Pathak, For whatever its worth, I'm an Alaskan rather than an Indian, but I *am* a woman and have a strong opinion about your quandry. You should definitely go but you should try moving heaven and earth to find some way to bring your wife along with you. Working in a foreign country for a period will undoubtedly help your career and broaden your future prospects, even if you both hate it at the time. Your wife is a part of your life now and should share this experience with you. If you both are in love (and it sounds like you are), then you, your wife, and your marriage will prosper through this adventure. The company may be sponsoring your trip, but two can live as cheaply as one once you've arrived in town. Perhaps there is somebody in one of your families whom you could talk to about borrowing the airfare? Perhaps your company would be willing to front the cost of her airfare and let you pay it back gradually? If you decide not to go so as to stay with her or decide to go and leave her behind, I'm sure your marriage will survive. It will leave a small scar in your memories as you grow older, though. If the rest of your marriage is good, this won't really matter. Still, if you can find some way to bring her along, you can be proud of yourself...for sure your wife will be.

Oh, I take it back then. Mr Simmons, you are ridiculously mean-spirited, incredibly ignorant, and undoubtedly need to get a life. X|

John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:

ForumThe Lounge Subject:Re: Lady Developers Sender:John Simmons / outlaw programmer Date:18:44 10 Apr '06 Ya know, I was just gonna let this go, but now, I'm not in the mood to let it squeek by because the absurdity meter on my desk is goin' ape-shit... At least one of the people here had a gender-alteration a few of years ago. Who it was isn't important, and even the fact that he did it isn't either. What *IS* important is that he tries to claim he's just "one of the girls", and that's a bald-face fuckin' lie. It's fine with me if he wants to try on pretty little spring dresses and run around pretending he's a girl, but if he hadn't said anything in the thread and prtened to be somethin' he ain't, I wouldn't have brought it up (and he knew that ahead of time). So take your holier-than-thou attitude and shove it up your gaping anal pore. M'kay? And just to let you know, you picked the wrong person here to piss off with your first post.

Huh? I doubt you're mean-spirited, :~ just ignorant.

John Simmons / outlaw programmer wrote:

The definition of "female" is stretched a little thin here... Some are, some aren't - females, I mean. Not trying to be mean-spirited, just stating facts as I know them...