Where dem benevolent peeps be?
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Nelek wrote:
- Starting with small things: i.e. Telling a stranger "I'm going" whilst walking to my car in a totally full parking lot" (what made the youg guy smile from ear to ear)
Crazy as it might sound, sometimes it's just the little things like that, that can brighten someone's day.
Nelek wrote:
going up to several months of investing time / tips / advices / teaching: I.e. relative of a relative of mine that came to germany without a word of german to whom I helped with the language, introduced several people, helped teaching automation, helped with documents whilst looking for a job (which he landed in the maintenance group in a BMW-Plant, brought his wife and child here and a couple of years later he managed to reach the Ing. job he actually deserved by his own).
You da man. :omg: People should learn to stand on their own two feet, but we're all in this life thing together and helping out like that speaks volumes, buddy. I tried doing something similar with starting an investing group to help others back in Los Angeles. Not sure if I just sucked as a teacher (could be :laugh:) but it didn't pan out as it was more about ego and people lying. So, I stopped it. E for effort I guess...
Nelek wrote:
Sadly a lot of miss-success histories in the way. Mostly due to loss of interest of the third person, what annoyed me a lot, but hey... that's life.
Tru dat, that's a lesson I need to learn for sure... people are going to be who they are ya know.
Nelek wrote:
I sometimes hadn't got any, my reward is my own pride of having helped someone.
Not sure if your spiritual or not, but no matter what happens you're rewarded with being able to look in the mirror and smile... knowing you spent your time on this planet at least trying to make it a teeny, tiny bit better than you found it.
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Not sure if your spiritual or not,
Not really spiritual (although I do believe in spirits and "karma"), but more in the way of ethic / philosophic.
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
knowing you spent your time on this planet at least trying to make it a teeny, tiny bit better than you found it.
That's one of the things my parents teached me, go whereever you go, do whatever you do... try always to leave things at least as good as you found it. Sure it is not always possible, but I try my best on that. It is like trying not to close the door when relationships (it doesn't matter if professional or personal) end. Mine might sleep long time, but I have re-taken contact with several people during the years and there were no bad feelings and was enough to meet and have a drink or to crush over when in town. So far only ended bad with 2 people in my life.
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Sander Rossel wrote:
Don't all of us do something for someone from time to time?
Sure do, but I'm getting at going above and beyond. Juicy deets, yo. :laugh:
Sander Rossel wrote:
I invited a cousin over last week and when he left he said "we should do this more often, it's therapeutic."
That's cool man. As someone who hasn't seen his cousin in years, probably did a world of good for him too.
Sander Rossel wrote:
I didn't change his life, but I'd like to think I've had a positive influence
That's awesome man.
Sander Rossel wrote:
I don't think I did much, but he still thanks me for it in his foreword (which is kind of awesome)
Sometimes it's just a vote of confidence coming from another person ya know. Maybe you saying that made it seem real to him because nobody else in his life would think he could write a book. Success breeds success.
Sander Rossel wrote:
Probably would've meant the world to her.
Yeah man. I got regrets too, like not giving a (genuine) homeless guy money once. He's vibe was real. I make it a point to never help fake people, but this dude struck a cord in me and I did nothing. I'm sure there are other areas I screwed up too, just the first one to pop in my head. As far as the chick thing goes, I know exactly what you mean. I can't say who because it's a public forum and I'm using my real name, but lets just say I had a family member who's brother was extremely terrible to her. And she told me her whole life she always wanted a brother... like a normal one. As adults we still chat every now and again about silly stuff, and while I did nothing practically someone's that's all people need ya know... normalcy.
Sander Rossel wrote:
She's married now and turned out pretty hot, so I guess she did okay in the end (although I don't know if she's mentally stable or happy), but she had a rough childhood and I didn't do anything to make it better while it would've been so easy.
I mean that's good to know, I guess. :laugh: Quick side tangent though, a pretty face doesn't always make someone happy. I could speak on this for hours, but I'll shut up now. :laugh: Thanks for the post, buddy.
Jeremy Falcon
Oh man, I just thought of this time I made this guy's evening! Pretty funny story actually, but not completely Lounge-safe... You'll like it though :laugh: I didn't know this guy, but he was from my area and it's pretty small, so we have like two or three places to hang out in weekends. He's also a friend of friends, so I was bound to run into him again. Anyway, he was drunk and he walked up to me and a friend I was with that he knew. I can't remember exactly how it went, but he quickly started talking about his p****. Now I decided to just roll with it. Asked him how he felt about his p****, that he didn't need to feel bad about it being too small, if he liked other p**** as well, etc. He loved that I talked to him about it and how I handled the conversation, and even more when I told him I was, in fact, sober. So a couple of weeks later I meet him again, but sober this time. He was like "ah, man, I talked to you about my p****, did I not?" And I was like "yeah man, we had a pretty good conversation." And this guy absolutely loved me for it, thanked me for indulging him in his drunk state and making him laugh then and again now that he thought about it. It was the best and most epic conversation he ever had and every time we saw each other after that he'd come say hi and fist bump me :laugh:
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Rudy
I've always wanted to see that. Netflix tonight...
Software Zen:
delete this;I gotta admit, I’m biased because I played football (US version) as a kid. Was never the best at it being a nerd and all… but still. Made some lifelong friends playing. Since you're into running and cycling, totally hope you dig it, man.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Kinda making me wanna play it... but ya know... Zig
It's possible to blast through it within a few dozen hours. There's tons of side-quests that you don't have to do; RDR2 is one of those rare games that has a huge amount of hidden (and not-so-hidden) content. It came out in 2018, but graphically it's one of the best-looking games still to this day. It's not for everyone - some would describe it as slow-paced, but it's got a great story to tell that doesn't feel rushed. Plenty of people still describe it as the best game ever made. I can't think of many better examples, but I'm not that much of a gamer anymore. There's an online component to it, but I haven't spent 20 minutes into it.
Sounds cool. But, I don’t need another time sink right now. :laugh: Working on a project to better my future. I’ll just be vicarious.
Jeremy Falcon
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Sander Rossel wrote:
Don't all of us do something for someone from time to time?
Sure do, but I'm getting at going above and beyond. Juicy deets, yo. :laugh:
Sander Rossel wrote:
I invited a cousin over last week and when he left he said "we should do this more often, it's therapeutic."
That's cool man. As someone who hasn't seen his cousin in years, probably did a world of good for him too.
Sander Rossel wrote:
I didn't change his life, but I'd like to think I've had a positive influence
That's awesome man.
Sander Rossel wrote:
I don't think I did much, but he still thanks me for it in his foreword (which is kind of awesome)
Sometimes it's just a vote of confidence coming from another person ya know. Maybe you saying that made it seem real to him because nobody else in his life would think he could write a book. Success breeds success.
Sander Rossel wrote:
Probably would've meant the world to her.
Yeah man. I got regrets too, like not giving a (genuine) homeless guy money once. He's vibe was real. I make it a point to never help fake people, but this dude struck a cord in me and I did nothing. I'm sure there are other areas I screwed up too, just the first one to pop in my head. As far as the chick thing goes, I know exactly what you mean. I can't say who because it's a public forum and I'm using my real name, but lets just say I had a family member who's brother was extremely terrible to her. And she told me her whole life she always wanted a brother... like a normal one. As adults we still chat every now and again about silly stuff, and while I did nothing practically someone's that's all people need ya know... normalcy.
Sander Rossel wrote:
She's married now and turned out pretty hot, so I guess she did okay in the end (although I don't know if she's mentally stable or happy), but she had a rough childhood and I didn't do anything to make it better while it would've been so easy.
I mean that's good to know, I guess. :laugh: Quick side tangent though, a pretty face doesn't always make someone happy. I could speak on this for hours, but I'll shut up now. :laugh: Thanks for the post, buddy.
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Yeah man. I got regrets too, like not giving a (genuine) homeless guy money once.
I got fooled a couple of times with that and I decided to not give money anymore. If I think that the vibe's are real, what I do now is to invite to eat something and buy food for that person. Only exception was a guy that once came to me totally honest and told me he was adict and he needed money to buy his dosis relative soon and preferred to say the truth hoping that someone will give him something, so he can avoid having to rob someone when the abstinence hit him. I gave him what I had on me, his bravery to tell the truth upfront is something I have rarely seen and had to be rewarded.
M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
who's the secret guardian angels up in here?
I do small stuff. Pick up a piece of litter on the way into the building at work. Smile and say hi to folks, especially the housekeeping staff who most people treat as if they are invisible. Thank everyone, especially wait staff, and tip well. Pay the bill when out with friends and family.
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
those moments you really wished you helped someone out but lacked the courage
I frequently use a highway exit ramp where there is always a homeless person begging. I feel guilty about not giving them anything.
Software Zen:
delete this;Can’t reply properly since I’m on the road but that’s good point about treating housekeepers with respect and dignity. Props for that. For the homeless peeps, you’re good man. Most of them are scams. Not all, but a lot. My family has offered some jobs before but nope. They’ll take the handout though. Every now and again you’ll meet someone really in need of help. For those folks, we should help. Not easy to always tell them apart though.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
That's cool man. As someone who hasn't seen his cousin in years, probably did a world of good for him too.
He lives in my street, about a minute walk, it's been years since we talked :laugh: Well, months, at least... :) I see his parents and siblings regularly (his little brother is the cousin who went freelance and he's also into IT, games, anime, cool music and movies, def my fave cousin!). And I eat over at his parent's place weekly... Well, until his dad fell down the stairs anyway. Last week, I invited all my cousins (and partners and children) to a restaurant dinner. Only this guy isn't coming as he's not really a family guy (save for his own household, he has a wife and two kids and he's a great dad). Him not coming was my reason for inviting him over. I'm good with all my cousins from my mother's side and also the oldest. I never see my cousins from my father's side, on that side I'm by far the youngest and they live further away so they might as well be strangers (and we have like nothing in common).
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Maybe you saying that made it seem real to him because nobody else in his life would think he could write a book. Success breeds success.
I'm always surprised so many people have this loser mentality of "that's not going to work" or "they will never make it." Not with that mentality you won't. If someone does something because they want to, power to them! You can do it, I wish you luck. And if it doesn't work out, you'll have gained valuable experience for your next try.
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Quick side tangent though, a pretty face doesn't always make someone happy.
True, a pretty face won't even always help with a negative self image. But at least she found the motivation/power to lose weight and take care of her body.
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Sander Rossel wrote:
I'm good with all my cousins from my mother's side and also the oldest.
That's awesome man. Not every gets a good family. Don't really realize how valuable they are until they're gone, ya know.
Sander Rossel wrote:
And if it doesn't work out, you'll have gained valuable experience for your next try.
100% buddy. There's no such thing as failure as long as you don't quit. You either succeed or learn for the next try.
Sander Rossel wrote:
But at least she found the motivation/power to lose weight and take care of her body.
Good point.
Jeremy Falcon
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Oh man, I just thought of this time I made this guy's evening! Pretty funny story actually, but not completely Lounge-safe... You'll like it though :laugh: I didn't know this guy, but he was from my area and it's pretty small, so we have like two or three places to hang out in weekends. He's also a friend of friends, so I was bound to run into him again. Anyway, he was drunk and he walked up to me and a friend I was with that he knew. I can't remember exactly how it went, but he quickly started talking about his p****. Now I decided to just roll with it. Asked him how he felt about his p****, that he didn't need to feel bad about it being too small, if he liked other p**** as well, etc. He loved that I talked to him about it and how I handled the conversation, and even more when I told him I was, in fact, sober. So a couple of weeks later I meet him again, but sober this time. He was like "ah, man, I talked to you about my p****, did I not?" And I was like "yeah man, we had a pretty good conversation." And this guy absolutely loved me for it, thanked me for indulging him in his drunk state and making him laugh then and again now that he thought about it. It was the best and most epic conversation he ever had and every time we saw each other after that he'd come say hi and fist bump me :laugh:
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Ha ha ha ha... that's awesome. I mean we're here to connect as humans... even if it's talking about some dude's p.... :laugh: :laugh: I'm not sure how much I can say in the lounge, but I was good buddies with a dude while I was in Florida and we'd have chats like that. Completely sober. I mean, it's silly bro chat, but it's also refreshing to talk to people not putting on some fake front. Like humanity would be a lot further along if we didn't put on a front.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Yeah man. I got regrets too, like not giving a (genuine) homeless guy money once.
I got fooled a couple of times with that and I decided to not give money anymore. If I think that the vibe's are real, what I do now is to invite to eat something and buy food for that person. Only exception was a guy that once came to me totally honest and told me he was adict and he needed money to buy his dosis relative soon and preferred to say the truth hoping that someone will give him something, so he can avoid having to rob someone when the abstinence hit him. I gave him what I had on me, his bravery to tell the truth upfront is something I have rarely seen and had to be rewarded.
M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
Nelek wrote:
I got fooled a couple of times with that and I decided to not give money anymore.
Same. My family has offered a job to one once and he refused. Perfectly healthy dude. Ever since then, let's just say I use good judgement when dealing with that. The reason this other guy stuck out in my mind is because his energy was different. He wasn't panhandling. He was just outside a grocery store, not begging anyone for anything. And you could feel his aura... knowing he was having a rough time. I don't know if you're spiritual or not, but I'm pretty sure God was talking to me and yet I didn't listen. Still sticks with me to this day. Don't know where that guy is, but I hope he's ok. :^)
Nelek wrote:
I gave him what I had on me, his bravery to tell the truth upfront is something I have rarely seen and had to be rewarded.
Nice, just like any relationship, we're here to connect as people. That's the good stuff. Honesty goes a long way towards that.
Jeremy Falcon
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
Not sure if your spiritual or not,
Not really spiritual (although I do believe in spirits and "karma"), but more in the way of ethic / philosophic.
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
knowing you spent your time on this planet at least trying to make it a teeny, tiny bit better than you found it.
That's one of the things my parents teached me, go whereever you go, do whatever you do... try always to leave things at least as good as you found it. Sure it is not always possible, but I try my best on that. It is like trying not to close the door when relationships (it doesn't matter if professional or personal) end. Mine might sleep long time, but I have re-taken contact with several people during the years and there were no bad feelings and was enough to meet and have a drink or to crush over when in town. So far only ended bad with 2 people in my life.
M.D.V. ;) If something has a solution... Why do we have to worry about?. If it has no solution... For what reason do we have to worry about? Help me to understand what I'm saying, and I'll explain it better to you Rating helpful answers is nice, but saying thanks can be even nicer.
Nelek wrote:
Not really spiritual (although I do believe in spirits and "karma"), but more in the way of ethic / philosophic.
Just read this after my other comment... :laugh: Totally agree about that karma.
Nelek wrote:
try always to leave things at least as good as you found it. Sure it is not always possible, but I try my best on that.
It's a great philosophy man.
Nelek wrote:
It is like trying not to close the door when relationships (it doesn't matter if professional or personal) end. Mine might sleep long time, but I have re-taken contact with several people during the years and there were no bad feelings and was enough to meet and have a drink or to crush over when in town. So far only ended bad with 2 people in my life.
As long as you aren't unfair with your current partner. I sure wouldn't want someone I was serious with hanging out with her ex, even if it ended on good terms. Never met a sane chick that was good with that either (for a serious relationship, not just having fun). I mean, unless there were kids involved... then you got no choice.
Jeremy Falcon
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Extremism is bad, no matter in which direction. Taking our civilian war in Spain as an example: An ex militar and politician considered "right wing" ("José Antonio Primo de Rivera") said before his execution "I hope mine is the last spanish blood that gets poured in this senseless war" (or something like this, free translation) A left rebelian (Dolores Ibarruri, La Pasionaria) is known by her quote "I prefer to execute 100 innocent people to set free a guilty" (specially oriented to what she considered fascists) Please note: I am not defending the one or the other one. I am just trying to say that it doesn't matter what ideology one person follows. There are good and bad people overall and the dangerous ones are the extremists, not the moderated ones.
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That's a manly bro-rose I left you... since there was no high five emoji. So yeah... manly... :laugh: :laugh:
Jeremy Falcon
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Can’t reply properly since I’m on the road but that’s good point about treating housekeepers with respect and dignity. Props for that. For the homeless peeps, you’re good man. Most of them are scams. Not all, but a lot. My family has offered some jobs before but nope. They’ll take the handout though. Every now and again you’ll meet someone really in need of help. For those folks, we should help. Not easy to always tell them apart though.
Jeremy Falcon
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Ha ha ha ha... that's awesome. I mean we're here to connect as humans... even if it's talking about some dude's p.... :laugh: :laugh: I'm not sure how much I can say in the lounge, but I was good buddies with a dude while I was in Florida and we'd have chats like that. Completely sober. I mean, it's silly bro chat, but it's also refreshing to talk to people not putting on some fake front. Like humanity would be a lot further along if we didn't put on a front.
Jeremy Falcon
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
I mean we're here to connect as humans... even if it's talking about some dude's p.... :laugh: :laugh:
Basically our connecting organ :rolleyes:
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
I mean, it's silly bro chat, but it's also refreshing to talk to people not putting on some fake front.
You'd be surprised how many "proper" business people talk about p**** and the like if you can get behind that fake front :laugh: At least over here in the Netherlands where we're generally pretty easy going.
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Jeremy Falcon wrote:
I mean we're here to connect as humans... even if it's talking about some dude's p.... :laugh: :laugh:
Basically our connecting organ :rolleyes:
Jeremy Falcon wrote:
I mean, it's silly bro chat, but it's also refreshing to talk to people not putting on some fake front.
You'd be surprised how many "proper" business people talk about p**** and the like if you can get behind that fake front :laugh: At least over here in the Netherlands where we're generally pretty easy going.
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Sander Rossel wrote:
You'd be surprised how many "proper" business people talk about p**** and the like if you can get behind that fake front :laugh:
Yup. They have to be. There's a lot of CEOs and VPs for some very large companies (Fortune 100, 500) that are very blunt and to the point. Going off the ones I've worked with and books I've read. You don't get to that level by beating around the bush with nonsense.
Jeremy Falcon
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Nelek wrote:
Not really spiritual (although I do believe in spirits and "karma"), but more in the way of ethic / philosophic.
Just read this after my other comment... :laugh: Totally agree about that karma.
Nelek wrote:
try always to leave things at least as good as you found it. Sure it is not always possible, but I try my best on that.
It's a great philosophy man.
Nelek wrote:
It is like trying not to close the door when relationships (it doesn't matter if professional or personal) end. Mine might sleep long time, but I have re-taken contact with several people during the years and there were no bad feelings and was enough to meet and have a drink or to crush over when in town. So far only ended bad with 2 people in my life.
As long as you aren't unfair with your current partner. I sure wouldn't want someone I was serious with hanging out with her ex, even if it ended on good terms. Never met a sane chick that was good with that either (for a serious relationship, not just having fun). I mean, unless there were kids involved... then you got no choice.
Jeremy Falcon
I was not speaking about romantic relationships. I meant all kind of relationships, professional ones, friends, party pals, whatsoever. Crash over was at one guy's place I met while my scholarship at the end of college. I went back around 5 years later to the city and needed a place to stay, he didn't say no when I asked. I bought stuff, cook dinner, left more in the fridge as I needed to cook and had a good long chat with him about people we knew or how the city was at the moment, went out to have a couple of beers (on me of course) and went to sleep. Next day he was working, I had a shower, something to breakfast, left a note saying "thank you" and continued towards Amsterdam to celebrate new years eve there.
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