If you want to change the heights, you probably need to do that manually. I would imagine if you had the pairs of controls inside a single control of the combined height, and had the control you don't hide set to fill the available area, then the other control would limit it, or not, depending on if it is collapsed or not. But as you want to hide a control that is 100 high and replace it with 75 pixels of space, you'll need to do something more direct and manual.
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