Maybe it's only fair and after all Shog is right...
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Quartz. wrote:
I think EVERYONE YOU KNOW in CODE PROJECT wants to help you, you need to come up with a definite plan , Although i don't know the impression about deepwaters but, there is one thing i agree, come up with a definite plan, EVERY BODY WILL SUPPORT IT , like you already said a million dollar page , ITS A WIN WIN IDEA,
Totally agree, i gave him these two suggestions , what do you think 1. Think about writing a book on latest technology, that can get advance of as much as $ 20,000 for 2-3 months. work , 4 nice book published in an year can get you around $ 80,000, Do you see the potential here ! 2. Look for a high end ONE BIG SOFTWARE PROJECT ! big software projects can pay you the biggest amount in the time. ASK at code project , if they can GET YOU a HIGH END PROJECT WHICH YOU CAN DELIEVER, IN 3 MONTHS or 6 months, i am sure there are EVEN big shots from microsoft who are the secret CPIANS, EVEN they can get you a SUB CONTRACT PROJECT WORTH GOOD MONEY.
1 - you've obviously never written a book. It's very rare for a book to be profitable, compared to working those hours. 2 - This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "I am working on a project that will convert a FORTRAN code to corresponding C++ code.I am not aware of FORTRAN syntax" ( spotted in the C++/CLI forum )
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1 - you've obviously never written a book. It's very rare for a book to be profitable, compared to working those hours. 2 - This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "I am working on a project that will convert a FORTRAN code to corresponding C++ code.I am not aware of FORTRAN syntax" ( spotted in the C++/CLI forum )
Christian Graus wrote:
It's very rare for a book to be profitable
you mean you can't earn $ 20,000 for 3 months of work by writing a book ? Have you written a book ? Why don't you share your statistics then, your comment is rather vague !
Christian Graus wrote:
This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
These are just suggestions for Rex. You can give a better suggestion if you Have ONE about the situation.
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1 - you've obviously never written a book. It's very rare for a book to be profitable, compared to working those hours. 2 - This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "I am working on a project that will convert a FORTRAN code to corresponding C++ code.I am not aware of FORTRAN syntax" ( spotted in the C++/CLI forum )
Christian Graus wrote:
Why didn't *I* think of that ?
may be because you are a pessimistic ? may be because you think, donation camp is a better idea ?
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
Is it possible that she could come to Canada and get her treatment free - possibly using some church facility. Just a thought. I am actually thinking hard about your problem, there must be a solution.
Tapas Shome System Software Engineer Keen Computer Solutions 1408 Erin Street Winnipeg, Manitoba Canada R3E 2S8 http://www.keencomputer.com
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
Personally, I think you've done the right thing for you and your family. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help. ChrisB
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Christian Graus wrote:
It's very rare for a book to be profitable
you mean you can't earn $ 20,000 for 3 months of work by writing a book ? Have you written a book ? Why don't you share your statistics then, your comment is rather vague !
Christian Graus wrote:
This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
These are just suggestions for Rex. You can give a better suggestion if you Have ONE about the situation.
DeepWaters wrote:
you mean you can't earn $ 20,000 for 3 months of work by writing a book ? Have you written a book ? Why don't you share your statistics then, your comment is rather vague !
Ah yes, if only writing a book and earning $20,000 was really as simple. 4 books in a year, sure thing.
may be because you are a pessimistic ?
The word is sarcastic. Again, if only life were so simple that there were HIGH END PROJECTS just waiting around. Can we also EARN MONEY WORKING 1 HOUR A WEEK FROM HOME?
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1 - you've obviously never written a book. It's very rare for a book to be profitable, compared to working those hours. 2 - This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "I am working on a project that will convert a FORTRAN code to corresponding C++ code.I am not aware of FORTRAN syntax" ( spotted in the C++/CLI forum )
Christian Graus wrote:
2 - This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
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Rex, i have been reading all the way with indifference, The reason for all this scrutiny is YOU never told "What is your target $ amount you seek" and What for "RIGHT NOW"? 1. You never gave any hospital details 2. You ask for payment to your companies paypal account, WHY YOU DID NOT CREATE A DONATION ACCOUNT IN A BANK ? I do want you to address this question at least, i have quoted it from DIGG "Right now I’m only able to take PayPal as I don’t really know how to take other types of payment" You can't take checks or anything else? I actually work for a hospital. The billing office, actually. How bout you send the address of your daughters hospital.. her name.. and we can help pay the bill off." The most important question, there is no definite amount you have put in your help blog? How much money can put you in the right track rex ? Do you want a million dollar like that million dollar page ? amount $ xyz can fix the current problem, can fix the issue thats it THE END If you ask others for help , you need to be very transparent. THERE SHOULD BE NO SCOPE AT ALL ABOUT PEOPLE MIS JUDGING IT THERE SHOULD BE NO NEED FOR YOUR EXPLAINATION AT ALL. this is what i think
Easy to say when you aren't worn out through struggling to keep your child alive. I would say look at the reaction of others here who know Rex.
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
I know there have been negatives but hopefully this has also shown how people can stand up and be counted as well. Elaine :rose:
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I've read your posts, visited you site, thought about your situation. It is a messy business, not the clean cut - black and white - situation that people prefer. First, forget about the non-constructive criticism. You've got more important things to worry about. It is that simple. Second, do get a plan. It doesn't matter that you were just venting at first and now it has snowballed. Use the momentum you've got to make something of it. Get your thinking straight, is this about debt or about your daughter? They are connected, yes, but which is the one that you are getting stuck on? You don't need to answer the question to me or to anyone. But you need to identify your problems clearly and go from there. It also seems right that you seek legal advice, as it is that you start a fund. Last, it is not about being forthright about your situation. You don't have to explain yourself. However, perception matters and you will be well advised to consider how you want to present your situation to others. At this point, I am afraid, it is too messy. It doesn't help either when you express your frustation, how ever understandable it is that you feel that way. Take some time to think it over. Going public is a new challenge you've added to the list BUT you've got a start and, believe me, you are very lucky considering how positively some people have responded. You've got a start, don't let it go to waste.
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Christian Graus wrote:
It's very rare for a book to be profitable
you mean you can't earn $ 20,000 for 3 months of work by writing a book ? Have you written a book ? Why don't you share your statistics then, your comment is rather vague !
Christian Graus wrote:
This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
These are just suggestions for Rex. You can give a better suggestion if you Have ONE about the situation.
I guarentee you, I make more than $20,000 for three months work. I've spoken to people who have written books. I've not pursued it, based on their advice.
DeepWaters wrote:
These are just suggestions for Rex
I know you're trying to help, but your suggestions don't appear to be based in reality.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "I am working on a project that will convert a FORTRAN code to corresponding C++ code.I am not aware of FORTRAN syntax" ( spotted in the C++/CLI forum )
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Christian Graus wrote:
Why didn't *I* think of that ?
may be because you are a pessimistic ? may be because you think, donation camp is a better idea ?
I know that high paying jobs don't just fall off trees, if that's what you mean.
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "I am working on a project that will convert a FORTRAN code to corresponding C++ code.I am not aware of FORTRAN syntax" ( spotted in the C++/CLI forum )
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
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Quartz. wrote:
I think EVERYONE YOU KNOW in CODE PROJECT wants to help you, you need to come up with a definite plan , Although i don't know the impression about deepwaters but, there is one thing i agree, come up with a definite plan, EVERY BODY WILL SUPPORT IT , like you already said a million dollar page , ITS A WIN WIN IDEA,
Totally agree, i gave him these two suggestions , what do you think 1. Think about writing a book on latest technology, that can get advance of as much as $ 20,000 for 2-3 months. work , 4 nice book published in an year can get you around $ 80,000, Do you see the potential here ! 2. Look for a high end ONE BIG SOFTWARE PROJECT ! big software projects can pay you the biggest amount in the time. ASK at code project , if they can GET YOU a HIGH END PROJECT WHICH YOU CAN DELIEVER, IN 3 MONTHS or 6 months, i am sure there are EVEN big shots from microsoft who are the secret CPIANS, EVEN they can get you a SUB CONTRACT PROJECT WORTH GOOD MONEY.
Chris Sells has said that he doesn't make any profit on his books, and he wrote one of the highest-selling Windows Forms books out there. Technical book authors do it to scratch the itch, not because it's profitable.
Stability. What an interesting concept. -- Chris Maunder
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Christian Graus wrote:
It's very rare for a book to be profitable
you mean you can't earn $ 20,000 for 3 months of work by writing a book ? Have you written a book ? Why don't you share your statistics then, your comment is rather vague !
Christian Graus wrote:
This one is just hilarious. Why didn't *I* think of that ?
These are just suggestions for Rex. You can give a better suggestion if you Have ONE about the situation.
DeepWaters wrote:
you mean you can't earn $ 20,000 for 3 months of work by writing a book
No it is impossible if you write a technical book. An extremely good sale of tech books is around 11000 copies (good is around 8000). Assuming each copy sells for $50 you will get around 10% commission on $25 (half the book price). So the maximum you ca earn if you write an exceptional book is 27000 over the life time of the book. But 90% of the books make only $10,000. And it typically takes hours and hours of effort to write a book.
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
Rex, I would just like to add my two penn'orth* of support. I don't have anything inspirational to say but, since I'm British, I'd like to remind you of Churchill's personal mantra during the darkest days of WWII: "Keep Buggering On" (he just muttered "KBO" to himself when he needed encouragement). The language may be a little coarse but I commend the sentiment. I hope and pray that you will end up as triumphant! *British abbreviation for "two penny worth", roughly equivalent to "two cents worth" (but worth about twice as much).
Phil
The opinions expressed in this post are not necessarily those of the author, especially if you find them impolite, inaccurate or inflammatory.
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
I've been a CP member for a while but this is my first post, I read the lounge only because I get the newsletters, but this made me feel physically sick. I just wanted to express my utmost respect and sympathy for you, and I have to offer; if there is absolutely anything I can do then please let me know. You must truly be an amazing man, I can only being to imagine the strain these past few years must have been for you psychologically. You did the right thing telling the world about this, don't doubt that, just remember that the people who object are always the most vocal. I'm trying to fight exactly that with this post. I'm one of the four million, not one of the few who actively participate in the discussions here, and my first inclination was to make a donation and stay silent. There is more support for you than you know, they're just leaving it to the obviously very capable senior members to form your public defence. There is going to be a good ending to this, you're slap in the middle of a bunch of very clever people who care and you have a real cause. You've done the hard part, don't stick your head in the sand now, although I doubt a man of your character would. PS. You have a beautiful daughter and you owe me some pixels!
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
Rex, It is all very sad, and I understand that you are just trying to do whatever you can to protect and provide for your family. There are plenty of us here at CP that know who you are, some of what you've gone through, and know you are for real. As you are well aware, there are plenty of people that have claimed they have sick children, scammed 1000's of dollars from friends, family and community, only for the 'truth' to come to pass that their child is just fine; this is why people are so suspicious of anyone and anything, and rightfully so ... The few bad people in this world have gone and screwed it all up for the honest people that really need help; typical uh? Don't be ashamed for what you've done; it takes a lot of courage to admit you're in over your head and to ask for help. Just don't give in or give up Rex; it's better to go down fighting a good fight, then to just lie down and die, having never fought at all.
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
I hear you on the laid-off while buying a house thing... I was laid off on the day before my 30th birthday which does wonders for making you feel obsolete! Unfortunately, I had sold my current house and had 30 days to move out, and was waiting for employment verification so that the loan for the new house would go through... which of course it didn't. Fortunately, my father-in-law "hired" me, producing fake pay-stubs and everything, to convince the lenders that I had just changed jobs at an "inconvenient" time. Luckily they bought it, and lent us the money thus norrowly avoiding homelessness. Of course now I had to find some way to pay for it, or I'd be homeless and in debt! 6 months prior to this, my wife and I were both working full time, and making quite a bit of money, none of which we saved :doh:. Then she quits her job to look after my new son (September 2001 - very close to Katie!) and I get laid off when he's 3 months old, so in a very short time we go from the top of the world to wondering how we're going to manage. There's a special kind of pain in looking into the eyes of your 3 month old child, feeling like a loser because you can't provide. I still get emotional when I think back to that time. I tried starting my own business, but it never took off - it was really just a diversion from the daily job search and a nothing but a "feelgood" exercise. Anyway, enough of the history and on to something that happened to my wife. She had a mountain of debt, and consulted a bankruptcy lawyer because she simply wasn't getting anywhere trying to pay it off. I can't remember the exact details, but basically she didn't pay it, told the credit card company she couldn't pay it, and never did pay it. Her credit score was bad for a while, but now the debt has been erased, and she didn't file bankruptcy - the company just gave up on collecting it. Another thing she said, is that a medical facility cannot refuse treatment based on ability to pay. A doctor cannot simply allow someone to die - it's a violation of the hippocratic oath. so, you run Katie to emergency as necessary, the doctor will treat her, and when the bills come, you just file them away. If you want to protect your house, you could see if a good friend or relative will buy it from you. That way, you don't technically own it and it can't be seized. Basically, make sure all of your assets are in someone elses name. I'm sure you've already been down this road and I'm not telling you anything you don't already know, but I'm su
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I do think that some explanation needs to be given for my request and my circumstances I mean after all. Once I hit submit the only thing I am is some essence that exists somewhere out there in some part of the world. I might live in the Ukraine running a spyware ring, I might be Nigerian trying to lure American's to my land to beat and torture them. Some people have delved into public record and discovered where I live and they have asked some compelling questions. The question of my situation being real or not is very difficult to address. I'm sitting here in my home and I'm wondering just exactly how I demonstrate that Katie is real and she does exist. Once I've done that how do I prove that she has a real condition that is actually baffling modern medicine? But even then, public record has been read on my home and frankly it's a nice home. It's not luxuriant not by a long shot. But it's not a ghetto either. How do I satisfy these questions, validate my need and restore my credibility? I am at a point where I must do this even though I now wish I had not ever done this at all. However as the saying goes (kind of) "You spill the milk you need to clean it up." Short of posting scanned in documents of actual medical bills we received for Katie I cannot prove her condition or that she even exists. I've posted photos but those could be anyone. If someone wishes I can produce a record of one medical bill we have of several for $85,000 or it's $87,000 I don't remember which but we saved it because we knew that someday we'd look at it in awe and wonder. I'm certain my wife knows where it is. Due to identity theft and privacy issues and some delicate relationships I have with the Social Security Administration and with Idaho Medicaid I don't want to say much more about Katie unless it's requested and I can do this. Other questions have been asked about our trip to Jamaica and some of the equipment I have in my office. First, the trip to Jamaica was paid for by friends who received a $250,000 inheritance from there grand mother. I have no way to prove this and they would not give me the documents if I asked for them. But these people have known us for a long time and they know I have worked very long hours for a very long time. They took us on the only trip we've had in 12 years outside of the Oregon Coast (which we went to, all expenses paid as our kids were in a wedding). Our 12th wedding anniversary was 3 days ago and I'm just realizing I missed it completely. I'm surprised my wife let that one pass. But friends of
Well, you may not like this, but if you asked for help you should be ready to provide proof that what you say is true. Don't take it personal, but there are a lot of scammers out there using the very same stories you just told and therefore people are skeptical of such pleas. As long as you are just ranting, that's ok because all we offer you are our condolences, but as soon as you're starting to ask for money everything changes. People can be generous, and often they will donate to a good cause, but they just need to know that their money is going to a good cause and not to some scammer. So what have you told people so far? Practically nothing of value. Unless I missed something you didn't tell us what is that illness that your daughter has that requires so much money in medical bills, you also didn't tell us if she is finally cured or requires further medical attention. You also didn't tell us how much money you owe in debt. Just stop for a second and listen to yourself. You're asking for an unspecified amount of money to treat your daughter that has some unknown illness that you refuse to disclose. Of course people are going to be skeptical when you put it like that. I know you've said that you regret your decision for asking for help. However, if you truly want people to help you, you gotta come clean. Even if you don't like putting your personal information on the spot for everyone to see, you have to realize, that if you do provide proof of what you say, more people will be willing to donate to your cause. I've seen people asking for help before, and usually not only they provided proof, but they also provided full accountability of where the money went. They provided full spreadsheets of who donated, when and how much and they also provided spreadsheets of where those donation money go, to pay which bills. Like I said if you're just asking for an unspecified amount of money with no accountability, it is not gonna work. You have to give people reason to believe you, you have to disclose more information and you have to be accountable for their donations, where money went, if you receive more money than required, don't touch the surplus, either give it back, or give it to charity or setup a fund for further emergency.