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    Jamie Hale
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    Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? J

    "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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      Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? J

      "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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      realJSOP
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      Nish, I think the ball is firmly in your court. ------- signature starts "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio. ------- signature ends

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        Nish, I think the ball is firmly in your court. ------- signature starts "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio. ------- signature ends

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        Anonymous
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        Actually, John, I still maintain that starting threads in your profile forum so that people can explain to you exactly why they like you is a perfect example of a lack of self confidence. Is it fair to say that your outpouring of abuse is your way of coping?

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          Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? J

          "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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          rondalescott
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          I just look in the mirror and say: You're good enough, you're smart enough, and gosh darnit, people like you. :-)

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            I just look in the mirror and say: You're good enough, you're smart enough, and gosh darnit, people like you. :-)

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            Jamie Hale
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            Uh-huh. Thanks Stuart. J

            "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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            • J Jamie Hale

              Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? J

              "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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              l a u r e n
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              "give me the power to change the things i can change and accept the things i cant change"


              "penguins have no bill"
              biz stuff   about me

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                Nish, I think the ball is firmly in your court. ------- signature starts "...the staggering layers of obscenity in your statement make it a work of art on so many levels." - Jason Jystad, 10/26/2001 Please review the Legal Disclaimer in my bio. ------- signature ends

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                Jamie Hale
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                Alright. The lounge is misbehaving. That anonymous post is from me. J

                "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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                  "give me the power to change the things i can change and accept the things i cant change"


                  "penguins have no bill"
                  biz stuff   about me

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                  Jamie Hale
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                  Hmmm. Trick is, the implied "God" that precedes that quote is where I have trouble. While I do believe in god, I don't feel it's his problem to solve - it's mine. How does one go about gathering the power to accept that which I cannot change? J

                  "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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                    Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? J

                    "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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                    wayward
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                    Prozac... James.

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                      Prozac... James.

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                      rondalescott
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                      Actually it was Paxil that did the trick for me!

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                        Hmmm. Trick is, the implied "God" that precedes that quote is where I have trouble. While I do believe in god, I don't feel it's his problem to solve - it's mine. How does one go about gathering the power to accept that which I cannot change? J

                        "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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                        i left the "god" word out cos i dont believe in that concept at all ... its about realising within urself what u can change and what u cant and focusing ur energy on the stuff u can do something about so its not really "gathering" new power but "refocusing" what power u have geee thats todays words of wisdom form auntie lauren :omg:


                        "penguins have no bill"
                        biz stuff   about me

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                          Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? J

                          "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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                          David Wulff
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                          Money. I buy things. (responsibly). Works a treat as it gives you something bright to look forward to at the end fo the day. Friends try and help, and do to an extent, but other than theat I haven't found anything that works. What is bad for me is that I never had any of this six years ago so like a seeing person who was blinded I know what I am missing out on, and that is like digging in a hole. CodeProject has a great bunch of people and is a great place to work on things, only helped by the number of people willing to go completely out of their way to asist you. (yes I will reply to you btw, you know who you are). I know far too well that when you are really feeling the blunt end of low self-esteem the last person you want to be left along with is yourself. At the recomendation of a friend who suffers from chronic depression (oh the circles I choose to be in!) I have created a journal which I write in whenever I am feeling down. Having to organise your thoughts onto paper or screen helps you sort them out in nyour head as well. I've found it very effective recently to quickly deal with self esteem problems and general depression and get on with things; you may like to give it a try. If you have MSN Messenger, add me to your contacts (e-mail is the same as the one this message was sent from). I love to listen and having someone to bounce thoughts off of when you are low can really help. That is a two way contract though... :)


                          David Wulff

                          "It is a helpless feeling to be unable to make something so terribly wrong... right."

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                            Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? J

                            "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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                            Daniel Turini
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                            Jamie Hale wrote: Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? Some people use Viagra :-D I had exactly the opposite problem. I was overly confident on myself. And then, I humbly looked for professional help. It worked: now, I'm perfect, almost a god. ORACLE One Real A$#h%le Called Lary Ellison

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                              "give me the power to change the things i can change and accept the things i cant change"


                              "penguins have no bill"
                              biz stuff   about me

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                              Shog9 0
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                              "...to bury the bodies of those who get in my way where they'll never be found..."

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                              drifting along with the tumbling tumbleweeds...

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                                Hmmm. Trick is, the implied "God" that precedes that quote is where I have trouble. While I do believe in god, I don't feel it's his problem to solve - it's mine. How does one go about gathering the power to accept that which I cannot change? J

                                "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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                                Paul Lyons
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                                Jamie, While I don't consider myself to be a religous person... I learned the serenity prayer attending Alateen[^] as a teenager. The key here is to continually remind yourself that there is only so much in life that you have direct control over. Anyway, the real reason for the reply is to ask if you've ever been screened for depression[^]? (I don't mean to imply anything. Just a thought.) I too had the same problem! Long story short, Major Depression can manifest itself in many ways... I am proof the there is better living through chemicals :laugh:. p.s. Alice's Resturant -> There's a blast from the past :-O Man, I'm getting old!

                                Paul Lyons, CCPL
                                Certified Code Project Lurker


                                What a long strange trip it's been - Robert Hunter

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                                  Actually it was Paxil that did the trick for me!

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                                  Paul Lyons
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                                  Ditto! Still on it. :-D

                                  Paul Lyons, CCPL
                                  Certified Code Project Lurker


                                  What a long, strange trip it's been. - Robert Hunter

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                                    Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? J

                                    "You can get anything you want at Alice's Restaurant."

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                                    Shog9 0
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                                    Standing out on my back porch watching a cigarette burn into my fingers until i'm ready to face the rest of the world again.

                                    Shog9

                                    drifting along with the tumbling tumbleweeds...

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                                      Jamie Hale wrote: Anyone else here suffer from this? What do you do to cope? Some people use Viagra :-D I had exactly the opposite problem. I was overly confident on myself. And then, I humbly looked for professional help. It worked: now, I'm perfect, almost a god. ORACLE One Real A$#h%le Called Lary Ellison

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                                      David Wulff
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                                      :)


                                      David Wulff

                                      "It is a helpless feeling to be unable to make something so terribly wrong... right."

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                                        "give me the power to change the things i can change and accept the things i cant change"


                                        "penguins have no bill"
                                        biz stuff   about me

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                                        Navin
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                                        ... and wisdom to know the difference. :) "When a man sits with a pretty girl for an hour, it seems like a minute. But let him sit on a hot stove for a minute and it's longer than any hour. That's relativity." - Albert Einstein

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                                          "...to bury the bodies of those who get in my way where they'll never be found..."

                                          Shog9

                                          drifting along with the tumbling tumbleweeds...

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                                          Navin
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                                          :-D "When a man sits with a pretty girl for an hour, it seems like a minute. But let him sit on a hot stove for a minute and it's longer than any hour. That's relativity." - Albert Einstein

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