town home property encroachment
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Depends. You've got a right to be peeved the bloke should have asked you. But the fact it's a Trampoline suggests he probably has very small kids, like me. If you had come round my house banging on my door and shouting at me I would probably hit you (as long as your not big and muscly or anything). If you knocked on my door politely and addressed your concerns to me politely, I would likely apologise profusely for not taking your needs into account and take it down immediately or come to an amicable arrangement in order to keep it up.
P0mpey3 wrote:
he probably has very small kids, like me
Are you saying you're a small kid?
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
We're going to need more details: - Were voices raised? - Was swearing involved? - Any direct insults to his wife or children? - Any threats of bodily harm? - Were any weapons drawn? - Did the word "lawyer" get muttered?
Contrary to popular belief, nobody owes you anything.
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
If he placed it in communal space, then obviously it's for communal use and I'd be jumping on it. :badger: Wahoo!
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Sounds like you were more restrained than I would have been.
This is why I like you! :-D
Jeremy Falcon
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Depends. You've got a right to be peeved the bloke should have asked you. But the fact it's a Trampoline suggests he probably has very small kids, like me. If you had come round my house banging on my door and shouting at me I would probably hit you (as long as your not big and muscly or anything). If you knocked on my door politely and addressed your concerns to me politely, I would likely apologise profusely for not taking your needs into account and take it down immediately or come to an amicable arrangement in order to keep it up.
P0mpey3 wrote:
But the fact it's a Trampoline suggests he probably has very small kids, like me. If you had come round my house banging on my door and shouting at me I would probably hit you (as long as your not big and muscly or anything).
You are correct with the assumption of him having kids. Although I didn't see any behind the door when I was around. I'm sure my voice may have carried, but I wouldn't deliberately do that in front of kids. That being said, I still don't think I was in the wrong, having kids or not. I didn't yell in front of the kids or to his wife. It was man to man. He's an adult and he should act like one.
Jeremy Falcon
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
Just take it to the HOA. Pointless getting involved in a direct spat with a neighbor; never ends well. Using the HOA makes it non-personal and will probably get it resolved far more quickly than screaming at someone. Your actions may make you the bad guy.
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We're going to need more details: - Were voices raised? - Was swearing involved? - Any direct insults to his wife or children? - Any threats of bodily harm? - Were any weapons drawn? - Did the word "lawyer" get muttered?
Contrary to popular belief, nobody owes you anything.
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Were voices raised?
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Yup, mine was.
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Was swearing involved?
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You know it. :)
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Any direct insults to his wife or children?
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Nope. It was man to man. Although I insulted him.
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Any threats of bodily harm?
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Nope
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Were any weapons drawn?
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Negative
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Did the word "lawyer" get muttered?
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No, but I did say I'd get the city involved if I had to.
Jeremy Falcon
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Just take it to the HOA. Pointless getting involved in a direct spat with a neighbor; never ends well. Using the HOA makes it non-personal and will probably get it resolved far more quickly than screaming at someone. Your actions may make you the bad guy.
Yeah, that's what I did this morning. What's done is done as for as me getting hot tempered though, but I don't plan on revisiting them because I know I'll just get hot tempered again.
Jeremy Falcon
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If he placed it in communal space, then obviously it's for communal use and I'd be jumping on it. :badger: Wahoo!
That's an idea.
Jeremy Falcon
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Yeah, that's what I did this morning. What's done is done as for as me getting hot tempered though, but I don't plan on revisiting them because I know I'll just get hot tempered again.
Jeremy Falcon
:thumbsup:
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
I haven't read the other responses however: Given from what you have said about this neighbour this is probably not the first time they have done something like this I think it was fine to bang on their door. If they were civilised they would ask you first and I imagine if you were reasonable you would probably say something like "sure but could you take it down after two hours as I want to sit in the garden later this afternoon."
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
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I haven't read the other responses however: Given from what you have said about this neighbour this is probably not the first time they have done something like this I think it was fine to bang on their door. If they were civilised they would ask you first and I imagine if you were reasonable you would probably say something like "sure but could you take it down after two hours as I want to sit in the garden later this afternoon."
“That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.”
― Christopher Hitchens
You are correct with that assumption, although I would've requested something reasonable in size for such a small area. This thing quite literally is the biggest trampoline I've ever seen. Just makes no sense to stick something that large in such a small space.
Jeremy Falcon
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Were voices raised?
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Yup, mine was.
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Was swearing involved?
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You know it. :)
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Any direct insults to his wife or children?
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Nope. It was man to man. Although I insulted him.
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Any threats of bodily harm?
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Nope
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Were any weapons drawn?
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Negative
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Did the word "lawyer" get muttered?
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No, but I did say I'd get the city involved if I had to.
Jeremy Falcon
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Then by my standards you handled it with grace and decorum. ;P
Contrary to popular belief, nobody owes you anything.
:-D :thumbsup:
Jeremy Falcon
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You are correct with that assumption, although I would've requested something reasonable in size for such a small area. This thing quite literally is the biggest trampoline I've ever seen. Just makes no sense to stick something that large in such a small space.
Jeremy Falcon
Just tell him that if it accidentally catches fire because it is encroaching on your smoke pit, you won't be held responsible. Also it may be blocking your Archery Range, but not to worry I am sure the arrows will pass harmlessly between anyone bouncing on the trampoline if you get the timing just right. If he can use all the area for a pastime then so can everyone else. BTW: I never yell when I am angry at someone. In fact I do my best to not show my anger at all, I just make my point(s) in a quiet, calm manner. Some people have told me I am scary when I do this - maybe because I am British and all Americans think we are all secretly evil masterminds per Hollywood stereotypes! Obviously, if you are an American this wouldn't work for you so the yelling (not in front of spouse and offspring) is probably the acceptable norm. PS. Casually carrying a gardening implement, such as a hoe, machete or axe can also help make sure they pay attention. Wear gardening gloves to enhance the impression that you were just recently working in the garden and not actually being threatening.
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon
I would have told him, "that as he already knows, what went up, must come down." Plus, you have to consider, that being a common area, you all may be jointly liable if someone, probably a neighbourhood kid, injures themselves on it.
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I would have told him, "that as he already knows, what went up, must come down." Plus, you have to consider, that being a common area, you all may be jointly liable if someone, probably a neighbourhood kid, injures themselves on it.
Matthew Dennis wrote:
Plus, you have to consider, that being a common area, you all may be jointly liable if someone, probably a neighbourhood kid, injures themselves on it.
Excellent point.
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Depends. You've got a right to be peeved the bloke should have asked you. But the fact it's a Trampoline suggests he probably has very small kids, like me. If you had come round my house banging on my door and shouting at me I would probably hit you (as long as your not big and muscly or anything). If you knocked on my door politely and addressed your concerns to me politely, I would likely apologise profusely for not taking your needs into account and take it down immediately or come to an amicable arrangement in order to keep it up.
P0mpey3 wrote:
If you knocked on my door politely and addressed your concerns to me politely, I would likely apologise profusely for not taking your needs into account and take it down immediately or come to an amicable arrangement in order to keep it up.
Exactly. :thumbsup:
There are only 10 types of people in the world, those who understand binary and those who don't.
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Anyone that knows me, may be aware that at times, I may or may not have a not-so-rational hot temper. I'd like to think it's because I am wise and mature and all-knowing, well beyond my years. YMMV Well, yesterday I got hot tempered again with one of my neighbors, and I'd like to see the collective opinion of you guys if y'all think it was justified or not. I currently live in a town home, and my "backyard area" is shared among three units in particular. It's not a big enclosure, but you make do with what you have. Yesterday, the neighbor two units over (and sharing the backyard area) up and decided to put a huge-arse trampoline there that quite literally consumes just about all the available non-porch space in the backyard area for all three units. I wasn't a fan of these people to start with, but after seeing that (and considering this guy didn't even bother to ask the other two of us if that was ok), I pretty much lost it and banged on his door and let him have it. Granted, there's not much I can do after venting that's legal. So, now I'm calling the housing association for the town homes and so forth to get this resolved. So my question to CP is, considering the obvious disrespect for other people when taking up all their space without even asking, do y'all think I was out of line for banging on his door and letting him have it? I don't, but then again I'm not one known for keeping the peace.
Jeremy Falcon