Women
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Gary Wheeler wrote:
Don't tell us about it; tell your wife
Already been there, done that. She knows how I feel about her.
Gary Wheeler wrote:
It sounds like she'd like some reassurance.
Yup - also been there and done that. To be honest, its more to do with us being at that "certain age" where you wonder if you've peaked and achieved everything that you are likely to. Added to this, is the fact that people refer to her as Catherine's mum or Hannah's mum and I fully understand why she feels a bit down - it's no fun when your whole identity seems to be based on others. Anyway - she knows how I feel about her, together 20 happy years and I don't regret a day of it (well, except for my second stag do but that's a completely different story involving consuming insane amounts of alcohol).
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Glad to hear it. It's amazing how many guys get to this age (e.g. middle) and don't realize some of the fundamentals.
Pete O`Hanlon wrote:
people refer to her as Catherine's mum or Hannah's mum and I fully understand why she feels a bit down
I hear that one. When my daughter was in Catholic school, I volunteered a lot and got used to being "Celeste's dad". I didn't mind, but I do have a name of my own. The best comment on this was from our parish priest one time: He was in 'civilian' clothes (no Roman collar), talking to some of us. Someone kept calling him 'Father'. He finally popped up and said "Calling me by my first name isn't a sin, you know. I kind of like it, myself." :-D
Software Zen:
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Different continent! Here in UK sex and marriage are legal at 16. (to be fair, Michelle was only 3 weeks from her 18th Birthday when I met her). If you really want to worry ages of consent in other European countries vary from 18 to 12! (14 in France, 15 in Germany, but 12 in Holland, that I think is not only too young, but borderline savage). Those who think I was manipulating a young girl for the worst of motives should be ashamed of themselves for thinking such things, I just fell in love!
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Dalek Dave wrote:
but 12 in Holland
As far as I know the age of consent in Netherlands is 16 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_Europe[^]
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So, my wife found out that a friend's workmate lost her husband to an internet affair. So, she's in a funny mood, talking about cheating, looking through my emails ( I do have a female friend who I write to most days, buy she's married and nothing like that is remotely on the cards ), etc. Women...
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
I know you didn't ask for advice, but that has never stopped me before. :) It's wrong for her to look through your emails. That said, I don't think that she would be doing it if there wasn't something arousing her suspicions. I believe you when you say that nothing is going on, but that doesn't change her suspicions. I will also be willing to bet that those suspicions were there before this other persons affair. It may die down, but it isn't just going to go away. You might also want to examine your relationship to your email buddy. The fact that she is married has no bearing on the issue. Be careful not to develop an emotional attachment or talk with her about problems with your respective spouses. That is the first step down a road you don't want to travel.
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Dalek Dave wrote:
but 12 in Holland
As far as I know the age of consent in Netherlands is 16 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_Europe[^]
Cheers, Mircea "Pay people peanuts and you get monkeys" - David Ogilvy
It may only have changed recently but...[^] I may be on old information, but it definately WAS 12.
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Christian Graus wrote:
So, my wife found out that a friend's workmate lost her husband to an internet affair
Divorced ? As I heard from stories and other sources, this is very common in American countries. Is it happening really ?
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N a v a n e e t h wrote:
Is it happening really ?
yes, it is. Though most people don't realize the problems often start at home. This is why insecurities don't help. An affair is common in America because of a variety of problems that get ignored in relationships. The Internet is neither the cause nor the initial problem, BUT it does make it exceedingly easy.
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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Christian Graus wrote:
a funny mood
that's one of the funny meanings of 'funny', right?
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So, my wife found out that a friend's workmate lost her husband to an internet affair. So, she's in a funny mood, talking about cheating, looking through my emails ( I do have a female friend who I write to most days, buy she's married and nothing like that is remotely on the cards ), etc. Women...
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
Christian Graus wrote:
So, my wife found out that a friend's workmate lost her husband to an internet affair. So, she's in a funny mood, talking about cheating, looking through my emails ( I do have a female friend who I write to most days, buy she's married and nothing like that is remotely on the cards ), etc. Women...
One thing she should be cautious of, though it does it no good to tell her about it, is self-fulfilling prophecy. You can make life so miserable at home through suspicion and putting your every move under the microscope or you under lock and key, and ultimately drive you away. I do not defend men in these actions, and there are guys who just cannot settle down, but the reasons for all things are not the same. She can't compare this guy to you without severe repricusions in her own life. Each situation being different, the trick is evaluating the situation based on the events within the situation, not based on what might have happened in another situation. I often describe my second marriage as being 9 years long in a marriage that should not have lasted 5 years. At the very end I was watched and monitored in every move, even getting caught in traffic from an accident was questioned heavily. The problems did come from me saying there was a problem with our marriage, the result was to make those problems worse until all the small problems were huge problems.
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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So, my wife found out that a friend's workmate lost her husband to an internet affair. So, she's in a funny mood, talking about cheating, looking through my emails ( I do have a female friend who I write to most days, buy she's married and nothing like that is remotely on the cards ), etc. Women...
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
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...the female of the species is more deadly than the male. Also Kipling.
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dan neely wrote:
...the female of the species is more deadly than the male.
Xavier Fitch: We decided to make it female so it would be more docile and controllable. Preston Lennox: More docile and controllable, eh? You guys don't get out much.
_________________________ Asu no koto o ieba, tenjo de nezumi ga warau. Talk about things of tomorrow and the mice in the ceiling laugh. (Japanese Proverb)
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Ravel H. Joyce wrote:
I have SOME idea!
Books don't cut it. Try to manage a relationship with a bi-polar girl, one that you are actually attached to and care about.
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Yes, or a psychotic one... Luckily, the psychosis was brought on by contraceptive pills and once off them she returned to just being unreasonable, but it took a year to discover this.
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Glad to hear it. It's amazing how many guys get to this age (e.g. middle) and don't realize some of the fundamentals.
Pete O`Hanlon wrote:
people refer to her as Catherine's mum or Hannah's mum and I fully understand why she feels a bit down
I hear that one. When my daughter was in Catholic school, I volunteered a lot and got used to being "Celeste's dad". I didn't mind, but I do have a name of my own. The best comment on this was from our parish priest one time: He was in 'civilian' clothes (no Roman collar), talking to some of us. Someone kept calling him 'Father'. He finally popped up and said "Calling me by my first name isn't a sin, you know. I kind of like it, myself." :-D
Software Zen:
delete this;Gary Wheeler wrote:
It's amazing how many guys get to this age (e.g. middle) and don't realize some of the fundamentals
Amen to that (no pun on the catholicism intended here). It's about putting them first.
Gary Wheeler wrote:
The best comment on this was from our parish priest one time: He was in 'civilian' clothes (no Roman collar), talking to some of us. Someone kept calling him 'Father'. He finally popped up and said "Calling me by my first name isn't a sin, you know. I kind of like it, myself."
I know. It's odd, because I go out with our parish priest from time to time and to me he's Peter (gets confusing for others when they're talking to us), but to some of the other parishioners it's Father Carr and whoah betide you if you get informal with him.
Deja View - the feeling that you've seen this post before.
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So, my wife found out that a friend's workmate lost her husband to an internet affair. So, she's in a funny mood, talking about cheating, looking through my emails ( I do have a female friend who I write to most days, buy she's married and nothing like that is remotely on the cards ), etc. Women...
Christian Graus - Microsoft MVP - C++ "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
Humans aren't supposed to be monogamous.