never really know a person until you hang out with them on a regular basis.
There are persons I knew intimately but never "really knew". I hang out daily with some smokers from a different department for 15 minutes, three times a day. Do I really need to get to know them all in each possible way before I can admit that there is or has been an emotional bond? I consider my neighbours friends; they're too old for clubbing, and I hardly know them, but they feed me pastry and coffee.
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
that falls very short to one of you guys actually going out clubbing or whatever with me for instance to see just who I really am behind the veil of the Internet
The only way we go clubbing is when we'd be dating, which is not going to happen. And even when drunk, part of the veil remains - it's what sets us apart from animals.
Bastard Programmer from Hell :suss: If you can't read my code, try converting it here[^]
Eddy Vluggen wrote:
Do I really need to get to know them all in each possible way before I can admit that there is or has been an emotional bond? I consider my neighbours friends; they're too old for clubbing, and I hardly know them, but they feed me pastry and coffee.
That's nothing to do with the point. I'm saying you cannot really get to know a person unless you hang out with them offline. You said it's overrated I say it's not. I do agree you can get to know someone online, and you can not know someone offline. Nobody is arguing that. I'm saying you cannot *really* know a person until you meet them offline.
Eddy Vluggen wrote:
And even when drunk, part of the veil remains - it's what sets us apart from animals.
True, but by and large, the Internet tends to host people with a lot more social issues and thus bigger veils than most mediums we've seen in recent history. Not to mention that fake veil is a lot easier to spot in person than online. Sure, people still have one offline, but like I said online peeps are always more "bad ass", whatever etc. in their persona than they are in real life.
Jeremy Falcon
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It's a strange thing this modern world, there are plenty of people I am 'friends' with on Facebook who I have never met, but some I consider to be friends in the real sense of the word. Steve Tickle was very much one of those, we talked about anything and everything online, I liked him a lot and he was a very good guy. Totally shocked to hear this evening that he has died, although perhaps fitting that I heard about his death on Facebook. I shall miss him, that man I've never met. My thoughts are with his daughters and those who cared for him. I've actually known him in an online sense for quite a few years before Facebook. We share a common interest, and he only lived around 15 miles from me. Nearly met a number of times, but on such occasions that could have brought us together one or the other couldn't make it. Absolutely gutted now that we never will. Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met? It's a strange thing this modern world.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
chriselst wrote:
Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met?
Not in the slightest. If you feel like you should be there, go; it's more comfort to the family to see one more person show up, even if they don't know who you are. They'd be more likely to complain if they do know you and don't like you, than if they don't know you at all.
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It's a strange thing this modern world, there are plenty of people I am 'friends' with on Facebook who I have never met, but some I consider to be friends in the real sense of the word. Steve Tickle was very much one of those, we talked about anything and everything online, I liked him a lot and he was a very good guy. Totally shocked to hear this evening that he has died, although perhaps fitting that I heard about his death on Facebook. I shall miss him, that man I've never met. My thoughts are with his daughters and those who cared for him. I've actually known him in an online sense for quite a few years before Facebook. We share a common interest, and he only lived around 15 miles from me. Nearly met a number of times, but on such occasions that could have brought us together one or the other couldn't make it. Absolutely gutted now that we never will. Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met? It's a strange thing this modern world.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
If you don't go, someday you will regret.
In code we trust !
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It's a strange thing this modern world, there are plenty of people I am 'friends' with on Facebook who I have never met, but some I consider to be friends in the real sense of the word. Steve Tickle was very much one of those, we talked about anything and everything online, I liked him a lot and he was a very good guy. Totally shocked to hear this evening that he has died, although perhaps fitting that I heard about his death on Facebook. I shall miss him, that man I've never met. My thoughts are with his daughters and those who cared for him. I've actually known him in an online sense for quite a few years before Facebook. We share a common interest, and he only lived around 15 miles from me. Nearly met a number of times, but on such occasions that could have brought us together one or the other couldn't make it. Absolutely gutted now that we never will. Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met? It's a strange thing this modern world.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
chriselst wrote:
Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met?
If people ask, just say you met online and started a relationship. seriously, If people ask, just say you knew him and have good memories of him.
I'd rather be phishing!
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It's a strange thing this modern world, there are plenty of people I am 'friends' with on Facebook who I have never met, but some I consider to be friends in the real sense of the word. Steve Tickle was very much one of those, we talked about anything and everything online, I liked him a lot and he was a very good guy. Totally shocked to hear this evening that he has died, although perhaps fitting that I heard about his death on Facebook. I shall miss him, that man I've never met. My thoughts are with his daughters and those who cared for him. I've actually known him in an online sense for quite a few years before Facebook. We share a common interest, and he only lived around 15 miles from me. Nearly met a number of times, but on such occasions that could have brought us together one or the other couldn't make it. Absolutely gutted now that we never will. Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met? It's a strange thing this modern world.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.
chriselst wrote:
Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met?
IMHO, if their family does not incur much additional expense because of one additional person (you) attending the funeral, then it is OK to go.
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I'm chiming in with Jeremy on this one. I know you better after 60 seconds of face to face interaction than I would after years of online communication.
mikepwilson wrote:
I know you better after 60 seconds of face to face interaction than I would after years of online communication.
... then I thank my lucky stars that I only know some people through the keyboard.
I'm retired. There's a nap for that... - Harvey
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chriselst wrote:
Do you think it is odd to go to the funeral of someone you've never met?
If people ask, just say you met online and started a relationship. seriously, If people ask, just say you knew him and have good memories of him.
I'd rather be phishing!
Maximilien wrote:
If people ask, just say you met online and started a relationship.
I actually know in person quite a few people who will be there. We mostly met online through a shared interest, some I have met a few times, some I see almost weekly, some I have never met at all. He was supposed to be going somewhere with a friend of his, didn't show, they went round, got no answer, called his daughter who came and opened up, found him dead in his bed. He was 59.
Some men are born mediocre, some men achieve mediocrity, and some men have mediocrity thrust upon them.