I was more shocked to find out you guys have "missed appointment fees" rather than the fact that they are selling patient data lol

You can use iMyFone's LockWiper to bypass the lock on the iphone, I've used it two or three times on iphones left by former employees who didn't bother to wipe their work phones and didn't leave us their passcode. While I also think privacy should be respected, I'm also pragmatic enough not to care if the argument is about a dead person. I certainly wouldn't care if people snooped thru my stuff after I'm gone.