Nine year anniversary
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
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The 12th was our 15th anniversary. Things to do: Marry my wife (sorry, she is taken). Things to not do: Marry my ex-wife (the guy who she divorced next agrees). Look for someone who resolves problems the same way you do. If you are into knock-down-drag-outs, make sure your spouse is, too. If you like to discuss what is going on, make sure your spouse does, to. If you like to stick your head in the sand and ignore stuff (at least financially), make sure your spouse does not. Someone has to understand some of the realities of the world. If you are going to have children, understand that you will have different ideas of what is right. Figure it out, and understand, he wants to make the rules, but she will probably be the one implementing the policies on a day to day basis, so her vote REALLY matters. That is not sexism, that is statistics. Finances matter. So do dreams and feelings, and love does not overcome all. Love is not lust. Love is not feelings. Loving someone is a day by day decision to put them, if not ahead of you, at least at the same level as you. You will get over the lust, and the starry eyed feelings. You must keep your commitment, you must honor and respect, even when you don't feel friendly. Men, your wife needs your love, tell her, and mean it, as often as you can. Women, your husband needs your respect, give it to him, even when the world does not. If you don't respect him, he will not respect himself. If your home is not the place where you can hide from the cold, hard, world, together, it will never be more than your house. Be friends, first. On religion, you need to be compatible, so never go into a relationship trying to save the other. In the long run, they will get resentful, and you will be frustrated, and it will be a wedge between you. If one of you gets it afterwards, your religion will speak to you on what you should do, but don't put that burden on yourselves from the beginning. And when you read this, know I am only at fifty percent (if I'm lucky). :-O Dang, that was just supposed to be a two line joke.
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
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Marriage is not a word, it is a sentence!! No advice here as I'm not married, but Congrats :)
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
Holidays! (June 13th) http://craptasticnation.blogspot.com/[^]
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
Holidays! (June 13th) http://craptasticnation.blogspot.com/[^]
My only advice is for your husband... You can be right or you can be happy. P.S. I have married 24 years.
Gary Kirkham Forever Forgiven and Alive in the Spirit Jesus said to him, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me. Me blog, You read
modified on Thursday, June 19, 2008 9:36 PM
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
Holidays! (June 13th) http://craptasticnation.blogspot.com/[^]
I have a failed marriage. Mostly because I was pretty self absorbed, and I never bothered to ask her if she was happy. In my defence, she pushed the marriage through, I wanted to go slow, I knew I wasn't ready. 15 years married this year to wife #2. No earth shattering advice, just the obvious - listen to your partner, even when you think they are being stupid.
Christian Graus Please read this if you don't understand the answer I've given you "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
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Marriage is not a word, it is a sentence!! No advice here as I'm not married, but Congrats :)
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
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The 12th was our 15th anniversary. Things to do: Marry my wife (sorry, she is taken). Things to not do: Marry my ex-wife (the guy who she divorced next agrees). Look for someone who resolves problems the same way you do. If you are into knock-down-drag-outs, make sure your spouse is, too. If you like to discuss what is going on, make sure your spouse does, to. If you like to stick your head in the sand and ignore stuff (at least financially), make sure your spouse does not. Someone has to understand some of the realities of the world. If you are going to have children, understand that you will have different ideas of what is right. Figure it out, and understand, he wants to make the rules, but she will probably be the one implementing the policies on a day to day basis, so her vote REALLY matters. That is not sexism, that is statistics. Finances matter. So do dreams and feelings, and love does not overcome all. Love is not lust. Love is not feelings. Loving someone is a day by day decision to put them, if not ahead of you, at least at the same level as you. You will get over the lust, and the starry eyed feelings. You must keep your commitment, you must honor and respect, even when you don't feel friendly. Men, your wife needs your love, tell her, and mean it, as often as you can. Women, your husband needs your respect, give it to him, even when the world does not. If you don't respect him, he will not respect himself. If your home is not the place where you can hide from the cold, hard, world, together, it will never be more than your house. Be friends, first. On religion, you need to be compatible, so never go into a relationship trying to save the other. In the long run, they will get resentful, and you will be frustrated, and it will be a wedge between you. If one of you gets it afterwards, your religion will speak to you on what you should do, but don't put that burden on yourselves from the beginning. And when you read this, know I am only at fifty percent (if I'm lucky). :-O Dang, that was just supposed to be a two line joke.
Silver member by constant and unflinching longevity.
I think there is a lot of great advice there. When the Hubby and I first met he was terrible about finances. If he didn't open the bill, it didn't exist. Now he handles a lot more of the finances. I also really agree with the friends first. I think your spouse should be your best friend. The religion thing is always funny between us. I wanted a Jewish wedding but Kori thought he would look funny with the little Jewish hat as he called it. He never goes to church but his stepdad is a Methodist minister. We got married at a Methodist church his SD used to work at. Kori tried to get a discount because his SD used to be a minister there even though we were not members. Every once in a while I'll be eating something and he'll ask if it was 'bled and not bludgeoned' which is part of the rules of kosher eating. But I really like a lot of what you said.
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:beer: Congrats :beer: Ginny and I celebrated 22 years back in December. Seems like only yesterday... ;)
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I have a failed marriage. Mostly because I was pretty self absorbed, and I never bothered to ask her if she was happy. In my defence, she pushed the marriage through, I wanted to go slow, I knew I wasn't ready. 15 years married this year to wife #2. No earth shattering advice, just the obvious - listen to your partner, even when you think they are being stupid.
Christian Graus Please read this if you don't understand the answer I've given you "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
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I have a failed marriage. Mostly because I was pretty self absorbed, and I never bothered to ask her if she was happy. In my defence, she pushed the marriage through, I wanted to go slow, I knew I wasn't ready. 15 years married this year to wife #2. No earth shattering advice, just the obvious - listen to your partner, even when you think they are being stupid.
Christian Graus Please read this if you don't understand the answer I've given you "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
Christian Graus wrote:
In my defence, she pushed the marriage through, I wanted to go slow, I knew I wasn't ready.
LOL! I know where you are coming from, my ex said "We've been going out 2 years, it's time to s**t or get off the pot." Unfortunately, I s**t. :laugh:
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I say it's a very, very long trip with no stops before the final destination. So you better like whom you are traveling with. :-D
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leckey wrote:
I say it's a very, very long trip
Well personally I don't see marriage in in my life any time soon (not in the next 10 years anyway) so I guess the trip will be a bit shorter for me :D My great Uncle and aunty are celebrating their 50th in a couple of weeks. He turns 101 the day before. Now that is a huge effort if you ask me
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
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leckey wrote:
I say it's a very, very long trip
Well personally I don't see marriage in in my life any time soon (not in the next 10 years anyway) so I guess the trip will be a bit shorter for me :D My great Uncle and aunty are celebrating their 50th in a couple of weeks. He turns 101 the day before. Now that is a huge effort if you ask me
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
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My only advice is for your husband... You can be right or you can be happy. P.S. I have married 24 years.
Gary Kirkham Forever Forgiven and Alive in the Spirit Jesus said to him, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me. Me blog, You read
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And there's only one thing a woman ever needs to get for her man as a present(2 actually but one isnt PG). Ralphie Mae is hilarious.
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15 years: traditional gift is crystal; modern is watches. Apparently so you can see how much more time until the Other shuts up. :-D
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ROTFL - funny, I just bought her a nice watch at LAX on the way home. The Mickey Mouse one I bought her 2 years ago has been playing up.
Christian Graus Please read this if you don't understand the answer I've given you "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
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Christian Graus wrote:
In my defence, she pushed the marriage through, I wanted to go slow, I knew I wasn't ready.
LOL! I know where you are coming from, my ex said "We've been going out 2 years, it's time to s**t or get off the pot." Unfortunately, I s**t. :laugh:
Silver member by constant and unflinching longevity.
Yeah, we went out for a month or something, I was VERY young, very naive, and when confronted with marry or leave, I took marry. My first girlfriend, no less. Disaster.
Christian Graus Please read this if you don't understand the answer I've given you "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
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Married at 51, and still lasted 50 years. Hardcore. :)
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RichardM1 wrote:
Hardcore
Yeah.... no argument here! The odd thing is, he was more then happy to have a 100th birthday party, but doesn't want a 50th anniversary party :doh:
"There are three sides to every story. Yours, mine and the truth" ~ unknown "All things good to know are difficult to learn" ~ Greek Proverb "The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary" ~ Vidal Sassoon
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Yeah, we went out for a month or something, I was VERY young, very naive, and when confronted with marry or leave, I took marry. My first girlfriend, no less. Disaster.
Christian Graus Please read this if you don't understand the answer I've given you "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
THAT sucks. :sigh: I was 27 and have to attribute it to a decision badly made. :( I hope she ended up getting treatment, instead of continuing to dump her problem on other people. That is a serious comment, not a slam.
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ROTFL - funny, I just bought her a nice watch at LAX on the way home. The Mickey Mouse one I bought her 2 years ago has been playing up.
Christian Graus Please read this if you don't understand the answer I've given you "also I don't think "TranslateOneToTwoBillion OneHundredAndFortySevenMillion FourHundredAndEightyThreeThousand SixHundredAndFortySeven()" is a very good choice for a function name" - SpacixOne ( offering help to someone who really needed it ) ( spaces added for the benefit of people running at < 1280x1024 )
Well that's your problem...buying a watch with an obviously poofer character yet likes a demanding female of his own species. I remember when Swatch watches were all the rage down in AUS.
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Christian Graus wrote:
In my defence, she pushed the marriage through, I wanted to go slow, I knew I wasn't ready.
LOL! I know where you are coming from, my ex said "We've been going out 2 years, it's time to s**t or get off the pot." Unfortunately, I s**t. :laugh:
Silver member by constant and unflinching longevity.
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
Holidays! (June 13th) http://craptasticnation.blogspot.com/[^]