Smacking Children
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I would venture to guess that most beatings are not premeditated. Most people that beat kids, don't plan it before hand.
boneheadIII wrote: I would venture to guess that most beatings are not premeditated. That's a very good point. I think that most 'beating' of children is a spur-of-the-moment reaction by parents that is driven by anger, fear, and/or frustration. NONE of these are valid reasons to hit a child. As was pointed out by the parent post, 'smacking' a child should be done in an attempt to drive home an important point that cannot be made to a child because of their lack of reasoning skills. It should never be used as a threat to a child. Personally, my parents smacked me on a number of occasions: - Wandering off into the street in front of our house - Wandering off in a crowded public place (the mall) - Lying about something I did - Stealing canding from a local store Looking back, I'm very glad that my parents did this. I was very young for all of these occasions, and a quick smack to the butt really let me know that I had crossed at line that was not to be crossed. I'm very glad that my parents forced me away from these behaviors even though I wasn't capable of really understanding why I should avoid them. -- Russell Morris "Have you gone mad Frink? Put down that science pole!"
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This "time-out" stuff doesn't work. Kids need a little physical punishment, not a lot, just one good smack will usually do it. Of course, if you can learn the all-mighty art of emotional punishment, this works the best. I have 4 kids, ages 7 years and under. A combination of time out, reasoning, and spanking, tailored to the child in question, does the job. For example, my highly-social, 5 year old daughter does not respond to a spank but she dreads being grounded to her room for 15 minutes. Sean Winstead
Sean Winstead wrote: I have 4 kids, ages 7 years and under Woah! THAT sounds challenging :) I've got an 8 yr boy n 12 yr girl. With my 8 yr old, I can do any of those things to "get through". With my 12 yr old, well, NONE of it works. Spanking? Pf. Hurts for a few seconds. Reasoning? Pf. She knows better. Time out? Pf. Who cares. Wait till your 5 yr old grows up a little and finds out that being in her room is no biggie...:/ It just all depends on the kid I think. Some can learn the easy way. Some HAVE to try out the hard way. You do what you can, but at the end you just end up hoping they don't kill themselves while learning it the hard way... ...Steve