Nine year anniversary
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Donna and I married after 6 months.
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I apparently did something like that when I was drunk one night. But it was almost five years of dating before we got married.
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leckey wrote:
did something like that when I was drunk one night.
I don't believe in in blaming things on drink, but "in vino veritas" is different from drunk driving. For my ex, there was no drink involved, she just had that certain "je ne c'est quoi" way of speaking in both tactful and uplifting phrases. :laugh: Hence my advice to hook up with someone who deals with issues the same way you do, so you don't bully or get bullied.
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Donna and I married after 6 months.
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My wife I were pretty sure within a month, but we both were waiting on divorces, so we didn't get "really" engaged for 6 months. We got married after 13 months. To this day, I credit my ex for her timing on the divorce, and teaching me how to appreciate my wife.
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It takes me longer than that to decide on a car.
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LOL. No, after Rachael, I had strong ideas about what I wanted. We'd been friends for a couple of years, I didn't marry someone I knew for 6 months.
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leckey wrote:
did something like that when I was drunk one night.
I don't believe in in blaming things on drink, but "in vino veritas" is different from drunk driving. For my ex, there was no drink involved, she just had that certain "je ne c'est quoi" way of speaking in both tactful and uplifting phrases. :laugh: Hence my advice to hook up with someone who deals with issues the same way you do, so you don't bully or get bullied.
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I agree; it was one of those weird things that I would never bring up in normal life because simply it didn't bother me. But this drunken night I wanted to know when Future Hubby would propose. I had a really toxic best friend at the time whom I think influenced me. Sometimes I feel bullied, but I know I don't deal with stuff in a normal manner since both my parents had mental issues. Afterwards I feel okay.
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While trying to stay "Kid Sister Friendly" I really agree with the sex part. I think that is one major thing that really affects many couples. It really comes down to trying new things whether in the bedroom or in public life. No one likes to stay the same forever.
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Just the sex part? Not the don't argue unless it means the world to you part? :) Kid sisters probably know a lot more than the average adult here in this day and age. :) I grew up in a community where adults would talk openly about anything including sex with each other whether children were around or not and if the kids asked they were told anything they wanted to know in adult terms. (A lot of older "hippies" fondly referred to as "shrubs" who had mostly given up the most embarassing aspects of the 60's and 70's but were very cool people to know) Most often this kind of discussion resulted in an "Ewww" reaction and running away at a young age until it became interesting. It was considered highly damaging and unhealthy and one of the worst possible things you could do to *not* talk to your kids about anything they wanted to know or were curious about.
"The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do." - Walter Bagehot
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Christian --> drug user --> online person --> ??? Yeah, she seems rational.
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ROTFL - well, I think Tim was a way to make sure we broke up, and then I dunno why it lasted for years. The online guy, well, I dunno, I mean, they did meet and date, so I assume he turned out to be normal. I dunno, either way, I'm happy with how things ended up for me, so I hope she's happy, too.
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I'd get rid of that "business partner" as soon as possible. ;P
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LOL
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ROTFL - well, I think Tim was a way to make sure we broke up, and then I dunno why it lasted for years. The online guy, well, I dunno, I mean, they did meet and date, so I assume he turned out to be normal. I dunno, either way, I'm happy with how things ended up for me, so I hope she's happy, too.
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LOL. No, after Rachael, I had strong ideas about what I wanted. We'd been friends for a couple of years, I didn't marry someone I knew for 6 months.
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My wife I were pretty sure within a month, but we both were waiting on divorces, so we didn't get "really" engaged for 6 months. We got married after 13 months. To this day, I credit my ex for her timing on the divorce, and teaching me how to appreciate my wife.
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Just the sex part? Not the don't argue unless it means the world to you part? :) Kid sisters probably know a lot more than the average adult here in this day and age. :) I grew up in a community where adults would talk openly about anything including sex with each other whether children were around or not and if the kids asked they were told anything they wanted to know in adult terms. (A lot of older "hippies" fondly referred to as "shrubs" who had mostly given up the most embarassing aspects of the 60's and 70's but were very cool people to know) Most often this kind of discussion resulted in an "Ewww" reaction and running away at a young age until it became interesting. It was considered highly damaging and unhealthy and one of the worst possible things you could do to *not* talk to your kids about anything they wanted to know or were curious about.
"The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do." - Walter Bagehot
I grew up in a very small closed-off community where I remember being in middle school (6 to 8th grades) and a boy thought you could get a girl pregnant from, um, fellatio (spelling?). I honestly learned about sex because we had HBO and I had no set time for going to bed. This is still an area where you should not have sex until you are married (although most don't) yet they don't really explain what "sex" is so kids experiment and get pregnant or get STDs. This is one area where I think the internet has actually helped kids explore their curiosities.
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
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I've found deep breaths, valium, and exhaustive exercise to help greatly. Also a rigorous refusal on my part to apply the rules of logic to most conversations I have with my wife also greatly reduces my stress. In addition an avoidance of any conversation about the true meaning of the words "sales", "savings", and the phrase "look how much I saved" has also contributed to our marital bliss.
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LOL
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I grew up in a very small closed-off community where I remember being in middle school (6 to 8th grades) and a boy thought you could get a girl pregnant from, um, fellatio (spelling?). I honestly learned about sex because we had HBO and I had no set time for going to bed. This is still an area where you should not have sex until you are married (although most don't) yet they don't really explain what "sex" is so kids experiment and get pregnant or get STDs. This is one area where I think the internet has actually helped kids explore their curiosities.
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leckey wrote:
This is one area where I think the internet has actually helped kids explore their curiosities.
Yeah I was going to say *exactly* the same thing. The best gift any teacher can give a child these days is the ability to use the internet and the critical thinking skills to separate factual information from the slew of bogus information then get out of the way.
"The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do." - Walter Bagehot
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I've found deep breaths, valium, and exhaustive exercise to help greatly. Also a rigorous refusal on my part to apply the rules of logic to most conversations I have with my wife also greatly reduces my stress. In addition an avoidance of any conversation about the true meaning of the words "sales", "savings", and the phrase "look how much I saved" has also contributed to our marital bliss.
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I'd agree, but I'm not a normal girl. I'm a computer programmer. I don't understand my own species gender. I know I can be a girly irrational bastard, but my husband, having grown up with women, knows how to deal with it. Part of my routine: A guy goes into a store, sees a coat on sale and thinks to himself, "You know, I could use a new coat for those four winter months. Mine is worn and I could shovel the sidewalk quicker in a coat like that." The girl says to herself, "OMG that cute coat is on sale! I know it's March and it won't be until November before I could wear it and it might be out of style by then but it also matches those shoes I bought a couple weeks ago blah blah blah..."
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I'd agree, but I'm not a normal girl. I'm a computer programmer. I don't understand my own species gender. I know I can be a girly irrational bastard, but my husband, having grown up with women, knows how to deal with it. Part of my routine: A guy goes into a store, sees a coat on sale and thinks to himself, "You know, I could use a new coat for those four winter months. Mine is worn and I could shovel the sidewalk quicker in a coat like that." The girl says to herself, "OMG that cute coat is on sale! I know it's March and it won't be until November before I could wear it and it might be out of style by then but it also matches those shoes I bought a couple weeks ago blah blah blah..."
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leckey wrote:
sees a coat on sale
There's the part you missed - I'd argue most guys never even see the sale sign. We need an item. We find the item. We determine if we have enough money. We buy the item (or not). For the most part.
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
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Next year will be 20 years for my wife and I. We dated for something like 5 or 6 years before we got married. My best advice: You have to keep trying. A lot of people give up too easily. No one ever agrees on everything. You both have to be flexible. The advice about listening all of the time (even when you think they are wrong/stupid) is good. Pick your battles carefully. IMHO, 90% of what married couples end up fighting over is not worth it. I ask myself, "Is it going to matter 6 months from now? A year? 5 years?" Most of the time the answer is no. Good luck and congrats.
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At least you can find something positive out of the experience; most don't.
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The other thing I thank her for (not to her face, but you know) is that she kept putting off having kids. I have not seen or heard from her in 12 years (see below). I thank her that she kept the cut clean by not having any kids with me that lived. I know people who have to deal with their exes on an ongoing basis. The last time I had anything to do with her was when the security folks asked me where she lived ( for a 5-year update). The first time, I found out and told them. Since them, I told them that if it was so important they know, they can look for her themselves.
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Today marks nine years of being married and not killing each other. For those of you who have been married for awhile, what is your advice for a lasting marriage? Funnies and quips welcomed. If you have a failed marriage, any additional advice on what to avoid?
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Here's a thought. I'm curious if you agree or not. We fall in love with another person often because of the strengths that person has, but in reality, it's the weaknesses in our partner that we must love the most. Marc