Do You Get Along ?
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
Outside of work, I 'get along' with everyone, or at least pretend to. The medication really helps here. At work, the medication helps, but I can't keep the sarcasm at bay for too long when dealing with a colleague who needs help, or someone make a stupid suggestion/asks for an impossible deadline. My colleague would probably tell you that I can be a real prick at times! :) I can do this because I've been here for almost 20 years and all the code is mine. :) Still, I do realize I have a problem and will continue to overcome this fault! :laugh:
"Go forth into the source" - Neal Morse
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
I live in a resort town where the are tons of transient drunks individuals and few of us permanent residence who stay home at night. As I get older, perhaps it is because of my surroundings, perhaps not, but my tolerence of others is ever shrinking. Which I try to keep in check because they all have a right to be here and are probably nice people. I like to come here and enjoy the intelligent banter. Feels like the old home place.
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In my 38 year career as a programmer, I've had people I liked (and didn't), people I respected (and didn't). I've always managed to be sufficiently professional to deal with all of them, even though at times it was like gargling with broken glass. Of course, there's always that one exception. "BK" decided that I was a moron, since I worked on a different product line from him. Every time I dealt with him he would lie, misdirect, or ignore the question. When I finally recognized what was going on, I stopped talking to him: in person, in meetings, via e-mail, anything. I simply acted as if he didn't exist. He eventually 'retired' early, when they tried to reassign him to another product and he did absolutely nothing fox six months. This is the first and only person in my career whom I have actively hated. Even the people who were frustrating, less than bright, or just lazy could be dealt with. Not only would I throw this guy under the bus, I'd be driving it. The final piss-in-your-oatmeal of this story is, due to a succession of "workforce adjustments", I am now the maintainer of BK's product. See my post A couple of entries from the Codex Vomitus[^] in the Weird and the Wonderful for details.
Software Zen:
delete this;Gary Wheeler wrote:
Not only would I throw this guy under the bus, I'd be driving it.
How would you throw him under the bus that you are driving? :laugh:
Cheers, विक्रम "We have already been through this, I am not going to repeat myself." - fat_boy, in a global warming thread :doh:
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Gary Wheeler wrote:
Not only would I throw this guy under the bus, I'd be driving it.
How would you throw him under the bus that you are driving? :laugh:
Cheers, विक्रम "We have already been through this, I am not going to repeat myself." - fat_boy, in a global warming thread :doh:
Carefully, how else? :-D
Software Zen:
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
I am generally interested in getting along with everyone, but if someone simply doesn't want to get along (be it a chronic liar or the "I am right and if you expect me to prove that with facts, I'll just yell at you"), I'll ignore said person.
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Gary Wheeler wrote:
Not only would I throw this guy under the bus, I'd be driving it.
How would you throw him under the bus that you are driving? :laugh:
Cheers, विक्रम "We have already been through this, I am not going to repeat myself." - fat_boy, in a global warming thread :doh:
Lower him/her gently by a rope around their neck?
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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I live in a resort town where the are tons of transient drunks individuals and few of us permanent residence who stay home at night. As I get older, perhaps it is because of my surroundings, perhaps not, but my tolerence of others is ever shrinking. Which I try to keep in check because they all have a right to be here and are probably nice people. I like to come here and enjoy the intelligent banter. Feels like the old home place.
Ron Anders wrote:
but my tolerence of others is ever shrinking.
perhaps a consequence of the epidemic of ignorance that has been inflicted upon embraced by the phone-toting text-junkies?
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
I will leave this new way of thinking for you that I came up with a couple months ago and based on a many thing. Enjoy your life and avoid harm to other. *most every word is subjective **requires continued learning to know what harm to one individual is a pleasure to another. ***and so on ****'your life' could be you or your family/master/king/parent/child... Doing good to other I think only leads to harming your self for doing good to all is unending.
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I will leave this new way of thinking for you that I came up with a couple months ago and based on a many thing. Enjoy your life and avoid harm to other. *most every word is subjective **requires continued learning to know what harm to one individual is a pleasure to another. ***and so on ****'your life' could be you or your family/master/king/parent/child... Doing good to other I think only leads to harming your self for doing good to all is unending.
maze3 wrote:
Doing good to other I think only leads to harming your self for doing good to all is unending.
Doing Good - that is enough. And why quantify how much? Your philosophy, I fear, is a bit broken: malforming into virtual black-and-white what you, yourself, recognize as gray. Here's an easier philosophy for life that perhaps usurps the others:
So long as you are keeping score you can't help but lose.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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milo-xml wrote:
Best compliment I ever got
Which naturally begs the questions: 1 - what served as a compliment prior to this? 2 - There is the ass-hole part still to be considered. Still - I suppose customs are different in other parts of the country. So don't take the questions, above, as too judgemental . . .
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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milo-xml wrote:
Best compliment I ever got
Which naturally begs the questions: 1 - what served as a compliment prior to this? 2 - There is the ass-hole part still to be considered. Still - I suppose customs are different in other parts of the country. So don't take the questions, above, as too judgemental . . .
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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Ron Anders wrote:
but my tolerence of others is ever shrinking.
perhaps a consequence of the epidemic of ignorance that has been inflicted upon embraced by the phone-toting text-junkies?
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
Perhaps. Seems more like a mental institution somewhere went under and let everyone go. Then I remember grandpa Simpson's antics and hang my head. Crazy thing getting old - er.
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Get stuffed.
Are you calling him a turkey? It is Thanksgiving week here in the States..... ;P ;P
Take responsibility for all of your actions and failure to act.
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Perhaps. Seems more like a mental institution somewhere went under and let everyone go. Then I remember grandpa Simpson's antics and hang my head. Crazy thing getting old - er.
Ron Anders wrote:
Crazy thing getting old - er.
If you have any GOOD options, I'm willing to listen.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
First I must mention, why would you not include the Chronic Idiots? The Chronic Idiots are the first, and most important not to get along with. Granted that goes without saying, but now you have offended them. :) I think this depends heavily on definitions, particularly how you define getting along. If getting along with people means being nice to them and treating them fairly as possible, than I really do believe that you should try to get along with everyone. If it means not tolerating their crap, calling them out when needed and not letting them slack off, than yeah you won't be getting along with everyone. My current job aside, I usually like everybody I work with, and usually develop several lasting friendships at each job. There are always people who, for one reason or another, I actively avoid but when I have worked in a good job they are usually limited. If I was forced to deal with them, I would be as patient as possible with them, but it would be like nails grinding on a chalkboard the whole time. In general, would be highly tiring and trying all at once and I would not like doing it often. My current job, however, is very different. I highly dislike my boss. He was a medium level programmer, with a fair amount of skill, promoted to management who never should have been. He is a horrible leader, a horrible manager and a worse boss. In his current position he quite literally has no redeeming qualities. He has started to stack the department with only people he likes and has known in other jobs, passes all the good assignments to them, and has begun to develop a cult of personality following him that neither challenges his bad decisions, or would be willing to even speak up. And the list of really bad decisions, well, that list is gigantic and some of those have cost a significant amount of money lost. Currently, I don't get along with him or anybody he has brought along. That being said an obvious question comes to mind, why would I continue to work there. A long story short, I usually decide to change jobs every three to five years depending on projects, future and a lot of other factors. As an example, I had one job that the project manager left right after a big project and for the next 9 months we couldn't hold a project manager and had no work. I get really bored with nothing to do, even though I was still getting paid. I have never had a truly horrible boss till my current one though, and I was considering finding other work his first week, but I wanted to make
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First I must mention, why would you not include the Chronic Idiots? The Chronic Idiots are the first, and most important not to get along with. Granted that goes without saying, but now you have offended them. :) I think this depends heavily on definitions, particularly how you define getting along. If getting along with people means being nice to them and treating them fairly as possible, than I really do believe that you should try to get along with everyone. If it means not tolerating their crap, calling them out when needed and not letting them slack off, than yeah you won't be getting along with everyone. My current job aside, I usually like everybody I work with, and usually develop several lasting friendships at each job. There are always people who, for one reason or another, I actively avoid but when I have worked in a good job they are usually limited. If I was forced to deal with them, I would be as patient as possible with them, but it would be like nails grinding on a chalkboard the whole time. In general, would be highly tiring and trying all at once and I would not like doing it often. My current job, however, is very different. I highly dislike my boss. He was a medium level programmer, with a fair amount of skill, promoted to management who never should have been. He is a horrible leader, a horrible manager and a worse boss. In his current position he quite literally has no redeeming qualities. He has started to stack the department with only people he likes and has known in other jobs, passes all the good assignments to them, and has begun to develop a cult of personality following him that neither challenges his bad decisions, or would be willing to even speak up. And the list of really bad decisions, well, that list is gigantic and some of those have cost a significant amount of money lost. Currently, I don't get along with him or anybody he has brought along. That being said an obvious question comes to mind, why would I continue to work there. A long story short, I usually decide to change jobs every three to five years depending on projects, future and a lot of other factors. As an example, I had one job that the project manager left right after a big project and for the next 9 months we couldn't hold a project manager and had no work. I get really bored with nothing to do, even though I was still getting paid. I have never had a truly horrible boss till my current one though, and I was considering finding other work his first week, but I wanted to make
First of all, as an Idiot they can't help themselves. That's different, indeed, from the anal outcastings with legs that I dislike.
nightsoul94 wrote:
There are always people who, for one reason or another, I actively avoid
Long ago I figured out that I'll leave the 'active avoidance' to them. One of us, putting out that effort, is enough. Result is the same - except the satisfaction of knowing they've got one more burden in life. The was a manger->director->fired where I am now. He was nick-named "The Obstructor in Chief" and my ignoring what he said to fix problems was Oh So Satisfying as there's nothing he could do about my making things better. Although way too late, he was finally fired.
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
I am very easy to get along with...all you have to do is stay out of my way and don't bother me. And we will get along just fine. I'm always polite to my co-workers, and compliment them when possible. I once had a co-worker who I described, rather publicly, as a trained chimpanzee. The idiot didn't realize that I was trying to pay him a compliment. Actually, I didn't think he was trained at all. Some people are just hard to get along with despite my best efforts.
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
I'm really easy to get along with once those involved learn to see things my way. :)
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There are some people who get along with everyone. Obviously, from my posts, you know I'm not one of them. But there are people who I don't get along with (and don't want to get along with). Unless one has some very special drugs, I don't think it's normal to get along with everyone - but what do I know. Examples at work include a person who deliberate breaches my trust or are a predator of vulnerable employees. And, of course, the chronic liars. [Chronic idiots aren't included because, well, they're idiots] This could probably be contorted into a survey question, but meanwhile, any comments (or more interestingly, examples!) ? Even those of you who claim you're described in the preceding paragraph
"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." - Albert Einstein
"If you are searching for perfection in others, then you seek disappointment. If you are seek perfection in yourself, then you will find failure." - Balboos HaGadol Mar 2010
I am told that I am pretty judgmental, and I would not disagree. I do contend, however, that I judge someone by the criteria that individual has set for himself; I endeavor to not judge someone by the criteria I have set. So far in life, I get along amicably with most everyone except hypocrites, and for obvious reasons, I have no desire to get along with such individuals. Having said that, that certainly does not mean I agree with everyone concerning every, or for that matter, any points. I will happily debate any topic, sometimes quite heatedly, but once that discussion is over, it is over for me. My wife has never understood that concept: for her, a disagreement lasts days or weeks, whereas in my life, it was over in minutes. :sigh: