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  • C Chris Austin

    Christian Graus wrote:

    I have a business partner in Texas whose mother in law works at a Christian school. His experience and belief is that most home schooling in Texas is done for the reasons I stated.

    Like I said, my experience doesn't match yours. Since I knew we were having a child I started researching alternatives to public schools. I started contacting homeschooling groups, and private schools. I've sat down and talked with these people at length trying to learn what they do as well as what the do and don't like about the results. Again, it may just be the people I seek out and try to avoid vs the people that your business partner associates with.

    Christian Graus wrote:

    He also said that some states have stricter laws, others let anyone home school, the latter tend to be states where religion is the prime reason ( as it is in this case )

    I have little doubt about some of those states. When I spent some time in the 7th layer of Hell a.k.a. Southern Alabama, I ran into more than my fair share of those folks.

    Christian Graus wrote:

    Am I right in thinking you're in Texas, or is it just that your last name is Austin ?

    I'm in Dallas but not a native Texan.

    Sovereign ingredient for a happy marriage: Pay cash or do without. Interest charges not only eat up a household budget; awareness of debt eats up domestic felicity. --Lazarus Long Avoid the crowd. Do your own thinking independently. Be the chess player, not the chess piece. --?

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    Christian Graus
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    OK - I'd imagine that the people you'd meet would probably tend towards the same reasons you had, but again, I'm an outsider, so perhaps his perceptions are wrong and just stories like this one ( where they do seem to apply ) feed a general stereotype.

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      The children were seen by the Education Authority, and were much publicized (home ed. being uncommon).

      Christian Graus wrote:

      less child abuse was reported because of the same attitude

      And child abuse by teachers was hushed up, by the State.

      Bob Emmett

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      Bob Emmett wrote:

      And child abuse by teachers was hushed up, by the State.

      Yes, there was a general problem in society which would have been reflected in his decision as well as in the way all abuse was treated at the time.

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      • M Mike Gaskey

        All sides agree the children have thrived with home school - yet: In an oral ruling, Mangum said the children should go to public school.[^] what fun

        Mike - typical white guy. The USA does have universal healthcare, but you have to pay for it. D'oh. Thomas Mann - "Tolerance becomes a crime when applied to evil." The NYT - my leftist brochure. Calling an illegal alien an “undocumented immigrant” is like calling a drug dealer an “unlicensed pharmacist”. God doesn't believe in atheists, therefore they don't exist.

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        Christian Graus
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        Mike, I am sorry that you pulled out one part of this story, and made it sound as if the state was stepping in to interfere with a couples desire to home school, and then took no part in the discussion.

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          Bob Emmett wrote:

          But !IMO.

          See, I'll admit that the US school system appears to be fundamentally broken, it's part of a general system that leaves the poor to suffer while the rich pay for decent services. However, if just any moron ( and this is not a personal comment, I don't pretend to know your motivations or to judge your ability to home school your kids ), can decide to teach their kids, doesn't that mean that either 1 - the job of teacher is meaningless, or 2 - some of these parents are, with whatever intention, bringing harm to their kids by failing to teach them the basic skills they will need to nagivate life ? In any case, if your schools and teachers are so bad, perhaps the problem is that people are not complaining about it ? I admit to choosing a private school, but mostly because the school my daughter was headed to in the public system, most girls leave early to have their babies and go on welfare.

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          Lost User
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          I take your point about morons, but that is covered by truancy laws. The State can prosecute you if they believe you to be merely keeping the children at home. We maintained a record of work undertaken, to be produced as evidence were we ever to be prosecuted. We also communicated with our Local Authority, presenting them with a summary of the work.

          Christian Graus wrote:

          the basic skills they will need to nagivate life

          Ambition, Distraction, Uglification and Derision. (Lewis Carroll)

          Christian Graus wrote:

          if your schools and teachers are so bad

          Not our motivation. We wanted a more flexible approach to education: today's sunny - outdoor activities; today's rainy - written work.

          Christian Graus wrote:

          I admit to choosing a private school, but mostly because the school my daughter was headed to in the public system, most girls leave early to have their babies and go on welfare.

          Very sensible, but think of those whose income doesn't stretch to that, what is their option?

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          • C Christian Graus

            Bob Emmett wrote:

            But !IMO.

            See, I'll admit that the US school system appears to be fundamentally broken, it's part of a general system that leaves the poor to suffer while the rich pay for decent services. However, if just any moron ( and this is not a personal comment, I don't pretend to know your motivations or to judge your ability to home school your kids ), can decide to teach their kids, doesn't that mean that either 1 - the job of teacher is meaningless, or 2 - some of these parents are, with whatever intention, bringing harm to their kids by failing to teach them the basic skills they will need to nagivate life ? In any case, if your schools and teachers are so bad, perhaps the problem is that people are not complaining about it ? I admit to choosing a private school, but mostly because the school my daughter was headed to in the public system, most girls leave early to have their babies and go on welfare.

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            Chris Austin
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            Christian Graus wrote:

            In any case, if your schools and teachers are so bad, perhaps the problem is that people are not complaining about it ?

            We can complain until we run out of breath and our fingers can no longer type letters to our civic leaders. But, in the meantime, what is a parent that doesn't have the money he or she needs to send their child to a private school supposed to do? Admittedly, this isn't my problem but I genuinely feel for those concerned parents.

            Christian Graus wrote:

            1 - the job of teacher is meaningless, or

            It is when the focus of a state funded education is to pass a regime of standardized tests rather than gain a fundamental understanding of the topic. My sister is a 4th grade math teacher back in Phoenix and she more or less agrees with my point of view. She would tell you if you asked her that her hands are tied. They are not allowed to fail or hold back students without parental permission. Also, it's a open secret that the administrators encourage the slow students to miss the big standardized exams in oder to look better.

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            2 - some of these parents are, with whatever intention, bringing harm to their kids by failing to teach them the basic skills they will need to nagivate life ?

            I think this is largely a stereotype. Some of the brightest and easy to get along with people I knew when studying physics in Arizona where home schooled. These guys were fun, magnanimous and, the top of our class.

            Sovereign ingredient for a happy marriage: Pay cash or do without. Interest charges not only eat up a household budget; awareness of debt eats up domestic felicity. --Lazarus Long Avoid the crowd. Do your own thinking independently. Be the chess player, not the chess piece. --?

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            • C Christian Graus

              Mike, I am sorry that you pulled out one part of this story, and made it sound as if the state was stepping in to interfere with a couples desire to home school, and then took no part in the discussion.

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              Christian Graus wrote:

              and then took no part in the discussion

              Maybe life prevented him from responding.

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                Christian Graus wrote:

                and then took no part in the discussion

                Maybe life prevented him from responding.

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                Christian Graus
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                Yeah, I'm open to that possibility, I'm not accusing him as much as hoping that whatever the reason, he'll take the invitation to revisit the thread when he has time, and explain why he skewed the story the way he did.

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                • M Mike Gaskey

                  All sides agree the children have thrived with home school - yet: In an oral ruling, Mangum said the children should go to public school.[^] what fun

                  Mike - typical white guy. The USA does have universal healthcare, but you have to pay for it. D'oh. Thomas Mann - "Tolerance becomes a crime when applied to evil." The NYT - my leftist brochure. Calling an illegal alien an “undocumented immigrant” is like calling a drug dealer an “unlicensed pharmacist”. God doesn't believe in atheists, therefore they don't exist.

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                  If the family wasn't broken, then there would be no court case and the state would not have to get involved. You allways roll the dice when you get the state involved. This problem is clearly the fault of the parents since they can't work out thier own affairs.

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                  • C Christian Graus

                    Some observations. 1 - " They have tested two years above their grade levels, she said." is this independantly verified ? 2 - the main reason for home schooling in the US appears to be to hide children from science. 3 - for all that, this ruling is about the parents getting divorced and one parent wanting the kids to be exposed to mainstream thought. At the core, it's probably about two people trying to hurt each other, and the judge is stuck in the middle of their decision to fight it out and use the kids to get at each other, the system has not sought out these kids and told the parents they can't home school, ( although if she's not a qualified teacher, or in some other way monitored as to the quality of education she provides, the state should be able to get involved IMO ).' Oh, assuming that all sides indeed agree that the 'children have thrived' ( I didn't see that part, but I just scanned it ), I don't see how that matters. My kids would thrive in an environment where I gave them anything they want and kept them away from outside influences that may upset them, but my job as a parent is to prepare them for life, not to just make them happy today.

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                    Oakman
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                    Christian Graus wrote:

                    1 - " They have tested two years above their grade levels, she said." is this independantly verified ?

                    That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools. We looked into it pretty seriously, but my ex decided she wanted to keep working.

                    Christian Graus wrote:

                    the main reason for home schooling in the US appears to be to hide children from science.

                    Sorry, but you are dead wrong. The primary reason is to insure that the kids get a great education. There are plenty of Christian schools around that will skip Evolution in teaching biology.

                    Christian Graus wrote:

                    At the core, it's probably about two people trying to hurt each other,

                    I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

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                      If the family wasn't broken, then there would be no court case and the state would not have to get involved. You allways roll the dice when you get the state involved. This problem is clearly the fault of the parents since they can't work out thier own affairs.

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                      kmg365 wrote:

                      This problem is clearly the fault of the parents since they can't work out thier own affairs.

                      it only takes one to make divorce a living hell for other parent and all the kids.

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                      • L Lost User

                        How unlike our late Lord Chief Justice Goddard (a 'hanging judge' - no softy) who said: "You may not think this is an education, I do not think this is an education", but allowed the children to remain home schooled. (This over 50 years ago.) The State had, wisely, not legislated what an 'education' was. Does the USA specify a curriculum at State or Federal level? Does it apply to home schooling or merely state institutions? (In the UK, the National Curriculum, SATs, etc. apply to state schools.)

                        Bob Emmett

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                        Oakman
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                        Bob Emmett wrote:

                        Does the USA specify a curriculum at State or Federal level

                        I'm most familiar with Mass. They require specific subjects and written lesson plans of home schooling parent, who kids still must pass the same standardized test as everyone else. Mas also has an alternate school programs, capped at something like 100 schools where the equivalent of a private school is set up and then funded by the state - same rules about courses and lesson plans and tests. They capped the school program when it became obvious that most parents wanted their kids to go to one. Teachers Union is very upset because money is allotted to alternate schools and regular schools based on how many students they have. So funding going to them cuts down on the number of teachers in the public system

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                        • O Oakman

                          Christian Graus wrote:

                          1 - " They have tested two years above their grade levels, she said." is this independantly verified ?

                          That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools. We looked into it pretty seriously, but my ex decided she wanted to keep working.

                          Christian Graus wrote:

                          the main reason for home schooling in the US appears to be to hide children from science.

                          Sorry, but you are dead wrong. The primary reason is to insure that the kids get a great education. There are plenty of Christian schools around that will skip Evolution in teaching biology.

                          Christian Graus wrote:

                          At the core, it's probably about two people trying to hurt each other,

                          I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

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                          Gary Kirkham
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                          Oakman wrote:

                          That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools

                          That's my observation as well, but I don't think that the curriculum is the key. With children, you will not get more than you expect from them. If a parent home schools a child, then they are taking an active interest in what the child is learning and where the bar is set...and the bar is usually set pretty high. In a public school, a parent can also take an active interest and have high expectations, but their child's development is slowed by a system that caters to the lowest common denominator (diminshed expectations). Unfortunately most parents are passive when it comes to their child’s education.

                          Oakman wrote:

                          There are plenty of Christian schools around that will skip Evolution in teaching biology.

                          Is that what you meant to write?

                          Oakman wrote:

                          I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

                          I have two friends who have ex-wives that have used their children as a hammer. I have been with them through their pain and have seen how the courts have stacked the deck against them. Their only crime: wanting to see their children. It's sad. Unfortunately, dead beat dads seem to get the most press.

                          Gary Kirkham Forever Forgiven and Alive in the Spirit "Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life. Me blog, You read

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                            Christian Graus wrote:

                            1 - " They have tested two years above their grade levels, she said." is this independantly verified ?

                            That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools. We looked into it pretty seriously, but my ex decided she wanted to keep working.

                            Christian Graus wrote:

                            the main reason for home schooling in the US appears to be to hide children from science.

                            Sorry, but you are dead wrong. The primary reason is to insure that the kids get a great education. There are plenty of Christian schools around that will skip Evolution in teaching biology.

                            Christian Graus wrote:

                            At the core, it's probably about two people trying to hurt each other,

                            I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

                            Jon Smith & Wesson: The original point and click interface

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                            Christian Graus
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                            Oakman wrote:

                            That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools

                            Seems possible. I mean, having a private tutor who is not family would do the same thing, surely.

                            Oakman wrote:

                            The primary reason is to insure that the kids get a great education

                            OK, so see my other comments re: this. You're saying the US school system is fundamentally broken and people forced to rely on it, are doomed to ignorance ? Also, I am repeating what I've been told by Americans here, not saying I am right, but I'm not basing my views on some outsider viewing of a few news stories.

                            Oakman wrote:

                            I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

                            Yes, in this case, I have no doubt. And that's what interests me about this most, is that Mike implies that this is a case of the state interfering with what the parents want, and that is plainly not the case.

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                              Oakman wrote:

                              That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools

                              That's my observation as well, but I don't think that the curriculum is the key. With children, you will not get more than you expect from them. If a parent home schools a child, then they are taking an active interest in what the child is learning and where the bar is set...and the bar is usually set pretty high. In a public school, a parent can also take an active interest and have high expectations, but their child's development is slowed by a system that caters to the lowest common denominator (diminshed expectations). Unfortunately most parents are passive when it comes to their child’s education.

                              Oakman wrote:

                              There are plenty of Christian schools around that will skip Evolution in teaching biology.

                              Is that what you meant to write?

                              Oakman wrote:

                              I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

                              I have two friends who have ex-wives that have used their children as a hammer. I have been with them through their pain and have seen how the courts have stacked the deck against them. Their only crime: wanting to see their children. It's sad. Unfortunately, dead beat dads seem to get the most press.

                              Gary Kirkham Forever Forgiven and Alive in the Spirit "Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life. Me blog, You read

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                              Christian Graus
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                              Gary Kirkham wrote:

                              Is that what you meant to write?

                              I expect so. They don't teach evolution, they skip it.

                              Gary Kirkham wrote:

                              I have been with them through their pain and have seen how the courts have stacked the deck against them.

                              Yeah, the system sucks that way. I know a guy in the US who has sole custody of his kids and I can only assume is ex is at least as screwed up as he claims, for him to pull that off.

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                              • C Christian Graus

                                Oakman wrote:

                                That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools

                                Seems possible. I mean, having a private tutor who is not family would do the same thing, surely.

                                Oakman wrote:

                                The primary reason is to insure that the kids get a great education

                                OK, so see my other comments re: this. You're saying the US school system is fundamentally broken and people forced to rely on it, are doomed to ignorance ? Also, I am repeating what I've been told by Americans here, not saying I am right, but I'm not basing my views on some outsider viewing of a few news stories.

                                Oakman wrote:

                                I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

                                Yes, in this case, I have no doubt. And that's what interests me about this most, is that Mike implies that this is a case of the state interfering with what the parents want, and that is plainly not the case.

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                                Christian Graus wrote:

                                You're saying the US school system is fundamentally broken and people forced to rely on it, are doomed to ignorance ?

                                No, I am saying that the system is breaking down, because, in part due to a lack of funding, and, in part, because of a takeover of the public schools by a union more interested in its members than their mission, and, in part, by an influx of kids from social backgrounds that do not respect the educational process or the educated, and in part by a teaching philosophy that cares more about not hurting the kids feelings than in insuring that they receive an education. There are lots of ways around the problem and some folks choose home-schooling. It's terribly elitist, as any left-thinking bureacrat will tell you, as are alternate schools, private schools, etc. So? As to people being doomed, how is it any different than the people in your area who cannot afford to pull their kids out of the school you say prepares them for welare? People make their own doom.

                                Christian Graus wrote:

                                Mike implies that this is a case of the state interfering with what the parents want

                                It is making a choice. The parents, or one of them, may have forced it to that point, but still it is choosing, and by choosing a moribund educational system, it sets a bad precedent. Judges need to learn that there are things that can't be litgated.

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                                  Christian Graus wrote:

                                  You're saying the US school system is fundamentally broken and people forced to rely on it, are doomed to ignorance ?

                                  No, I am saying that the system is breaking down, because, in part due to a lack of funding, and, in part, because of a takeover of the public schools by a union more interested in its members than their mission, and, in part, by an influx of kids from social backgrounds that do not respect the educational process or the educated, and in part by a teaching philosophy that cares more about not hurting the kids feelings than in insuring that they receive an education. There are lots of ways around the problem and some folks choose home-schooling. It's terribly elitist, as any left-thinking bureacrat will tell you, as are alternate schools, private schools, etc. So? As to people being doomed, how is it any different than the people in your area who cannot afford to pull their kids out of the school you say prepares them for welare? People make their own doom.

                                  Christian Graus wrote:

                                  Mike implies that this is a case of the state interfering with what the parents want

                                  It is making a choice. The parents, or one of them, may have forced it to that point, but still it is choosing, and by choosing a moribund educational system, it sets a bad precedent. Judges need to learn that there are things that can't be litgated.

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                                  Oakman wrote:

                                  As to people being doomed, how is it any different than the people in your area who cannot afford to pull their kids out of the school you say prepares them for welare? People make their own doom.

                                  Well, the issue is that those kids are already doomed, because the contempt they hold the school system in, and the attitude of a life on welfare, is already ingrained in them at home. You seem to be saying that largely the same thing is happening in the USA.

                                  Oakman wrote:

                                  Judges need to learn that there are things that can't be litgated.

                                  The judge is being forced to litigate, forced to choose one or the other. That he chose what he did may represent all sorts of things, but he didn't choose to litigate this issue.

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                                    Oakman wrote:

                                    As to people being doomed, how is it any different than the people in your area who cannot afford to pull their kids out of the school you say prepares them for welare? People make their own doom.

                                    Well, the issue is that those kids are already doomed, because the contempt they hold the school system in, and the attitude of a life on welfare, is already ingrained in them at home. You seem to be saying that largely the same thing is happening in the USA.

                                    Oakman wrote:

                                    Judges need to learn that there are things that can't be litgated.

                                    The judge is being forced to litigate, forced to choose one or the other. That he chose what he did may represent all sorts of things, but he didn't choose to litigate this issue.

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                                    Christian Graus wrote:

                                    The judge is being forced to litigate, forced to choose one or the other. That he chose what he did may represent all sorts of things, but he didn't choose to litigate this issue.

                                    He needs to learn to say, "no."

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                                      Oakman wrote:

                                      That's pretty much the standard for homeschooling vs. public schools

                                      That's my observation as well, but I don't think that the curriculum is the key. With children, you will not get more than you expect from them. If a parent home schools a child, then they are taking an active interest in what the child is learning and where the bar is set...and the bar is usually set pretty high. In a public school, a parent can also take an active interest and have high expectations, but their child's development is slowed by a system that caters to the lowest common denominator (diminshed expectations). Unfortunately most parents are passive when it comes to their child’s education.

                                      Oakman wrote:

                                      There are plenty of Christian schools around that will skip Evolution in teaching biology.

                                      Is that what you meant to write?

                                      Oakman wrote:

                                      I suspect you have hit the nail on the head

                                      I have two friends who have ex-wives that have used their children as a hammer. I have been with them through their pain and have seen how the courts have stacked the deck against them. Their only crime: wanting to see their children. It's sad. Unfortunately, dead beat dads seem to get the most press.

                                      Gary Kirkham Forever Forgiven and Alive in the Spirit "Truly, truly, I say to you, he who hears My word, and believes Him who sent Me, has eternal life, and does not come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life. Me blog, You read

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                                      Gary Kirkham wrote:

                                      Is that what you meant to write?

                                      I should have said fundamentalist and not picked on one religion. But in this country, most of the evolution-deniers are Christian, or at least claim to be. In Arabia, not so much. If you thought I was implying that all Christian schools or all Christians were cut from the same cloth, I apologize for leaving my words open to that interpretation

                                      Gary Kirkham wrote:

                                      Unfortunately, dead beat dads seem to get the most press.

                                      well, I won't lose much sleep over them. But I agree that women who will use any thing as a weapon, including their children and the most outrageous lies that could be told are deserving of as much opprobrium

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                                      • C Christian Graus

                                        Bob Emmett wrote:

                                        But !IMO.

                                        See, I'll admit that the US school system appears to be fundamentally broken, it's part of a general system that leaves the poor to suffer while the rich pay for decent services. However, if just any moron ( and this is not a personal comment, I don't pretend to know your motivations or to judge your ability to home school your kids ), can decide to teach their kids, doesn't that mean that either 1 - the job of teacher is meaningless, or 2 - some of these parents are, with whatever intention, bringing harm to their kids by failing to teach them the basic skills they will need to nagivate life ? In any case, if your schools and teachers are so bad, perhaps the problem is that people are not complaining about it ? I admit to choosing a private school, but mostly because the school my daughter was headed to in the public system, most girls leave early to have their babies and go on welfare.

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                                        Christian Graus wrote:

                                        2 - some of these parents are, with whatever intention, bringing harm to their kids by failing to teach them the basic skills they will need to nagivate life ?

                                        CG, you sound like you've put a fair bit of thought and effort into giving your kids the education they need. I suspect you would find it quite irritating, if your rulers decided they would no longer give you any say in this. Surely, the cost of the freedom to do well by your own is the freedom of your peers to do poorly on theirs?

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                                        In any case, if your schools and teachers are so bad, perhaps the problem is that people are not complaining about it ?

                                        Complaining doesn't fix anything. Squeaky wheels get greased, but that doesn't do much when a bearing is failing. And when it comes to doing something... Well, you can stay in the system and try to fix it while accepting that even if you succeed it might be too late to help your own kids, or you can leave. Many parents appear to be quite selfish when this choice comes up... ;-P

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                                          Some observations. 1 - " They have tested two years above their grade levels, she said." is this independantly verified ? 2 - the main reason for home schooling in the US appears to be to hide children from science. 3 - for all that, this ruling is about the parents getting divorced and one parent wanting the kids to be exposed to mainstream thought. At the core, it's probably about two people trying to hurt each other, and the judge is stuck in the middle of their decision to fight it out and use the kids to get at each other, the system has not sought out these kids and told the parents they can't home school, ( although if she's not a qualified teacher, or in some other way monitored as to the quality of education she provides, the state should be able to get involved IMO ).' Oh, assuming that all sides indeed agree that the 'children have thrived' ( I didn't see that part, but I just scanned it ), I don't see how that matters. My kids would thrive in an environment where I gave them anything they want and kept them away from outside influences that may upset them, but my job as a parent is to prepare them for life, not to just make them happy today.

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                                          Christian Graus wrote:

                                          2 - the main reason for home schooling in the US appears to be to hide children from science.

                                          I've heard that an awful lot, though not as much as the "emotionally stunted for life" bit. Not to sound whiny, but... it's getting stale. I could probably think up some fresh ones if you're interested...?

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