I have no idea what to write.
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I have to write a birthday card for a lady who will 94 on Wednesday. Only problem is I just wrote the condolences card for the loss of her son on Friday ... Herself is suggesting I treat it as a "normal birthday card" but I figure that's pretty insensitive. Anyone else had to do this; got any ideas? :confused:
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You are being a guy. As others have said, she's 94 and has seen a lot of stuff. Just wish her a happy birthday and express condolences for her loss - words are up to you. Here is the secret - those suffering a loss, they know the situation. Have courage and be comforting.... we all appreciate it. Last year buried my mother and sister.... so.
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"May God give you all the strength and ability to carry on with your life, towards your ultimate goal. Irrespective of all the happenings in the world around you".
Amarnath S wrote:
carry on with your life, towards your ultimate goal.
What's one's ultimate goal, at the age of 94? Wake up the next morning? And while I might agree with others that at that age, she's probably seen plenty of heartaches, outliving one of your children still can't be easy no matter what. Focusing on the birthday seems somewhat dismissive to me. She's had 94 of these already.
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Amarnath S wrote:
carry on with your life, towards your ultimate goal.
What's one's ultimate goal, at the age of 94? Wake up the next morning? And while I might agree with others that at that age, she's probably seen plenty of heartaches, outliving one of your children still can't be easy no matter what. Focusing on the birthday seems somewhat dismissive to me. She's had 94 of these already.
I have seen a woman lose her son at her age of 82. And she lived for 5 or 6 more years, without losing her purpose in life. Irrespective of who lives or not around us, each of us has a purpose, a desire to live peacefully for the remaining days, months, years on this earth, continuously enriching ourselves in whatever way we feel fit till the last day. As someone has said, we are all standing in a queue, to depart from this world. This is a strange queue, where we don't know who is first, who is next. Till our turn comes, we've to be around, and live purposefully. This is what i meant by ultimate goal.
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I have to write a birthday card for a lady who will 94 on Wednesday. Only problem is I just wrote the condolences card for the loss of her son on Friday ... Herself is suggesting I treat it as a "normal birthday card" but I figure that's pretty insensitive. Anyone else had to do this; got any ideas? :confused:
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony "Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt AntiTwitter: @DalekDave is now a follower!
Two different cards.
"Before entering on an understanding, I have meditated for a long time, and have foreseen what might happen. It is not genius which reveals to me suddenly, secretly, what I have to say or to do in a circumstance unexpected by other people; it is reflection, it is meditation." - Napoleon I
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I have to write a birthday card for a lady who will 94 on Wednesday. Only problem is I just wrote the condolences card for the loss of her son on Friday ... Herself is suggesting I treat it as a "normal birthday card" but I figure that's pretty insensitive. Anyone else had to do this; got any ideas? :confused:
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony "Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt AntiTwitter: @DalekDave is now a follower!
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I have to write a birthday card for a lady who will 94 on Wednesday. Only problem is I just wrote the condolences card for the loss of her son on Friday ... Herself is suggesting I treat it as a "normal birthday card" but I figure that's pretty insensitive. Anyone else had to do this; got any ideas? :confused:
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony "Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt AntiTwitter: @DalekDave is now a follower!
You could make it a bit more low-key than a "cherioo auntie Agatha". Referring to common shared memories, her long and rich life, you respect and love for her. And then, I might, like yourself, feel the need to add something more, perhaps along the lines of: "despite your recent loss / during these sad days / ..."
"If we don't change direction, we'll end up where we're going"
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I have to write a birthday card for a lady who will 94 on Wednesday. Only problem is I just wrote the condolences card for the loss of her son on Friday ... Herself is suggesting I treat it as a "normal birthday card" but I figure that's pretty insensitive. Anyone else had to do this; got any ideas? :confused:
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony "Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt AntiTwitter: @DalekDave is now a follower!
You've already expressed your sympathies in the condolence card. I'd suggest a "calming" picture (flowers, a landscape scene etc) and a simple message along the lines of "Thinking of you as always, sending all my love". Less is more, as my wife always says (especially around my birthday... :confused: :sigh: ) Alternatively there are "general purpose" cards you can buy with a load of checkboxes... tick the "condolence" and "birthday" boxes; maybe tick then partly rub out the "engagement" one for added giggles. Sometimes, just because you're old or going through tough times doesn't mean you've lost your sense of humour.
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I have seen a woman lose her son at her age of 82. And she lived for 5 or 6 more years, without losing her purpose in life. Irrespective of who lives or not around us, each of us has a purpose, a desire to live peacefully for the remaining days, months, years on this earth, continuously enriching ourselves in whatever way we feel fit till the last day. As someone has said, we are all standing in a queue, to depart from this world. This is a strange queue, where we don't know who is first, who is next. Till our turn comes, we've to be around, and live purposefully. This is what i meant by ultimate goal.
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I have to write a birthday card for a lady who will 94 on Wednesday. Only problem is I just wrote the condolences card for the loss of her son on Friday ... Herself is suggesting I treat it as a "normal birthday card" but I figure that's pretty insensitive. Anyone else had to do this; got any ideas? :confused:
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony "Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt AntiTwitter: @DalekDave is now a follower!
below is ChatGBT's suggestion . Navigating this delicate situation requires a thoughtful and sensitive approach. While it's important to acknowledge the loss of her son, it's also essential to celebrate her 94th birthday in a respectful manner. Here's a suggestion for a birthday card message that strikes a balance: --- Front of the card: [Choose a cheerful, uplifting image or design for the front of the card, such as a bouquet of flowers or a beautiful sunset.] Inside the card: Dear [Lady's Name], Wishing you a Happy 94th Birthday, In the midst of life's bittersweet moments, we find the strength to celebrate the joy that each new day brings. Your 94 years of life have been filled with experiences, love, and countless memories, some of which we hold dear in our hearts. As we celebrate this special day, we also remember your beloved son and the love you shared with him. While he may no longer be with us, the love and memories you both created will forever be a part of your journey. His spirit lives on in the love and strength you continue to show every day. Today, let us cherish the moments of happiness and reflection. May this birthday be a reminder that life is a beautiful gift, and with each passing year, you inspire us all with your resilience, wisdom, and grace. Wishing you a day filled with warmth, love, and the comfort of cherished memories. With heartfelt thoughts and warmest wishes, [Your Name] --- This message recognizes her son's passing while also celebrating her long life and resilience. It offers comfort and support while acknowledging the importance of marking her birthday in a positive way.
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I have to write a birthday card for a lady who will 94 on Wednesday. Only problem is I just wrote the condolences card for the loss of her son on Friday ... Herself is suggesting I treat it as a "normal birthday card" but I figure that's pretty insensitive. Anyone else had to do this; got any ideas? :confused:
"I have no idea what I did, but I'm taking full credit for it." - ThisOldTony "Common sense is so rare these days, it should be classified as a super power" - Random T-shirt AntiTwitter: @DalekDave is now a follower!
This seems like a perfect task for ChatGPT.
