Close Friend to Love
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A close female friend of mine, today, told me that she loves me. But I always treat her as a sister to me. I really wish that this brother-sister relationship can go on, because she is the only one who understand me in full and we were being very close for the past 5+ years, as some really close-friend. Both me and her know that, either one of us speak about 'love' between this friendship is going to be either a happily together ending or a lost of 5+ friendship ending. The fact is, I don't 'love' her, but I do like her so much, as a sister. Oh my god, I just don't know how to handle this...
Watch the movie, "When Harry Met Sally" then don't ever get into this pickle again. The fact you don't know how to handle it doesn't excuse you from the responsibility of it. I advise you not do anything about it for a while. Just relax and see what happens. Make sure you always roll down the window in her car before you spit the grape seeds out the window.:-D
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A close female friend of mine, today, told me that she loves me. But I always treat her as a sister to me. I really wish that this brother-sister relationship can go on, because she is the only one who understand me in full and we were being very close for the past 5+ years, as some really close-friend. Both me and her know that, either one of us speak about 'love' between this friendship is going to be either a happily together ending or a lost of 5+ friendship ending. The fact is, I don't 'love' her, but I do like her so much, as a sister. Oh my god, I just don't know how to handle this...
We have a separate forum[^] for this.. However, may God guide you through this mess. I will pray for you.
Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself. - Cicero
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A close female friend of mine, today, told me that she loves me. But I always treat her as a sister to me. I really wish that this brother-sister relationship can go on, because she is the only one who understand me in full and we were being very close for the past 5+ years, as some really close-friend. Both me and her know that, either one of us speak about 'love' between this friendship is going to be either a happily together ending or a lost of 5+ friendship ending. The fact is, I don't 'love' her, but I do like her so much, as a sister. Oh my god, I just don't know how to handle this...
Are you Brad pitt? Ronnie coleman? Arnold schwarzenegger? Sorry, you aren't I think. She won't get one like you? Is that you think? No!! She admires your qualities and wants to spend the rest of her life with you. I don't find anything wrong in it.
.jpg wrote:
But I always treat her as a sister to me.
You treated her as your sister, but she isn't your sister. Trust me, a good friend will make a good lover too. What is wrong in accepting her? Unless you are committed to some other girl, in my opinion, you must accept her. Do not think that this is the end of friendship. Your friend will always be your friend. As someone already told, your relationship as lovers will be so strong since she is already your friend for the past five years. You don't need to learn anything new about your friend and vice versa. You know each other inside out.
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The fact is, I don't 'love' her, but I do like her so much, as a sister.
Stop creeping! Go ahead and accept her. If you deny, she has the right to decide if or not to be around with you any more. Because it is going to be hell for her. She had something else in her mind. She will be possessing you already (generally) and she will not want to see you marrying or even flirting another girl. So if you are sure about your decision of saying a 'no' to her, then leave the rest to her. If she decides to leave you, theres nothing wrong.
Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself. - Cicero
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Watch the movie, "When Harry Met Sally" then don't ever get into this pickle again. The fact you don't know how to handle it doesn't excuse you from the responsibility of it. I advise you not do anything about it for a while. Just relax and see what happens. Make sure you always roll down the window in her car before you spit the grape seeds out the window.:-D
code-frog wrote:
Make sure you always roll down the window in her car before you spit the grape seeds out the window.
Is that what I am doing wrong???? ;P
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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code-frog wrote:
Make sure you always roll down the window in her car before you spit the grape seeds out the window.
Is that what I am doing wrong???? ;P
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
Have you seen that movie? It's got to be the dating reference of the ages.:-D
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The point at which you ask a bunch of geeks you've never met for advice, is the point at which all hope is lost... Did she make absolutely clear that her intentions are romantic ? If not, you could play the 'I love you in just the platonic way that you love me, and isn't that a great relationship for us to have' card. Or you could jump on board the love train and see how many stations you can get to see Or you could tell her that you're gay With advice like that, it's clear if we ever have a 'romance' forum, I'll be the top answerer there.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ Metal Musings - Rex and my new metal blog
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A close female friend of mine, today, told me that she loves me. But I always treat her as a sister to me. I really wish that this brother-sister relationship can go on, because she is the only one who understand me in full and we were being very close for the past 5+ years, as some really close-friend. Both me and her know that, either one of us speak about 'love' between this friendship is going to be either a happily together ending or a lost of 5+ friendship ending. The fact is, I don't 'love' her, but I do like her so much, as a sister. Oh my god, I just don't know how to handle this...
Lovers need to be good friends too. Go for it.
Asynes yw brassa ages kwilkynyow.
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The point at which you ask a bunch of geeks you've never met for advice, is the point at which all hope is lost... Did she make absolutely clear that her intentions are romantic ? If not, you could play the 'I love you in just the platonic way that you love me, and isn't that a great relationship for us to have' card. Or you could jump on board the love train and see how many stations you can get to see Or you could tell her that you're gay With advice like that, it's clear if we ever have a 'romance' forum, I'll be the top answerer there.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ Metal Musings - Rex and my new metal blog
Christian Graus wrote:
With advice like that, it's clear if we ever have a 'romance' forum, I'll be the top answerer there.
And with my track record, I wouldn't even be allowed to give answers :rolleyes:
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A close female friend of mine, today, told me that she loves me. But I always treat her as a sister to me. I really wish that this brother-sister relationship can go on, because she is the only one who understand me in full and we were being very close for the past 5+ years, as some really close-friend. Both me and her know that, either one of us speak about 'love' between this friendship is going to be either a happily together ending or a lost of 5+ friendship ending. The fact is, I don't 'love' her, but I do like her so much, as a sister. Oh my god, I just don't know how to handle this...
I wish I had a magic answer but sometimes life changes. Take a while to decide how your life is to change :love:
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My wife and I tease each other constantly as to who chased who, neither of us was interested at first, we started by becoming good friends. So, that's good advice.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ Metal Musings - Rex and my new metal blog
"A man chases a woman until she catches him" :laugh:
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Have you seen that movie? It's got to be the dating reference of the ages.:-D
code-frog wrote:
Have you seen that movie?
yes, its on the shelf... I had just not thought of it until it was mentioned then broke up laughing. Given my recent reentry into the dating world, I thought I would make a joke. :)
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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I've been watching too much 'beavis and butthead'. 'lovers come and go' hehe hehehe hehe
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ Metal Musings - Rex and my new metal blog
gentle but firm...yeah..huh-he heh heh huh. You said firm...
cheers, Chris Maunder
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