Parenting : Chapter 1, Incident 1
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I was driving my car with this 4 years old kid , my cousin's little son. He kept on fiddling with the audio player, aircon buttons & whatever was there on the dashboard. Quite several times he jumped my arms to press the horn by himself. It was highly annoying, he was uncontrollable. Then he wanted to do something with the gear :omg:, when I stopped him , he swiftly moved to pull the handbrake. I just totally dislike kids hyperactive behaviors like these. I'm not sure if this is coming from their DNA or it's because of bad parenting. Anyway, when he tried to do these I told him. "Boy, if we are going to pull these two things (gear, Handbrake) we are sure to crash :sigh: " He replied me , "Oh we are gonna crash, then we reach god :-D ". I think my idiotic cousin has equated "Death" to "reaching god". I think many people get tired of answering their kids and end up throwing some rubbish explanations to critical questions. How dangerous is this if the kid mistakes dying as reaching god, when the entire family spends so much time saying God is great, God saves us all, and blah blah & those stuff. The kid is so happy about death. :wtf: What would be your answer when a kid asks what happens after we die. Or simply put, "What is death"?
Starting to think people post kid pics in their profiles because that was the last time they were cute - Jeremy.
Next time, put him in the back seat with a seat belt :-) 4 year olds are not the best suited people for the passenger seat.
Regards, Nish
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Vunic wrote:
He kept on fiddling with the audio player,
Don't they have child seat laws where you live? A 4 year old should be in the back seat, strapped in to a booster chair or something similar.
Vunic wrote:
He replied me , "Oh we are gonna crash, then we reach god :-D ".
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Marc Clifton wrote:
Don't they have child seat laws where you live?
No there isn't, in India there are no child safety laws for drivers. You can seat a 1 year old baby in the passenger seat if you wanted to.
Regards, Nish
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Have, briefly, a long time ago. Now imagine what happens to an unrestrained child (in the front or back) if you get hit by an oncoming car. They fly forward at 80 ~ 100 Km/h and weighs what? 18 ~ 20 kg? That's some serious inertia: they will smash skulls or break necks if they hit them, and they will die or be seriously injured if they hit the windscreen instead. If they are on your lap with your seatbelt round you both, you will crush them like a bug in the same accident. You want that on your conscience? :omg:
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In India, in city traffic, it'd be rare if a car can accelerate to 30 mph :-) Which is why car collisions are rarely fatal. Two wheelers on the other hand - typically instant death.
Regards, Nish
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Marc Clifton wrote:
Don't they have child seat laws where you live?
No there isn't, in India there are no child safety laws for drivers. You can seat a 1 year old baby in the passenger seat if you wanted to.
Regards, Nish
Website: www.voidnish.com Blog: voidnish.wordpress.com
In some places, you can seat the baby even in the driver seat. Nobody cares. lol. :) It's jarringly strange if I compare this with other countries. Even if I go out for couple of weeks, everything feels so difficult & weird back in India. But in a week, I get settle as one among the crowd getting along with every BS. I think you'll have a very tough time whenever you are here as you frequent here less.
Starting to think people post kid pics in their profiles because that was the last time they were cute - Jeremy.
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Next time, put him in the back seat with a seat belt :-) 4 year olds are not the best suited people for the passenger seat.
Regards, Nish
Website: www.voidnish.com Blog: voidnish.wordpress.com
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One word. India. Did you know there are more laws here to protect the lives of cattle than of humans?
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Yeah.. Common Sense which is so uncommon now-a-days... :-) In India, when we are driving, we become so inconsiderate to others, that no law matters. :(( Everyone just wants to get ahead of others.. they won't give way to turning vehicles for example. Yield (word which I learnt when I was in US) is completely alien word. Result: chaos on the road... :sigh:
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Where parenting got a huge role.
Starting to think people post kid pics in their profiles because that was the last time they were cute - Jeremy.
You are absolutely right.
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When it comes to parenting I can strongly recommend the book Lets panic about babies! Got it when we were expecting our first. If someone tried to do something like that in my car I'd pull over and let loose the biggest barrage ever. :mad: Car safety is important to me. I even feel bad that we got out 4 year old facing forward because he is too tall to sit backwards for anything longer than 10min. Anyway I live in an atheistic family where we do have our own spiritual inclinations. When it comes to death I'd explain my view on how it is. It's unknown, most likely it's non-existence but nothing to be afraid of. You shouldn't look forward to it but you shouldn't be afraid. It's there, just accept it as part of the natural order. Death is required for life.
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When it comes to death I'd explain my view on how it is. It's unknown, most likely it's non-existence but nothing to be afraid of. You shouldn't look forward to it but you shouldn't be afraid. It's there, just accept it as part of the natural order. Death is required for life.
:) I think this a bit much for a toddler. They wouldn't get this. I was thinking if I can say like, "It's an endless sleep, people can never wake up from. We must be careful never to fall into until we are alive" :rolleyes: Thanks for the book suggestion! Will check that one up.
Starting to think people post kid pics in their profiles because that was the last time they were cute - Jeremy.
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It's very difficult to explain it in words. They'll have to travel once and see. lol!
Starting to think people post kid pics in their profiles because that was the last time they were cute - Jeremy.
I travelled to Bangalore last summer for a couple weeks. One morning in the rush hour to work we were stuck in traffic and an ambulance with sirens was stuck along with everyone else. No one moved, not that it would have been easy as drivers had filed into five traffic lanes on the three lane road. Felt very sorry for whoever was inside the ambulance needing medical attention. It was definitely an eye opener compared to the traffic in the USA.
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I was driving my car with this 4 years old kid , my cousin's little son. He kept on fiddling with the audio player, aircon buttons & whatever was there on the dashboard. Quite several times he jumped my arms to press the horn by himself. It was highly annoying, he was uncontrollable. Then he wanted to do something with the gear :omg:, when I stopped him , he swiftly moved to pull the handbrake. I just totally dislike kids hyperactive behaviors like these. I'm not sure if this is coming from their DNA or it's because of bad parenting. Anyway, when he tried to do these I told him. "Boy, if we are going to pull these two things (gear, Handbrake) we are sure to crash :sigh: " He replied me , "Oh we are gonna crash, then we reach god :-D ". I think my idiotic cousin has equated "Death" to "reaching god". I think many people get tired of answering their kids and end up throwing some rubbish explanations to critical questions. How dangerous is this if the kid mistakes dying as reaching god, when the entire family spends so much time saying God is great, God saves us all, and blah blah & those stuff. The kid is so happy about death. :wtf: What would be your answer when a kid asks what happens after we die. Or simply put, "What is death"?
Starting to think people post kid pics in their profiles because that was the last time they were cute - Jeremy.
You do know what "defenestration" means, don't you?
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Member 11683251 wrote:
When it comes to death I'd explain my view on how it is. It's unknown, most likely it's non-existence but nothing to be afraid of. You shouldn't look forward to it but you shouldn't be afraid. It's there, just accept it as part of the natural order. Death is required for life.
:) I think this a bit much for a toddler. They wouldn't get this. I was thinking if I can say like, "It's an endless sleep, people can never wake up from. We must be careful never to fall into until we are alive" :rolleyes: Thanks for the book suggestion! Will check that one up.
Starting to think people post kid pics in their profiles because that was the last time they were cute - Jeremy.
My 4 year old has slowly started to discover the concept of death. Where are the dinosaurs? Dead. Did you kill that dinosaur? (in a game ofc). Bang! you are dead dad! If he is old enough to play that he shoots and hunts he is old enough for some truths. Not that he is going to completely understand but it doesn't hurt and will in turn help him respect life. He knows that in order to eat meat something has to dies and its just the price to pay for bacon.
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You do know what "defenestration" means, don't you?
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