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I'm no expert but there are a few things that have helped me: 1. Breathing exercises. This is slow, controlled breathing that takes the focus away from what is troubling you and lowers your blood pressure. Breath in steadily for 10 seconds, told your breath for 20 the nbreath out steadily for 20 seconds. Rest and repeat three times. If you are comfortable increase the times a little keeping the in:hold:out times in the ration 1:2:1. 2. Don't try to make eye contact with the whole audience the way you would with one person, this can be disoritentating. Instead maybe look at several people, one at a time, making brief eye contact. This can help you make a connection with the audience. 3. Remember whatever happens you will get out alive! Elaine (shy fluffy tigress) PS Part of CP is being there for each other, welcome to the family :love: The tigress is here :-D
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Rather than jumping right into medication you may want to simply try visualizing yourself giving the speech successfully. Practicing this over and over will 'train' you expect a different result from the presentation than you do now. I'd do it 2 or 3 times a day, settle in a quiet spot and don't rush it, and walk yourself through the whole process in your mind slowly and purposefully. Another approach that's worked wonders for me is rationally thinking about the worst thing that can happen. You are on stage and you forget something, or make a mistake. I happens all the time, everyone does it. Imagining the worst that can happen often creates a limit to your fear and gives you something to work on. An well, valium is good too ;-) David -- modified at 18:42 Thursday 29th September, 2005
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Don't go to an internet pharmacy, go to Amazon and buy this book. It'll help a lot. You say speech. Do you mean speech, or business presentation? They're quite different.
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chimera967 wrote: i have to make a speech in front of 150 people a couple weeks from now. it is not something i can get out of without jeopardizing my position in the company, as i'm the only person that can do it and they are relying upon me... I can't help with the internet pharmacy... to me that is better handled by a doctor. That being said, have you considered rehearsing with crowds at work to work through this? Two weeks is a bit short to get counseling on methods for to work through a phobia. However, if it is that important to your company, maybe you can have a rehearsal with a few more people a day to build up your confidence in your own abilities. Both you and your company benefits from the success. Worrying about the fear of being in the spotlight only makes it worse, I can't say everyone has been there, but I have. The first time I gave a presentation on my work, I turned a 25 minute rehearsed speech into 15minutes because I paniced and talked too fast. By the 10th time I was getting used to it. Now I shrug most of them off. Some people work better with sink or swim, some, like me (and maybe you), need to work their way up to presenting to many people. _________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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I think the suggestions posted so far are good ones. I'd only add that, for what it's worth, you're certainly not alone. There are a lot of people who feel similarly varying degrees of anxiety over public speaking or public performance. In my own case, I think back to when I was a college student, studying music, and preparing for my senior recital. I had played in public performances before, and would get what I thought was a reasonable amount of nervousness. But for some reason this one was accompanied with a level of pressure that was extreme. I had never felt anxiety quite at that level before (and really, nothing quite like that ever since). I think what was significant about that was that in that one case, it was all about me, which just made me more uncomforatable (I think I'm a pretty shy person at heart). What's funny is that I can play in groups as a supporting member without any anxiety at all... I can play for large church audiences as part of a service, or teach classes, or present for groups with a normal amount of nervousness... I think in those cases what helps it not be overwhelming is to reassure myself that it's not really about me. I have a contribution to make - but I tell myself it is the contribution that is important for its own sake, not because I'm the one giving it. I don't understand why, but that has always seemed to help me. I wish you all the best. Hang in there. :cool:
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Back when I was an assistant pastor, I had to speak before 75-100 people somewhat frequently. This is not me, as I hate to get up in front of two or more people ;) But, after a while you get more comfortable. 1) You must do is make sure you practice and have everything you plan to say without any effort in your mind. This way, when you are in front of the crowd, even if your brain locks a bit, it should be pull you through. It should be all memorized (as much as possible) and notes are there to help if brain fuzz starts. 2) Take your time. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to try speeding along. If you find you are not taking enough air, just slow down and breath a bit. No one will mind a little air break and can actually help those that are hearing, to digest what you say. 3) Practice what you are planning to say. 4) At the start, you might want to focus on item(s) just over the heads of the listeners. This takes the crowd out of your focus. Try not to notice when people figit (spelling? ) in their seats or seem restless, this is normal in every crowd unless you are telling them you plan to give everyone a $1,000 for being there :) It is easy to get distracted if someone has to get up to go to the restroom or there are a few talking while your are speaking. If you have friends there that you know well, you might use them as an item of focus also. 5) Practice what you are planning to say. Yes, this is repeated, but for beginners, this is an absolute key. You should be able to give you speech in your sleep. Rocky <>< My Blog[^]
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You came to the right place. Since you have a few weeks to prepare, I prescribe some type of paroxetine. Since I don't know where you are I don't know the trade name there. It takes about 10 days to take effect. However be wary of blending it with anti- depressants. - A true panic attack feeds off itself. eg 1.) you are worried about x happening -> 2.) x may or maynot happen but you are worried about a panic attack. 3.) This cause shortness of breath and your heart must beat faster. 4.) You now have confirmed a panic attack is happening. 5.) Return to 3 parotextine will help block (3.) Regardz Colin J Davies The most LinkedIn CPian (that I know of anyhow) :-)
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...might help avoid the panic, but giggling during a presentation generally doesn't go over well. And bad weed will make you paranoid, which kinda just worsens the whole thing. It's hard to get the dosages right on most prescription pharmaceuticals without devoting a fair bit of time to it - so unless you really don't have much going on in the next couple weeks, i'd skip drugs altogether. Fierce, blinding anger on the other hand, does wonderful things for focus and communications skills, and is something you may already have experience in using. So it might help if you can kinda psych yourself up before hand, perhaps by visualizing the face of that mean kid who killed your dog in the audience, or maybe doing a bit of VB6 coding. Then walk out, your hands shaking with pure white-hot rage instead of paralyzing fear, and let 'em all have it! Of course, make sure you don't actually write your presentation while in this state, and do not ad-lib - there may be 150 people in your company who'd find a long string of obscenities amusing, but chances are they won't all be packing the auditorium that day.
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Speaking in front of a crowd used scare to bejeezus out of me. Until I had to run a few meetings to explain/sell my ideas and eventually train the 50-ish developers on a new methodology. I was afraid of sounding stupid, forgetting everything I wanted to cover, or maybe my fly would be open. The more I prepared for the class, the more comfortable I got with the material and the more my confidence grew. It helped to discuss parts of the lecture with other developers before hand to get feedback from them on the topic. It helped me prepare for questions that might come up, further building my confidence. Also, it gave me several people to look at during the class who I'd already discussed some of the material with which helped relax me. As you are preparing, don't think about the act of speaking so much as the material itself. In the end people don't really care if you are great orator, they won't laugh at you for stumbling on a word. they are there to learn something from you. Just give them information clearly, which you surely will once you've prepared. Even if you do misspeak, laugh it off if you can, it will lighten the room. It also helps me to get to the meeting room early and feel comfortable there. Breathe deeply and think about that feeling of relief you'll get when it's over. Trick yourself into feeling that you are already done just before you begin. This works for me anyway, Good Luck. BW
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You've had some good advice so far. I'll offer advice of a different sort. Learn to control yourself. Next time you have a panic attack use your mind to master the matter. Calm yourself down. Convince yourself it's not a logical reaction. Learn to master the attack and it won't happen again. A long time ago I had to learn how to control fear in big ways. Fear is stil there it's present in a lot of things I do. I just recognize it for what it is and isolate it away from the task at hand. My kids life depended on me over-coming a lot fears including her death. The only way I could preserve her life was by not fearing her death. In a practical sense that just means that when her death entered my mind I ran it off and only focused on what I needed to do to keep her alive and that was it. You need to focus on the tasks at hand and isolate your emotions. You'll be stronger for it. This isn't just a speech problem this is a confidence problem and it will hinder you the rest of your life. Vallium will make you a slave to the chemicals released by your emotionally controlled body. Master the emotions, force your thoughts only to the relevant components of the task at hand and stay focused. The details will work themselves out. Experience has taught me it's 1000 times harder to read/speak anything to friends family than it is to a large mixed audience. Stage several practice speeches at home. The goal of which will not be learning your speech. Instead you will attempt to deliver it but your real goal will be mastering your emotions and the distractions those emotions produce. During your practices only focuse on what you *have* to get done and force your mind to stay there. It's easier than it sounds and when you get the knack for it then few things will be a problem for you ever again. Vallium is just a crutch that will make you the shell of a man you once were. Nobody wants that, not over a public speaking engagement. Buck up! Master those emotions you will be glad you did.
Some assembly required. Code-frog System Architects, Inc.
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...might help avoid the panic, but giggling during a presentation generally doesn't go over well. And bad weed will make you paranoid, which kinda just worsens the whole thing. It's hard to get the dosages right on most prescription pharmaceuticals without devoting a fair bit of time to it - so unless you really don't have much going on in the next couple weeks, i'd skip drugs altogether. Fierce, blinding anger on the other hand, does wonderful things for focus and communications skills, and is something you may already have experience in using. So it might help if you can kinda psych yourself up before hand, perhaps by visualizing the face of that mean kid who killed your dog in the audience, or maybe doing a bit of VB6 coding. Then walk out, your hands shaking with pure white-hot rage instead of paralyzing fear, and let 'em all have it! Of course, make sure you don't actually write your presentation while in this state, and do not ad-lib - there may be 150 people in your company who'd find a long string of obscenities amusing, but chances are they won't all be packing the auditorium that day.
Shog9 wrote: or maybe doing a bit of VB6 coding I'd recommend an installshield session. (This week I "only" had to search a function, add two lines, build, and test five or so scenarios. I spent over an hour cursing like a farting sailorette.
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
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chimera967 wrote: in front of 150 people I think you need a bit of arrogance for yourself. Who are they, after all? An audience of 15 people could be dramatic but an 150 crowd is just a statistic :)
"tous les sifflets des trains, toutes les sirènes des bateaux m'ont chanté cent fois la chanson de l'Eldorado" rechi+
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Think to the chairs they're sitted on, as toilettes. And "feel" the smell of your freedom in speach. If you can think laughting on this, you'll have no problem. 2 bugs found. > recompile ... 65534 bugs found. :doh:
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Shog9 wrote: or maybe doing a bit of VB6 coding I'd recommend an installshield session. (This week I "only" had to search a function, add two lines, build, and test five or so scenarios. I spent over an hour cursing like a farting sailorette.
Pandoras Gift #44: Hope. The one that keeps you on suffering.
aber.. "Wie gesagt, der Scheiss is' Therapie"
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wear a sun glass , which is too dark that you will see nothing. [just for fun]. but try bluring your sight if u get panic too much.. and never look at one single person for any gesuture he makeswill directly affect you.. instead you just keep moving your sight around.. one thing what used to suffer was , i used feel very uncomfortable with my hands once i get in front of a crowd.. for where to keep my them!.. and i'd also be able to see my saliva creation process and till it reaches the stomach.. particularly ,when it goes thru the throat, it feels like stone.. anyway i hope u dont have all these symptoms.:-D V
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A dude on a ski lift told me about his friend who had a panic attack on a ski lift and fell off. So don't ride ski lifts. /\ |_ E X E GG -- modified at 23:24 Thursday 29th September, 2005
At least not whilst giving a presentation :laugh: The tigress is here :-D
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Mostly good advice so far, particularly: Breathing: Very, very important to breath long and slow. Fast breathing has a whole load of effects on the body, form blood acidty, to blood pressure. Practise: Get your material right, dont wing it, unless you are a real pro. Feal the fear and do it any way: Dont be afraid of fear, welcome it, and use the adrenaline it gives you to be sharp and focused. Remember, this is the mantra of those extreme sports people. Go for a run 50 mins before hand: This is going to tire you a bit, but will allow your body to relax and breath slowly. Also, the endorphines produced by hard exercise will make you feel good. A glass or two of wine: Alcohol in small amounts is a great confidence booster. When you have finished the speech, you will feel damn good! Nunc est bibendum
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While this is unlikely to help for your immediate situation, it will help long term. Join your local Toastmasters group. It is an international organisation with over 200,000 members world wide. It is an organisation that was set up to help people overcome their fears of public speaking and improve their abilities. It is also great fun. You can progress at what ever speed you feel comfortable. There are various level, the first is CTM (Competent ToastMaster) which is achieved after 10 speeches of upto 7 minutes each. Some people take a year to do their speeches, some people take 2 or 3 years or even more. After CTM there are various advanced stages and there are also leadership courses in which you can help and mentor other people who were once in your situation. So, my advice is to find a local group, go along to it - they won't make you do a presentation if you don't want - My first couple of meetings I just went along and watched and listened - everyone was friendly and invited me to participate but were very understanding when I said I wanted just to watch what goes on. [EDIT] You might want the link to their website also: http://www.toastmasters.org/[^] [/EDIT] By the way, your profile says you are in the US (you might want to change that - it can help people dispense the appropriate advice if it is country specific)
My: Blog | Photos "Man who stand on hill with mouth open will wait long time for roast duck to drop in." -- Confucious -- modified at 7:33 Friday 30th September, 2005
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OK, I think I have relative experience. I am a foreigner living in US. And I have my own company. I have been trying to sell software to customers for a decade now. I also had to deal with investors. So I have to talk to many people sometimes training groups. I also am a DJ at a local university station. When I was a grad student. I also had to deal with groups of undergrad students. In addition my younger son is having similar problems. His concern happens to be sweating too much while he is in school. This in turn puts him into the same cyclical panic like situation. I would like to add my feelings about the subject to what has already been said by many. 1. Plant friends in audience. Who has gone through the speech and can jump in in case of emergency. My teachers at the University always did that. When a grad student gave a lecture and was confronted with a tough question they would jump in from the audience, and answer. Must be done very graciously and. I must admit, they were all very good. Nobody got hurt feelings. 2. Not to be blunt but, don't take yourself, your career, and this speech too seriously. I mean the world does not really revolve around my stupid radio show. That approach is so liberating. I get licence to skrew up. Not that you have to use it. Remember you like what you do. And it can't help but show. 3. Remember the audience statistically is full of dull people whose lives are far less interesting than yours. And The speech that you should not take too seriously, is the most exciting thing they will have done that week. 4. Some people found out that, if you have a good subject and you are ok in what you know, but a bit on the shy, and nervous side, People adore that. I know I do. That however backfires for me when it is pretentious and done intentionally. Finally good luck and come tell us how it went and what you can recommend us. yalcin DJ Turbonado (aka Brown Sugha) Dromedary Express at WCBN FM