Still not smoking....
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
Stay strong. :)
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
[rant]Women! "Please tell me if there are any problems!", "We need to talk about our relationship!", "What is it? I don't think there's nothing!" And when it's their turn to talk they excel at talking about what's not the problem. "Stop smoking" may well mean "I met this guy, he makes me laugh, and our relationship is at a dead point". What's worse, making you stop smoking for them is their way of "working on the relationship". Not in a mean-spirited way, just misguided, "maybe if this annoying smoking habit changes, something might change in our relationship, too". Of course they don't want to hurt you. That's why they don't tell you anything. The most remarkable line in Harry and Sally? 'I didn't tell you we would break up because I didn't want to spoil your birthday'. Once upon time I thought this was brilliant comedy. Well, it was brilliant. And when they tell, they tell you this doesn't work and that didn't change and whatnot, and the last sentence is always and this is isn't important and really not the reason but there's this other guy. The truth is: they don't want to hurt you because they don't want to be the bad gals. Women better at communication than men? My ass.[/rant] That probably didn't help you, but it dod help me. :phew: In all fairness to her: This is no way to end a relationship. If you think you'd be better off with an explanation, you deserve it, wven if it's hard for her. But if she wants to remain friends, she has to do her part.
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
Smoking has nothing to do with Grief. It is just a mean to avoid them. So smoking again would be a disgusting Idea. Just think you are consuming smoke to avoid grief...so baseless man....
There are only two kinds of people who are really fascinating-people who know absolutely everything, and people who know absolutely nothing. Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) Regards... Shouvik
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Kill that girl! She don't deserve you ! And don't thing about smoking again! I quit smoking before 6 years and I feel Great and Strong and I code better ;P Be strong !!!
Strahil Shorgov
Strahil wrote:
Kill that girl! She don't deserve you
What is wrong with you? I LOVE her. I just want her to be happy, not to hurt her.
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
Dear fellow CPians, thank you for your feedback. If I had to explain someone why I hang out in a programming community, I'd show them this thread. Thanks, everyone. :rose:
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
Women are always on the lookout for the prince with the golden apples. In the meantime, they may settle for a less fortunate fellow. May be to her, you were the prince with the silver apples. May be, now she has found the prince with the golden apples. Immature women want bad guys. They want guys that they can reform / change. Now it might seem to her that she has changed you all that she could, and is now looking for another one to reform. Speak to her. Ask her why she would do this? Make her give reasons. If she hesitates, she might be seeing somebody else (cheating on you), so you are better off without her. goto end; If you want her back, go to her, smelling like a cigarette, with a cigarette pack half visible from your pocket. If she asks, tell her that you've gone back to smoking. Also you can light in front of her so she knows you need more reforming, and she might come back. goto end; If you want revenge, tell her that you've found the true love of your life, and let her catch you going out with another woman prettier than her. Tell her that you are really happy, and that with her, you were always sad, but couldn't tell her, and that it is a real good thing that she left herself. end: Also try praying (even if you are not religious). It seems to work.
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Smoking has nothing to do with Grief. It is just a mean to avoid them. So smoking again would be a disgusting Idea. Just think you are consuming smoke to avoid grief...so baseless man....
There are only two kinds of people who are really fascinating-people who know absolutely everything, and people who know absolutely nothing. Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) Regards... Shouvik
shouvik.d wrote:
Just think you are consuming smoke to avoid grief...so baseless man....
Gives me inspiration
Developer Fantasies
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
Go to gym and vent your anger out punching some bags. As often as needed. Marc
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Strahil wrote:
Kill that girl! She don't deserve you
What is wrong with you? I LOVE her. I just want her to be happy, not to hurt her.
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
I don't really mean to KILL her ! You will forget your feelings. Believe me ! 3 months is a short period to LOVE someone! Sometimes the things don't happens your way. Forget her and find someone that loves you. Sometimes you think that your in love but the real love is somewhere else. And don't smoke because X| X| X| and your friends will :((:((:((:((:(( http://www.cartoonstock.com/newscartoons/cartoonists/gcu/lowres/gcun6l.jpg :laugh:
Strahil Shorgov
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Dear fellow CPians, thank you for your feedback. If I had to explain someone why I hang out in a programming community, I'd show them this thread. Thanks, everyone. :rose:
huh! why to show them. Are we to prove ourselves?? We are the happy bunch here...Lets us spread that as much as we can. I'm really proud to be having this kind of conversation with you. You will do great things Man. Gear up! and Sprint ahead :-D. We will follow u ;)
There are only two kinds of people who are really fascinating-people who know absolutely everything, and people who know absolutely nothing. Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) Regards... Shouvik
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Go to gym and vent your anger out punching some bags. As often as needed. Marc
Funny thing: I followed her suggestion when I joined the local gym. Don't really feel like going there. But I've cleaned my turnout gear, polished my boots, desinfected my SCBA-mask and written my name on the new gloves and NOMEX(tm)-pants. Also, I don't feel angry. Just devastated and alone. Will paint a few of my chairs blue and yellow this evening. Oh, and I'll visit my sister and niece before they go into their first (cheap) holiday with a few friends who offered to take them along. I know that everything will be alright. Might take a while, though, because this hit me out of the blue. And I really do love her.
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
Sebastian Schneider wrote:
I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep.
Sebastian Schneider wrote:
At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me.
Hmmm.....wonder if there's a connection :suss:
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
I've never smoked, so it's hard for me to totally relate. But I hope you can fight the urge...I really do. Sorry to hear about the girl. I don't understand my own gender (or 'species' as I sometimes refer to us) sometimes. Just remember that there is someone out there for you.
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
Sebastian Schneider wrote:
Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support.
Cigs can ruin your life. The girls is NOT worth that. You lost the girl, that's bad enough. So don't through away everything else you won in the last three months. You gained a smoke-free life! That's far more than ten women.
Sebastian Schneider wrote:
At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone.
It could have been everything, even the three words of no return ("I am pregnant"). No reason to expect some kind of attack, yet. The whole story might have taken a different path with an answer like "let's meet in the evening" ... but don't think too much about it, you cannot change it anymore (unless you dare calling and asking her again).
Sebastian Schneider wrote:
Apparently, I am a nice guy
You may be a nice guy, but I'm not sure about her. ;) Honestly, sentences like that suck X|
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Sebastian Schneider wrote:
Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support.
Cigs can ruin your life. The girls is NOT worth that. You lost the girl, that's bad enough. So don't through away everything else you won in the last three months. You gained a smoke-free life! That's far more than ten women.
Sebastian Schneider wrote:
At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone.
It could have been everything, even the three words of no return ("I am pregnant"). No reason to expect some kind of attack, yet. The whole story might have taken a different path with an answer like "let's meet in the evening" ... but don't think too much about it, you cannot change it anymore (unless you dare calling and asking her again).
Sebastian Schneider wrote:
Apparently, I am a nice guy
You may be a nice guy, but I'm not sure about her. ;) Honestly, sentences like that suck X|
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Corinna John wrote:
You may be a nice guy, but I'm not sure about her.
She is the sweetest person I've ever known. Just hearing her voice makes me want to curl up and die now (No, I am not suicidal, that is just a phrase which conveys the feelings I have.) Well, I've learned before that you need to accept what you cannot change. Again: Thank you, everyone. You gals and guys are great.
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
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I've never smoked, so it's hard for me to totally relate. But I hope you can fight the urge...I really do. Sorry to hear about the girl. I don't understand my own gender (or 'species' as I sometimes refer to us) sometimes. Just remember that there is someone out there for you.
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I am not sure about that right now. Time will tell.
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
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Corinna John wrote:
You may be a nice guy, but I'm not sure about her.
She is the sweetest person I've ever known. Just hearing her voice makes me want to curl up and die now (No, I am not suicidal, that is just a phrase which conveys the feelings I have.) Well, I've learned before that you need to accept what you cannot change. Again: Thank you, everyone. You gals and guys are great.
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
But why didn't you try to invite her for today or saturday to talk about it again? There must be a reason that made her leave - maybe you two can change that reason together. If you don't see any chance to meet her again and you don't want to know her reasons, well, she might have been the wrong person for you.
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But why didn't you try to invite her for today or saturday to talk about it again? There must be a reason that made her leave - maybe you two can change that reason together. If you don't see any chance to meet her again and you don't want to know her reasons, well, she might have been the wrong person for you.
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I'd love to change everything. I am willing to change anything she asks. But she sounded very final in what she said, and I am somewhat afraid. I will try and call her tonight, maybe go to Cologne on Saturday. Maybe all is not lost. I'll try. Thanks.
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
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Well, a few weeks ago, I proudly announced that I had made 2 months without a cig. And that it was all due to my girlfriend. Well, I am proud to announce that I still don't smoke, even though my girlfriend yesterday (Wednesday) became my ex-girlfriend for reasons I cannot understand. I mean, we spend the night together, and we held each other when we fell asleep. In the morning, I drop her off at the station on my way to work, because I had to hold a seminar. I was so happy and so complete. We talked and joked when she called me around noon yesterday. At 8 pm she called again and told me there was something we needed to talk about, but I am not sure if I should do this over the phone. Really, when she said those words, I knew what was coming, so I asked her: If you are going to tell me that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer, please tell me now. She told me. Apparently, I am a nice guy and we should stay good friends. Still, NOT smoking. But I want a cig so badly, I need some moral support. 3 months, and she rips my heart out. Brilliant. Ah, I just needed to vent. Go on, there is nothing to see here...
Cheers, Sebastian -- "If it was two men, the non-driver would have challenged the driver to simply crash through the gates. The macho image thing, you know." - Marc Clifton
