Wedding Bands?
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I live in the southeast of the US and I see lots of married couples that do not have wedding rings, but rather something that looks like it came out of a cereal box. When did plastic rings become a thing for marriages? I have never understood people going in to debt for a wedding ring but this seems a bit overkill. What's going on? I'm tempted to get married again so I can figure out what they are all about. Is this happening in other countries?
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My wife and I got married over 25 years ago. She has a stock engagement/wedding ring that we customized slightly with different stones: the stock one utilized all diamonds while heres looks like a white rose (diamond) with leaves (emeralds). She has worn it constantly. I had a simple gold band; which I think may have been free with the purchase of her ring. If not, it was pretty cheap. It was also very uncomfortable, and I stopped wearing it. Time went on, I started doing some activities (sailing) where I was glad I no longer wore it; I had heard the stories of people losing fingers getting the band caught on a line. We moved a couple of times. Short story: I have no idea where my wedding band went, but I certainly no longer have it. I have seen the Enso bands, and I have considered getting one just BECAUSE it would be safe, and yet I could again represent my commitment to my wife. I haven't yet purchased one because I agree that they are fairly ugly, but if I find one tolerable in appearance, I probably will get it and see if I can stand wearing it. So, while this might not be THE explanation of why popularity is increasing, it offers a reason other than being cheap or undevoted.
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Peter Shaw wrote:
I think to some people it's just about signaling this linking of 2 people and if both parties are happy for that to be a plastic ring then so be it.
I agree. I am just surprised at how many people are now doing it.
Peter Shaw wrote:
Myself and My Wife, got our wedding, her dress, the venue the party & food and transport for relatives all for just under £1000 Gbp when we got married.
Smart.
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011111100010 wrote:
Peter Shaw wrote:
I think to some people it's just about signaling this linking of 2 people and if both parties are happy for that to be a plastic ring then so be it.
I agree. I am just surprised at how many people are now doing it.
Ya but it's like anything popular ain't it, we all know what hipster culture did to us as a society :-) PS: Love your Tag Line... "Lefty's of the world unite" :-) Shawty
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My wife and I got married over 25 years ago. She has a stock engagement/wedding ring that we customized slightly with different stones: the stock one utilized all diamonds while heres looks like a white rose (diamond) with leaves (emeralds). She has worn it constantly. I had a simple gold band; which I think may have been free with the purchase of her ring. If not, it was pretty cheap. It was also very uncomfortable, and I stopped wearing it. Time went on, I started doing some activities (sailing) where I was glad I no longer wore it; I had heard the stories of people losing fingers getting the band caught on a line. We moved a couple of times. Short story: I have no idea where my wedding band went, but I certainly no longer have it. I have seen the Enso bands, and I have considered getting one just BECAUSE it would be safe, and yet I could again represent my commitment to my wife. I haven't yet purchased one because I agree that they are fairly ugly, but if I find one tolerable in appearance, I probably will get it and see if I can stand wearing it. So, while this might not be THE explanation of why popularity is increasing, it offers a reason other than being cheap or undevoted.
I actually only tend to wear mine when we go out together, or at family occasions. I know where it is, I keep it in a box on my nightstand along with my watch and a few other bits. I can't wear it when I'm typing (Which is 90% of my time) because it's uncomfortable when it rubs against the inside of my fingers, as with you it doesn't mean I think any less of my commitment, my commitment to my wife is proven by the fact where still together.
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011111100010 wrote:
Peter Shaw wrote:
I think to some people it's just about signaling this linking of 2 people and if both parties are happy for that to be a plastic ring then so be it.
I agree. I am just surprised at how many people are now doing it.
Ya but it's like anything popular ain't it, we all know what hipster culture did to us as a society :-) PS: Love your Tag Line... "Lefty's of the world unite" :-) Shawty
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A friend of mine bought wedding rings at a total $80 US, about 12 year's ago. I told him he was an idiot and I wished his marriage would last more than 5 years. He started cheating on his wife after 3 years. I haven't talked to him since. Is there a correlation between what you put into a wedding ring and a happy marriage? Probably not, but who the hell buys his wife a $40 dollar ring, and what kind of bride says that is Ok? :confused:
It depends on upbringing and culture. In West EU, expensive rings are commonly frowned upon. In part because of the bad press associated with the diamond trade (= all diamonds are conflict-diamonds by default) and in part as a rejection to the American movie ideal of getting on your knees and presenting an expensive ring (= imitating movies is considered a sign of being immature or insincere) As a result, anything goes as long as it has personal significance. The majority of people opt for a plain ring or one with fake stones in the $20-$100 range. Not a lot of people actual wear them in public.
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011111100010 wrote:
Well, judging by your picture I'm sure your wife was not worried about some other girl trying to snatch you up. :-\
In Far North Queensland, Mycroft is considered quite a good catch. Still has all his own teeth and all.
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Does it count if they are in a jar?
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Sander Rossel wrote:
Why would the price of a ring, or the actual ring, matter at all?
It doesn't much. But there is a tradition that shows commitment. And we can see that commitment to family is not what it used to be.
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011111100010 wrote:
But there is a tradition that shows commitment
Don't you mean it's a scam started by DeBeers?
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011111100010 wrote:
But there is a tradition that shows commitment
Don't you mean it's a scam started by DeBeers?
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I live in the southeast of the US and I see lots of married couples that do not have wedding rings, but rather something that looks like it came out of a cereal box. When did plastic rings become a thing for marriages? I have never understood people going in to debt for a wedding ring but this seems a bit overkill. What's going on? I'm tempted to get married again so I can figure out what they are all about. Is this happening in other countries?
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I talked to a young contractor here at work who wore one of those silicone rings. He and his wife are really into lifting weights & working out. He said it's a trendy thing within his social group of hard-core exercise people to get those rings. He said it's primarily for the practical reason of not having to worry about getting your finger caught when, say, doing pullups, but there's also the financial/social agreement not to expect "2 months salary" for a ring. It's interesting because I agree about wedding ring expense being such a pointless waste of money, but in my social circle I'm shouting against the wind; if I just started wearing one, my wife would be angry/offended, I would get endless weird looks, all that. I would love it if they would come around to this way of thinking but it'll never happen. However, if their entire subculture/clique has all agreed that this is acceptable for them, then it's one more forced-purchase they can cast off, which is wonderful. (I've tried to do a similar thing for birthdays and Christmas gifts--I always suggest that we get gifts for kids, but do away with gift exchanges between adults, who so clearly don't really care about it, but the powerful of the social tradition is just too strong to break away from; nobody has the courage to break from it.)
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Slacker007 wrote:
a $40 dollar ring,
I'm not even sure the ones I have seen cost $40. Doing a little google search, I think they might be silicone.
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I always assumed the silicone ones were proxies for more traditional rings when the traditional ones weren't appropriate to wear for the situation (e.g. doing heavy work, using power tools, etc.).
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I always assumed the silicone ones were proxies for more traditional rings when the traditional ones weren't appropriate to wear for the situation (e.g. doing heavy work, using power tools, etc.).